Well, I have a simple solution
Posted By: Questioning on 2009-01-01
In Reply to: They don't...just celebrating an anniversary date will show... - passing thru
My husband and I have been married 8 years now and guess what, never celebrated the first anniversary yet! No kids from this marriage and if we had, could have had 2, 3 or 4 years prior and years later they still would not know.
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Simple solution
But of course, this what I would do - may not seem acceptable to you.
IF YOU STILL LOVE THIS MAN, you move as close by as possible into another type of home that you can afford to build/buy.
WHO SAYS you have to live under the same roof to be happily married? think outside the box!!
IF YOU FORCE him to move he will be as unhappy as you.
Use that equity you have to save your marriage - I'll bet he'd agree to this.
Then you can be together in TWO houses.
Have you tried this simple solution? sm
What about a DrinkWell fountain for pets? I have had them for, well, perhaps 15 years now. My cats (two of whom are Maine Coons and LOVE any kind of water source) all love it! It is not just a source of drinking water because they all play in it with their paws, so it has become a source of fun too, which is great because they are wanting to drink at the same time. There is something about the moving water that has always fascinated my cats. Give it a try! 
My solution
I had this happen many, many years ago and it affected our credit score, etc. I finally went on line and got the names of the Chairman of the Board, members of the board, etc. very high up personnel. I sent a registered, signature and receipt required to the chairman with copies to all the members of the board and needless to say I got immediate reaction. I also cc the local mortgage company with their names, etc. on it. Be sure to get a copy of your credit report to make sure that all the payments are being reported to being "on time" or that could also mess you up and you can sue for that. Tell them you will be seeking the advice of a lawyer if this happens again. You are right, if your credit report has been damaged, you have been damaged and can receive compensation. But somehow find the President, Chairman of the Board, etc. and write to them with a cc to this local office manager and the bafoo that you talked with. Good luck. It will take your time but it is well worth it.
Solution???
Find someone who wrote them a check and have them pull it up in their statement and you will see their bank on there on the back of their check.
My solution
Sleep less, bake more. Just bite the bullet and stay up some night and make the dough and then a day or two later cut them out and bake them. I had to do that for years and years, but I had a big incentive because all those doughs at the grocery store give me massive heartburn. Of course, I eat them anyway and the stay up all night anyhow because I did. So, see you could just make your own yummy dough and avoid heartburn. Don't you love how I have "organized" you all up? See if someone you know will double their batch and share dough with you if you can't afford to lose the sleep. I have done that for friends in the past. We all need to stick together in the baking department.
One solution
Maybe all those who are offended by MERRY CHRISTMAS should just stay out of the stores and shop via catalogs during the CHRISTMAS season. Or, the store could require them to receive and sign a disclaimer/waiver at the front door. Or, the stores could post warning signs; they post warning signs about other stuff. After all, is really should not be a HUGE SURPRISE to shoppers during the CHRISTMAS season that some folks may just want to say and hear, MERRY CHRISTMAS!! DUH. If it is true that Lowes' employees are fired if they actually use the word CHRISTMAS, I will be one of those that boycotts the store.
Unfortunately, these come off. Not 100% solution,
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my solution...
i try to get the hubby to switch cars when i'm low so i never have to fill up. LOLOLOL
my solution
to hand the bills over to my husband. He doesn't like me saying "we don't have the money" so when I took a paycut to stay at home with kids (joint decision) and he couldn't get used to less money coming in, I handed him the checkbook and said "its your turn for a while." We have no extra money anyway so he can't mess things up that bad. I know he will pay the bills and all that. He just needs to see for himself that we have to cut back. It has taken about 9 months but now I crack a smile every time he tells me "we need to wait until we get paid again" or something of the like...he's finally realizing how expensive things are and that every couple dollars adds up.
i have a solution.
three would work. i have thought about this before. one would work days, one would work afternoons, one would work evenings. you could stay at hom. a living room with a tv and family room with a tv would probably be a good thing also. this way your schedule would not collide. you could get the fixing of the house stuff done, and probably have enough money to pay the bills.
