Well you are really not helping matters or having people side with you
Posted By: SM on 2007-04-05
In Reply to: Needing meds - chattycathy
when you keep bragging about how wonderful your kids are and family your family is, lol.. and assuming everyone else's is all screwed up. You know what they say.....usually one who accuses is the one with the problems. People who truly have a wonderful family life and great kids do not usually have a need to keep reaffirming and reassuring everyone of that fact ; )
I think maybe the boy sucked out some of your sanity...
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Of course it is!!! Makeup is for helping people
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When 2 cars ride side by side on the interstate...sm
and block traffic so nobody can pass. I will get irate over this. I don't know where people's brains are.
It matters none if I like or not, they are here
and that is just the way it is. There are so many things in this country that are more important. They are in a business like most people are, a business. Some one will profit from the drugs coming on the market. That is my post. What do you not understand about my saying someone will profit? Let me know and maybe I can walk you through it.
I really don't think it matters
who is correct and who isn't correct here. What matters is that he believes he is correct and no one is going to change his mind. Sounds to me like she might as well just move on and not look back. Even if he would be tempted to start again with her, this guilt and doubt of what is right and wrong would always been in the back of his mind and that alone would make their relationship doomed for failure. If this is what he truly believes, whether he is right or not, there is no point in pursuing a relationship with him. She will only get hurt again. After being with an abusive husband, she needs a healthy relationship. Not one filled with doubt and guilt. Regardless of her strong feelings, she needs to cut her losses and move on for the sake of her sanity and health. JMO though!
not just in family matters - s/m
In life matters, most times the only one a person can count on is themself.......
Not just in family matters......
taking matters into your own hands
This is a social problem that does not look like it's going to change any time soon. I had a similar experience when my daughter was in the 4th grade. She's in college now... not promising huh?
Anyhow, I ended up moving 150 miles to a good school district in an affordable neighborhood. Sounds like an oxymoron, but I researched and did what I had to do.
I moved again when I realized the high school she was districted for had a very bad record, not to mention it was almost 2 times overpopulated.
I know this is not an option for most people, but since it was just the 2 of us and I worked for a national, it was the only thing to do.
Both moves were of huge benefit to her intellectualy and emotionally.
If I were you, I would strongly consider home-schooling or moving. Most kids are taught to read in preschool or kindergarten, so I'm assuming your school district must be extremely lacking if they didn't address her reading problem then.
I would also suggest you try to make your voice heard by writing your congressman. This is a political issue that seems to be just danced around at the expense of our children and the future of our country.
But if nothing else, PLEASE spend at least an hour a day on her reading. Take her to the library or book store and let her pick out books she likes so the process won't be such a chore for either of you. Try to make it fun and encourage her.
Sorry for going on so long, but really, the best thing you can do is just do it yourself asap. You can't wait for the government/school system to change.
yes, i do live in Tx for your info not that that matters. sm
My mom always taught me manners that if you didn't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all. what has happened to the world these days? it is so full of immature, smarty pants. i can't comprehend why people can't just be knowledgeable and respectful if you have something to add to a post. why waste your time and everyone elses by just being rude and hateful? it is just totally uncalled for and immature. oh well, maybe everyone was just having a bad day and needed something to lighten their stress. go get those chips off your shoulders and have a nice day today.
There's one side, the other side, and the truth
And boy is it true.
I will say you sound like my aunt, who never speaks up, gets walked all over and then cries about it later.
Her kids/grandkids have no idea why she is always depressed, they think nothing of doing whatever they want without regard for her because she hasn't expressed an interest or opinion on anything and they don't know any better.
Yes, they use her. Yes, they could do things for her, but she never asks anything or says anything, so they don't press it, because it's always been that way. And she's a martyr, so it'd upset her pattern if things actually changed.
And the truth (and maybe reconciliation) lies in the middle somewhere.
Sad.
Well, VR is helping to pay
my bills so if I have to change mistakes that VR makes, so be it. Dictators make mistakes when dictating and guess what, you still have to change it....
LOL It went well. Thank you to everyone for helping!
I felt bad because none of the friends or extended family that she invited showed up. They all called to cancel.
We did not have leftover Turkey but plenty of desert and rolls. She bought 45 dinner rolls?! I think some of you are right that this is the beginning of sundowning for them. I will have to explain this to my husband because he just thinks they are losing their minds. I heard from another family member that MIL has a stash of a case candy bars in her closet and yesterday she went in the bedroom for cookie sheets to put the biscuits on. A little odd, especially being that they have extra storage area in the basement.
