Well, 70s here in the south. Boys outside all day playing basketball sm
Posted By: mom of 3 on 2008-02-12
In Reply to: Surely I am not the only one - who is sick
haven't seen snow in years and would love a little reprieve from the HEAT!
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football or basketball pools
Get involved in a football or basketball pool with one of your friends. They generally meet in bars to pick teams, but then you meet some super nice guys (our age) and they love it when a woman loves sports. I am married but have met some great guys who I have introduced to my friends. Also, go to ball games in your town. Agree with the golf course, as well.
good for him - we non-AI, non-basketball fans exist....
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Yep, he plays basketball, paint ball, and wrestles.
Born in the south, raised in the south, still live here and WHAT?
I do not love fats and butter, never. South Georgia is about as southern as you can get. I do not want to clog my arteries and eat organic as much as I can. You cannot speak for everyone, only yourself.
I live in the south and here a few miles south of Atlanta
it is around 14 this morning. I had to go out but layered clothes, put on socks for a change, headgear and even gloves and have a really good coat with hood but fur on the inside so I was cozy. Supposedly even colder tomorrow.
$60 playing Bingo, would have been $120 - sm
but just as they were about to give me the money, someone shouted out Bingo; guess he was a bit slow to realize he had won, so the pot was split, disappointing but still fun. I also won a green malachite faced gold watch (not real gold, plate if that) in a contest; it had a first prize of a Corvette or $50K, and 100 2nd prizes of the watches (always wished my name had been picked first). I know there are 1 or 2 other things, but totally drawing a blank, nothing big whatever they were.
Had shingles before, do not think that is playing
a role and gosh I would hope it would be costochondritis. Funny to say that but when I pulled up some other things, much worse than I would care to hear was wrong. I have physical exam scheduled for a day next month but think I will just walk in either this Sunday or Monday and just wait to see someone. The pain is really unbearable. I took Tramadol for it but dulls a little but not all.
Was out with 3 yo grandson at 6:30 a.m. playing!!
Not really a snow lover myself anymore, but it sure was fun to watch his excitement. He even got old ski poles out of the barn and was skiing the imaginary slopes, swooosh! Of course mamaw had to be right there along with him!
Playing the game
1. I'm a HUGE flirt!
2. Can manage LOTS of money at my other job but can't seem to manage 3.00 in my own checking account {sigh}.
3. Would love to hop in an RV and travel the country!
He's playing you like a violin.
Drop him off at a shelter. End of story.
Doctors here are down playing it.
They are telling us it is no worse than any other flu you get. They also say the worst is over. However, my daughters Girl Scout trip they were supposed to take tomorrow still got cancelled as with a lot of UIL events.
Baby? That pic shows a kid playing with a See & Say!
If that kid is old enough to pull on the handle, then that kid is also old enough to drink from a sippy cup! Come on, people! Wake up! This lady could have easily bottled her breast milk instead of whipping it out (discreetly or not) on a plane full of people. Nothing like trapping a bunch of people on a plane and putting them in a very uncomfortable situation!
I breastfed my daughter until she started walking. After that, she went on a bottle, then to a sippy cup, then to a regular cup. She's 18 years old now and quite well adjusted.
And, we are not living in a third world country where kids up to 5 yrs old run up to their mother and just start suckin on a tit! This is America, where it's more cultured, where there are other options.
I remember a time when I was a kid at Disneyland and I saw a lady with her baby sitting on a bench. I wanted to see the baby and walked past just in time to see the woman whip out her tit for all to see. My mother was so enraged that she reported her and stood right next to the woman until security arrived and they told the lady that there were baby stations all around Disneyland where she could go to have privacy with her baby during feeding time. BTW, there are still baby stations with seating for mothers to breastfeed their babies.
No...worked it off playing my son's dang (sm)
My son just got the Nintendo Wii. If you're not familiar with this contraption, you actually go through the motions.
I played tennis and bowling all day long TG and I am SO sore!!! My right arm feels like it's about to fall off. Every time I reach for my mouse, I wince...
Yeah, been doing my fair share of grazing... will work it off at the mall lol ;-)
You are playing with fire and someone is going to get burned. sm
Infedility by any means is not moral and it is not right. Your husband has every right to be upset, as would I if my husband were doing the same. I'm not condemning you, I'm saying what I would tell anyone. In fact, my best friend brought a guy to the movies with us the other night and she is MARRIED. Needless to say, I was very upset and called her after the movie and told her I didn't think that was very cool.
I bet you 99% of the responders to this post will agree that what you are doing is not right.
