Well in my case it was related to neglect (sm)
Posted By: Anon on 2007-11-30
In Reply to: how ignorant to compare lice with neglect. - Typiniowan
But I definitely do not want the child ridiculed at all. She needs help and I know how humiliating it is.
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My son was no longer seeing this woman by the time my GS was born, but we've always tried to get him for visitation every other weekend. My son works many weekends, so half the time it is just me picking him up. I live out of town, but still make the trip every other weekend. Mom also has 2 other children prior to my GS. When my GS was about 2 she met and married someone. My son and I are the only family that's involved, so I'm sure the 8-YO feels jealous. Half the time I invite the 8-YO along too, but he is in sports right now and couldn't come along. However, there are sometimes my son wants to spend time only with my GS.
I agree the 8-YO should not be in charge, and I'm sure he does resent this. But from everything I've seen, Mom is not going to make the effort. These children need to fend for themselves for most everything.
I'm not in a position to offer any suggestions to Mom, as she resents any involvement. The only thing she wants is a babysitter. I used to pick my GS and his brother up on Saturday at 10:00 and could see her just getting out of bed. So I switched and try picking up on Friday after work as often as I can, but is difficult with living out of town.
I know the 8-YO needs attention, because he monopolizes the conversation when he's around. When he doesn't come along, my GS always takes something back for his brother. I am trying to teach him to be considerate of others.
I worry about what happens that I don't know about. If it wouldn't have been our weekend to pick him up, then I probably never would have known about it.
Question is, do I report this to DHS as sibling abuse, or is this considered normal behavior?
It is not abuse, but it is neglect
If you cannot take the dog in, I would definitely call the authorities. It is completely unfair and wrong for the dog to be left alone outside for that long with no shelter and no place to go. Who knows, maybe your cat and they dog will get along. I have 3 cats and a 128-pound German shepherd, and they call get along just fine together! But, if you cannot do this, just call the authorities for help/advice. I'm sure the dog would want you to do this so that it can get out of this situation!
how ignorant to compare lice with neglect.
It's merely a case of misinformation or improper education to her family on how to treat the problem, in no way is lice infestation and lack of getting rid of them completely a sign of neglect.
Maybe this mom just plain doesn't understand how to get rid of them completely or perhaps there are other things going on in her life that this isn't getting dealt with properly. They need support not ridicule as some of the posters have said - obviously since you've been there you should know it isn't as easy as people think to get rid of them.
Don't Do IT!! Are we related? I swear
my husband and I have the same situation - except his sister is in her 40s. If they are living with him, they can take care of him. Otherwise...if they are not able to care for him, what example are they going to be for your child? What environment for you all to live in? The father made his choice, and now, sadly, he can live with it.
not telemarketer related, but someone had
Our exchange was 664 and Bambi's was 663. Every Saturday and Sunday mornings I would get phone calls from guys she had given out her number to the night before at bars. For months I would try to give them the right number, but kept getting the same phone calls. I realized she was giving MY number to the losers she didn't want to hear from.
That was when I changed my tactics. I started asking who was calling and writing down the guy names. After I got a collection of names and a guy called, I pretended to call out Bambi's name and say, "Joe is on the phone!" then tell "Joe" she was still in bed with "Frank" and would have to call him later.
About 2 months later I got a nasty call from Bambi that left me LMAO and then there were no more calls from anyone :) Karma is wonderful!
Yes but that post is more MT related. nm
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It is probably food related.
Have you switched foods lately? Most gas is food related in dogs and cats. High quality can still give the toots.
Need advice. Not MT related
I am giving my daughter a luau for her 6th grade graduation party. This is being held at my aunt's pool on her property. I would like to put a "release form" in with the invitations stating that we (my aunt and I) will not be held liable for any accidents, etc. How would you go about wording this? Thanks for any advice.
Safety first and she is related to you
You have to put fears of rejection and people's reactions aside and put the safety of the child first. I would definitely want to know!!! On the other hand, I see people who live near me who don't watch their kids. I saw girls going in the woods every day at age 13 and smoking and drinking but the mothers of these kids probably actually know about it or don't care. If you think your sister would care, you better hurry up!!! Just tell her you don't know if it's true but you heard something disturbing and you think it's a safety issue otherwise you would mind your own business. If the kid gets hurt will you be sorry you minded your own business. Somebody better tell me if anything like that is going on . I'd be thanking you. But I do watch my teens.
