What a boring Monday!!! (sm)

Our ྙ Buick has been very good to us, but the transmission is going. We've been adding something (don't know the name) every 6 months over the past year, but we don't think it will hold out much longer. Plus, the last ice storm really did a number on our windshield. We had a "stone crack" that was there since the day we bought the car, but the storm put a crack across the whole length of the windshield and back again. We are driving the car that way, but need a new one.

The problem is we can't afford anything over $2000 and most of the cars we have looked at are $4000 and up. Now, hubby tells me if I close out my IRA and pay for the car, he will guarantee to pay me back next year if he gets back to work. The thing I don't like is the word IF.  I have been practically sole support now because he hasn't worked much this year (not his fault) and, with the fall in the stock markets, I lost mucho dollars from my IRA, as he did. He still has double what I have left, but he wants me to close out my IRA.

We need a car so he can get to work (over 50 miles one way) once he gets back to work if he decides not to retire, but I'm tired of paying all the bills plus our health insurance (which he promised to pay half and hasn't been able to do - to the tune of $4000 owed) now having to worry about getting another car. Am I wrong to feel this way? I'm starting to feel like he just doesn't want me to have any control or have any savings, that it is a threat to him if I have any money.He's my high school sweetheart from 1965, so it's not like we're yung'uns. He wasn't this way until his surgery 2 years ago. I know I'll never be able to recoup my losses from my IRA and sometimes think I should just do what he says, but I feel it's my $$ that I worked hard to get, although it will never see me through my retirement.

He just paid the IRS and state taxes before the end of the year before they tacked on any more penalties and interest, and made ME feel guilty because I didn't have enough money deducted from MY wages to cover it (we are still trying to recover from his open heart surgery). I am claiming single and really starting to hurt money-wise. It's just too much for me to handle. I'm paying all the cc's that we had to use to survive to pay medical bills and doctors after his surgery.

What would you do in this case? I use the car maybe twice a week when it's here to go for groceries if he doesn't get around to going for them. Should I take him at his word? Should I close out my IRA and get a decent car (which would probably last us the rest of our life)?

I just need another person's opinion before I make my final decision. Thanks.

Off until Monday afternoon, have a friend coming in on Saturday (female) and for the first time since I have been single, over five years, going out dancing and having fun on New Years Eve.   See if this old lady still has it in her to have a night of fun.   Not sure if I remember how to dance.  Hope you all have a Happy New Years.   2007 is going to be a good one for me.

Patti

Cat here....Been wondering what you've all been up too.  Been kinda lost as well considering my computer died over a month ago and was finally resurrected this morning.   

Tonight's fare will be venison pot roast style (about 4 hours on top of the stove) with string beans and potatoes side, hot water cornbread and strawberry jello for desert.    Cat     

did jo pick someone yet, and if so who was it

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O5I3RPbS8aI

Chris Martin, Viva LA Vida

This man gives me chills!!!