I think FIL took it as it was just that much less food that cost him money because he was so happy that I brought as much food as I did and kept saying how much he loved the veggie tray, etc. I think MIL was a little miffed when I got there because she didn't have room in her oven for the sides that I brought (or hers) because the single turkey breast was in the oven. There was enough room, she just didn't want to use the second rack in the oven for some reason. She didn't like my suggestion that if it was cooked to take it out of the oven and cover with foil and it would stay hot for 20 minutes while everything else finished. Luckily my BIL (who loves to cook) was there and he agreed with me and stepped in to help her out. You know I get the look like "stay the heck out of my kitchen and keep your opinion to your self" and afterwards he gets the look of "You have always been my favorite child, thank you" LOL But I understand things are different with moms and their own kids versus the spouse, especially with females.
So overall it turned out well and everyone had plenty to eat. We didn't have to run out for burgers or home for dinner.
You are a power of example by helping sm
When I was younger, I would not only cry, sometimes I would not attend or attend and not sleep for days. I think being in the MT business made me realize how short life is. I am amazed that now I look at death in a different way. I cannot believe how I have changed. Most of my friends were brought up to wear black, look sad, cry a lot. I was brought up to avoid it, stay away from wakes and funerals; so could not handle it. Thanks to transcribing so many autopsies, horrible situations, illnesses, educational seminars on death and dying, etc., I am finally able to celebrate life. I do have others now not understanding why I do not cry. It's a miracle to me that I don't have to act that way anymore. I think with age and experience, I have matured. I have a friend who barely worked outside the home. Her Mom died in July and she did not put up a tree, send cards, etc., this Christmas as she is still in mourning officially. I lost my younger sister, put an angel out front, white lights, etc. I did the same for my parents, lots of white lights. I do believe now in celebrating life. I spent the days before my father's funeral preparing a "program" for his funeral which was beautiful. I included my whole family in the funeral, chose the music, etc. This would not have been possible in my younger years. My SIL was confrontational when she saw me at work during the time we were awaiting the funeral (it was over a holiday). I told her I was t preparing for the funeral. There will be some whose family tradition is to cry, wear black, shut out the whole world for 30 days, that's their way. I am so happy that I now have a (what I consider) healthier attitude toward death. I cannot believe the change in my attitude. Perhaps we all celebrate life differently. I, for one, am happy I look at things differently. When people cry, mourn, carry on, it's probably their tradition and it will continue as this is what they are used to. They are not wrong to do so. My DIL's family all wear solid black and God forbid anyone even wear a white blouse to a funeral, it is considered disrespectful! All I know is, I love the new me, I am much happier today now that I have a different attitude. I hope people celebrate my life, not stop living. I am writing my own obit, short and sweet and will probably plan my own funeral instead of leaving that task to my kids. I celebrate the life and spirt left behind, but do not disrespect those who continue to wear black and cry, as that's the only way they know how to mourn and it's not wrong. We're all different, it takes time and sometimes traditions will never change in some cultures, they are entitled to their actions and opinions, it took me a long time to change but I am much healthier and happier now. All of this is IMHO, of course. You are doing your best in your own way, good job, we need the "doers" in times of grief as well as the mourners. I would rather be a doer and feel better "doing."
Oh, thank you for helping those dogs
get home. I'm sure they had a wonderful romp, and I'm glad they didn't get hurt. They are really smart dogs. Mine got loose many times without somebody breaking into my house!
I now work at a perennial plant nursery. I am an inventory control specialist, and it involves a lot of physical labor, which I am loving. I feel so much better than when I was locked in a chair all day. So far this company is doing okay financially, but not great with the economy. Last year was tough because of drought, and this year there was plenty of rain, so we had hoped for a great year until the economy went in the toilet. Many companies like this are going bankrupt, but so far we are okay, but no raises this year.
Helping kids, see inside
I bought my daughter her first car, something old, sound, reliable and safe, nothing snazzy, she paid her own insurance as she was in college and worked parttime. When that car went, I helped her get her next, took her to my dealer, we picked out something reliable, nothing sporty, I gave her the down payment and co-signed and she made her payments and paid her own insurance. Her college was a commute, not roads I would want her biclying or skateboarding on. When she was older, done with school, still with the parttime job, but actively seeking fulltime, she found a sporty car she wanted and I told her this time, she was on her own. In 1999, she got brand new car (at a much younger than I did), she paid it off early, she is now married, 31, has a house, working a good job and also working on making a family. I think little help can go a long way. I for one, am pround of her.
