What do you think is the "one" thing that is making you unhappy?
Posted By: GabbyChick on 2009-03-19
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Money?
No girlfriend or boyfriend?
Being lonely?
Hating your job?
Not having your dream job?
Being away from family?
Being away from friends?
Not being in that school environment?
If you had to pick one thing, what do you think is the main cause of your unhappiness?
For me, it is probably not having that dream career....A career helps you feel more secure, worthy, gives purpose, makes you more confident, etc.
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"One project done thread"
What projects do you need to get done?
I have quite a bit of scrapbooking and organizing photos to get on.
I've gotten all my coupons in my organizer. I just need to go back through them and organize the dates a bit better.
I have taken tons of things to the Salvation Army this year....Cleaned out closets, drawers and so on. I need to clean out and reorganize my kitchen cabinets.
It wouldn't hurt me to organize my recipes a bit better too!
I really think your dog is unhappy and
has separation anxiety. Crating her all the time is not helping that in the least. Can you not work on spending more time with her outside of her crate? Yelling at her for normal dog behavior (trying to communicate with you by barking) really sounds a little cruel to me. Are you sure you want a pet at all?
Yes, there are always those few unhappy
people out there that always have to knock everyone else down because they are insecure, jealous or who knows why they do it.
Have you also noticed that crabby patty has not responded to anyone after her or his dumb remark???? Kinda of fun to give crabby a hard time back though.
has anybody ever been unhappy with the way
Don't get me wrong, my son's teeth are straight. but it's like he pulled forward 6 "front" teeth into a squared off shape, very prominent. They look very fake--think Miley Cyrus after veneers. I had braces also, by a different orthodontist and my teeth are more "rounded" and natural, if that makes sense. has anybody ever been unhappy with their results??
I have found images on the internet that are similar to our situation; these are not actual pictures of us.
Here's what his look like:
http://www.bracesbysouris.com/images/before_after1.jpg
here's what mine look like
http://www.seapointclinic.ie/images/After003.jpg
I am not unhappy at all.
I see no reason. Right now hubby and I both have jobs, able to buy like we want, vacations in the works, approaching a big b'day for me, gosh I just think life is really good at the present time. I have gone through so much in the past am thankful I have halfway security now and at good point to where I am enjoying my life.
Where do you get unhappy or miserable out of that
After a while, most of the physical attraction wears off. And usually unless it is a volatile type of relationship with a lot of bad fighting and make up sex i.e., so does the passion. Sad but true. You can love your husband very much but just not have the attraction or passion that was once there. It doesn't mean you are unhappy, just normal.
Sounds very much like he is unhappy with HIMSELF!
Hope you do not waste any more time with this guy. There ARE better ones out there.
Just think of how many of them are unhappy in relationships though,
their spouse or SO for someone they co-star with. Im just thinking it takes a very strong person to see or think about the one you love kissing and becoming intimate with someone else, even if it is "pretend", and then to have them say they liked it"? Give me a break, that would be insulting to the spouse or SO - IMO.
I know I could not do it, and I am not usually a jealous person.
Sounds like your unhappy friend........ sm
just got a bad-fitting set of dentures. Has she seen a dentist or denture specialist about this? Hopefully she can get them either adjusted or a new pair. I believe the change in her life would justify the expense more than adequately if she has to hide to eat, etc.
I am not an unhappy person for the most part - sm
I am unhappy about gaining so much weight since I have become a MT, but there are many factors contributing to the issue, not just the fact I sit on my but for 10-12 hours a day.
Are you unhappy enough to leave? Your life is too short...
to spend it second guessing your relationship! It is either good or bad, worth fixing or not... It is your choice. If a man treats a woman like crap and she continues to take it she is also to blame. You can leave you know! There are good men out there, don't settle for less than what you deserve. If you want to be treated poorly those are the kind of man you are going to attract, the lousy ones. Women must stop being the victims. People treat you the way you LET THEM treat you. And those that say stay together for the sake of the children are nuts..especially if you have daughters, look at the example you are setting. I would much rather have a single parent (male or female) who was happy and well adjusted than be in a miserable two parent family where there is no mutual respect and love!
Trolls like this generally are very unhappy people.......... sm
the problem is they don't realize it. She obviously does need people in her life, as evidenced by her posting on this board.
yep, regret marriage. been in it way too long to be unhappy and wasting life. nm
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Happiness is a heart thing; pleasure is a head thing.nm
I think you are making way too much of it.
My BF of 9 years calls me that all the time when, in fact, it just the opposite--he is my "sugar daddy." If he is worth it, just let it go. People are way too sensitive these days about things.
It is almost making me cry as well now.
 as time approaches. I loved that little Tux cat. I am going to have to get mama cat fixed. I think this is too hard.
