What I have are children, bills & a big decision to make (nm)

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and there is literally no one in my "real life" I can go to about it.

I just found out (by accident actually) that my husband has been cheating on me online, regularly visiting a couple of girls' websites with their pics, webcams, etc.

Here's the thing: I don't want to put up with this sh*t and I don't feel I have to. We've been married for less than 2 years. I don't have any kids. I'm still young (25). I have a good education and I can make enough money to support myself.

I feel like going out somewhere to think. Maybe spend the night in a hotel to get my head straight and figure out my next move. Please offer some advice.

I work for a wonderful company, have been there for about 5-6 years, except I worked out a pool and the work comes in about 5:00 p.m.  I get up every morning at 4:30 or 5:00 a.m., ready to work.  The problem is the other MTs have stayed up all night and have completed ALL of the work and I'm left with stragglers, maybe 200 lines per day. I cannot work at night becaue of other commitments.  I also work for another MTSO but their platform has so many steps just to get a report completed until it's frustrating, BUT it pays the same as the other company, but only every two weeks.  I'm not sure what I want to do, continue to fight to get lines every morning or just go through the 99,000 steps to get a report typed.

Any suggestions....!!!!

I would think long and hard about it if I was younger and could have cesarean, but the Doc took care of that aspect years ago.

The dramatic increase is probably because the money is good and because they need the money. I think the price used to be a lot higher when this trend started back in the ྂs or ྌs. Like all things, it's the rule of supply and demand.

I just finished my chemo and radiation for breast cancer.  I have health insurance but found out that they only pay 80%.  I have become overwhelmed with hospital bills.  Does anybody know if those companies are on the up and up, that say that they can help you cut your medical bills ? 

Thanx for any help.

Donna

I've been doing it for a couple of years now and I love it. Sure saves on the ever increasing postage.

I'm so sorry you are going through this.  As an owner of almost all senior animals, it's something I have faced before and will soon have to face again and I dread it.  I wish there was something I could say to comfort you. 

Personally, if an animal in my care is showing signs of pain or distress, if there's something I can do to end that, I'm going to do it.  If it's a pill or treatment I can give them and I know it's doing no further harm, and it's financially feasable for me to do, I'll do it.  However, if the treatment is traumatizing or out of my league financially, I have to find some comfort in knowing I did the best that I could for them, for as long as I could, and now it's my duty to do what I believe is the right thing and end their suffering.  And you know what, it sucks.

I truly believe the animals tell us when they are done, and no one knows your animals like you do.  Cats though, they can be tough.  So many of them are so stoic and sadly when they are really hurting they just tend to disappear off somewhere to die, especially if they can go outside. 

I can't tell you what to do, only what I would do, which would be to go the euthanasia route and try to find some comfort in the fact that I was able to be strong for them and be there for them when they really needed me the most.   Don't go alone, have someone drive you if you can, and don't be afraid to hold your cat just as you always would.  In your arms, next to your heart, is where the love is and they know that.  I wish you well in this agonizing time. 

((((((hugs))))) --Kathy

Putting down an animal is never easy.  We have lost two of our fur kids to illness, one just this past February.  His was a sudden illness and completely unexpected, and when the time came when the vet knew it was almost over, we went ahead and had him put to sleep so that he would not be suffering any more.  I was able to hold him when the vet gave him the shot.  It was so peaceful and so quick, and I was shocked.  I had this horrible image in my head of what it would be like, and it was the complete opposite. (Our other fur kid had been put to sleep immediately after surgery, so we had never seen the process).

I don't beleive you are trying to 'kill' a healthy pet.  It sounds like the poor guy is suffering, and dogs I think try to "hang in there" more so than cats.  Here is my opinion, for what it is worth.  If he is still able to go to the bathroom and get around a bit, if he is still eating, then use this time to get her used to the idea.  Talk to her plainly and tell her that he is coming to an end of his time here, and that for her to hold on to him is cruel.  She needs to be aware of how he is really feeling, and pay attention if he tries to tell her.  I'm not really saying this well, but I hope you get what I am trying to say.  I understand your mom's position - the thought of losing someone else is extremely painful to her, and hey, we all avoid pain as much as possible.  However, when she made a commitment to the dog, part of that commitment was making sure that when he was not able to be comfortable, healthy and happy any longer, she would take the steps to make sure he had as easy a passage to whatever lies beyond this life as possible.  Something else she may be worried about is the whole process of putting him to sleep.  If you have a good vet, and it sounds like you do, they will be able to guide her through this. 

Also, let her know that she will not be alone during/after this, and make sure that someone is there with her for support. 

It is a difficult situation for everyone concerned, and you have my heartfelt sympathy.  I hope that what I've said here helps you.  Good luck in whatever happens, and God bless. 

My mom lives alone and is nearing retirement.  Although I live out of state, my sister is very close by and has a good relationship with my mom.  My mom is very close with her grandkids.  In the last 15 years my mom has been through immense family loss and in the last 5 years the sudden loss of 2 pets due to medical conditions.  She has a new cat and a dog (used to be mine but she was attached and wanted me to leave him behind for her).  He is a large dog, 10 years old, and having multiple medical problems.  He has a number of lumps and bumps, hip problems to the point where he has injections and won't walk on the kitchen floor any longer.  He does not indicate he is in pain other than his actions.  But I don't think he would wimper or cry as he is a very well behaved and trained dog.  My sister and I have been trying to talk to my mom about the possibility of making "the humane decision" for him or atleast preparing for it.  All she will say is that SHE is "not ready yet."  The vet has told her that his hip and spine problems are painful and that's what the shots are for.  Nothing can be corrected and the vet will not evaluation his lumps because of his age and other problems.  To further complicate the matter, he is a large dog.  I have tried to explain to her that should something happen with him in her home there is no one to help her get him into the car.  My BIL has recently had medical problems himself and is in no condition to be lifting a 100 lb dog off the floor.  I am sure we could call on a family friend but I know my mom and she wouldn't want to "bother" anyone.

My questions is...has anyone else been through this?  I don't want to convince my mom to do something she is not ready for but at the same time I don't want the dog to suffer either.  Any ideas of an unconventional approach to getting her to think of him and not herself?  I really feel she just doesn't want to feel any more loss and that is why she is holding on.