My solution
This girl is evidently sick in the head. If she is going to college and all that she also knows full well what she is doing and planned this out a long time ago. This is what I think, ready...
1. The baby's and her previous children should not be made to suffer. Take care of them and let people adopt them who can give them a good home.
2. All money paid to this girl should be spent to pay off hospital bills and she should not receive one penny of it.
3. Whatever is not covered should then be sent as a bill to this wacked out person.
4. This wacko should be institutionalized. In my opinion (I say that cos I'm not qualified to say that with certainty), but in my opinion she has got some major mental problems.
5. She needs to be sued by the state. Here she is...no job, evidently going to school and she goes to BH and has this procedure done. Usually when parents are doing IVF they have planned out ahead of time whether or not they can afford it and the future baby(s). She knew she couldn't afford it and she had it done anyway...this is theft of public money, and if she was counting on welfare to foot the whole bill they should sue her.
6. Throw the doc in jail that performed the procedure and take away his license.
7. Sterilize the nut case.
Sorry if I sound harsh, but these are hard economic times and we're all listening to this whacked out lady that all she is interested in is money. She could care less about the children. Just a prop for her to receive more money that she does not deserve.
The health and welfare of these innocent children should be saved.
Oh yes, lastly sterilize her. When someone puts their own interest before their childs and knowingly has them as a way of her "making her millions" they do not deserve to have any more.
My solution...sm
You don't have to cook dinner for him and the mistress. If your husband wants to still hang with him, that's his prerogative, but you simply remove yourself from it. If he shows up at your house with her, find a reason to leave the house for a bit. If they invite you out, decline.
You don't have to give a reason to him, or her. You're not obligated to host him (and her). If your husband wants to...he can.
I understand him not wanting to upset the long work relationship, but you don't have that. It sounds like your husb will understand you not wanting to be a part of it.
Your solution is the better solution, put her into
this assisted living place you found for over $ 1,000.--a month.
Then your aunt has more freedom, you can visit her and I agree, living with relatives is always difficult and gives reaon for arguments.
my solution also
I didn't really plan on getting up at 4:00 a.m. to be able to leave by 5:00 but it seems like that is the best idea.
My solution to your stress
just BEAT HIM. LOL. J/K of course.
I would be upset too. Look for another company to go through. Unreal.
I know this is not a solution to your problem but
I couldn't help but respond to what you told your daughter about the police. Children should be taught that police are there to help them if they are ever in need and not be frightened by the thought of them. If you tell your child the police will take her away from you she will only think that police are bad. when I was younger I heard a mother tell her son that if he didn't start behaving that she would have "that police officer lock him up". I was terrified. My mother did help me through this and actucally took me to a police station and let me meet officers so I wouldn't be afraid. BTW, my son finally stopped his constant running at about age 3. Now if only I could get him to move a little faster, sigh, teenagers.
I haven't found a solution
At times, the burning in my foot is bad enough I cannot stand to wear shoes. I haven't really found any one thing that helps. I have found that as long as I'm busy, I don't think about the discomforts I'm having. I've tried changing my socks during the day either footies/knee highs. I've went for walks, helps to get my mind on other things. I don't know that Montel has a book, but I've seen him talk about his MS somewhere. Terri Garr is an actress that has it too, I believe she has a book.
I'm an unusual case. Required 3 neurologists conferring between them before making a decision. Presented with tingling in both feet, which went away after 2 months. Four months later had right arm and right leg incoordination, off balance. Prednisone relieved the symptoms 95% gone. I am left with right foot neuroathy and minor incoordination of the right arm/hand. F/U MRI showed more lesions in brain and spine. I'm unusual because I've not had optic neuritis, my spinal tap was normal, visual evoke and brainstem tests were normal.
cold hands solution
I found the best solution for when your hands get too cold to type. I filled an old tube sock with rice. Pop it into the microwave for 4 minutes or so. Put the hot sock in my sweatshirt pocket. I can stick my hands in for a quick warm up most of the afternoon. It also keeps the rest of me pretty toasty. ( it is only -3 degrees here!)
Just thought I'd share my idea. Happy Friday.
A recently used solution against this group
was applied by Hells Angels. No joke.