If you are not making the $$$ you need
then you double up on jobs, and jobs that will pay, not sitting around waiting on work to come thru. I up until 2004 worked 2 jobs for years and years, for a safety net and both of those would qualify for full time, weekends included. I have now done MT longer than you so I guess I might know jack squat about what I am saying. I never got evicted, never did without food, kept a car, home and everything by myself because I did work so much. Why in the world are you making peanuts working 10-12 hours per day? I know the pay was more years ago, I understand that but if the job is not taking care of your needs, then a person needs to do something else.
Thank you for not making me feel so alone.
Glad your son has quit.
I will have mine read articles and will find pictures on line to show him. I do not think he has a clue as to what can happen to him if he continues this. Like I said he is only 18 and to think about many many years of this is very scary.
He says he wants to quit. I hope he means it and I will help him as much as I can.
I also was surprised by this since he has been so athletic. He always made statements about how he hated the smell of smoke and would never smoke cigarettes. I guess he thinks this is okay and won't do him any harm.
He started over the summer, so I hope it will be easier to quit than to have this go on for years. I will speak to his doctor and dentist also. May be they can help.
Thanks again for your concern. It it good to talk to someone who has been through this. Enjoy the Holidays.
Making candles
I had heard that you can save up the scrap wax from candles in glass jars, melt all of them down and put them back in the containers, adding a wick and scent such as cinnamon. So, I've been saving my containers with the bits of leftover candles. Anyone know how one goes about doing this? Is it possible to do this?
THANKS!
Any parents here making a
to only have one child..? We're seriously considering not having any more..One is PLENTY OF WORK AND LOVE!!
Thanks for making me giggle! nm
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Thanks for making me laugh!
Cute post! Yes, it is yucky, but you made me laugh this morning. Thanks!
Thanks, for making me laugh.
This is so terribly hurtful. I guess you guessed it is my sister. We have had a history of ups and downs our whole life. I am the one to just let the hurt and hard feelings go to try to have peace. I will try to grin and bear it . . showing some teeth at times. Hope I can do it.
Thank you all for making me feel
a little better about this. I would NEVER get rid of my cats. Once an animal comes into my home, it's for life. I would probably send my husband packing before the cats :)
Mine is just making me sad
When I first got my little boy he and his brother could not stay out all night. They wanted to come into my bedroom and jump on me so I gave them their own bedroom. I made sure they had all the catty things little guys need and tucked them in each night with food, litter box, their treats, whatever. They are past that stage and now know how to behave and I leave them to have the house when I turn in for the night. My little boy now sits right outside his old bedroom and meows. He looks under the door - I keep that closed off now after cleaning up after them - but he knows that is where he stayed when just a small guy and he cries. So pitiful!
Thank you so much! You're making me cry!
I have learned that this is the true meaning of Christmas - giving. There's no greater feeling than watching a child open a present or an older person whose family has forgotten them. That's what Christmas is about for me. God bless you, too! Have a very merry Christmas!
MAKING??? Isn't he a grown man? (nm)
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You might be right about Him not making trash.
Seems like she has done a good enough job by herself, oh, and her mother right along there. I have said for sometime she was really sick, desperately needing help, needing the attention or else she would not be putting herself in situations such as showing her behind - you nor I have made her do these things- she does these on her own. If her face plastered everywhere, again did you or I do that? Don't think so. She has needed psychiatric help for ages. The part where she cut off her head was a very telling point, same as self abuse. Anyone who has typed psychiatric work before knows about this. Same as multilating yourself and there is another celeb out there who does this, initials LL. This make get taken off the board, I hope not because is truthful. She has been crashing for some time. I wondered when the kids were going to be taken completely out of her care. This should have been done a long time ago for their safety, only supervised visits. Well, guess someone finally saw clear on that. After this required 72 hours of hospitalization she will make the choice to leave, I am sure and it will be a shame. She loves the limelight, though. She is really pitiful.
Yes, you are making the right decision (sm)
I was days away from making that decision myself with my old 20 year old baby, but she took the decision out of my hands, and I am grateful for that. Maybe your baby will too. If not, then she trusts you to do it for her. Hugs.
I think you are making her point, actually.
You describe the "wear their exhaustion as a badge of honor" syndrome.
But I don't think we have it easier that other generations. I don't think we have it harder. It's just relative to the times, roles, etc.
And just because your mom sucked it up, others moms may have not. Mothers' little helpers were a lot easier to get back in the day, trust me, and the kids never even knew...
Yep, a lot is what we decide as women, but you can't just wake up one day and decide you're going to take control. Once in a cycle of self-abuse or whatever one wants to call it, it's a very hard cycle to break, possible, but not easy...
we are and i am making things
finally got my stuff organized and am knitting/crocheting things for people. They may not want what i make but hey, lol.
