Well in my mind lust is when you decide
Posted By: notmyrealname on 2009-05-06
In Reply to: No, you are not a sicko. But if it is not lust', what is it then? I think it is lust, - xx
to give in to something and enjoy it, which I have not and will not do in this case.
The puzzlement for me is how the attraction comes out of nowhere like that, and of course this time when it happened it is more troubling because he is so young. It must be pheromones. I think that's the best explanation.
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No, you are not a sicko. But if it is not lust', what is it then? I think it is lust,
but you are telling yourself it is not, because you think that lust is something bad. It's not your fault, blame it on your hormones or pheromones.
It becomes your fault, though, if you are obeying and following and do what your hormones or pheromones are telling you to do!
Let us know what you decide - nm
nm
I think you should tell them and let them decide what they want to do.
My husband died six months ago suddenly and unexpectedly. My niece, who just turned 12, has always been extremely close to my husband and me, and spends a lot of time at our house. LIke your children, she had never experienced death in a close relative before. The day he died, my brother and sister-in-law picked her up from school and broke the news to her. She was sad of course and she cried for quite a while.
Her parents gave her the choice of what she wanted to do in regards to go to the funeral home and/or attend the funeral. She chose to come to the funeral home and sit with me, and to attend the funeral.
She later wrote on the subject when the class had to write an essay at school about a life altering event. She wrote about how much she loved her uncle and she felt that was her last chance to say goodbye, as she didn't get to say goodbye before he died. She was sad that he died suddenly and she didn't know ahead of time, and that seemed to hurt her a lot, even though nothing could change that.
As for me, her presence at that time made me feel a little better. My husband's death has made she and I even closer. She's very smart and mature for her age. She knows sometimes when I get a little sad, that I'm thinking of my husband, and she totally understands, cause she still misses him too.
I know this is kind of rambling, but I hope it makes sense. I think kids want to be a part of our experiences, the good and the bad, and I think to exclude them, even when you think you're protecting them, makes them feel left out.
Good luck to you and your family. My prayers are with you.
So then why take any drugs at all? Or why not let's just decide which
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Couldn't decide whether to
laugh or vomit with that story!
if you decide to give
my suggestion would be to get something bigger than 0-3 months. they go through that stage so quickly and lots of people give that size.
How do you decide to have a baby?
This is different for EVERYONE I'm sure, but in general, if any of you are mothers... did you decide the time was right, did it just happen... did you plan?
I've been told if you wait until you can afford to have children, you'll never have them...
The predicament is this. my future husband is ready to have a baby now. He wants to be a father, and as much as this makes me fall in love with him all over again, I joked with him that his biological clock was ticking and he said in all seriousness, that he guesses it is. However, mine is not. Not now. Will this happen to me? Does it happen to every woman at some point? We are in our late 20s, but I am just asking in general, how do you compromise on something as big as having a baby? I do want a family and children, but I guess I'm just looking for people's stories on this one... Thank you!
How do you decide to have a baby?
This is different for EVERYONE I'm sure, but in general, if any of you are mothers... did you decide the time was right, did it just happen... did you plan?
I've been told if you wait until you can afford to have children, you'll never have them...
The predicament is this. my future husband is ready to have a baby now (when i say now, we would wait until after marriage). He wants to be a father, and as much as this makes me fall in love with him all over again, I joked with him that his biological clock was ticking and he said in all seriousness, that he guesses it is. However, mine is not. Not now. Will this happen to me? Does it happen to every woman at some point? We are in our late 20s, but I am just asking in general, how do you compromise on something as big as having a baby? I do want a family and children, but I guess I'm just looking for people's stories on this one... Thank you!
Easy for men to decide
Some guys are good dads - willing to pitch in and help take care of the child's needs, and give it plenty of time and attention.
There are quite a few guys out there that like the IDEA of a child - as long as it doesn't cramp their style. This means it all devolves upon the mother - care of the child 24/7, criticism from him and his family if you aren't doing it their way, but of course any bragging rights are all theirs.
Then there are the demands of academia - when your child gets sent home with a backpack full of paperwork to review on a nightly basis, whose job will that be?
Another thought is the possibility of divorce down the road - what happens then? Quite a few dads who let mom do all the work suddenly become superdad when the thought of child support comes along, and they will do anything to win custody so that YOU have to pay THEM. Even if you win custody, the head games with visitation schedules, daddy's new girlfriend pushing her way into the picture, etc. never end.
Be careful. Having a baby to stroke a man's ego can get very messy very fast. Its a huge responsibility and too often the mother does all the work and the father takes all the credit. Take the worst case scenarios into consideration before you decide.
So who gets to decide what is illegal and what is not? You? sm
That's a slippery slope. Like the poster below who wants sugar taxes - actually that's not a bad idea since sugary drinks and snacks are making our kids fat. Let's see - then we should tax fast food or control the amount that fatties can eat, right?
