What?? Sounds completely nuts!
Posted By: Anon me on 2008-02-25
In Reply to: What can anyone say in response to that? (sm) - Wow
These poor children should be taken out of this crazy situation. Sounds like something out of an x-rated movie with little kids in the middle of something that should be rated M for mature audiences only. I can just imagine what they will have to listen to when they're tucked into their little beds trying to sleep. Where are the grownups in all this? Sorry, but feel sorry for no one but the kids. Who would put up with this nonsense?? Kids deserve better. Get them out of there.
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he sounds immature, and nuts.
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Are you NUTS?
"Weddings are very expensive. Mine was over 10000 a while back and if all 60 or so couples brought me a "gift" I would have been VERY upset. Sorry but it's true. "
Whoa. I got heart palpitations with that one. You spend what you, or whoever is paying, can afford, you do not expect your guests to help defray the cost of your wedding choices. You can HOPE that may be the case, but to expect it and be upset if the guests didn't fork over enough $$ is pretty shallow and has nothing to do with the whole reason everyone is there. Champagne taste on a beer budget is not your guests problem. A gift is a GIFT. It is not an expectation, nor is it an obligation. It is something given out of desire.
Weddings for so many are all about the 4-hour event, the dress, the music, the decorations, the venue, blah, blah, blah. Anyone remember WHY you are having that event? You invite your guests to share in your joy, not to write a check out to pay off the caterer.
Think about what the guest went through to be there for you on your special day. A new outfit, maybe a babysitter/petsitter, forgoing all other plans, maybe losing a day's pay, the drive there, all for you. Then you expect them to fork over a minimum of $25. Their presence should be more appreciated than their presents, for that is worth more than any dollar amount.
"I think most people who bring gifts are the ones who don't want to spend much or don't want people to know what they spent but that's just my opinion."
I can't even respond to that 'cause I'm trying to ward off the impending stroke.
This looks a lot like it - except it did not have nuts. TY!!!
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I would tell MIL that she is nuts for doing that - sm
I have done quite a few ER reports on people who have been in accidents on ATV's, plus my mom had a friend whose son (16)was killed on one (on his birthday, he'd just gotten it). My DH keeps trying to get us one, I keep saying no way. I don't have a problem with a go-kart as it is low to the ground and would have a rollcage. But taking a 9-month old baby on that shows a serious lack of common sense. Does she take the baby in the car w/o a car seat? ( Mine would have if I had ever even let them have my kids, but they have no commom sense either hence I only ever have allowed supervised "visits" with them). Your job is to protect your children, if she was ever hurt because you allowed this to keep going on you would never forgive yourself. Put your foot down now before something bad happens. As for having someone watch her while you cut the grass, hello, why cannot your husband cut the grass??? Or if you MIL is so deperate to ride something, have her come over and cut the grass and put her on the tractor. So between the stupidity of her taking a baby on an ATV and the obvious damage to the baby's hearing which will be permanent-- I'd tell her to cut it out now and if you find out she is still doing it anyway, no more leaving her with grandma, plain and simple.
She is nuts...sm
If I had just had 8 babies and had an offer for professional nursing care 24 hours a day I would be like "What time can you be here?" How in the he!! does she think she is going to take care of them? I think the state needs to step in here and do something.
10k is nuts
Someone is taking you for a ride. You could get 1 from either of these and easily get a decent sale price for it private party.
http://www.used-auto-engines.com/usedenginesales/land_rover-store.html
OR
http://www.everdrive.com
any golf nuts out there?
Caught the golf bug about a year ago and watch almost every tournament on TV. Am going to the Open next month. Sooo excited, have never been to a tournament before and am so looking forward to seeing all my favorite players. Anybody have experience at a tournament, any tips? Thanks.
wonder if it gets the complimentary bag of nuts, too. lol
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I don't think your nuts. In fact...
I just noticed my back STOPPED itching. I had an itchy back for the longest time...always rubbing against doorways like a crazed grizzly bear rubbing on a tree trunk, using a coat hanger to scratch myself, bathroom towel, you name it.
I think what was causing my problem was my chair! Whatever the fabric was on it was causing my back to get really heated and probably caused it to sweat and caused the itchies. I have a new chair and it just dawned onto me that I don't itch anymore! Well, I mean aside from the usual wintertime dryness, but nothing like before.
Anyway, it's just a thought. By the way, I'm jealous that you have Valium. Always wanted to try the stuff but no one likes to prescribe it anymore it seems. I just down some cheap wine instead. Works just as well I guess.
