We were next door neighbors at an apartment complex.
Posted By: Didn't care much for him at first on 2008-04-08
In Reply to: Ladies how did you meet your hubby? - Sara
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Dear Next Door Burn other neighbors down also
You should not have a fire blazing out of control- we have woods right behind us that basically connect. Oh, I was the one who called the fire department on your blaze. Against the rules here in the community and the city as far as that is concerned. Talk about loonies- maybe that is why I do not talk with you.
why do people go door to door to talk about their religion?
arent they settitng themselves up for confrontatoin?
We normally do have the door locked but the garage door was open...
and my husband did ask them to call first and they still didn't listen...they never do...I think they think they don't have to call...
Door to door sock salesman
Okay, so yesterday a little old man shows up at my door. Now let me say that I do not live in a neighborhood, really. I live on a major highway so you actually have to drive into my driveway and you can't really get to the next house without getting back in your car and driving there.
So I open the door and there's this little old man there with pairs of socks in large ziplock bags. He says:
"I'm raising money for a cancer operation to get cancer out of my stomach and I want you to buy these two bags of socks."
I say, "I'm sorry, I don't have any cash in the house, but good luck."
"How can you not have any cash in the house?"
"We use credit cards."
"You can't just use credit cards. Doesn't your husband live with you?"
"He's at work. Good luck, have a nice day."
"Well when he gets home he should have cash on him."
"Nope sorry, we're not interested. Have a good day."
I closed the door and he left.
Odd....very odd. But here's where it gets even more odd.
Today he showed up AGAIN. Only this time he didn't come to the door. He sat in his car in my driveway and beeped his horn. My mail lady does this when we have a package so I opened the door to go out, thinking it was her. The dog scooted out and while I was trying to get him back in I realized it was this man again......BEEPING for me to come to his car to sell the socks, I guess. I was so mad that my dog got loose I looked at him and yelled "WHAT DO YOU WANT??? I don't need any socks today!!!" Picked up the dog and went back in the house and slammed the door. He didn't get a word in edgewise. I'm hoping he won't be back.....I was down right RUDE to this man. I never speak to anyone that way. Hopefully he won't be back. Steve is concerned that he showed up a second time and even more concerned that he wanted me to go to his car this time. He wants me to get a plate number if this man comes back.
vitamin B complex (nm)
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Thank you to all; I have a teen here in my complex who wants to do it.
Thank you.
I met my husband at the appartment complex we lived in.
I thought he was cute but was too shy to do anything about it so a neighbor put a few good words in for me and he came over to my appartment, we talked for a while and then he asked me out for a date.
Maybe get involved in community activities, take courses you are interested in or just do like I did, keep your eyes opened.
I rent also and live in a huge complex
They hired someone to do the vinyl and afterwards they were installing the new doorbells. Well, they could not figure them out and while I was working the doorbell was ringing constantly! I went down there and started to explain to them and they could not understand me, not a word. I then called the company myself (got the name off the truck) and threatened to call immigration and explained that if these people passed the citizenship test surely they'd know a couple of words of English. Within an hour they were gone and have not been back. It was funny watching them hightail it out of here from my window :) LOL
You guys are gonna give me a complex!
That is so incredibly sweet of you all to worry about me like this! I am truly just fine. Since I "quit" my job a couple of weeks ago (which I reneged on anyway because I'm a complete tool), I've been working almost nonstop. Tonight marks the first "weekend" I have had off since that time...oh what, 4 weeks now? And let me tell you, I am totally fried.
However, this is a good thing. I got off that darned pager and will now start work on a regular schedule. I can feel the stress melt away already...well, job related stress anyway.
I had to hit the grocery store last night, something I haven't done in about 2 weeks, and I nearly vomited. Last time I left the property gas was well, diesel is what I use, was a whopping $2.99. It is now up to $3.35/gallon! A gallon of 2% milk is $4.69. Bread is $3.14/loaf for the crappy stuff and orange juice is just a tad over $3.00/half gallon. I got 4 bags of absolute bare necessities at the grocery store and it cost $70!! Holy crap! No red meat (well, weeners), no fish, no dairy. How on earth do people with families do it?!
This will be the first winter we have no oil in the tank for home heat, as that is also almost $3/gallon! However, I think we have enough firewood. Scary times my friends and I'm really worried about our fellow Mainers. We have a lot of elderly here in Maine who are really struggling on a good day, never mind the challenges of our winters. There used to be a heating program that would provide reduced-cost fuel...not this year. Reserves are empty in the whole state. Sad and frustrating situation for many, many people and I don't wanna point fingers or nuthin, but the only ones who aren't suffering or seem to have a clue tend work out of D.C., know what I'm sayin?
So, yeah, that's my overdue rant I guess. Thank you again for all who have e-mailed and posted here. I appreciate it more than you will ever know. Once I have things caught up around here, I will sit down and say hello one-on-one. Take care of each other. Rough times are afoot.
Lord NO, 28-Yo has own apartment
anger isn't all the time but when it comes up it is very uncomfortable for those around....my husband is the type that doesn't believe in counseling, he thinks they jut want your money and of course he hates Dr. Phil!!! Really he doesn't like to talk about his feelings..
