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upon millions who are against it, but not afraid of it. 

Homophobia is the wrong word.

How do I feel about welfare? 

1.  I believe in what the Bible says about if a man asks for you coat, give him you cloak also.  My church teaches that we give if asked, and we have done what we are suppose to.  If they were underserving, then that is on them. 

2.  Don't judge.  When my husband and I divorced, I was raising 3 children, working, and going to college to learn to be a MT.  I could barely pay the rent.  The ONLY thing I did not have to worry about was food, because I received food stamps.  I HATED it.  I saw people roll their eyes when I got out my food stamps.  I cried all the way home.  On my birthday, my best friend told me my birthday gift was having my nails done (something I had never done).  I went with her when she had her nails done and thought it was such a luxary.  Well, she took me to get my nails done for my birthday, and someone from my church saw me there.  That person went to my pastor and said they would never help anyone in the church again, because if I could afford to get my nails done, the I did not need help.  Not only was I embarrassed about the situation, but I was hurt that someone had judged me.

3.  Be grateful you don't have to use food stamps.  When I finished school, I was elated after I got a good job and did not have to use food stamps.  When I saw someone having to count out their food stamps in front of me, I was sad for them but glad that they got some help.  I also would busy myself so as to not embarrass them.

Yes, some people abuse the system, but I would rather 10 people abuse the system than 1 person and/or family go hungry.

This is just my opinion.  Please do not bash me.  You can't say anything I have not heard before, believe me.

Remember that conversation about single moms, welfare and foodstamps?

I was reading an article on MSNBC today.  This man ended up in just the situation I was talking about.  Read the whole article.  Pay attention to the fact that it mentions medical bills and reverse mortgages.

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/29198366/

In the way home from school last night, I had to run into the Ameristop to get a gallon of Orange Juice.

Well, as I was pulling in, this lady (about 25) was walking in, sort of rough looking girl.

Well, she was ahead of me in line then and she got her food stamps out, and typically this kind of thing makes me upset. Because, you could see physically anyway, there was nothing wrong with her.

But, maybe there was....... or maybe she lost her job, and is trying to manage. Not that I was being nosey or anything, but there she had 2 Gallons of Milk, Sausage and Biscuit Dough. So, maybe she was trying to get breakfast for her family in the morning. So now all of a sudden I feel guilty.

But, if we weren't in these hard economic times where jobs were scarce, I typically wouldnt be as understanding, because I do feel Welfare is Abused.

What about you?

THEN, another thing......... maybe you will know, Sometimes you see Welfare people ahead of you in line at the grocery store or something, and they ALWAYS have "Name-brand" in their cart. Never Store Brand. Well I shouldnt say Never, but it always seems like your name brands.

Does Welfare require them to get Name Brand?

I have 2 sons, one almost 21 and the other 8 y.o. and I can tell you it is not easy.  Some may remember in the old days how some parents would keep their kids in check by scaring the living daylights out of them by telling them stories such as the boogy man, demons, etc.  My Mom tried that several times and I did put my foot down, and respectfully but firmly told her that I didn't want her to do this.  My 8 y.o. also likes to play with me like yours do, and he did try that with Mom one time and I got the same results, "he hit me, your son is disrespectful."  I also told my little one not to "play" with Grandma like he does with me, especially in view of the fact that she does have severe varicose veins all throughout her legs (he calls them the worms on Grandma's legs, but of course never to her face).  She also goes about the fat tummy, etc.  I told her also nicely that those kind of comments even though not meant to degrade, children perceive them very differently than adults.  It has boiled down to the point, that my sons basically doesn't interact much with her.  I understand that as the "oldest" in the house, Mom feels she knows how the house should be "run" and what she says is the "law" but she also has to understand that she has come into a "new family."  Yes, I'm still her daughter and will always love and respect her, and do everything I can for her.  There is just isn't and easy solution.  If you tell the children not to interact too much, then they take it as the kids don't like them or your turning the kids againt them.  If the children get too friendly, then they are disrepectful and have no manners.  Just take it a day at a time, big breaths, inhale and exhale.

My husband, who is of very sound mind and no, not any psychiatric problems, got both feet on the ground, has told me to find a neurologist (another physician told him to do this). Hubs drive a truck and he has been telling me the strangest feelings, almost worm-like feeling that sorta snakes down 1 side, he rubs intensely and gets it to stop (I think) and then sometimes can be on the other side. Has anyone ever heard of something similar or have you had yourself. I am making him an appointment today but this is not the ordinary thing I type even though been at this for quite some time with the 4s. Thanks.