My dream would be a weekend of him helping (sm)
When he and I and the kids all work on getting everything back in order. But he would be angry the whole time, as if he shouldn't have to be doing it. I may end up hiring someone. I have thought about it all day. It would be worth it!
Glad yours are helping.....my computer
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If he starts by helping himself, I will jump in. He saw
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Any suggestions on helping my puppy with
let to be held.
Agree, you need a helping hand
When my sister had her first baby, she became overwhelmed quickly. You sound similar to how she was feeling. So my mom and I started helping her out here and there, going over and staying with my nephew so she could leave the house for a couple hours, even if it was to grocery shop or run errands, just so she could get out alone. Or we'd go get him and take him to our house for a couple hours, with instructions to her to TAKE A NAP or read a book, or something relaxing. If you have family or friends willing to help out, take them up on it. They wouldn't volunteer if they didn't want to do it.
My sister's husband was helping out too, but he worked a lot of hours, 6 days a week. In my sister's case, she was very independent and used to doing what she wanted when she wanted before the baby and I think that was part of what overwhelmed her, the feeling that she couldn't just pick up her purse and go somewhere as easily as before. Good luck. This will pass, don't be so hard on yourself.
Agree, you need a helping hand
When my sister had her first baby, she became overwhelmed quickly. You sound similar to how she was feeling. So my mom and I started helping her out here and there, going over and staying with my nephew so she could leave the house for a couple hours, even if it was to grocery shop or run errands, just so she could get out alone. Or we'd go get him and take him to our house for a couple hours, with instructions to her to TAKE A NAP or read a book, or something relaxing. If you have family or friends willing to help out, take them up on it. They wouldn't volunteer if they didn't want to do it.
My sister's husband was helping out too, but he worked a lot of hours, 6 days a week. In my sister's case, she was very independent and used to doing what she wanted when she wanted before the baby and I think that was part of what overwhelmed her, the feeling that she couldn't just pick up her purse and go somewhere as easily as before. Good luck. This will pass, don't be so hard on yourself.
Agree, you need a helping hand
When my sister had her first baby, she became overwhelmed quickly. You sound similar to how she was feeling. So my mom and I started helping her out here and there, going over and staying with my nephew so she could leave the house for a couple hours, even if it was to grocery shop or run errands, just so she could get out alone. Or we'd go get him and take him to our house for a couple hours, with instructions to her to TAKE A NAP or read a book, or something relaxing. If you have family or friends willing to help out, take them up on it. They wouldn't volunteer if they didn't want to do it.
My sister's husband was helping out too, but he worked a lot of hours, 6 days a week. In my sister's case, she was very independent and used to doing what she wanted when she wanted before the baby and I think that was part of what overwhelmed her, the feeling that she couldn't just pick up her purse and go somewhere as easily as before. Good luck. This will pass, don't be so hard on yourself.
was wondering about you....glad you're helping yourself
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Prime example of "when helping harms".
 Like the previous poster, as a dog lover, I am appalled that they would use this animal. Are you positive the dog even had surgery and if so, what kind just out of curiosity. Are you sure your money went to that. I also find it odd that the dog would still be in so much pain several months later. Are you sure the dude is not taking the meds himself? It happens. Desparate times call for desparate measures. I would just explain to her either on the phone, email or write her that while you value your friendship with her, you feel that you have gone beyond the call of friendship here and that you can not longer provide funding for the dog's care (or her son's drug habit). Technically, by not taking care of his responsibilities himself this is allowing him to take what money he should be using on the dog and spend this on drugs. Therefore, yes, making you an enabler as well. Just like they do on the show "Intervention". You have to quit giving in. Tell her that if she is not able to care for the dog that you will be glad to find or help her find a home for it, but that you no longer can afford financially and consciously to keep sending money. Just validate your friendship. If she is a true friend she will understand this. She might need more encouragement to break away from enabling him. It is hard to do. Trust me I have siblings that are addicted and we have had to just cut them off, especially after loosing another sibling only 5mos. earlier for same reason. This is one of those times "when helping harms". Attached is a great site to give you a little reassurance. Might send this to her as well. Good luck. Try to get the dog out if you can, that may be impossible though. If you think that without your care it is being abused, please report it to thier local animal society or animal control. This can be done anonymously.
your Trailer Park attitude is probably not helping
nm
My husband was doing me a "favor" by helping me hunt down
a new ergonomic keyboard a few years ago and he called our local Office Depot... Asked the person on the other end if they had any erogenous keyboards.
