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Well, she shouldn't have married him...that never works.

Posted By: nm on 2006-12-06
In Reply to: Friends of Our's.. - are separating

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It doesn't matter "where you stand." What works for you is fine. What works for me is fine.
Comparing ourselves as to frequency is ridiculous.
Maybe you shouldn't take any.
Curious as to why you listed biracial up there. What does that have to do with anything?

It doesn't sound like you really want any of them. Maybe foster care where someone wants to take of them would be a better place.
so therefore, i shouldn't have this cat and should get right of it
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I married the same man 3 times and still married to him.
Together for almost 29 years now.
They shouldn't be treated the same
A 15yo and an 8yo should not be treated equally anyway. If the 15yo wants what the 8yo wants, tell him/her they can have the same bedtime, curfew, privileges etc. if they want everything to be fair.
You're right. I shouldn't
tell him it will be a long time before I die. I was just trying to comfort him. We have also talked about how everybody will die when God decides it is their time. We are regular church members. He has been raised in church and knows all that, I guess it's just now really sinking in. My husband will take care of my kids if I die. As far as if we both die, we have that taken care of also. We were married 18 years before we had them. They are definitely God's little miracles to us! I'm sorry for your loss, but you're right; you will see him again someday and I'm sure he has never left your heart! God Bless you and thank you for your kind advice.
Shouldn't I have a better self-definition by now?? sm
I am up early, not sure if this will interest anyone, but want to sort of wonder "out loud" on here for a moment.  I am 40 years old, yet I still am ambivalent about my religious beliefs, my political beliefs, etc.  I find myself not being steadfast either way...I don't know if that means I don't yet know who I am (though by now you would think I should!) or if that means that I am just always going to be a flexible thinker? I sometimes read posts on the liberal board and the conservative board and I can always see both points of view and find ways that I feel they are both right and sometimes both wrong so I never lean to far to either side.  I grew up going to a Christian church and I believe in the general overall beliefs of Christians, but then I don't discredit other religions that others grew up with either.  And I don't necessarily agree with everything that most mainstream Christians believe.  Does all of this mean I am ignorant?  Or is it ignorant to be too closed-minded to believe that others also have valid points of view, that I don't always have to be right, and that there is more than one way to be "right"?  So sometimes I feel "undefined" and wonder how I can ever define myself...then other times I think I have defined myself exactly as I want to be.  Does anyone else feel "undefined"? and is it a good thing or a bad thing?
What amazes me, though it probably shouldn't

is the number of people on this thread bashing someone for doing things right, when anon up above just suggests the OP file bankruptcy.  What's wrong with you people?  You think it's okay to just turn your back on the mess you've created?  Not one of you commented on that poster's suggestion, yet you waste your time bashing someone who does have their act together.  I would rather have PhillyChick in my corner anyday over anyone who thinks it's okay to just rack up debt and walk away.  You people need to get your heads checked.


Before you say it, this has nothing to do with whether the OP has extenuating circumstances or not.  The OP wasn't even asking about bankruptcy.  The OP was asking for suggestions on how to pay things back, and for that, I applaud her. 


well it shouldn't be. She should at least get to get a second opinion (sm)
I think she is being diagnosed to easily with something that can stay on her medical record and that is so unfair.
Maybe because no one has said to them they SHOULDN'T wear it...
nothing uglier than muffin top under too tight shirts, fat thighs in too tight jeans, sucking down an soda and eating a burger. Some people need to look in a mirror, or better yet, shop at a real department store, spend some money on good quality clothing, stop trying to dress like a teenager, and bring along a friend who will tell you how you REALLY look in the clothes you try on.
shouldn't this be on the WAHM board?
just wondering why pregnancy, potty training etc questions are not being re routed to the WAHM board? Otherwise, what is that board for? just a question, not a criticism.
It shouldn't matter. Of all the couples I know currently, (sm)
only ONE is same-race. The rest are white/black, black/Pacific Islander, Asian/white, etc. And the only same-race couple I know is gay. So no, it shouldn't matter in the slightest.
You shouldn't be so judgmental and nasty
without knowing all the facts. News flash: Life isn't always black and white, cut and dried. Try to put yourself in her shoes and not be so critical because you don't know any of the details of what's going on. Jeesh.
he shouldn't even ask-it's too obvious and classless

again, just my own *take* on the situation...betcha these people always get called by virtual strangers or acquaintenances to stay with them while the guests do Disney Parks.....living in Orlando and all that....


it reeks of using them.....just to stay there.....


Bad taste, to say the very least.


But, shouldn't this be on the RELIGION Board?? nm
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Shouldn't teenagers at least have at home ....sm
a CLEAN environment?