The Hells Angels motorcycle group was nearby where a protest was being held and they showed up! Ran off every single one of the Westboro derelicts.
First time I've ever been in favor of Hells Angels.
You do know about the recall on wetting solution
that is causing blindness for contact wearers? I do not know the name of it but can probably google. By the way, I have heard using honey can alleviate allergies. I just heard that now, but worth a try if I had them.
Maine Solution to Insomnia
Shot of Allen's Coffee Flavored Brandy, AKA fat a$$ in a glass.
So you're saying there IS a problem & the solution
come up with solutions? I'm sorry, but that doesn't make sense. You also sound a bit racist and seem to have something against the poor. Maybe you should work on that. Geez.
One solution when she gets to calling, unplug your phone - sm
for 15 minutes or whatever. I used to have to do that for some crank who would call me every night (a guy I would not go out with) for months. I did it for about 6 months, when I finally pluged it back in at night he had given up by then, yeah. How about call block on her number, sure it would make her a bit angry but maybe she would get the message to leave you alone during the day.
Kim Komando's Solution for thowing out stuff
I thought this might be of interest to some...Rather than throw away junk, try this.
www.kimkomando.com
www.freecycle.org
Frustrated by Google map route? Solution
I was just playing around with a route that Google map gave for a particular To and From location, and was frustrated (as usual!) with the illogical-appearing route it chose. I never knew you could click on the map and have the option of Change Route appear, but you can! You just drag the mouse to the route you'd like, and it will reconfigure the way you want to see. NATURALLY the route you chose really does turn out to be shorter in distance and time. Problem solved!
Have to agree that the biological parents are not always the best solution. But we were just discus
MTs working at home with their children. I meant to imply that I certainly didn't think it was neglect or abuse for mom to have a set of headphones in her ears.
Sorry you had a bad experience with a CASA volunteer. But afterall they are all people too and the primary intent of the children's justice system is reunification with parents if possible. Sounds like they were probably just lacking enough evidence/proof to terminate parental rights at that time.
I still love giving gifts and have a solution with my family. sm
We all buy gifts for our parents (there are 4 of us, all married) but we wrap them all in the same paper and they are from everyone. That way, if someone is having a tough year, then it still looks even. Over the years, all of us have had a year that extra money just was not there during 1st babies, 1st homes, high gas prices, unexpected bills, lay-offs, new jobs etc. This way, our parents don't know who did what and they can't turn them down or worry about one family when they don't want to share with them their troubles.
We treat the kids similarly. We all buy for all the kids (7 total) but no set limit. Some years, when having a good financial year, they get big presents, some years they don't. They all get to open at least 5 presents (counting Grandma and Grandpa) and we torture them until after dinner before they can open gifts! There have been years of Dollar Store gifts and years of video games. We all look for things during the year that we can give to all equally. Last year, I found pajama bottoms at Old Navy for $2 in the summer and bought a pair for everyone, including the adults. One year, my sister got them all Uno decks which were $3 each because that's all she could do and they are still the favorite gift and go everywhere. Uno tournaments, using all the cards are a family tradition and we make up different rules all the time!
I am fortunate to be in a good position the last few yeas and have bought more extravagant presents. Not to show anyone up, but because I can. Not to make up for the very lean years, which were many, but because it is easy for me to do right now. We don't have jealousy and I don't expect anything in return because if I need something or want something, I usually buy it for myself. I just like to give gifts and can, and everyone is fine with that.
But I have to tell you, my best gifts from the others are from years when there was no money and have now become tradition ... strawberry jam from my SIL, fudge from my brother.
Christmas is what you make it. We are loud and loving and crazy and if we exchanged soup cans, the kids would still love it. It is what you make of it and how fun you make it for them.
It's not that simple
Trying to leave an abusive situation on your own can be very dangerous. Some husbands get so angry that their wife DARED to leave them that they track them down and kill them, or forcibly take them back.
I don't know if Tina's situation is that serious, or how her husband would react to her leaving. Tina may not even know for sure. That's why I advised her above to talk to her local battered women's shelter before she does anything. They have experience with these situations, they can help her and her children with a place to stay and help protect them from her husband if necessary.