Candy making
I use chocolate bark to dip with. I do know you have to watch the humidity outside. If the humidity is high, the chocolate will not set, but you can put it in the refrigerator to get it to set. Have fun!!
candy making
Aww, my favorite time of year. You can freeze your candy and it will still be good until Christmas. I make chocolate and peanut butter fudge and freeze it. As a matter of fact, it is really good frozen, takes longer to eat, just melts in your mouth. I have to disguise the candy in the freezer, otherwise people will pick at it and it will be gone by Christmas. YUM!
now you are making sense! sm
I am not being mean, just trying to get you to think! Now you will have to call a domestic abuse person in your state or an attorney and ask what you have to do. BUT if you truly are scared, you can go to a "safe house" tell them your story and I guarantee they will help you. Explain what you have said that you thought you hd waited too long. Also tell them what the cop told you years before. They hve heard it all. I am just trying to get you to leave before its too late. Sometimes it takes a rough push but you CAN do it and do well. Don't ever get it in your head there are no options. There are always options nad always hope as long as there is breath and life!
You are making a lot of generalizations...
and until you know someone's situation, you can only speculate. As far as name brands, should there be a law that those on food stamps can only buy dented cans without labels, bruised fruit, and out-of-date dairy products? Lighten up a bit and don't look down your nose at others...you may be in the same situation some day. Have a little compassion for those not as fortunate as you.
What about making a quilt? s/m
If you feel that you cannot wear them, then possibly select some of your favorite outfits that have memories and have someone make a quilt out of them. Then whenever you are missing her, wrap yourself in the quilt and it will feel like she is giving you a hug...
So sorry for your loss.
you are not making a big deal out of it
Does he have an IEP? What she did is a real problem. Huge. You need to have an advocate at that meeting.
personally I think you are making sm
up most of this stuff to get a fight started. But in case you aren't, I really feel sorry for you. A person who only cares about the "things" they have and can accumulate is a very very sad miserable being.
Its very obvious that you do not like people, are very unfriendly and only care about what you can get. I have news for you, it won't be going with you when you leave this world and the things don't keep you company either. you are pathetic!
Why is it selfish to have a child and not be making
at least 100,000 a year? Are you serious?!
We have 2 children and do not make quite that on combined salaries, but are very blessed in what we do have. Our children are happy and participate in activities outside the home, are well taken care of and have all the things they need and most of what they want. Last time I checked, having a kid and keeping them happy wasn't about keeping up with the Joneses. That is a warped sense of belonging that too many people have nowadays. Parents too who then pass it on to their kids. It's quite sad, really.
The fence did not cause the dog to die. The owner did by not making sure
the batteries were changed on a regular basis. The fence and the dog are blameless. The only one who had any control over the situation dropped the ball....poor dog.
Making MY list and checking
I also made a list for my hubby. He is a sweetie, though and last year it was diamond ring, the year before diamond bracelet, the year before gold necklace and this year I made not only things for me but also things I wanted around the house. He bought me gold earrings, a bling watch and some snuggles for my feet (he says he has heard me say my feet get cold). Love that man with a passion!!
you and above you ARE making FUN of obese people.
Not all overweight people are overweight due to an EATING problem any more than ALL people in hospitals have diabetes either. You just cannot seem to comprehend that sometimes being over weight comes from other variables, and that your opinions and comments are very condescending to those that do have those afflictions. You have closed small minds and judgemental attitudes towards the overweight. YOUR overweight problem may not be the same as the next persons, but you only see yours, so that is the ONLY truth. blind...so blind.
Now you're making me hungry and I have not even
She's making them buy their own dresses? TACKY!! NM
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I was planning on making a flower bed there
with several good-sized bushes such as hydrangea and/or forsythia. Hopefully that would take care of the problem, especially since we don't plan to get any other pets (we're mid-50s, want to travel, plus I don't think I can go through this pain again).
Because he is making vacation plans
with a guy, not his wife. That sounds like a guy who has no interest in vacationing with his wife. A man's wife should always be who he thinks of when he thinks of vacation. Not that he can never take a trip or vacation without her, but he should take his thoughts to her, not just announce it as if she is just the help.
Something is very wrong here.
Well I believe you - I was just making light of my post (sm)
many people have seen these things, including what my friend and I saw.
I was totally making a joke, Just having a little fun!
I love my kids as well as my furkids, but believe me, they are not genuises!
I think he is trying to tell me I am making him mad when I leave him home...nm
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Hey, I just finished making him tostada
a while ago, Slim in bed snoring away, I have the house all to myself, he came in after a long hard day at his new job....Couldn't let the boy go hungry now could I. He shared his cheese and wine with me, then the gang came in, drat!! He is a real cool guy. His wife will be arriving from Brazil in two weeks. He hopes to have their apartment set up by then, not too far down the road from us....
If she's such a good kid, why stress her more by making her pay
for car/gas/insurance? I think that making good grades and having extracurricular school activities are enough. If she has to work also then something might slip, probably her grades. My girls, now 30 and 33, did theater, choir, drill team and we took care of the car. They did not turn out to be slackers. Maybe taking her siblings to school and running errands is enough of a payment.
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