I agree, it is related (nm)
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Maybe we're related then,
because that's exactly what my sister is doing. I start googling family names and find pages of stuff, and the author's name is right there - my sister. I knew she was doing it, but it is startling to find it all on the internet. She focuses on the past more than the present. We especially find people's occupations in the olden days interesting.
You sure this is work related? sm
I always thought my problems were work related. Turns out, I have an autoimmune disorder and this kind of pain comes with it. I am treating it and I am so much better. I am working full time for the first time in 10 years. Been an MT for 15 years.
if this child related to you?
NM
mine were related to hypertension
I've always had low BP readings, then I'm at a checkup as I had been having very severe abdominal pain for about 4 months. Seems the pain has given me a reactive elevated BP. I went from 110s/70s to 150s/100s in less than 4 months. Now that I'm on antihypertensives, the floaters have gone. We still have not gotten the pain under control, but now I can actually feel my heart rate rise when the pain starts escalating, so I know I need to keep a watch on my BP. My doctor does feel that once my pain is under control (undiagnosed so far - probably stress related), my BP will return to normal and I can come off the meds.
Another phone related post....
Here is a neat site that gives suggestions for how to bypass prompts and reach a human at a number of US-based companies. It also lists the 800 phone numbers for companies like Amazon.com and Columbia House music club and others that are seemingly very difficult to find!
http://www.gethuman.com/us/
Any fav websites, NOT MT- related? One of mine is
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P.S. - I'm not a doctor or anything remotely related. I have very
severe hypertension myself and have discussed all this extensively with my doctor. 
Interesting, your ideas are very much related to sm
the practice of Buddhism, which teaches that our human desires, wants and "needs" are the cause of our suffering.
I just went through some major stuff that i think may have been related to fibro. sm
I took every narotic you can think of. lortab helped me the best without knocking me out. FYI, it did cause nausea so then i backed down to half a tablet. everything else put me to sleep. i did take BC Powder two of them and that helped some, but gave me an ulcer too so guess you gotta decide what is worse. for me, not being able to work was worse so i needed relief. i also used a heating pad and rice sock when i had to stay away. nothing took the pain totally away though. finally got a medrol dosepak and it cleared up for the severe part anyway. at least i can function now. email me........
Question on MRI findings, not word board related.
Does anybody have any experience with cerebral tonsillar ectopy not associated with Chiari malformation? Also, at the base of the skull there was scar tissue from a prior injury. This is a personal diagnosis, not something I'm typing up.
also thought related to UFOs in that area at that time, followed by
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I suppose I related to the rate of capital punishments
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Not MT related -- anyone know the name of the song played on the Zales commercial (piano)? I'm l
a festival piece. TIA
My daughter is distant cousins of Steve Martin & is also related to
right Steve Martin is related to George Washington's wife. What a country we live in!!!
My biggest time waster/sucker-upper is work related
If I need to research a word or a procedure and I find a link with downloadable free surgical videos...watch out! Fascinating stuff and man, you learn a lot when you watch them and it's accompanied by the surgeon talking the watcher through step by step, because then it really gels in your head.
I do most of my shopping on line though, just because the only stores near me are Walmart and Target, which totally don't buy stuff I need around here. However, sister wouldn't get paid if I did it during work hours, because I spend too much time researching the best deals and always free shipping, so that can take up quite a bit of time.
You aren't possibly related to that vice-president some years back who SM
spelled potato incorrectly are you? LOL. Sorry, couldn't resist that one! Have a good sandwich! 
Meatus, labia, mucous membrane...basically all genitalia related words...
make me throw up a little in my mouth. LOL
I am sure this is not always the case, but
I have had the cashier call me over if there was no one in her line even though I told her I had more than 10 items. She said she hates not having anything to do...Of course, as soon as I am finished loading my stuff here comes someone with 2 things in their hand! :-)
I don't believe this is the case.
Come with your opinions of spooning out meds. Yoga is a great way to channel stress, but sometimes an SSRI for the long term is better. As most of us know, if you don't have time to exercise, you will probably not do Yoga either.
I have come the conclusion that older people are not as understanding of what SSRIs are used to treat. You are not weak because you have anxiety and/or depression. Most of the older generation think this is just being lazy.