Hope you get some relief soon!
I know it is nuts but true
Plus, that includes labor, not just the price of the engine.
No you are not nuts, just what iffing yourself - sm
and you know most people your age are out at the bars on the weekend, hanging out with friends, meeting new guys, etc. Part of the reason I have told my kids to wait until they are at least 25 to get married. Sounds like you have a good life though, don't blow it thinking something better is out there. Maybe you can have a girl's night out once a week or twice a month or whatever to break up your routine. Sounds like you are afraid of getting into a rut. I have been married for 13 years now and see how our marriage has evolved from being on our own to two years, then having two kids, and the changes the years have brought to our lives. I don't do nearly as much as I did when the kids were little because I work more now, which I need to change. I go out with friends when I visit my family, it is my only time I get out without my DH, though my neighbor and I have been discussing going out, we still haven't, need to do it and say to the guys, we are going out, see you later! You are just a little restless and bored, and there is much you can do without compromising your marriage over it, get some new interests, do something new with your DH, do the girl's night out every now and then, try bowling, whatever. ---I have an ex-boyfriend whose wife (who had been my best friend until she started dating my ex--her choice not mine) decided after being married 4 months that she was not ready for marriage (after two years of dating and living together). He cried on my shoulder about what happened, she wanted to party every weekend (and did with her friends leaving him home alone), he was more of a homebody. They were both 23 at the time. So they were divorced after a 4-month marriage. After that he always wanted me to meet his serious girlfriends. Happy to say he is happily married to a girl who kind of looks like me though 10 years younger (she did not like that when she met me, has not been friendly to me since then-- doesn't understand I never wanted him "back") and has twins with her. He is in CA now so I have not seen him in a while but glad he found happiness. Believe me you don't want to toss your marriage due to restlessness and apparently a 2 year itch.
Poor kid; two nuts for parents :(
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Ice cream with any kinds of nuts in it
Black walnut, butter pecan, chocolate almond. My mouth is watering.
Mine is exactly the same way, drives me nuts- sm
He does not understand why I can't keep a picture perfect house. He was raised by a neat freak so he thinks I should keep the house like his mom, immaculate. Not. We are not living in squalor by any means, but it can get messy quick with 2 kids and 2 dogs. Apparently no one but me knows to take dirty dishes to the sink, etc. Granted the house does need an overall/good cleaning/organizing, but help in not making it any worse would be appreciated. The kids help some and are slowly getting better, but there is still a lot I have to do myself and just don't have the time to do. Seriously thinking of hiring a housekeeper/cleaning service for either twice monthly or weekly cleaning. I still need to declutter but that would make my life a lot easier. Maybe you could do the same and hire someone to clean twice a month. I just wish I could take off for 2 weeks and get done around here what needs doing. I will probably take a week off of one job after school starts up again which will leave my days basically clear so maybe, just maybe I can get a few things done around here that need doing!
Nuts..wouldn''t open for me. nm
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Yeah, only the nuts go that early; I get up about 8 and go then - sm
my neighbor is going at 4, I told her she was nuts. I don't go to get anything specific though, I just go for fun. I am pretty much done shopping already for the kids, just need stocking stuffers and a few gift cards and I will be totally done. Most of the early bird sales last until noon or 1 p.m. so why kill yourself.
3-way stops drive me nuts --
we have 1 at the end of our block. When returning home, I am always on the street that doesn't have to stop. Unfortunately, I do have to turn left from that street and for some reason the people across from me, waiting at the stop sign to come straight through, seem to think that they have the right-of-way.
They have a stop sign. I do not. If I don't put on my turn signal, they may think that I'm going to straight and will start through anyway and end up hitting me. If I do put on my turn signal, they think I should have to stop.
It drives me nuts. They may as well make it a 4-way stop.
Waldorf Salad - no nuts! nm
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108 hours without a cigarette -- going nuts
Dang!!! I've quit before, never quit quitting, but this is SO HARD!!! Jumpy, jittery, freaky, sleepy, wierd. I'm all out of sorts. Doing the Chantix and the gum, so I'm truly not dangerously mean. I want to be a normal person, not someone addicted to this horrible habit. I want to be regular people. I envy nonsmokers and how normal they can be -- not obsessed with this frenzied urge. ARRRGGGG!!!! How much longer will I be nutso?
I hate when I can't remember a name. Drive's me nuts.
Liz Sheridan (not really redheaded) and Estelle Harris (not so much large-nosed) fit somewhat to your description. They played on Seinfeld as Jerry and George's mothers. That might be where you're getting the NY/Jewish thoughts.
