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My daughter is engaged to a very nice young man who is Catholic or should I say his family is Catholic and he refuses to break ranks.  He has insisted they get married in his grandmother's (and his) church.  Okay, fine.  I'm fine with that.  My daughter is fine with that.  She started taking the conversion classes, but really isn't that interested in converting.  She was making the gesture for her fiance.  Fiance' says she doesn't have to convert and that she doesn't have to convert in order for them to be married in the church.

After they had been engaged for four months (they dated for a year before they got engaged), they called the priest at the grandmother's church to meet with him about setting a date and getting married.  First meeting, they drive into the city to meet the priest at the time he told them and the priest never shows up!  He later apologizes, but never offers an explanation for standing them up.  The second time they set up a meeting, the priest shows up.  He proceeds to tell them that before he can "allow" them to be married, he must first talk to family and friends to be sure they are not living together and also he has to give serious thought because my daughter is not Catholic and he has worries that the children they will not be raised in the church. He then proceeds to tell my daughter that she needs to wear a skirt or dress the next time she meets with him (she had on dress slacks and a blouse)!  He also wants to look at the wedding dress and the bride's maid dresses to be sure they are appropriate and that women should not show bare shoulders in the church, which basically means we have to have little covers/jackets made for each bride's made and now for the bride.

So my daughter tells me all of this and I'm irritated.  I decide that if this priest calls me, I'm going to give him what for.  In my mind, this is all a bit ridiculous.  Even if my daughter and fiance are living together (which they are) they are trying to rectify that by getting married.  My daughter begs me not to be rude and yet asks me to lie to the priest about them living together.  My daughter tells me that my son-in-law to be was raised to believe it is a sin to get married outside the Catholic church.  I wasn't aware that the Catholics still believed this.  But my daughter is adamant that she wants to do this one thing for her groom because the rest of the wedding is about her.  So okay, I stifle it.  I used to be young and in love and ready to do anything for my betrothed.

Next meeting with the priest, the priest is satisfied that they do not live together.  Thank goodness he never called me, so I was not forced to lie or be polite.  At the next meeting, however, he decides he's not going to give them an answer on whether or not they can be married unless my daughter memorizes the 10 commandments in order and also some sort of freaking prayer.  So my daughter calls me, clearly upset, but willing to do this one last thing.  I am outside my mind with outrage!  Still, it's my daughter's decision to participate in this dog and pony show.

Tonight, my daughter has a meeting with the priest, performs her little assignment, and presents her wedding dress for inspection.  The priest then says he's not going to marry them and wants them to wait a year, wants my daughter to officially convert, and then meet with him for pre-marriage counseling and start the whole show over again.

Now I'm furious and I am about ready to call this priest up and tell him what I think of him, his church, and all this crap he is espousing.  Who does he think he is?!?!?!?!  I am a Christian.  I attend an Assembly of God church and I do not believe for one minute that someone should perform tricks and jump through hoops just to get freaking married.  Yes, pre-marital counseling is probably a good thing, but other than that.

In my opinion, this priest is on some sort of power trip and is extremely self-righteous and pompous!  I also did my own investigating on this guy and found out that this same priest was asked to come to the hospital to give last rites to a dying Catholic woman whose own priest was out of town.  This priest said he would only come and administer the last rites if the daughter making the request would make a substantial donation to his parrish!  What kind of crap is that!!!?!?!!?

What kind of man is the priest?  Is this indicative of the entire religion of catholicism?  I hate to be rude, but they have priests molesting children and dabbling in homosexuality and yet this pompous ass of a priest treats my daughter as if she is not good enough to get married in his church!

Sorry this is so long, but I am just so mad!

that my religion, Methodist, don't have as I have relatives that have converted so they can get married.  I think in my cousin's case, he did not want to jump through all those hoops and was thinking about getting married by a methodist preacher.   That priest told them that if they do that, but then his wife-to-be would loose her place in the church, meaning she could still go but she could not, participate in ceremonies, make decisions for the church etc.,  because she would not be considered married and living in sin. 

Anyway, I think your dd and future SIL should get a 2nd opinion from another priest.  But, you should remember too that this is their battle.  If they are big enough to get married, they are big enough to fight their own battles.  If they truly want to be married than they will and this is pretty much small potatoes. 

Transgender Boy Barred From Catholic School
Parents Of 8-Year-Old Allow 'Him' To Live As 'Her'
Posted: 10:58 am EDT May 18, 2009
Updated: 11:50 am EDT May 18, 2009

OMAHA, Neb. -- An Omaha couple is allowing their 8-year-old son to openly live life as a girl. It’s a decision that means the child is no longer able to attend Catholic school.