I'm living proof it is not being lazy, it is an actual condition. Don't make my mistake and wait until you crash and burn. I'm still recovering from a severe anxiety attack that occurred almost a year ago. My mind still raises at night. My severe anxiety attack was due to a few different stressful situations all occurring at one time. My brain/body could not tolerate all of that stress. This field does not allow much in the way of vacations, but knowing what I know now, I take the vacations and DO NOT TAKE THE WORK WITH YOU WHEN YOU GO.
Believe me, it will be there when you return. I am still struggling with time off, but I have decided to take two days out of the week where I do not feel the need to WORK!
Try this OP in addition to seeing your doctor. Take some time off every week! You will be amazed how much better you feel.
I want to believe that would be the case (sm)
I really want to believe that would be the case. If I can just get him to cooperate - I would love to be able to be friends with him and raise our children the best we possibly can.
In that case
when you send out invites to anything, I think you should stipulate no gifts. No gifts, no thank you cards. I think not sending a thank you note is just bad manners, no upbringing. I give money to charities and expect no response but an invite and getting gifts, only nice way to handle this.
If that is the case, I think what I have is really
better. If it runs off batteries, can it whisper sweet nothings in your ear, does it give you strokes, talk dirty to you at the appropriate times, etc? If this is no, think I will just stay with my best half.
Unfortunately that is not the case here.
With a family this size there have been a few losses. No one extremely young, but still losses. Like I said they lost her husband about 20 years ago and while there was definite grieving it was not like this at all and his death was very unexpected.
no not the case...
When it is just her and her mom she always calls. She says mom is driving me up the wall today or something to that nature. She loves her mom to death but sometimes they clash. She always talks when her mom is home. I am not JEALOUS. I am concerned because this is not her and I don't understand it. I am looking for opinions on postpartum depression, which if she does have it nothing I can do anyway. All I can do is send her a card and let her know I am there. But I have never seen anyone behave this way after giving birth. I guess there is a first for everything.
In my case, it does.
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in my case
Da#m husband. HA HA HA
Even if that's the case and they do in sm
fact get paid minimum wage (keep in mind, some make less and are expected to supplement with tips), $7.75 is still not an adequate amount added to the cheap $2 tip to make it worth the gas, insurance and wear and tear on one's car. I stick to my OPINION that $2 is insulting.
In my case,
I'm the one who strayed. It's all my fault, because I married a man who I felt safe with instead of working through childhood traumas before trying to get married. So now I've been married forever and this near-perfect match came along, except for an impossible age difference. It honestly felt like I could not stop myself, though I never thought this would happen to me. The physical part lasted 6 weeks, and the infatuation lasted 6 months before that. I think this one person was unique, but without a good sex life at home, I'm certainly vulnerable to temptation in future. I did not and would not have ended it because I was ecstatically happy.
My husband is a good man, but I think I should divorce him to be fair, but financially it would be a disaster for both of us. Plus he doesn't want to split. All my friends' marriages are at the breaking point also.
Oh, in that case
I don't think I would call. I'd just leave it alone.
That just stinks if he doesn't hear anything though. They should atleast call him back and let him know. I hate when people say "I'll get back to you on Monday" and then don't. If that is the case, he might be better off not working for this guy. Or, you could think of it another way...maybe they are conflictd between 2 applicants and still trying to decide. They should atleast call him back though. That's what the secretary is for! lol
But in this case ...
My dog didn't want anything to do with the technician. If he came in the room, my dog growled and kept backing away from him. I will admit it was kinda neat looking to see the hair standing up on his back.
more on above - as I said in my case - sm
I do trust him BUT I would still wonder....in my case my DH did cheat on his first wife 2-3 x (I'm his 2nd wife--he did not cheat with with me, I did not even know him then, met him 3 years after his divorce) despite his paranoia of STDs, pregnancy, etc, though he was adament about using condoms so that kind of took care of his paranoia I guess. A few months ago my DH all of a sudden wanted me to buy condoms (we don't use a standard BC). I thought it rather odd since we have not used condoms since before the kids were born. I have just kept my eye on them and made sure the numbers have not changed as he has only used 2 of them since I bought them. He travels from time to time so has many the opp to cheat if he really wanted to (he's been out of town now for a month, home on the weekends). So while I trust him I am not blindly accepting that he will not cheat. He knows though if he ever did (and I caught him) I would divorce him over it and make sure I got full custody of the kids to boot, so I think that helps, that and I know he does love me still after 14 years together. So just keep the eyes and ears peeled and look for anything out of the norm. Good luck.