Shouldn't this really be on the Politics board? sm
you are labeling global warming science as rotten, and basically making remarks about Obama that pretty much should be noted on the politics board, not GAB.
She's your mother. There shouldn't be "boundaries."

One day, your mother will be gone and you will look back on this vacation as time you missed and your children missed out on with her.


I'm very close with my mother.  She's my rock.  The one person I know I can always count on if ever I or my children need anything.  My dad passed away at age 49 and both my parents instilled a strong sense of family on my brother and sister and I.  Blood is blood.  We should always "do" for family.


Yes, my mom gives me unsolicited advice, yes she has irritated me repeatedly over the years, yes we've had our spats and cold wars, and yes she has intruded in my home and turned her nose up at my housekeeping abilities.  But in the end she's my mother.  She's earned the right to give me unsolicited advice and she's always welcome in my home.  And of course I don't do things as well as she did, she was a career housewife.  I haven't had the luxury.  But she does what most mothers do and what I will do someday, I'm sure.


Just tell you mom to bring her own spending money and let her know that maybe she and your dad she get their own hotel room because there are far too many people for just one room.  You may even be able to have one or two of your kids sleep in their room.  It might work nice for you.  You and your hubbie maybe could leave the kids with your parents one night at the hotel with your parents at the pool or something and go out on a date.


Or maybe tell her you think it's great she go and she can help you with the kids and give you some alone time on your trip.  She may decide she doesn't want to go afterall and then everything works out the way everyone wants.


You shouldn't feel responsible....

As mean as it sounds, you have put up with it and YOU have decided for yourself that enough is enough and if you tell him so and IF he bounces back to alcoholism, then basically he is a grown man and that is HIS choice, you cannot let it affect you or make you feel responsible.


My sister-in-law is in the same boat as far as her husband being an alcoholic.  It has put so much stress on her and their children and it has been going on about 15 years.  He won't seek help though and she won't leave him.  She just says that she is hoping one day he wakes up and sees what a good wife she is.  I feel bad for her that she has wasted so much time on someone like that.


my thought is that it shouldn't even be called
'assisted suicide', it should be called 'facilitating a less painful transition.'
If the terminally ill patient himself and the doctors agree to stop the pain and suffering, then definitely, yes.
Then she shouldn't post here if she doesn't want

with someone telling her to get up off her butt and look for a job?  It takes two months to realize you aren't making enough money?


I feel more sorry for someone who experiences a true tragedy.  Not someone who sits around and waits for the crap to hit the fan. 


She needs to read some of the recommendations here and do something.


It is better than nothing.   


All the kids should pitch in to hire help. Shouldn't all be on
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It shouldn't matter, but in this imperfect world
it upsets a lot of people - who ought to be minding their own business.

I asked my mother about marrying outside your race when I was young, and she replied that marriage was difficult enough that you should look for somebody you have things in common with, and religion and race are 2 biggies.

I have been married for 20 years, so I haven't had to think about it for quite a while though.
You shouldn't feel this way so early in your marriage (sm)
Take it from someone who stuck around way too long and now has a much more complicated situation (children and money involved) - cut your losses now and find someone you are a better match with. It has nothing to do with your weight. Your husband should be treating you with lots of love and attention right now in your marriage...if not, something is wrong. You can find someone else who would be a better match for you. Don't wait until there are children and finances and so many other complicating factors keeping you there!! However things are at the beginning of a marriage, they will only get worse as time goes on. I know it is hard, I know you love him, but it is not going to work. Again, cut your losses now, and move on to a better future!
See what this board has come to? Blurry or not that shouldn't be posted.
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You shouldn't feel guilty because (see message)
you can't be really sure that is what she would have wanted. When my cat died, many years ago, she went away to be by herself when she died. We had to look for her to find her. Some animals just prefer to be alone. You spent time with her before she died, and then you made her comfortable. Perhaps it was easier for her to "leave" if you weren't there with her. I am so sorry for your loss.
But these are kids; they shouldn't have to fight at a young age nm
:)
Silly Girl shouldn't have to treat her
husband like a dog or a child.  After all, she is his wife, not his mother.  If she wants a pet, she can go to the animal shelter and get a dog.  She married a man and he needs to act like one.  It sounds like she gives and gives, and he takes.  I think Silly Girl should start taking care of herself for a change.
It shouldn't be about wearing a ring, but more...see message
the way he acted toward you. My husband doesn't wear his wedding ring, just cos he doesn't feel like it, and I don't wear mine either. No big deal, but sounds like this guy was flirting with you and that's what I think was wrong.
ARRGH, I knew I shouldn't have opened up this sm

discussion.  I was working, and was going to watch whenever I had time (love DVR), but I just had to peak, lol.  Oh well, of course, I am still going to watch it


 


Definitely understand that - you shouldn't have to have your property be forever a memorial! (sm)
you were VERY kind to leave it there and take care of it for six months. So ridiculous that people gave you a hard time. I'm sorry that happened to you! Bad enough that you have to know something so awful happened in front of your home without a constant reminder and strangers coming up to your house all the time. And it is not your job to maintain it for them. If the family understood, then certainly no one else should have any say whatsoever.
I did my taxes in February, no reason why $ shouldn't be here today
:(
Shouldn't this be moved to the Weight Loss board?