Therapists and the child’s parents say the second grade student is transgender, a medical condition where a person’s inner sense of identity doesn’t match their biological gender. Some gender experts say as many as one in 500 people may be transgender or carry significant traits of the opposite sex.

"It’s kind of like you’re trapped somewhere and you can’t get out," said the boy, whose name and face are not being made public to protect the family from potential harm.

"She’s been a girl since the beginning, everything about her, the way she dances and skips around and the things she’s attracted to. It’s more than toys and clothes," said the child’s mother.

The mother said the child has consistently asked to be called a girl since she was 4 years old.

"One night, she said, 'Every night when I go to bed, I pray my inside will match my outside. But it never happens,'" the mother said, recalling the words of her middle child.

The child’s artwork is filled with crayon-colored images of princesses and mermaids. Her family has allowed the child to wear dresses and female clothing in their west Omaha home, but until recently, she had to change into boy clothes for her brother’s baseball games, church or any outing outside the house.

"Now I can wear nail polish, get rid of all my boy clothes and not worry about that name," the child said.

The child’s case recently came to light when her parents met with a leader of the Omaha Catholic Archdiocese to talk about transitioning the student into third grade at her school, St. Wenceslaus.

The family wanted the child to use a new female name, be able to wear a girl’s uniform and be included in girl’s activities.

The mother, a life-long Catholic, thought making the transition in their parish would be the best place for their child to continue friendships, with a support system that included other parents and children.

"The child is welcomed to come, but it would not be acceptable to change the child’s gender and present as a girl," said Omaha Archdiocese's Chancellor, the Rev. Joseph Taphorn.

Taphorn said having the child attend the school for three years as a boy, and then presenting as a girl would not be a good learning environment for the child or other students. He said school has to be a peaceful, positive environment for everyone.

The child will attend a public school in the fall, using her chosen name and wearing a ponytail in her hair.

"It was not a decision that was made rashly at all. It was a decision to protect her psyche and her self-esteem," the mother said.

Therapists agree that forcing a person to live in a social role outside their perceived gender is damaging.

Omaha mental health therapist Ellie Hites said she’s worked with more than 200 transgendered clients in Omaha over the past 35 years.
Hites said she does psychological evaluations on all of her clients.
"One hundred percent of the time, I’ve never had anybody show up anything other than healthiest in the chosen gender role, as opposed to biological," Hites said.

She said her adult transgender clients have lived through nervous breakdowns, suicide attempts and deep depression because they could never truly be themselves. She has four transgendered clients right now.
"The story that I get is that 'I've known since I was real little, but everybody laughed or nobody paid any attention,'" Hites said.

The therapist said transgendered children insist they are the opposite sex, consistently.

"It’s like they arrive here with one biology but the mental set is counter to that," Hites said.

The 8-year-old’s favorite color is aqua. Her favorite toy: American Girl Dolls. And right now she’s reading a Junie B. Jones book that made her giggle when she talked about the plot.

Pink and aqua barrettes held her shoulder-length layered hair out of her face, while she drew chalk pictures of clouds on the pavement.

When her mother announced that the child would be allowed to pierce her ears next week, the girl screeched and had a huge smile on her face.
"You’ve waited long enough to live as a girl," the mother said.

The mother is on a mission to educate the community and encourage churches to open a dialog about diversity and acceptance of all people.
She recently waged an e-mail campaign to urge her church members to place an empty envelope in the collection basket on Mother’s Day weekend. She said she wanted to send a message to the church that church members can have a voice and that they shouldn’t just blindly follow the flock.

"Just take the time to listen. It is different. It’s something most people have never heard of, but it doesn’t make it scary or pathological," she said.

Sorry, but the dog needs to stay where she is.  Parvo is highly contagious and very often fatal.  The dog needs constant monitoring by a trained staff, not a loving mom. 

Hope the baby gets better soon. Sorry to hear she came down with this.

My 72yo FIL was transferred to the trauma unit in a bigger city this past Saturday because of a fall and head injury he sustained Saturday morning.

Since he has been there (more than 48 hours now), he has not eaten and is not receiving a dextrose drip or the like through his IV. They only took complete x-rays, CT, and MRI on Sunday afternoon. The first time a doctor/resident evaluated him was on Sunday evening sometime after 9 p.m. Also, he is somewhat delusional. He knows his name and where he is, but he is grabbing at things in the air, wants to take the trash out, etc. This is definetly abnormal for him. He has always been alert and oriented.