Yes, she needs to leave. But she needs to be SMART about it. Just picking up and leaving without a plan or without any help is NOT smart.
Not quite that simple
Having your family's name carried out is important to most people. If you posters all think a name doesn't matter, you are sadly mistaken. Names are extremely important in shaping a person's entire life.
Having a niece with the stepfather's name is not nearly as traumatic to a family as having a nephew, the only remaining male relative, take another last name.
As I said in my post, Heartbroken can name her child whatever she wants - I mean that. But, she also needs to accept the fallout for that and accept that her child will be affected by the consequences of her action.
I simply don't understand why people on this board insist on mis-reading and misinterpreting posts to suit their own attitudes. IMO, Heartbroken is an extremely self-centered person who did not consider her family's feelings at all, made a choice and then wondered why they aren't patting her on the back. It's her right to make that choice, but it's the family's right not to agree.
Sure...very simple (sm)
We had shredded sharp cheddar cheese and precooked fajita-style chicken and he broke the chicken into smaller peices and mixed in some buffalo wing sauce, put it all together on tortillas and cooked them on the George Foreman grill for about 5 minutes. You can mix in peppers and onions if you like and eat them with sour cream and salsa :-) Definitely tastes better if your child makes it for you :-)
Right. She's just that simple.
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Keep it simple.
I used to find myself into the same situation. Run around doing the cleaning, cooking, etc., and would work myself up into a frenzy to the point I did not really enjoy or remember the day after everyone left on Thanksgiving day. Decided not a single person expected me to do all this and certainly family wanted me to enjoy this day too. The truly gracious have no high expectations other than the coming together and honoring the day. I started to keep it simple. No new recipes from Martha, no chasing that last piece of dust, did make the lists of things to do, asked everyone to contribute to the menu and bring a dish (this creates the best variety too) and now I find I do really enjoy the day and even get excited and look forward to hosting again.
I only wish it was something as simple as that
We don't travel and everyone knows our address. They don't call to talk maybe once a year (and DH's family doesn't even send him a b-day card). I learned to live with that a long time ago even though we always sent them card. Not getting b-day cards from them is one thing, but when my mom died it just hurt a little more. In fact we used to live in Vegas and said numerous numerous times for them to come out and they could stay with us and in the 6 years we were there they never came. It would have been a 5 hour drive for them). We found out after we moved out of vegas to a different state (about a month or two later) all DHs siblings took a trip to Vegas because their cousins daughter (who they never got together with to begin with except once a year around Thanksgiving) graduated high school and the parents were throwing a party for her. So is just a little dissapointing, but have learned to live with it. This year for Xmas I went out and bought cards for them all (hard to change old habits), but I never did send them.
It is very simple and you can do it either way (sm)
You can put the chicken in a dish with teriyaki sauce and cover and bake for probably 45 minutes or so, or you can do it on the stovetop and just add a little water now and then because the sauce will cook out, even covered. Either way, it is just important to make sure it is covered while cooking, that's what makes it good...but it is very simple :)
I think a card or something simple would be
appropriate. It is the thought that counts. I'm not talking a diamond ring or something! He just doesn't make much of any holidays. Yes, my kids are very young so they cannot do much themselves. One time he did take the kids for part of the day and let me relax.
This is just a simple wedding. Nothing more,
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Sounds simple enough - thanks everybody!
Simple advise...(sm)
Review all available material to you and go by what makes sense. I like to read and have recently started a study that will compare religions as well as athieism. As well, I think the huge contributor to all religions and non-religions is the state of being at the times of change. For example, when the Bible was put together, there seemingly were several books left out. Of particular interest to me is the book of Mary. My question there is why was it left out. At that time women did not have the ability to speak their minds as they do now. Is that why it was left out? If so, was there something important in there that all christians should know? If so, where does that leave christians now? Yep...there are tons and tons of questions, and I don't believe you will get all your answers out of just one source.
There are also questions about athieism, like where and how did everything begin? You can find a ton of sources about how things evolved, but not so much on where it began.