No, west coasters shouldn't have to wait to come to this board. Again, do not post
If you feel that you must post, post something in the subject line that there is spoiler information on the inside of the post then make your post inside so those who don't want to know will know not to open your post.
I see ads in our paper and phone books for "stagers" all the time now. Shouldn't be
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it's not illegal, but it's inappropriate & he shouldn't be allowed to teach anymore
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Guess talking with dying aunt over daughter just shouldn’t happen
Yes I did say disconnect (have thought about that for some time just due to the excessive amount spent on land phone though and daughter suggested disconnecting also to save $$$) the fuss was the fact about others assumming something. I took what I considered to be the more important of the 2 calls- basically I talk with the daughter every week several times and the aunt - well what would most do?
Let's see if this works
nm
WW Works
I am a successful WW-er, having lost over 75 pounds. WW allows you to have all your favorites, but in a sensible fashion. There is no food category that is not allowed. That's the key for me. WW trains you in how to eat with healthier food choices and it is definitely a lifestyle change as regards food choices. Of course, as with any weight loss program, you cannot return to eating whatever you want in unlimited amounts once you have lost your weight. You must continue to take the tools you were taught and use them each and every day with your food selections. I would definitely recommend attending meetings, though, as accountability is always helpful in staying the course.
it works for me! LOL. (nm)
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Nothing works better than
hanging out in the sun to dry, so fresh smelling, great for sheets also.
What works for my little one...
We always alternating Tylenol and Motrin every four hours. This works better than giving either one by itself. I put him in a tee shirt and his underwear and use cool compresses on his head. Hope your little one is better soon!
what works for me
is medicine, Maxalt.
This works for me!

No but I know what works well sm
I used green tea patches in the past. They don't sell them anymore (probably because it was too good and you'd have to get an Rx), but you can still find them at sites on the internet. Also Hoodia is really awesome. I am taking Hoodia 2 a day and the pounds are just flying off. It is something from cactus discovered that the natives take in the jungle for stamina and to keep fit. It is not expensive at all. I got mine on e bay but found it and also green tea pills at Walmart not expensive. I have had more energy and feel better since I have been taking these 2 things and total cost for the 2 was no more than 25 bucks for the month. Sorry I don't know about the product you asked about but I wanted to suggest to you some cool things. Good luck!
Try T-Gel. Works for us.
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This works!
I did the same. It only took one summer (last year) of doing this and then we slowly tapered off the chore chart. I would "forget" to print it off the computer from time to time. Since then I no longer have to ask but when I do it is already done, just had to get in the habit of doing it without question, I think. My child is like OPs that he really is a great kid but for some reason brushing teeth was a nightmare twice a day every day. The only difference in our allowance chart was that for each item completed (without being asked or questioned) my child would get 25 cents - totaled at the end of the week. He still had to do everything, it was just a matter of initiative and no arguments on his part. I think max would be $5 a week or something like that. I had it calculated out so I new there was a limit. Truth be told, he asked for more than $5 of stuff every time we went to the store (and that was another fight) so this did double-duty in that if we went to the store he had to use his own money. Amazing how picky kids get when its their money.
Yes, but I am not too sure how that works.

Is that like a second morgage? 


Do you barrow against your house at a lower APR? 


what works for me -sm
I get a massage once a week NO MATTER WHAT! I have been going to the same lady for 5 years, who gives me a break on the price. For 30 mins it is $25, which is a bargain and SO worth it. I also schedule lunch every Friday with a friend of mine and go nearly no matter what else. You have got to make time for yourself and be selfish about it. Best wishes! :-)
If you have MS Works - sm

Use the spreadsheet program and throw it in there.  Then I think it's data/sort and go from there.


Yes, please let me know how it works out(sm)

The bedroom is still quite cold at night depending on the temperature outside when you close the door. Hubby never cared because as a child, his room didn't have heat either, so he was used to it, but now that he's older, he's getting to be a little bit too much to handle.


He tried a gas wall heater but it used to much fuel. We tried an Eden Pure, but it died before the winter was over.


He only needs the room around 60 so he cut a hole in the wall above the door and put a fan in to draw the heat into his room but the fan is so noisy, it's hard to get a good night's sleep.