Well, it does take TWO to compromise - can't do it by myself (sm)
Posted By: OP on 2007-09-26
In Reply to: why can't HE compromise so WE can all be happy?? - devil's advocate
I think 10 years of waiting is compromising pretty good. I am willing to meet him halfway and find somewhere that he can be happy as well as the rest of us.
Yes I have seriously sat down and discussed this with him and with a marriage counsellor many times. I have attempted to improve our situation many times, however I am not allowed to spend any money on the house and he does not want me to paint, etc., without his help, but he is never available to help. I have done a few rooms while he has been out of town and he has come home and found out and been very angry. If I was to order repairs on the house through someone else, even if I paid for it myself, he would be furious, as if I had stepped on his toes.
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But why can't he compromise so we can all be happy - not just him?? (sm)
Why is his lifestyle and this house more important to him than his wife and children?
why can't HE compromise so WE can all be happy??
Ask yourself 2 questions. One, have you honestly given this your best efforts or once you decided you didn't like it did you start your campaign to move? What can you do to improve the situation? Why are you so isolated - how close are your neighbors? Town? school? If it's the isolation and the clutter, what can you do to help improve your own situation?
Two, have you complained about wanting to move or have you sat down and seriously, honestly, openly explained to this man you love how you feel about living here - without being accusatory? Have you asked him why he wants to live there and not "in town".
I'd be totally ticked! Time for a compromise or separate
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