What do you think of this scenario?
Posted By: Lee on 2007-02-15
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Okay, I just had to have a safe place to share this. Can I tell you a story? Forty-one years ago, when I was thirteen, I got my first kiss. I lived on an American base in Germany at the time. He was a sophomore and I was an 8th grader. I had asked him to the Sadie Hawkins Day dance the next Friday. He really seemed to like me. Then on Friday, at the door to the dance he suddenly decided to go stag. I was absolutely devastated, but for some reason didn't think of him as a Jerk. I figured it was something I'd done. I moved away less than a year later.
Fast forward - It's forty-one years later. I'm married, content, two kids in high school. I get a message on Classmates.com that he's trying to locate me. I email him, say hi - my husband flakes out. I promise I won't anymore. My curosity gets the best of me and I set up a secret email account and email him. He lives 900 miles away but on the same coast, but the connection is immediate and strong and irresistable. We've agreed not to meet yet, that I should not mess up my marriage. There's no kinky stuff going on. But we're falling in love. So now I'm leading a double life. Half of it is by email, half of it is reality here at home. I've never been happier or more conflicted.
Feedback, anyone?
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What do you think of this scenario?
I agree totally. You will regret this decision. Think about your family - YOUR CHILDREN. Surely you don't want to turn their lives upside down.
This scenario...
Looks like you've got lots of good advice. I agree that you need to think of how it would make you feel if you're husband were doing this. You wouldn't feel good. It wouldn't make you feel all warm and fuzzy inside. Do unto others as you'd have done unto you. You shouldn't have this kind of secret between you and your husband. You need to remember what drew you to him in the first place. Remember the man you fell in love with and who has been there by your side for all these years. He deserves better than this.
I don't mean to sound condescending either. I'm just hoping to help you steer clear of this because you are married, and you have a committment to your husband to be true. This isn't being true.
JMO
Unfortunately, your scenario is not
When asked if her insurance already paid the claim and what she would do with the money, she would not answer. She simply replied that putting the $800 in her pocket was not insurance fraud and that the dog owner should not benefit from something that she's paying into. She also stated that it would be cheaper to pay her the $800 than it would be to have to go through homeowner's insurance.
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Need your opinions. Here is the scenario....this is true and it sm
happened today.
If you lied to your spouse about something not that big, but you knew that they would flip out if you told them the truth, would you continue on with the lie? I know, you would think this is a no-brainer, but it really isn't.
My husband will probably succum to the effects of his high BP because he gets so worked up over really dumb stuff. It's really annoying. The kids spill water on the carpet and he rants and raves and goes running for towels telling them how irresponsible they are. I am not exaggerating. It's gotten to the point where I just don't even tell him things anymore - even little things because it's slowly killing him by stressing him out. He doesn't even know what it's like to have a peaceful, calm mind.
Anyways, he cornered me tonight about something and I flat out lied. It is not really my nature to do so, it just came out! The horrible thing about this: My 5 year old looked at me like, "Mom, that's not true." My heart broke in two! I can't believe I lied in front of him and to my husband. I know I must take responsibility for my actions, but why does he have to act so da** ignorant over little things? It's almost like he leaves me no choice.
I could literally just walk out today and not look back and probably not regret much. He makes my skin crawl a lot of the times with his over reacting ways. I would hate to think that I am the one contributing to his awful ways......He did scream in my face and tell me I was the most irresponsible person he's ever met...ahh, the joys of marriage. 
Vote please on clothes buying scenario for kids...sm
Scenario: 15-year-old finished growing 2 years ago, stable sizes. 8-year-old growing like a weed, can't wear anything from last winter.
It's getting cool now in my state and I need to get the 8-year-old some long sleeved shirts for school. The 15-year-old thinks they should also get the same amount of money to spend on clothes - even though they have plenty to wear in their closet and state they have nothing in particular they want and make money doing neighborhood chores as well as chores around the house. Also before school began both kids were given $100 to buy their school supplies and clothes. The 8-year-old spent the clothing portion on pants and new sneakers, the teenager spent it on various clothing items.
Would you:
1. Do it even though they don't need it because it wouldn't be fair to spend more money on one child than another.
2. Tell them that you're only getting the younger child clothes because they have no long sleeved shirts that fit, whereas the teenager does, and that they are welcome to spend their own money on extra clothes they want.
Which way do you vote?
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