I was choking back the laughter and trying to get his attention to correct him but he's the kind of guy that HATES to be interrupted for ANYTHING so he held up his hand to me and gave me a dirty look, then repeated the question to the person on the other end who was no doubt having a fit of laughter themselves, transferred him to another department, where he repeated the question AGAIN.
By this time, I could not control myself any longer. I was laughing hysterically and he finally hung up the phone because he was mad at me. Then I explained to him what he was asking for and he was really mad.
I just said, aren't you glad they didn't say that they had some and you reserved one to be picked up later today?
I could just see him walking to the service counter to pick up the "erogenous keyboard" he had set aside! LOL
Medicare questions for helping my relative
I have a relative who wants to live alone although she really needs some basic care such as grocery buying, food prepared, light cleaning in her home, going to doctors appointments, the very basics of everyday life. I will be able to pay through her bank what she needs for lights, cable and things like that (she has gotten to where she cannot make out a check because of tremors in her hands). She went to live with another relative and it has not worked out at all. She has been on her own for years and wants to be that way again as much as possible. Is there anyone out there who knows what Medicare does to help out the elderly and give me any information you might have.
I've decided to start a cookie business! Anyone up for helping me out with a name?
I know with the economy and all, it's probably not a good time to open a new business, but I've been thinking about this for years and just want to do it anyway and very happy and excited about it!
So, some words I've been playing around with are yummy, goodies, goodness, sweets, comfort, cookies ... but nothing is really grabbing me. I've even tried to think of ideas without those type of words above, such as "Big D's" or whatever.
If anyone has any good ideas, I'd love to hear them!
There is teacher's side of story, kid's side of story
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Looking for graduation party ideas for son's graduation. I have a few friends helping me sm
but any new ideas would be great too. This is my first born graduating so I'm kind of clueless what I'm doing. One friend suggested a poster board with lots of his pictures. My sister suggested putting his trophies, awards, acceptance letter from his college, etc. on a table. As far as food, we are having sloppy joes, meatballs, pulled pork sandwiches, possibly some sausage sandwiches, fried chicken, pasta salad, macaroni salad, german potato salad, olives, pickles, nuts, cookies, chips/pretzels, dip, cookies, cake, etc. Any more ideas?? I'll be doing this three more times (oldest son is 18, youngest son is 3 so I have a while in between - hopefully I'll be a "pro" by the time the youngest graduates!! XXXXX)
side sm
Buy a bag of frozen fries and put them in the oven on a cookie sheet or some minute rice - quick and easy. Do both, have fun!
from the other side...
My MIL said that she thought I should have never had my first son while I was pregnant with my second and that I should probably abort him (her son and I were married at the time and I am and was 30). That hurts. I can imagine that she probably does not think that seeing the baby is a priority for someone who suggested she give it up. I know that she is 18 and stupid, but this is her child and try to put yourself in her place. I cannot allow my MIL to be alone with my children until they are older because I am afraid that she will put her difference with me ahead of their safety. When my son was 1, she allowed him to play with a fork (running around) and refused to move her vodka out of his reach just to spite me. What will she do if I am not around to watch her and them? I must put their safety ahead of her desires. That is just hte way it is. I am not saying that you would do any of these things, but keep in mind that she and your son will probably not work out, as they are so young, and she will have your grand child forever. Perhaps, you should try to create peace and apologize, even if you think that you are right.
Trying to look at it from the other side
Guys are funny creatures (and not in the ha-ha way). As women, I think somehow we learn that it's okay to talk about feelings. Guys, especially of a certain age, don't have that luxury, and a lot will use humor to 'hint' at something that is bothering them rather than come straight out and ask (heck, I even do it myself, especially if it's something that is really bothering me on an emotional level and I'm afraid of the answer!). It's possible that he feels badly about you paying his way...yes, we're independent women now, but you can't change thousands of years of hunter/gatherer instinct overnight. He probably wanted to hear how you responded to it...depending on whether you joked back, how you joked back, or whether you got angry, he may have thought he'd get an answer that told him how you were feeling about it without straight out confronting/asking you about it.