It's just exciting and fun right now and not at all worth it in the end. If your husband finds out he may never respect or trust you ever again.
Also, what helps me if I ever, ever get an inkling to stray (which has happened once in our 10-year marriage), is to think about ALL my husband has been through with me and put up and has done for me (which is A LOT), and eventually the "other guy" just doesn't seem that appealing anymore. It actually made me cry when I began thinking of all my husband has done for me and my child (I was married once before we met).
Anyways, you have to stop it. Leading a double life weighs very heavy on your conscience. It's no fun. Not good for your health.
Oh, one more thing! Why is he single, if he is? He's probably a jerk. He ditched you once, right? If he's willing to hang on to you even though he knows you are married? He's not worth it, girl.
I was 7 or 8, playing Barbies with my friend.
I can't remember if we heard it on the radio, or if our parents were talking about it. I didn't have a clue at the time who Elvis was, but I knew that it was important.
You are so lucky to have a cat who enjoys playing!
 Mine is too old now to do much more than swat at the grim reaper every now and again. He's almost 16 now and he's getting kinda stinky. He always was a grump though. He'll come in here and park himself right on my mouse...I mean like direct butthole contact with the mouse, and when I try to shoo him away, he flattens his ears and hisses at me and growls. At least he's still doing that I suppose.
My docs seem to be playing catch-up. I see it as
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Been playing all my favs to get me in the mood, as if I had to. ##
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Nope......but I keep playing PowerBall!! nm
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Perhaps I'm playing devil's advocate or maybe I need a
But, I just don't get it.
If things are this dire and it sounds as if what you have posted about him is true, it sounds like you need to spend EVERY POSSIBLE MOMENT getting out of this situation to protect yourself but, most importantly, to protect your children.
What I don't understand is, if time is of the essence and you're taking all of these steps to extricate yourself and your children from this situation...
Why are you wasting precious time soliciting the opinions of virtual STRANGER on an internet forum, and wasting hours arguing with posters?
I dunno...I've never been in an abusive situation, but it seems to me soliciting advice and sympathy from strangers on the internet would be the LAST thing on my mind.
Best of luck to you. It's 2008. If you really want to get out of that situation, and get your children out of it, you can and will.
No, I wouldn't do that. Why playing cat and mouse?
It is your husband's duty to settle this in a way that the wife and the father are both content.
clarify please-u mean woman playing Mary.....sm
You do mean the person playing character of Mary in this movie got pregnant as a teen?
Welcome to the 21st Century, m'dear.........*lol* - not many couples are getting married today (although the gay community sure is trying to get married).....but the numbers are WAY down for hetero couples.........
in any event, it's just a flick/movie - what do you care about the actors/actresses who are playing the characters?
She's no woman, she IS 16 y/o. She is playing part of Mary
and she got pregnant by her 19 y/o boyfriend.
sounds like you guys are playing a game,
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spent NYE playing Rock Band for PS2
a lot of fun though discovered I'm never going to be a drummer (or a singer) :) So I guess I won't quit my day job.
Turning on floodlites and playing ball in yard with
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And this is also possible - even just 15 minutes of focused time playing a game when he first gets u
anything like that. I really believe he is either sick or he just wants a little one-on-one time with you.
Spent 2 hours with my kids playing that today - fun! nm
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Ha! me too (petticoat veils), and a towel for playing Nuns! NM
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I meant playing peek-a-boo with the flight attendant..c'mon now.
Just a joke. This kid was too big and she refused a blanket. I have nothing against people breastfeeding infants in public, discreetly. However, for toddlers, I say bottle it, please.
I say silver. Will they be playing music by Deep Purple at the wedding? lol
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Don't use alcohol. Fumes are no good. Just playing in a coolish bath while
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Anyone out there with a college kid on a full scholarship, out of state, not playing sports???sm
If so, how did they get the scholarship/scholarships to go out of state? My junior wants to go out of state and I've told her that she has to find the money to go, especially since our state has a lottery paid college education program that pays tuition and some of the books/fees as long as a student keeps their grades at a B-average or higher. She is thinking about studying broadcasting. She has no special talents and doesn't do volunteer work or participate in anything but drama club...nothing to make her especially shine. She is an A/B student. We don't have the money for out of state tuition and even covering just the expenses that in-state lottery funded fees will be difficult but do-able if we can get her excited about one of the many state schools available.
Anyone have their child figure out how to do this?
One year really punk rock station starting playing Barry SM
Manilow, Sammy Davis Jr., The Carpenters and goodness knows who else. I never listened to that station, except for that day, only to hear stoners waking up at 2 pm and calling the station asking what was going on.