Apartment ... okay ... job, stupid
I can see why apartment managers would care, but an employee is not going to have to pay his boss, so it's unfair to use credit against a potential employee.
People end up with credit issues for a variety of reasons and it's not a fair assumption that they will not perform in their jobs.
So many ways people struggling financially get pushed further down ... savings gets below a certain amount - the bank charges a fee; a person misses a payment or pays a little late - another fee, etc.
I can see if someone is just not paying, but when people are in hard times, it's not fair they can push you further down!
Obama said last night on Jay Leno he is going to do something about the credit card companies ability to charge ridiculous fees, so that's a start at least.
I have also known people trying to make their way off welfare, but everytime they earned a little extra, they were shorted funds from their welfare and could never save to get out of the hole.
Our government and society surely needs an overhaul!
I wish your son all the luck, as he, and all of us needs it!!
renting an apartment
 What to you think of the idea that landlords should lower the rent money?
House or apartment? When my child was 8, got 1
What was once a really cute little bunny...within 3 months grew up to be a HUGE rabbit - and the litter box was far worse than a cat using the litter box for #1. It got to be too much for apartment/condo living and so we gave it to Pet Supermarket for their weekly Sunday sales and/or giveaways but given to Pet Supermarket as a donation. We then went to cats only for condo living. Hope you have a house. 
Last week one of the gardners at my apartment - sm
complex (aka 'Leaf-blower Nazis') - actually stole my tiny little hummingbird feeder! It was a little globe with a red flower on it, mounted on a stake in the ground. They were removing old plants outside my bedroom window for the winter, and I saw they had knocked over the feeder. By the time I had put on my jeans and shoes and gone outside to refill it, (about 3 min. later!) it was already gone. I can replace if of course, but it was a gift from my best friend, so had sentimental value.
I HATE dishonest people!
I once came home at night to an apartment -
I used to live in, to find the front door was WIDE OPEN. (Thank goodness I didn't have any cats at the time!) I woke up the building mgr. and made him go in there with me. Turns out, while I was at work the complex's UNhandy-man had come to fix a gaping hole that had been in the bathroom ceiling for 6 months (after he'd "fixed" the leak in the upstairs shower pipes that was rotting the ceiling and causing mold to grow. It was right over the shower, so when bathing I'd have to stand right under this giant hole with cold drafts & spiders coming out of it.) Anyway, 6 months later, out of the blue he decides to come back & finish the job, so I got no 24-hour notice, and he not only left the front door wide open, he left the bathroom window wie open so the paint would dry faster. Amazingly, nothing was missing from my apartment. Another time, their gardners (who did nothing but blow leaves from one side of the complex to the other with a noisy leaf-blower) stole a couple bird-feeders I had outside my bedroom window. I'm glad I don't live there anymore!
No tree at all; apartment's too small! - (see mssg!)
(Hmmm... maybe I could......)
Hang mistletoe over, or from the PC?
Or some bright-colored lights on the kitty-cat tree?
Or dress up the rabbit-ears on my TVs,
With tinsel that shimmers and blows in the breeze?
Yeah... that sounds quite festive; it's what I will do.
And it just might improve my reception, too!
Hydroponics is an answer for apartment dwellers.
Can grow up to six different vegetables on your kitchen counter. 
I've never lived in an apartment building that
even ALLOWED smoking, and that was 15 years ago!
Maybe she's thinking of large apartment complexes??
I would think it would be a lot harder to stop people from smoking in those types of apartments when there are maybe hundreds of apartments in a lot of different buildings like they have in big cities. I can understand not smoking in a one or two family home type apartment.
I wish I had more neighbors like you!...sm
You obviously have a good heart and good intentions. I'm also a sort of paranoid person but not to things like that. Every year, I mail Christmas cards to our families and only get a few. DH's family doesn't ever send out cards. I always say I'm done doing cards, but then what would that prove? That is me and I won't change me. I want my kids to grow up and do the same. Don't change. And I also believe in karma!
Neighbors
Unfortunately, this seems to be the way these days. I moved into my house 10 years ago and the people around me were older and very friendly, everyone knew everyone and people helped each other. All we had to do was ask. Now, most of the people around me have moved out and new younger neighbors have moved in. Nobody speaks to anybody else except to complain about something, and I have found that they would much rather complain than do something to correct the problems. I have tried to put together a neighborhood watch based on people telling me they would be interested... only to have nobody call to confirm they would be coming after I made an appointment.
What I would do is give more to the people or organizations who you KNOW appreciate what you do for them, and just not worry about the rest. You are not a bad neighbor, we are just few and far between these days. Things are definitely not like they used to be, too much is happening and people are cautious. I would not waste a minute being depressed over this, they sure are not worrying about you! I thought the reason people decorated their houses was for it to look nice, you are just appreciating what they did and saying so. Nothing wrong that I can see.
Hope you feel better soon, and I sincerely appreciate what you do with your donations to the animal rescuers.