My question is this: Should it take 36 hours before he is evaluated by a doctor? Is it normal not to give him any type of nourishment (no food, no IV) for more than 48 hours? Is it normal to wait 2 days to see a neurologist (who won't be in to see him until late today) when the main reason he was transferred was for neurology consult? I understand he went in on the weekend, but should it take this long to get answers.

Thanks for any insight you can provide.

Melissa

As long as you pay something every month, there is nothing they can do to you.

I would not take my money out of the CD's or move it.  Just keep paying something every month. 

pampered chef, anything you wanted to buy, you could purchase all on company time.  There were also people that would sell dinner plates through their church.

This "daylighting" is nothing new.  I myself on breaks would "deliver typed reports to an internal office."  I stayed in the building, but I was on my break (not paid) or on lunch (not paid).  So, what's the difference?

Tell me this isn't true; anyone who has worked on-site knows it happens every day.

as a nurse's aide, there were several episodes similar to that.  I was young about 19 to 20.  One particular episode, I went in and picked up a breakfast tray and asked the guy if he was ready for his shower.  He said yes, I told him I will be back with a new gown and towels.  He said okay.  When I came back in he was stripped down to nothing but his birth suit.  I put the towels down and went and told the other nurses about the incident.  Also, there was another man wanting me to wash his thing, KWIM.  If he were comatose or had both hands broken I would have to but there was not a thing wrong with this man and I refused.  I went and got another aide and asked her advice and she said she wouldn't either.   We told the nurse's and the doc about the incident and he wrote that up as an incident report.  

Usually men like that I took it that they had some screws loose. 

she went in with breathing problems, but the longer she was there the more issues came up.  She apparent came down with C. diff.  They started coming in with the yellow suits, for infectious disease precautions.  She finally asked why, and the nurse said according to her chart she had a history or MRSA with open wounds. I said WHAT.  The last problem she had with a wound was in 1987 with gallbladder surgery when she had a bile leak and some wound dehiscence.  MRSA was not even around then.  She has never been told anything about MRSA.

My question is:  Should I confront them and ask when this was diagnosed, and what the circumstances were.  I am wondering if this is another example of OFFSHORING records where mistakes were made.  I mean really, if this is an error I feel it should be corrected, and if not, why was she never told this?

It was a physician owned hospital.  The story was on CNN.  A man had back surgery there, had some sort of bad reaction to the anesthesia and the wife herself had to do CPR.  The surgeon walked in and told her to call 911. 

The hospital has been shut down. 

Uneeda Lay (had to call out her name on a loudspeaker)

Crystal Chandal Lear

North West

Sandy Beach (married name)

to die.  He's a black lab named Maverick.  I just adopted him from the animal shelter in my town a week ago.  We brought him home and he was healthy and happy the first couple of days and then he took a nasty turn vomiting, diarrhea, not eating.  I took him to the vet and the tested him for parvo which was positive.  They gave him some antibiotics and a shot of a antiemesis medication.  I took him home to try to nurse him on my own, but they told me his chances weren't good.  He was basically starving to death right in front of my eyes.  He drink water and vomit it right back up.  He was getting weaker by the hour and had to be carried down off the porch to go into the yard.  Finally, I just couldn't put my kids through it anymore.  So I called the vet this morning and took him back in to them.  They were going to put him on an IV but his prognosis is grave.  He was vomiting up blood and has bloody diarrhea.

The vet just called to tell me he felt it was best to euthanize Maverick and wanted my permission to do it.  I just hate that this happened!  The vet has been trying to console me telling me he hates that this happened to and that he has tried to tell that animal shelter that they have a problem down there with unhealthy animals, but no one will listen.  The kicker is it is run by the city police, it's part of the animal control department!  So who do you report them to in that situation?

Anyway, I just wanted to tell everyone before you adopt from any animal shelter or human society, make sure the animal is healthy.  Make sure the shelter tests for diseases and gives your animal all the necessary immunizations! 

This has been a horrible ordeal for my family.  We lost our family dog five years ago to liver toxicity and liver failure due to bad flea medicine.  I refused to get another dog for a long time.  I finally made the decision to adopt another dog and this happens.  I think for now I'll just stick with the cat we have and leave it at that.  We are just a little emotionally scarred right now and I'm so upset that my kids had to through all of this!

The animal shelter said they would refund my adoption fee that I paid.  That's nice and all, but that doesn't make this past week go away.

Anyway, I just wanted cry a little because I know a lot of you guys are animal lovers/owners and you all know my pain.

Thanks for listening.