Definitely boys for me.
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23 and 24 with my boys...sm
I used to be able to climb trees and did the iron kids triathelon with them....
My sister had her child at 42....the only girl outta 7 grandchildren....guess who's grandma's princess? 
oh boys
will be boys!
boys
My son is 15 and I cannot tell you how many interviews and interrogations we have had to go through. Every time he has been on a date the parents want to meet us and see our house, etc. I has been a flipping nightmare, especially since these little flings last about a week and are over after the dance! In my humble opinion, find her something else to do. That is what I have had to do with my son. I just can't take the pain anymore. Join some super busy, mega overly scheduled adult supervised something! Shoo, shoo, mama is working!
I don't think so. I have 2 boys. They have
proven that circumcision can be beneficial for several reasons, not to mention it is more hygienic. I was conflicted with my first son because my OB/GYN was against it. She was African-American and I don't know if it was a cultural thing or what. She did do my son, but she didn't take enough off, it wasn't her decision to make. My second son I didn't hesitate.
My mom said that at 8 days she took my brothers to be circumcised - based on the Bible.
I can't see how it would be called abuse. I think it is personal choice. I can't tell you how many reports I've done on men over 50 who have had problems and have had to be circumcised.
Two boys
I have 2 boys; 24 and 19. The older one moved away to college, the school dropped his program after 2 years, so he floundered and moved back home. After 6 months told him get a job, pay his bills, go to school or get out. He went to work FT and paid all his own bills, moved out for a few months with some guys (who did not pay their share of the rent) and then moved back home, went back to college, has made the honor roll for the last year while working, just started in 2009 charging him room and board as he is after all 24. Other son 19, almost lost him to bad decisions and bad friends at 14-15 but is on the right track now; in college and working PT, pays his bills. He goes to the community college, looking into a 2+2 program, told him to go away for the last 2 years as he will get the experience of being on his own without being totally on his own. He has a serious girlfriend. I am more worried about those 2 getting an apartment together first and then him not finishing school. Older son is working on buying a house within 18 months and younger son will live with him (if not with girlfriend first.) I have to say I'm looking forward to an empty nest.
While I don't have boys but -sm
two young girls, 9 and 10, for years I would cover for my DH, get the card, mail it to his mom, make him call her on Mother's Day (remind him 50x)....For years when my kids were babies I would get nothing from him, because as he would say, I was not his mother. Well what about those two squirmy kids of ours, I am their mother. I told him he needed to help them and get a card from them to give to me, or help them make me a card, whatever that did not matter. (I have always made sure he got something from the kids on Father's day). The kids have been able to be the ones to remind him now for the last few years about special days, Mother's Day and my birthday which is great. I don't want much, just a card and Happy B or Mom day, just acknowledgement basically. He had some sort of epiphany a year or two ago and now sends his mom flowers every Mom Day and at Christmas, think this was the 3rd one in a row(guilt and belief they are dying coming to bear now, MIL is 74 but doing quite well), still did not send her a card though, figured the card with the flowers was enough. I made him go out an buy the card (instead of me coving his butt as usual). We all signed it and he mailed it. I never missed with my mom and did something every year until she died. She kept ever one of my cards too, found them after she died. ---I would still send your son a card on his birthday but leave the money out, betcha that will grab his attention. ----My DH doesn't remember anyone's birthday, he forgot mine a few times which stunk. I take care of getting the cards, mailing them, etc., though refuse to do Mom day anymore, I still have to nag at him to call his mom, dad on their birthdays, etc. Some guys are just lazy and don't want to be bothered with it.
Two boys.
I have 2 boys and enjoy them immensely. The oldest drives me nuts with some of the decisions he makes. He is funny, easy going, lots of friends and just doesn't take life too seriously.
My youngest is 17. He is very smart, has big plans for college and career (he says, you don't have to understand what it is mom, you just have to pay for it). My regret is that I wish I'd had more kids. I would take a whole house full of boys. So much fun!!
I raised 2 boys on my own.
Maybe some of these techniques that assisted me can do the same for you:
1) Literally write down a list of rules that you want observed in your home. Not what you think you can get him to do but what you actually WANT. Make copies for his bedroom, for the refrigerator, for his billfold, for every room you can. (I printed mine off and framed them in certificate frames and hung them up. Be specific. Cover all areas.)
2) Literally write down behaviors and language you are not going to tolerate and rank them.