Where does it end?
Still trying to decide whether to have a hysterectomy. See message
I posted last week about my dilema about whether to have a hysterectomy or not after my left ovarian cyst (which was removed along with ovary) came back with a pathology report stating papillary serous tumor, borderline. Doctor says I should have hysterectomy for "insurance" and preventative measures. However, according to their group discussion, my tumor was borderline, but "more on the benign side". I am so confused. I'm 42 and I don't want to have a hysterectomy, but yet, I don't want to have a problem with cancer either. I have the option to follow every six months. Is this safe? Am I better off getting a hysterectomy? I just don't know what to do!!!!
So even animals help decide our fate???
Where did you read this or learn about this? I've never heard that animals will speak for or against us on judgement day...interesting. Guess I'm in the clear, I don't do animals, don't own them, don't abuse them, don't like 'em!
Be careful if you decide to wean
and hand feed with formula and syringe. Don't know about your type of birds, but I have a parrot that I hand fed with a syringe and the breeders instructed me and watched me do it myself to be sure I was doing it correctly before they let me take him home. Apparently you can kill them if it goes down the wrong way, but it was really easy feeding him. Maybe there's somebody in your area who is a bird expert you could talk to?
I re-read, so you do live together - you have to decide if he is (sm)
going to function as a dad or not, and if so, you need to BOTH be involved in decisions, not just him. If he is not going to function as dad, he should not be involved in conferences at all.
Mercy is for God to decide - she should rot where she lays
I posted below - but have more to say. She needs to rot where she lies. That may sound harsh but I have no compassion for her and anyone else involved in those horrendous crimes they committed. "Charles Mansion brainwashed me" or whatever it is she claims. Oh brother - let me get my violin out. She knew what she was doing. You would think at some point while she is in the act of doing the horrendous things she did she would think somewhere in her pea brain - wait a minute, this is not right, and she could have easily sneaked out or called the police or something. I lived across the whole country (east coast) and still felt the horror that happened to them. It was hard growing up knowing that those pieces of garbage were out there and it could have happened to any of us just as easily. They just happened upon that house. I had nightmares because of it. Between that and the Hillside strangler and all the other creeps out there, it was hard not to have nightmares. She committed the crimes and she needs to do her time. She had no mercy for Sharon Tate and her unborn child and she so much as said so. Why she would think the court should have mercy on her. Brain tumor? Good and I hope its a very painful death for her. I always say do unto others. If she committed torture, then she should be tortured. The only one she should be asked Mercy for is from God. Maybe she should contact Roman Polanski and ask him if he thinks she should be let out early. "I would like to be out one day" Give me a break! I'm sure Sharon Tate and the other people would have liked to live. They should tell her and her family that they have no right in asking to be let out. I don't care if she can't sit up in bed. That is her problem. In fact I think they should post all the crime scene photos in her cell and let her look at those day after day and say until she dies and tell her this is why you are not being let out. Besides, if she has brain cancer who knows what she will be thinking as it progresses. Well I'm glad she's "not the same person than when she went in". But then again that's what all the prisoners say too. She did the crime - do the time (and I hope she suffers. I have no tolerance for what she did).
Is that good? I can't decide whether this would be tasty or not? nm
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Yep, some oldies decide on invitro
to have kids but I don’t want to have a kid in college just when I would like to retire. I see advanced maternal age listed all the time when the mother is only 34 or so, so wonder what category 41 falls under. Too many birth defects possible as the mother ages. Others can have their kids if they want at past 50, just not my cup of tea.
funny thing about when you decide to give up...
on men/relationships...That is when the right one comes along! That's how it happened for me. I, like you, had decided I was done with men, too many bad experiences, and then I met THE right guy for me. That was almost 11 years ago and we have been married for 7-1/2 years. We have a happy marriage and a beautiful little 15-month-old girl. It's when you stop looking that the right one comes along!
The most important thing, though, is to trust your instincts. They will never steer you wrong. From your description, it sounds like a good thing, but if there is a doubt that nags at you, don't dismiss it. Just don't let prior bad relationships cloud your judgment, because they are all different.
when u decide on a city, suggest contacting....
I'd call the Chamber(s) of Commerce of whatever city you decide to stay in and ask them the condition(s) of the area(s) post-Katrina.....just my opinion.
Have fun on vacation!!! :)
I just don't see why any parent would just allow a child decide to move out
It makes no sense to me. He is 16 years old and still a child. I guess I just don't understand how you have no problem with him deciding to move out and not even try to do anything about it other than take his house key. It sounds as though this 16-year old is running the show here. The whole thing is very disturbing to me.
Hi, Kelly, in case you decide to use Rogaine,
please check with your doctor first because of your thyroid issue!
