Well... (sm)

Posted By: Anon on 2007-07-06
In Reply to: Older lady here, some insight maybe - Joan

I think you are right that part of it is because of how I feel toward him - because in the past I liked the dirty talking too. But it seems like the things he says now are so degrading to me. Not just sexy, dirty stuff, but demeaning types of things. But it may be because of how I feel about him. If I felt like he loved me I probably wouldn't mind how he talks - but I feel like he thinks he is better than me, and that I am just the only female who happens to be there so I'm the target.

Complete Discussion Below:

marks the location of current message within thread

Husband so disrespectful (in & out of bed) am I overreacting? sm - Anon
- reads like he's disrespectful to women in general - passive-aggressive type? If so,....sm
- sounds like you guys are playing a game, - otherwise you would have left by now. n/m
- I agree with QArbouncin...sm - dinosaur
  - Thank you-I know it's bad - if it was happening to a friend (sm) - anon
    - So, Anon, be your own Best Friend... - dinosaur
- The mere fact - QArbouncin
- disrespectful husband - tanmama
  - Tanmana - here's what mine did! (sm) - Anon
    - I meant Tanmama - why do they have to (sm) - Anon
      - disrespectful husband - tanmama
        I knnow - it makes you feel like such a fake (sm) - anon
        disrespectful husband - tanmama
- You really don�t say, by the way, - Joan
  - Anon - please get help today - - dinosaur
    - Thank you, I'm not scared though, just disgusted (sm) - Anon
  - Way, far from a prude - no details here but (sm) - Anon
- It seems to me the key here is whether this behavior sm - searching
  - He was always that way, getting worse (sm) - Anon
- It's not the dirty talk - it's the disrespect (sm)... - dinosaur
  - husband's behavior due to porn, LOL - What's wrong with porn?
    - meant "consenting adults." LOL - nm
- he/s probably always been immature - get some counseling
  - We've been to several marriage counsellors -done with that (nm) - Anon
    - husband - stephanie
      - Agree. He's a pig and has totally no respect for you. Move on. nm - There are better men out there!!!
- Older lady here, some insight maybe - Joan
  - Huh? - QArbouncin
    - The post says she has withheld - Joan
      - Not withholding as punishment - withholding as a reaction (sm) - anon
        Thank goodness don�t have to worry about - Joan
        Thanks - that is a major factor in my decision (sm) - anon
        This I can guarantee - Joan
  - Well... (sm) - Anon
- Are they all like that? I guess that's what I really want to know - Anon
  - they're not like that, if you don't enable them to be like that.... - from the beginning. n/m
    - Yep, that's exactly what I did!! (nm) - Anon
  - Not all, you just have to - Joan
    - Ditto! 27+ yrs together and he still says he loves me EVERY day, AND thanks me - for sex! ;) ..He's a keeper! NM

The messages you are viewing are archived/old.
To view latest messages and participate in discussions, select the boards given in left menu

Other related messages found in our database