There's also Renee Taylor, Fran Fine's mom on The Nanny. I believe her hair was platinum blonde on most of that show, however.
My first thought when I hear large nose, red hair, and New York are Barbra Streisand and Bette Midler, but then you'd probably not have a hard time thinking of their names. LOL
yeah..okay...now I am nuts, paranoid, angry and need a
psychiatrist. like I said, you are not overweight so you DO attack overweight people. I only eat one meal a day because that is the only time I get hungry, like someone else said about ONLY eating when they get hungry. I am not intentionally starving myself. I just have no appetite for hormone infested, pesticide ridden, additive stuffed foods. I am not being paranoid. I have researched this subject fully, and if you think the govt would not do this to unsuspecting, naive people, you are more naive than most. Remember the cigarette lie? What makes you think they wouldn't do it to your food? why are american's the only obese people in the world? think about it. oh...and I am not nuts, angry, paranoid, nor do I need a psychiatrist or therapy. I am not blaming every one else for my weight problem, other than the food we eat. You did not do this to me...I am not blaming you, but you are also thin and have no compassion for those that DO have a problem. I will not continue this. but this is my opinion only. I HAVE accepted responsibility for my whole entire life, including my weight. Oh...and I am not a liar either. thank you for all your compassionate support...must make you feel better to attack the overweight when you brag about being a size 6. I bet you are in your 20s, as well. hmpff.
I'm liberal, but Rosie is nuts. That 911 conspiracy
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Rachel Ray also drives me nuts with her voice.
I like the woman who does Barefoot Contessa, calm and relaxed with a soothing way about her.
The nuts may have been sprayed with a fungicide or insecticide while on
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Working my butt off, all my docs went nuts -sm
have about 180 minutes of dictation to do.......interuptions galore over the weekend so hard to work! Hope to watch the game though, we will see, definitely watching half-time as I love Tom Petty and have since I was 12! (so 30 years). Cannot wait for that especially since not sure if I will go to see him on his upcoming tour as he is coming to my area on a Sunday and kids want to go too, but they would have school the next day and the show is about 90 minutes away from me. So not sure what I am going to do yet.
alcohol makes her nuts, along with millions of other people.
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For us, my husband swears my little doggie goes nuts whenever I leave sm
the house. I refuse to believe this. We have a love-hate relationship. haha She always sits in my favorite chair whenever she KNOWS I'm fixin to get off work and she won't budge either! She gives wayy more attention to the kids and husband than to me! I'm the one who feeds her all the time while cooking, so I kid with my hubby that she's afraid her "chef and cook" is not going to come home whenever I leave. I've NEVER seen her act the way my husband describes. He says she runs in circles, runs around, tries to look out the windows and will do this until I come home! the other night my husband took the kids to a ball game and she just watched them walk out the door and didn't flinch the whole time. I think it's hilarious!
Sorry, misread your post, that is nuts though, tigers are not pets - sm
they are asking for trouble. I have a friend who has a dog that is half wolf which I think is asking for trouble (and I love wolves).
'wet nuts' are walnuts in maple syrup
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Tough Love advice. My 19-year-old daughter is making me nuts..