Changes of a Down syndrome baby go up with age, though. You'll need to decide if an amnio & its
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DH not happy = his prob. Let him leave or stay or decide
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I'm 36, married 5 years, and still can't decide. I wish I had an answer for ya. But you're
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Maybe if she sees the baby, she'll decide not to have it sucked out of her and thrown away like t
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stick to your guns and let the bride and groom decide who they would like at the wedding(sm)
Twenty years ago there were 150 people at my wedding. I knew MAYBE 20 of them. My parents INSISTED on inviting every single long-distance cousin and relative, most of whom I (and certainly my husband) did not know and had never met. Granted, MA and Dad were paying for the wedding but I've always felt like I missed out on having MY wedding because, in order to stay within their budget, I only invited about five or ten friends. And my husband and his parents felt like they COULDN'T invite anyone because of the budget restraints and my parents' guest list. We ended up with about 20 people on my husband's side of the church (basically his immediate family), three of his friends, five of mine, and the rest were mostly my distant, DISTANT unknown relatives (with a few close relatives scattered among the many distants). I look back now and wish that I had taken better charge of the situation. It certainly would have cost my parents less money because I wasn't going to invite that many people.
How old is your child/children and when did you decide he wasn't worth the effort? nm
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If you don't mind me asking, did you take the
mega-B vitamin pill every day or just when you felt the symptoms? My former OB/GYN basically dismissed me as "it is part of life", but she did suggest vitamin B, but I don't remember if it was every day or not.... Thanks for listening.... By the way, I think my Mom had PMS too but never sought attention. I find out later on down the line not too long ago that she also suffered from severe anxiety. She had high blood pressure as well, which I do not have. But I think of all the times as a child how she would be so moody, ya' know.... LOL.... makes more sense now.
would you mind
what you think I could do to make it better for her... I'm not referring to the party.... just in general. It weighs on me. Thank you.
Sorry you had to deal with that growing up. That had to be incredibly hard.
I can do about anything I put my mind to...
The waterfall idea I had was obviously to make my own, but creating out of pottery, or a like substance and having it fired. However, I've no experience and tho I am keenly interested, I am afraid it would be quite time consuming. I would like to propose before Christmas.
I was always of the mind that
Happy Holidays encompassed everything from Thanksgiving through January. It was just a more efficient way of noting good tidings. It is certainly easier than saying, "Happy Thanksgiving and merry/joyous religious and/or cultural holiday and/observance of your choice and Happy New Year.
Well first keep in mind that everything changes....(sm)
Nothing stays the same. I remember at one point in my life feeling like I was at the lowest point possible... like no one in the world cared. I remember sitting in my room thinking it would be better if I just died. Then my sister called and told me that she was thinking about killing herself. I talked to her for an hour about all the people who would be hurt and devastated if she did. All the things she had to live for and how you never know what the future holds. By the time I finished talking to her I felt so much better. About six months later, my life was going great and I was so much happier, I thought back to the moment when I had sat in my room wishing to die and I realized that we have to always understand that a moment is just that...a fleeting moment. Nothing stays the same. You never ever know how things are going to go. You do have people who love you and count on you...your daughter and your granddaughter...it was a good decision you made not to exchange gifts with your daughter when you are in debt. Christmas is not about getting gifts anyway...it is about giving and loving others...and you did just that by sacrificing your own gifts to be sure your granddaughter had a good Christmas!! You should feel really good about that. Also, you said you have avoided people...reach out and reconnect with your old friends..you say you didn't even get a card...did they get one from you? Did you call them? Go to a debt counselling service and get help with your credit card issue. Keep looking for better jobs and hang onto your less than great ones in the meantime. Just from your post I can see you have much to be thankful for. You are obviously intelligent from the way you type, you have family members, you have 2 jobs (many people have none), you have friends whose opinion you valued at one time enough to avoid them over being ashamed. Everyone has something at some point in their life that they are not happy about or proud of...everyone comes into hard times at some point in their life. Reach out!!! Take some steps to improve your life. It is all so within your reach!
Do you mind if I ask
how your kids like your b/f and if they are comfortable around him. I have so much anxiety about that and that is one of reasons I choose not to date. How did you bring your b/f into their lives?
What if it is on her mind?
I think about ice cream all the time! Although, I suppose it is a problem. :)
Don't mind really
You know..It's funny. I really don't mind doing it. I kinda like the social aspect of it and being able to feel like I'm doing something other than just production work. But, I really would like to get some compensation for it as well. How should I go about it? My boss and I get along VERY well and we see eye to eye on most things, but I've just never been very good at asking for things.javascript:editor_insertHTML('text','');
I did not say he was in his right mind- sm
it is never right, just saying maybe childbirth, etc. made him be *tupid- who knows, who cares at this point. No need for you to be a total witch about it. I had not read all the posting when I posted, what is your excuse? I am more concerned about her current children. If he is a pedophile she needs to see if he had done anything with her/their own kids.