Never forget that men are just as insecure in relationships as women are; they're just better at masking it behind stupid comments!
you can give the people the facts, but the decision making process should be left to the people
This is what our country is founded on FREEDOM OF CHOICE! I'm laughing already; you are just as mortal as the rest of us, and don' even attempt to that you've never done anything in your lifetime that was unsafe or unhealthy. NOT gonna buy it.
side note--sm
and don't forget to remove the neck and giblets in the bag inside the turkey prior to baking. I learned from experience. :^)
Ditto on that, I am an A on one side, AA on the other - sm
talk about fun! Either go without or those stretch ones since I don't need any support really except on the 1 side a little bit. There are more AAs out there now but 5-10 years ago other than shopping in the girl's department it was impossible!
tell her to get mac&cheese or another side--sm
she doesn't HAVE to eat mashed potatoes. Pizza gets tiring all the time. She may be nice, but she doesn't sound very flexible. Enjoy whatever you decide on. have fun!
Flip side--sm
I would just like to interject my own experience with getting dentures.
I had an immediate denture procedure, meaning the denture was made prior to the actual removing of the normal teeth and placed immediately after removal. When I first saw my denture in my mouth, I cried! It was way too big and I looked like Bugs Bunny! The dentist that made this denture then went on vacation and I had to wear this atrocious looking appliance for another month while a new one was being made. I had to go to work with this thing in my mouth and even at 42 years of age, I had to be the recipient of cruel joking from my coworkers. But I finally got my new, smaller denture and even though it looked better, it did not fit well. My gums shrunk quicker than normal and I had to have it relined within two months. (another expense). So with that horrible experience, I decided never to return to that dental group again, which I did not. I tolerated not being able to eat anything with more hardness than a peanut butter sandwich, or my denture would pop out. That meant no meat, no corn on the cob, no pickles, etc. I also had to deal with slippage while speaking, etc. Not every one has a good experience with dentures and if I had it all to do over again, I would NEVER NEVER have my own teeth removed for a pair of plastic useless torture appliances!
I have new dentures now, which I paid for on my own and even though they are 80 percent better than what I had previously, they are still not all that comfortable and they still have their problems with eating certain foods. I can eat steak and corn on the cob now, but no apples. Most of the time when I am at home, I do not wear them. They still hurt to wear for any length of time.
This has just been my experience and I just wanted to share it so that you can hear both sides. No matter how bad your own teeth may be, they can be fixed and be made very presentable. Once you have dentures, you can never go back. I would take my own natural teeth back in a heartbeat, if that was an option for me.
I wish you all the best of course, no matter what decision you make.
visit to the other side
I was at a bridge and on the other side I saw people sitting on lush lawn and playing in the water, lots of laughter, etc. I was met by a spirit who said (telepathically) that I had things to do before I came in but that it was totally my decision to stay or return. I chose to return. That evening I told my doctor the whole story, from the moment the nurse told him I had passed to what they did to my body next and my experience on the other side. Needless to say, he was speechless. This was in 1964 and none of these experiences had been published yet.
Actually, my side is to the door. sm
Can't put the desk anywhere else but in this corner.
side effects
Does anyone know it the Hoodia causes any side effects or if it affects blood pressure? I have both diabetes and hypertension and have to be careful what I take. Should be extra diligent in what I eat, but if I was I wouldn't be asking about Hoodia, now would I? Am really interested in learning about this. Need to lose a LOT of weight for health reasons, as well as clothes shopping. TIA
Look at the bright side
You have a great story to tell - your child will enjoy hearing it when she/he gets older. I laughed out loud when I read your post!
ON THE LIGHTER SIDE
Did you catch Gene Simmons' rectal examination and colonoscopy Tue night. The KISS demon himself. hahahaha
I have one on the right side of my lower
abdomen, only see it in swimsuit. Really wanted one on the back of my shoulder, but decided not to get one that would show when I was "dressed up." My ex told me I could NEVER have one, so when we divorced that is the first thing I did!!!!
that would be the dark side.
and I have moved on. this conversation is so over for me.
keep on the sunny side. I just want
to put my hands over my ears or slap her every time I hear it. Don't care for dreary phil collins, either, or at least I think it's phil collins - I can feel it coming on, oh lord.
On the gift side, do like we do...
he wants a $1200 item this year; fine, he can have it, but I get that same amount to do something with. If he wants to buy me a ring or some such bauble, fine, or he can just give me the cash to buy what I want.
And I have not asked you to be on my side (sm)
I asked for an opinion of whether it is abusive or not. And when one parent is abusive to a child the other one has to be a buffer. It is not a choice, it is a duty.