Jan. (in case you are the same jan)
Isn't Gy a unit of measure?
In this case, my DH had been her only - sm
sexual partner ever, and she his at that point. They were high school sweethearts, etc., married when he was 20, she was 19.
Just in case you want to know
I was at the animal shelter 1 day and a man brought in a dog, said it belonged to his son but his son left and the guy could not afford to feed the dog. He was asked if he had ever fed the dog since left there and the answer was yes. The people then informed the man he was legally responsible for the animal and he could be and would be held legally responsible for the dog. As far as their dog being in heat, your dog apparently has not been neutered or else even in heat they could not have mated, right? You have responsibility as a dog owner, also.
Maybe your way is the better way. But every case is different.
I could never ask my children for money. I suppose this is wrong, too.
I just cannot take their money for which they work so hard.
Last not least, I am the mother and them becoming 18 does not change much in the relation.
That is not the case --
My son had never been in my home before (we had not seen each other in 6 months) until last week. The minute he walked in the door and she came into the room, she started barking and growling and behaving in a manner that I had never seen before when a stranger entered my home. It has only gotten worse and I swear to you, he has not been in the house alone with her and she will not go into a room with him. He honestly did nothing to her to start it. Believe me, if he did, we would be estranged for another 6 months! that is why I am so out of ideas.
We have tried everything. He is really upset by it too. He has sat in the floor quietly and not said a word holding snacks for her, he has laid in the floor and not moved while placing the snackes within arm's length, and nothing works. She will not even go close to his shoes at the door without turning around and running back to my office and hiding.
She was not abused as a puppy (she came from family friends), but she did get parvo and have to be in the hospital for a week and I am wondering if something about him reminds her of something there. That is all I can come up with.
until the DNA is done in California (case)....they had
Well I do NOT believe Stern is the father at all........but Bahamian law is vastly diffferent from USA law....unfortunately. But there is the DNA case in California ongoing......
I think they didn't want Daniel's DNA accessible and is why he is buried in the Bahamas. However, Larry Birkhead may very well be the father.......so we will all still have to wait until the DNA case is over in California.
Patience............the truth shall prevail..................eventually....even if it takes decades..........it shall surface one day.
Just in case you didn't know...sm
I initially had the same complaint as you with my Tracfone. About 95% of the time, if I technical issues, etc. and needed to call them, I would get someone who spoke very little English and was incredibly difficult to understand! As you know, extremely frustrating, especially when you are already annoyed with your phone not working.
At any rate, in case you didn't know, a lot of times you can avoid calling the company completely by going to their website at www.tracfone.com (I had the phone for a good 2-3 months before I was made aware of this). You can buy minutes and other accessories, add minutes, etc. The most convenient thing IMO is you can resolve a lot of techical issues online. All you need to do is register your account and go to technical support. There, you will find a list of common error messages. You can also activate or reactivate your phone. Usually any technical issues just involve clicking on the appropriate error message, entering your SIM card #, and you are given code(s) to enter into your phone. You usually do have to wait a few hours for this to go through. However, I still find it much less frustrating than calling the company.
If you already knew this, sorry about the long, drawn out reply, LOL.
The ONLY one I have ever felt for in their case is....
Years of therapy due to what both of her parents have done. THEY have done it - nobody else - and the child is COMPLETELY innocent at 11....
In these cases, it's only the children who suffer...and these 2 nutcases should definitely know better, not like they are ill-educated and/or ignorant throughout the life.
Evidently they both need parenting classes and anger management classes....they have both created a very bad emotional situation for their daughter and personally she should probably be removed from their homes (possibly placed with a grandparent or some other relative) until these 2 nutcases CHOOSE to get themselves together.
I'm not going to jump on your case about this sm
But I wonder why you think these kids need to be told now? Has something happened that makes you think that someone besides their parents might let it slip? If that is the case, then maybe you need to talk to the parents about it and tell them that so-and-so found out and isn't good at keeping secrets, or whatever the case may be.
In any case, if you talk to anyone about this, talk to the parents.
If this was the case, then the doctor
should have had something like this posted in the office. One would think. I think $100.00 is a little high for a missed appointment anyway. The standard is $25.00, but most offices have it clearly posted if that is the case. Good luck! Give 'em h-e-l-l------!!!!!!
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