2) Literally write down a list of everything that is important to this youngster. Include friends (by name), electronics (iPod, computer, etc.), privileges (telephone, friends coming over, going out, driving), and places he enjoys going (movies, sports events, eating establishments, etc.). Rank these in order of importance to him.
3) If possible, have your husband (separated, correct?) to meet with you first and agree and provide a united front. Agree on what you expect of him as his parents, what is best for his wellbeing. Write down how you will construct discipline and dispense punishment. Make it appropriate, reasonable and, above all, something you will actually do.
5) Have a meeting with your son (and your husband, if he is onboard with you). Give your son a copy of the new rules, the discipline tactics, the unacceptable behaviors and the punishments. Go over each one of them. Don't argue. Don't explain too much. The lists are clear. Everything has a yes/no as to its use and everything has an if with it as well.
Here's the hardest part: Do what you say. If his language is offensive, he can't talk on the phone. Period. No exceptions, period. Even if you have to unplug it and keep the cord in your pocket. Never argue; never raise your voice. Just calmly make your statement and leave it alone. The more he carries on, the more trouble he will incur. Let him handle the stress of it. If you protect him from the consequences of his actions, he will never, ever change and never learn. (Warning: His behavior WILL get worse before it gets better and then it will wax/wane on occasion just to test the waters.)
Stay with him after school in his tutoring. I showed at school one day in high school for my oldest. One day for 2 classes and that was all it ever took. Made the difference with my youngest, too! Neither one wanted me showing up and sitting next to him in class! Be there but let the teacher do the tutoring. Just be there to enforce his attendance and understand what is happening in the sessions.
Praise good/changed behavior but do not reward it. If it is behavior you are wanting to be an expected behavior, praise it, acknowledge it. Reward exceptional behavior that goes beyond what you have set rules for.
Make sure he is involved in his own caretaking: Laundry, specific chores (no pay -- no ma'am, do not pay any child to contribute to their household), help cook one night a week, yard work, etc.
Be watchful of his music, TV watching, movie going. These can have just as devastating of an impact on him as his so-called friends. Make sure you know who his friends' parents are, what they do; do you agree with how they live? How these friends act? If not, restrict his activities with them.
Get him involved in some type of sport he enjoys and into a youth group if at all possible. It is important.
I hope these tips will help you as much as they did me.
my boys are warriors
Both have been deployed at one time or another to Iraq. One is there now. The other boy told me that he had gone to the funeral of one of his brave friends who had been killed. Those horrible people were there from Kansas, but the Harley people were there also, 200 to 300 of them, each holding a flag, protecting the family of the soldier from the disgusting behavior of that supposed church. Made chills go up and down my spine. Can you imagine that many flags in one place being used to protect a family! GO HARLEY WARRIORS!
boys or girl
I have 2 of each (yes 4 in all) and I would defitenly say boys right now. My kids are still young so may be my mind will change with age!
huh? boys much easier? NOT...NM
Boys do go through stages.
On the other hand, depression can come out as anger.
I think mothers are supposed to help their kids understand their feelings and talk to them, but it can be difficult to get boys to express themselves.
It's think it's a normal stage to go through for boys to just be annoyed by girls because girls are so talkative and different, sometimes dating-obsessed or gossip-obsessed or whatever, and for a boy it's annoying.
Maybe he doesn't enjoy competing with a girl who is older.
I think he would rather spend time with boys right now, but boys need something to do together so they stay out of trouble.
But he needs to realize that he doesn't really hate girls. He just doesn't enjoy the different developmental stages they go through. And your daughter might benefit from knowing how males' brains work - that guys don't admire girls who are obsessed about stuff they think is silly.
Just some thoughts. Parenting is hard, but respect for siblings should be taught, and some space from each other can go a long way.
That's for sure and something I hear over and over. Boys
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To me it always seems to be harder on the boys (sm)
My husband are like that - oil and water for sure. We just can hardly stand to live together anymore. We have been trying to stay together for the kids for years.
How did affect you and your sister?? Would it have been better if they had stayed together or was it just a bad situation either way? I feel like I am choosing the lesser of the evils.
My boys had to pay me twice as much as their tickets sm
If the ticket was 50.00, they had to pay me 100.00, too. No ifs, ands or buts. Didn't have to take away the keys. This worked every time. They are all good drivers now. None of the speed.
The first of my new boys has arrived. (sm)
Introducing Teddy! He's a Schipperke mix, only about 20 lb. He has a tail, which is very cute and curled, but he's hiding it. I'm new at photographing black dogs, but I think it turned out okay for a first try. He's already had a bath and flea treatment with Frontline Plus, because we're in the South and he had fleas.
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