The other side of the coin (sm)
I am an introvert and shy, and WAS married to a social butterfly. He was always the life of the party, always had more friends/activities/hobbies than I and after a few years of marriage, I was miserable. I felt we had no friendship or companionship anymore even though I made an effort to be sociable at times. He,however, never stopped being himself and spent less and less time with me. It is something to carefully consider, not that I'm saying it can't work. My ex was just a very selfish man who lived his life for himself. If you get counseling and keep communicating with each other, I think it could work - not the best situation ideally but it could definitely work if you both love each other enough.
Tell me the good and bad side of
a ROTTWEILLER dog please? I have always wanted one, but I'm not used to owning anything but a little dog.
The other side of that coin.....
Is the girlfriend of a former coworker years ago whose parents "promised" her a bachelor's degree. They never put any restrictions on it other than if she got bad grades they wouldn't pay for the next semester. They paid for her apartment when she chose to move two states away with her boyfriend. He went to the University and she went to the local community college. He graduated with a Bachelors degree (that he obtained in 4 years while working 35 hours a week because he paid his own way) and she didn't even finish her Associates Degree. She ended up finishing that when she moved back home. There was one semester in there where she tanked and Mom and Dad didn't pay for anything. Mom, however, the next semester did pay off every single one of her credit card bills so she wouldn't have to work quite so hard. Huh?
It took her 7 years. Yes, I said 7, seven, years to finish an associate's degree, all the while living at home with mom and dad paying all expenses. She worked, so she had money for smokes, and her own play stuff, but she never contributed to the house. I think it was another 5 years or so before she actually finished her Bachelor's and actually moved out.
Don't judge someone else how they choose to raise their daughter or son. It sounds like daughter's got a good head on her shoulder and is never going to mooch off mom and dad and will actually turn out to be a nice, productive member of society.
hmm, well let me tell my side of this story..
Well, first of all, I have had 4 kids all by C-section.. First 2, I was knocked out, 3rd had epidural, 4th had spinal..
First baby, Josh, weighed 9 lb. 14 oz. 3 weeks late, was out of it that whole day, as I had never been put to sleep, never had an IV, anything.. I think I was in shock..lol..
2nd baby, Jacobey, weighed 9 lb., on time scheduled, didn't let it get me down, I knew the quicker I did things, the quicker I got out of the hospital.. which with the first 2, I was in the hospital 4.5 days..
3rd baby, kelcie, weighed 9 lb. 2.5 oz, on time scheduled, epidural w/o morphine, did fine afterwards, came home in 2 days, the ladies who had c-sections directly before me had morphine, they couldn't even get up & walk around for 2 or 3 days, they were still in the hospital & I was going home..
4th baby, noah, weighed 9 lb. 14 oz., 3 weeks early, spinal, no problems, home in 2.5 days, so, any of it has it's "good & bad", but different things work for different people too..
This is just my experience with it, but had epidural w/ kelcie, and they called me the day before I was scheduled to go in & have her and asked if I wanted the plain or morphine epidural??? I had no clue there was even a choice, I just told them plain. While i was sitting waiting to be took into the OR, the anesthesiologist came & started asking ?? why I didn't want the morphine epidural?? I just told him I didn't know there was a choice & just chose plain. He got to harrassing me asking me WHY I didn't want morphine, did I have a drug problem was what it was amounting to?? geez.. man give me a break, first time doing this while awake & he was being a butt, then before he walked off, he said your going to be sorry.. which of course scared me even more.. but I didn't not care for the epidural at all... I have a spot where they put that in my back to this day (she will be 21 this year).. for quite a few years around my monthly time, if anybody just barely touched that it would have pain that would make you cry or take you to your knees.. & I can take pain pretty good... also, it is still tender around that area at times even now..
onto, 4th child, noah, had him in a different hospital, had a spinal which I had heard horrifying things about, BUT didn't want another epidural, this doctor said she preferred spinal block over epidural.. it was soooo much easier, didn't have any kind of pain afterwards, headaches or anything.. which I didn't have the headaches the first time around.. so, anyhoo, this is my side and my experiences with it..
You just don't want to acknowledge the ugly side
of the horse breedin' business is all. You go Google these two words, "Feedlot horses," and let me know what you find. Dollars to doughnuts says you won't find much about horses used in herdin' cattle....add in the word Thoroughbred to that search while your at it. Many of the rescues, Canter, Crossed Sabers, SWAP (Second Wind Adoption Program) rescue horses directly from these feedlots. Everyone immediately thinks of the mustangs being the only horses sent to slaughter because they are so high profile, but there is a white elephant in the room...one that generates a lot of money and prestige, and ignorance is bliss so people turn a blind eye. It's really quite sad.
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