Only in your mind (nm)
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Mind your own
I doubt that getting the stick is so heinous, or the child wouldn't have chosen it. What the child did was deliberately deceptive, which is really one of the worst offenses. When a child believes he is so clever he can outwit the parent, there is trouble brewing.
Like others have said, DHS is not the best solution and once you get them involved, you can't un-ring that bell. If you see the child with marks on him or limping from injuries, that's different. As it is, stay out of it.
A J Cowling and OJ come to mind........
Oh yeah I did watch it - and still felt *inundated* - it became prime time TV.....it preempted many TV shows.....
And as far as you not thinking he did the deed - you're entitled to your opinion - just as we all are. I believe he did it and it's as simple as that, TO ME. To me, he HAS the legs - legs that were/ are known for running!!
Have a great Sunday...........
I think she should mind her own business - NM
NM
the first thing that comes to my mind
detatched retina.
not saying thats whats wrong but had 2 sister-in-laws who both had detatched retina and symptoms were floaters. get to an eye doctor asap to get it checked out. if it is the sooner its treated the better--- which is the case no matter what the cause is
I google whatever ? comes to mind...sm
http://www.mojomoon.net/santeria.html
http://www.bloomington.in.us/~lgthscac/santeria.htm
http://www.religioustolerance.org/santeri.htm
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Santeria
I actually dont mind others using....
a cell phone if I am in a store as long as it is not to argue with family etc. My son has one and sometimes he will use it in a store to call me and ask me something regarding an item I asked to grab for me while there etc. I have also heard husbands talking to their partners asking questions regarding food shopping while in an isle. That doesnt seem to bother me at all..
How do you quiet your mind
My mind just always races and I can't sleep. I am not good at meditating, can't take meds or herbal supplements because of health issues. any suggestions?
Big DollHouse comes to mind!...
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I gotta get out, How'd i get in this slammer
This cooler, this big dollhouse!
Alright, ladies, welcome to the "Big Dollhouse!" For those of you new to the Baltimore Women's House of Detention, think of me as a mother... one who eats her young!
Locked up with all these lowlife women
And horizontal stripes ain't exactly slimmin'.
Is there anybody here who can dry clean my blouse?
It's the maid's day off In the big dollhouse
Lady justice, Where have you gone?
Îîí, wilbur, check, I think i left the iron on!
Did you see corny laughing? I could murder that louse!
Honey, that'll getcha life In the big dollhouse
Big house!... Locked up here in the pen
Big house!... No phone! No food! No men!
I need a conjugal visit from my loving spouse
Honey, just drop the soap in The Big Dollhouse
Yoo hoo, my stomach's a little sour
I haven't had food in over an hour
You just had a pizza, six burgers, a mouse!
There's no food left in the big dollhouse
Hey, I have got to complain
Mira, mami, don't i know you from 1st and main?
Eek, call my attorneys Lipshitz and Strauss
I gotta get sprung from the big dollhouse
Big house! No fair! No food! No fun!
Big house! And our fight had just begun
'Cause it's freedom's flame I'd like to douse
So we must break out of this Big Dollhouse
Penny, i can't take all this waiting
I've lost my man plus, my hair's deflating!
Well Tracy, I hate to grumble or grouse
But it's your fault that we're in this big dollhouse!!
Hey, cool it, ladies no need to shout
And don't ya got an old man to bail you out?
Ha! Her daddy's a pervert, a loser, a souse!
Well, it's just us girls in the big dollhouse
Big house! God, i'm too young to fry!
Big house! I'm busting out! Girl, so am i!
Lady justice, hear my plea 'Cause the big dollhouse
The big dollhouse ain't big enough for me!
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Brings to mind
Michael Jackson's little court room dramatics- hobbling into court in his PJs acting like he was at deaths door.
Do they really think the judge is gonna go "ohhh, poor thing, I can't send them to jail if they don't feel well!" Gimme a break!
Paris's "medical condition" is obviously not so severe that it kept her from going out and getting drunk and driving.
And please, I had a friend who had full blown AIDS and was still required to serve most of his sentence.
Okay, losing my mind. I now see it! Thanks for the help. nm
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That's a weight off your mind!
Glad it was just a contact allergy to something avoidable.
I can't touch roses myself.
Okay, I don't mind paying
to make sure everything is in order! Thanks for all the advice!
Would you mind sharing?
My mom used to always keep a copy of The Pill Book which had pics of medications as well as info about them. When my son and my niece were little, they would play doctor (REAL doctor, not the other kind! LOL) and use The Pill Book to prescribe things for each other.
with peace of mind 24/7 nm
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