Read, look deeper than just the words, and trust your instincts.
Changeover is just as simple
Cable companies would like us all to believe that antenna TV will no longer work, but it will. You need a decent antenna and the digital conversion box and, voila, free TV.
Testing is simple
Very complicated subject, but if you are working midnights, sleeping days, or even evenings, you probably are not getting enough sun. The only real way to know is to undergo a 25-hydroxy vitamin D test. If you have insurance and your doctor will order the test, then it probably won't cost anything. If you want to know, have no insurance, and can use a lancet to poke your finger you can get an at-home test from the Vitamin D Council or GrassRoots Health and pay about $30 for the test. The provide the test, two lancets, postage and the test is very accurate. The first time I tested I ordered through my doctor's office and because I had no insurance it cost me $300 but I was severely deficient, a 7 on a range of normal from 32 to 100. Now after supplementation, I am 98. Start reading about deficiencies with the Vitamin D Council and go from there.
It was way more than 24 songs, but to keep it simple (sm)
that is all they decided to use in the case. I believe she was downloading the songs to a website where people pay to be a member and then can download songs. I don't think she was just downloading them to listen to at home, but think she was actually conducting a criminal activity, knowingly.
I saw that on Oprah...so simple yet powerful!...
Especially when that married couple were at a stand still and then watched The Secret. Now, they have passion again for each other and are so happy. Something as simple as being grateful for what you have, then better things will come. I want to check that movie out.
plain and simple, lack of God.
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then just a simple cleaning lady?
OK, I gotcha! I'm thinking about doing this myself...my hubby just got a hefty raise, so hopefully I can afford to pay someone to clean my house now!
I've BTDT and know it's not simple
Even the best DV organization/ shelter can't protect you when you leave them. It is very dangerous.
I just saw trying to leave while he was awake not really trying to leave. I apologize to the OP for not being compassionate.
YES!! Simple! People have to just get on with their life! Unless sm
you are living their life you have NO right to judge them. Amen, sister!! loved your post!!
it's simple Truth. Not complicated at all.
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I know this is much to simple, but he sounds bored (sm)
I agree with testing for autism, etc.
But bored children, no matter the age, upbringing, or intelligence will act out and 'find' something to do if they're bored.
My daughter was the 'perfect baby' until she turned about 18 months. She started misbehaving, not as bad as yours, but nothing like previously. None of the usual things really occupied her physically or mentally. So I started shopping for day care. Happy girl, believe it or not. The first day I picked her up around 3 p.m. and she told me I came too soon...
She needed the social stimulation, even at that young age. BTW, she is 21 now and still the same. Very outgoing and social, but smart and still a sponge for knowledge. She's in college and when she had winter, spring, and summer breaks, she is so relieved... for about 1 or 2 days. Then she starts counting the day until school starts again.
Anyyow, I digress, but sometimes you just have to listen to your kids and do what's best for them even if it tears you up inside.
In any case, you need some help. You are carrying way too much, but I admire you for your persistence in wanting to do what's best for your kids. Wish you the best :-)
Anyone have a SIMPLE recipe for hamburger BBQ. nm
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Just Answer The Simple Questions --
1. What treatment did your daughter receive?
2. Will/did she require plastic surgery?
3. You say you filed a police report, what was the police's resolution?
These are very simple questions. Yet, when asked in the posts below, you choose to ignore them. It's what makes people suspect that you are just in it for the money and that no real harm was done.
You first claimed that you just wanted them to pay your daughter's medical bills, that they shouldn't benefit from your insurance that you pay for. Yet, later, you state that the $800 would be for pain and suffering for your daughter (as your insurance has already paid it). Lastly, you state that $87 would be reimbursement for your medical bills and the rest would be pain and suffering for your daughter. Pain and suffering is not something one generally reimburses another for without a court to determine the extent one is due.
The only one suffering here is your conscience! Again, I say, answer the 3 questions above, or are you afraid of what it might reveal?
This is simple.. The election is coming up. sm
They are trying to make things look better than what they are to the average consumer. I will be more than shocked if the gas prices don't immediately start to increase once the election is over. My 2 cents only! :)
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