I don't even know where to start with this one but I'll just to give a short summary. My 19-year-old daughter has been troubled since I can remember. For example, her terrible twos went beyond that..if you didn't peel her orange right, she didn't want it and would throw it across the room. I think her diagnosis is best described as ODD (Oppositional Defiant Disorder) and bipolar. She has a quick temper and at age 5 blackened her 12-year-old brother's eyes with a book because he got in her face. She has annoyed everyone she has come into contact with. She is very immature. We have tried everything to get her help because once she became a teenager it just got worse. She is self-destructive and I became the enabler and now it is out of control. She would not go to school so she does not have an education. We had to call the cops numerous times because of her violent outbursts. We had her arrested when she stole our credit cards so she could learn a lesson but the courts did nothing. She was supposed to be court ordered to have a job and attend school, of which she did nothing and there was no punishment. She has never suffered any consequences no matter how hard we tried. She was charged with 10 felonies for the credit card theft but got nothing. She just batted her big blue eyes at the judge and it all went away. I have paid her rent for a year or two, bought her a car and paid for it. All of these of course when she had a job but right after I did all of this she stopped going. She got into meth..You would not believe my heartbreaking nightmare. Some days I just don't think I can take another minute of it. At this point, she is now homeless because I just cannot keep paying her bills. She just totaled the car so she has no car and no job and still wants me to pay her way and she has lost her license due to DUI and driving again without privileges. It never stops. How far do I take this? She calls me for money that she says is to eat but if I keep giving her money then what is her motivation to go to work. I kept thinking if she hit bottom she could only come up..but she likes the bottom and just hovers there. She adapts to any environment. So when does she wake up and do you think tough love would work on a child with mental issues. I paid all of her doctor bills so she could get help and on medication but just found out she hasnt been taking them. I know I have so many questions but I have no idea how to "fix her" anymore. I know she needs to help herself but how much is she actually capable of being on drugs and mental health issues. This is devastating to our family and when I don't help her she becomes suicidal and I want to just hang up because I know she is manipulating but what if this is the time she really does something. I tried to take her into the hospital because of her meth addiction because she finally asked for help and was told there really wasn't any programs for her because she didn't have insurance so I left just thinking.."well, I guess you'll have to do it on your own, there is no help." Now, that is heartwrenching. At some point, I know she just has to grownup, but I don't know if I can survive this. I'm stressed 24/7 and sadly whenever she calls I get such bad anxiety. I can hardly be around her because she is so manipulative and I feel guilty that I try to avoid her. I always thought it'd be different if I just loved her more, spend more time with her and so as a mom, I blame myself because she is so messed up. Guilt just fuels the enabling.. Help.. any suggestions, advice??
How about some type of snack to go with the wine like Spanish cheeses, nuts, or olives? Mmmm...nm
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they ARE completely different
i can't believe you have a friend that had the nerve to compare her abortion to your miscarriage!!! im so sorry for your loss
I completely believe that. sm
I've never been separated from a marriage, but in 2 long-term (several year) relationships that finally succumbed to breaking up, we got along WAY better once we were 'only' friends. The change was immediate! Best of luck to you both. Sounds like you tried your hardest.
Understand you completely - sm
My situation is exactly the same. He can ignore me for weeks. I mean completely ignore me to the point that I may as well not even be here unless he has run out of clean underwear and socks.
Then when he gets a wild hair, I'm supposed to jump with glee? No thanks, I would rather spend my time planning for the day I leave his sorry self now.
Agree completely......nm
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I completely agree! (sm)
As strange as this woman may have been, including the people she chose to surround herself with, there has never been a question about how she felt about her beloved son. Let's hope this woman can finally have some peace in the next few days and spend eternity next to the one person that wasn't involved with her for his own personal gain!
I may be completely wrong,
but when I caught a little bit of the story on the news, it sounded like the "amount of money she had been offered equaled out to 20,000 a day for each day they were married. I would not call her a gold digger when they first married, I mean, I most certainly could fall in love with Sir Paul, but now it sounds like she wants everything. As for Dancing with the Stars, she has shown up but I don't see the public embracing her and voting for her to stay.
Completely agree...
I have the same standards. Sleeping together is a gift that comes with marriage in my opinion. It is your house and your rules. Good for you for sticking to it!
I completely agree...sm
I live in one of the states that is in the middle of terrible turmoil due to illegal immigrants and what gets me is the minute citizens try to get laws that are already on the books enforced we are considered racists. The illegal immigrants form marches and get on TV and tell the world how terrible and racist the politicians are who are just trying to have laws that are already written enforced. It is just crazy. I mean they are here illegally, it has nothing to do with their race, it has to do with the fact that they are breaking the law and need to be treated like any other law breaker in this country. Geez. You have to be a citizen to vote, but all our signs outside the voting places have to be bilingual, does that make sense to you? Most jobs in my area are now only hiring bilingual people, so unless you learn Spanish, it is very hard to find a job, which I find even more irritating. I mean, what would happen to an American citizen if they tried to jump the border to any other country in the world, do you think we would be given any sort of rights other than being thrown in jail, deported, or just plain disappearing off the face of the earth? I don't think so.
Unfortunately, when we divorced I was completely sm
out of my mind. It is legal because it states that he has the right to make any decision and can change his mind at any time since he has physical custody. He has been very kind in the past to allow my son to spend the entire summer with us. This will be the first summer in 7 years that we have not seen him. Plus, we send for him throughout the year during holidays and spring breaks. He can do this and can make this decision.
I could get a lawyer and amend the agreement we have, but then it will get so ugly (again) and complicated and I don't ever want to go through that ever again. He still has emotional wounds from our divorce (I've since moved on and remarried), so if he wanted to be ugly he can. What's to say my husband and I hire a lawyer in his state, go to court, and then I end up losing even the right to see my son? That can happen, especially since he has not lived with us ever. Thanks for your suggestion, though.
