What should I do?
Posted By: sm on 2009-03-06
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Five years ago, my husband announced that he was going to be working from home. He would keep his current job but since he works with computers he could do his work just as well at home. He also said that he would have to travel more, up to 2 weeks a month.
The travel part of his job ended after 2 months. He has been home ever since. He has no hobbies or friends nearby that he sees regularly. He does travel for meetings twice a year. I really look forward to these weeks! I cannot stand the fact that he is ALWAYS here!
When I get up in the morning he's still sleeping, when the kids and I leave for school and work, he's just getting up. When we get home he's either working, playing video games or napping. He's just always here. I need a break away from him. It's like having another child in the house.
I understand that this arrangement is better for him. But it is not for me. I have lost any sense of self that I had. He overhears every conversation I have with the children and friends. We need to be quiet during the day. He knows what I'm doing and where I'm going all of the time. Not that I am hiding anything, but I don't need a thousand questions about my going to the book store!
Since we're always together we have absolutely nothing to talk about except the kids or the dogs or money problems.
This is not the marriage I had hoped and planned for. I always thought that my husband and I would both work (we do), that I would come home from work before him and fix supper, take care of the children and basically be in charge of the house. He would come home, have dinner, we could talk about our exciting days and plan interesting weekends.
Now we both work, I cook, clean, take care of the children, we eat and then seperate, nothing new going on, nothing to say. I don't know what to do? Do I need a vacation away from him?
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