What's reallly bothering you....
Posted By: about his touch? on 2007-02-14
In Reply to: Help - Disgusted by husband? - Lisa
Obviously you two aren't clicking...and you're not getting what you want from him is the reason his touch disgust you. I've been married for a long time...even went through that, and yes, I did make myself change my way of thinking because we did have children and unless there is abuse, divorce isn't always the best thing for the children, usually that is said by those who went through with a divorce and need to justify it somehow. I've had friends whose parents divorced...they are grown now and wish their parents were still together and some of their moms and dads actually spend a LOT of time together because they have grown wiser with aging. Friends who are divorced realized the grass is NOT greener on the other side all the time and some of the same problems crop up. I have 2 friends who actually spend a lot of time talking to their ex-spouse, using the kids as an excuse to constantly communicate. One of them is remarried but has found he misses his first wife terribly...whatever he thought he was getting with the new one isnt' there.
No one said when you got married it would be peaches and cream all the time and sometime you just downright can't stand the guy. And he can't stand you sometimes either. Trust me when I say I do know the feeling but tell him what you want. A guy's way of telling you he loves you is with the touchy feely stuff...physical is their way, emotional is ours. It does take time but you will notice as the years go by, chances are he will see what you're saying. Nobody ever said marriage would be great all the time but I realized it's how I react is what makes a difference with my guy. If he does this and that, I'll reconsider. It's a compromise and always will be. When you push him away, he feels hurt...he is hurting too because like it or not, that's the way most guys want to show you they love you and he doesn't know what else to do. Does he tell you he loves you? Does he say the words? That makes a LOT of difference. If not, tell him you feel better when he actually SAYS the words, not just acts out. Keep telling him. They are single minded humans and can't think past the end of their @@@@....well, you know. Please hang in there and see what you can do to change his behavior....you'll be surprised. I had to change how I reacted to him, even though it shouldn't necessarily have been me to do all the work, but he'll come around.
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Could really use advice. This is really bothering me.-sm
My mom is getting up in age, she's 75 now. My sister said a couple years ago, and keeps repeating it to me, that Mom's husband told her Mom has a quite large sum of money. And it seems the two of them are determined to get it from her.
I've never asked Mom how much money she has, but voluntarily she has pretty much told me what she has is about 1/10 of what they both think she has. My sister is really irritating me by mentioning it like it's a fact constantly as she just tried to get some money from her and Mom refused.
Mom's husband just recently got her to give him so much more a month because she wouldn't give him all of her bank account #'s to put on the net somewhere so he could get this amount of money from who knows where. Mom got scared and didn't trust him or the site, so she just agreed to give him that amount of money every month to shut him up.
Anyway, my question is, should I just tell Mom already what those 2 are saying? I'm afraid it might hurt her tremendously. It's driving me crazy and I'd like to see it put to an end once and for all, but not at the expense of Mom's feelings.
Perhaps my sister is just trying to annoy me into saying something to Mom so she will tell everybody just how much money she has left instead of asking herself. Personally I think Mom would be better off if I just keep my mouth shut. But I wish I knew how to shut my sister up. Any ideas? Thanks.
You aren't bothering me....sm
The purse is 10-1/2 inches tall without handles and
10-1/2 inches wide. It is
4-1/4 inches deep from the front to back of the purse. With the handles it is 18-1/2 inches tall so the handles themselves are 8 inches.
In my neighborhood which is a reallly nice one, I
would not even open the door to someone dressed as a police. In fact living in Atlanta before had a person dressed as police to come to my home (after 2000) and asked to use my phone. I had storm doors on and had double dead bolt doors and I told him give me the # and I would be glad to call for him and give message. Here, 2 ladies came to my door about 2 weeks ago, cold and wanted to know if they could come in. I shook my head no. I could see them thru a window pane on my door. I do not, ever, open the door to anyone unless they are known to me. Very dangerous wherever you live and telling them your husband isn't home, OMG. Do you not have a phone to hello, call the police if he were to show up again?
Nothing, live at the top of a reallly big hill
and the kids don’t climb this hill. I am glad because then I don’t have to run every 5 minutes or so to the door. Have done my share in the past.
I completely understand. I dont feel stressed but there must be something bothering us I think.
I guess we always dont exactly know what stresses us because it could be just a lot of things together that arent really terrible but just little stressors of every day life.
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