I agree completely! Very well said (nm)
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I understand completely...
and am in no way arguing your point, it's a valid one! I just don't understand the LACK of self-control these days. Maybe it's the lack of responsibility one must take for those actions..I don't know, guess we could debate this all day, but please, I meant no disrespect to your previous post. I enjoy reading your advice...very refreshing and inspiring 
Understand completely - sm
I too have been burned a few times for trying to help someone but not Stacy.
She's a smart kid, a good mom, and proudly independent. I think she will see it for what it is. The temptation is very strong to try to bring a "family" together for the sake of a child but I am really hoping that she won't give in to that temptation.
Her ex boyfriend and his mother are wastes of perfectly good flesh and oxygen. some people....
Not the OP but I understand completely - sm
And, just for the record. I don't have a cleaning lady but I would love one too. My husband is a complete SLOB.
I vacuum every night, do the dishes, clean the counters, etc. By the time I get up, there are wood chips, snow, mud, whatever, trailed through the house from his boots, there is protein powder all over the kitchen counters and on the kitchen floor, and more dishes in the sink than even my kids can go through in one evening.
Not to mention the pile of dirty laundry he pulls from under his side of the bed immediately after I have finished doing ALL of the laundry. Happens every single time!
I'm not even going to get into the stuff I find in the bathroom sink and on the bathroom floor!
Like I said, I would love to have a cleaning lady too but I would be too embarassed to let someone see what I have to live with.
Completely different posts....
You might want to read again-I was not talking about her meowing then. I am not talking about giving her foods, supplements, now. I am asking about how do you know about end of life. People say you would know and I am asking about her sounding off now. Please review my other post again- I am feeding her kittie cat food and also supplements. This post is entirely different.
I actually have, and it was completely normal - SM
I'm in my mid-20s and have always been very healthy and active. I could never even catch the chickenpox from my friends as a child! LOL! Oh well, I'll have to see if stopping this antihistamine makes a difference. I feel completely fine otherwise.
I completely understand
My 13-year-old daughter just asked me for $25 for a T-shirt for the Science Olympiad. Thankfully her yearbook only cost $20, but she thinks money grows on trees. She does get an allowance for watching her younger sister and helping around the house, but when I tell her I'll deduct the money from her allowance, she looks at me like I'm crazy.
She's in Student Counsel and they go on trips every year, but her school does fundraisers so we end up not paying much at all in the end with his helpful.
She wants to go to college to become a Vet and probably will end up trying to go to Cornell. We've already told her to start saving and get some scholarships because there's no way we can afford it.
I still have a four year old to deal with. I can only imagine when she gets older.
I completely agree with you. - nm
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I completely agree.....sm
I also as a child was spanked NOT beaten, an I can tell you that my generation had MUCH more respect than the generations now. I am not that old either...late 30s, but back in the day, the neighbors spanked you, then sent you home to your parents whom they called, and you got it again...needless to say, I turned out JUST fine and again, have a LOT more respect for my elders now. I cannot STAND when people say that just because you spank your child means that you beat them...I have 4 children, whom are spanked when needed, which has not had to be often, but I can bet you that they respect me, their dad, AND other adults, and even my oldest ones (who are teenagers by the way) have said THEY think it has made them better people. They can COMPLETELY understand WHY we as parents may resort to spanking (and we used time outs too, but those only work for so long and for the "little" things). I too think that if more parents "spanked" NOT BEAT, their children, we would not have all the disrespect we have today. Just another example of "society/government" getting in the way. Again, spanking and beating are two different things, so DON'T confuse the two. As it says in the bible...spare the rod, spoil the child! JMHO!!
I completely understand...sm
I am scrambling tonight trying to get some lines in because my work has been so slow I only worked 14 hours Monday until Friday. This weekend I got about 63 minutes of dictation so that will add some lines. I have to scramble to work about 20-25 hours per week.
Just want you to know I understand completely where sm
you are coming from and agree totally that it is terribly, terribly sad. I just don't want you to harp on it and let it work on you. You have done nothing wrong. Stand proud. They are entitled to their opinions - strange as they are - they are not entitled to spew them all over the place and say hurtful stupid things to you - just shows how mixed up they are. You sister was right in telling you to let it go - they are strange - weird - you are blessed your husband is so different. Give him a hug and ignore the rest of them. Good luck!
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