My neighbors do that too!! LOL (nm)
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my neighbors are all
anal retentive fuss-buttons. I guess it could be worse, they could be a bunch of messy, dirty people. They're not very friendly though. They're all older and retired, and we're younger and still work, so I feel they don't respect us.
How are your neighbors
Well it started off to be a wonderful day. I made myself a cup of coffee, grabbed a new book I wanted to start reading, and just wanted to sit on my back porch and relax in the morning breeze and listen to the birds, but 5 minutes later it just went downhill. Problem is my neighbors have now decided to play music quite loud. It wasn't loud enough that you would call the police over, but they opened their back window and their back window is right next to my back porch (which is the only area in the house to be able to sit out at. So forget about reading and the peace and quiet. Came inside and the neighbors on the other side decided to mow their law, and then neighbors next to them are hedge trimming. So, now im on the puter looking up other places to live that are a little more in the country where neighbors are not so close (right now if I was to talk to one neighbor the other 4 neighors on all sides of me would hear the conversation. I grew up in the country where the closest neighbor was my grandparents and it took us 5 minutes to walk to their house - so I really really really miss the peace and quiet.
Wanted to know what other people think of their neighbors and if they get equally uptight when their neighbors place loud music (and its not like classical or smooth jazz or anything - it's party music, lots of bass and drums and chipmunk voices singing). Oh yes we have another neighbor who decides to mow his lawn between 8:30 and 9 pm, and the other neighbor across the street (we call him Mike the Mechanic) has opened a car repair thingy at his house (but no business signs) and he's rebuilding engines, sodering, banging and clunking with people showing up at 10 pm and later and they'll be out talking and working on cars. Drives us nuts! And on top of that school is not even out yet and there are lots of neighborhood kids that scream and play on the weekends (some are funny and a delight to watch, and some are obnoxious), so know once summer vacation hits it will be worse (we moved in last September so we don't know what the summers are like yet).
Is anyone else like us and does anyone think there is any place in America that you can get some peace and quiet from all the noise.
My neighbors
and I have talked to her quite a bit. Her husband is also out of town most of the time so she is on her own. She has home schooled 3 kids total. I believe she is down to 1 now. From what she has told me the biggest thing is to have a strict schedule, just like the children would at public school. They still have to wake up early mornings and keep school hours. They don't get to take random days off because they just don't want to do school now or something else comes up. SHe also kept an area of the home for "school" with desks for more structure and privacy. She also said when her husband is home he enforces the homework to give her a break. She has also said there are a lot of home schooling websites and organizations out there. She does field trips and everything like normal school would. Apparentnly they are easily found online. Hope that helps but sorry I can't say from experience.
Let me tell you about my old neighbors..
Sorry it's long.... We live in a nice quiet subdivision in Central Florida, lots of kids, big parks, nice people, have lived here 22 years and most of neighbors here for 15+ years...well used to be. My best friend/cousin is Deputy Police Chief of city so stops in regularly. My neighbors across the street moved in 2-1/2 years ago, drove a Cadillac Escalade, worked at Wal-Mart. Got to know them a bit. Found out they bought their house for cash because the father won a few hundred thousand in the the lottery. FOund out they did drugs and kept my distance. Hubby lost job so they got a new hobby, breeding pit bulls. Nothing like seeing a yard full of pit bulls every few months. Animal control put a stop to that as did the owner of the female pit bull dog, whose dog they stole to breed.
Last year in January traded Cadillac in for brand new mustang which someone crashed into a wall 3 weeks later, had no insurance on it and that was their downfall from there. Totaled mustang stayed in front yard up on blocks for 6 months or more before they sold it for 2000. COde enforcement came and went with them.
They like to drink A LOT and play rap music..boom boom boom until 3, 4, sometimes 5 in the morning. Wife doesnt work or does work until she quits, gets fired. Convicted of welfare fraud, found this out by searching for convicted felons/child abusers/sex predators in my neighborhood one day. The couple like to fight daily, police called constantly. They also liked to do drugs and soon a family of 2 adults 3 kids turned into tons of people hanging out daily and/or moving in. It was really nice to see another person moving in to their house walking on the sidewalk towards their house carrying their garbage bag full of clothes/stuff. Rap music started playing loudly from 10 a.m. on, cars stopping in their driveway and driving off as fast as they stopped. Cops now becoming aware of what is going and watching the drug dealers. A few busted, sent to jail but out of jail as fast as they go in.
The week before last Thanksgiving their electric was turned off because they were caught stealing it and then the water soon followed. Both companies had to put locks on it because they kept trying to turn them back on. They kept stealing our water, we think. Somehow our hoses outside would get turned on at night and we would find them on in the morning. After 2-3 weeks with no electric I called child neglect hotline as I think it is neglect, turns out it is not but the state gives them a generator that they run for 12 hours a day. Love the sound a generator makes but a lot less aggravating than rap music.End of March, one of their great new roomies was arrested for murder but we all know he didnt do it, he was framed, he's a good boy, he wouldnt do that (what every person says when arrested for a serious crime)
Then May 5, 2008, the greatest day EVER. They had to move out. It's never nice to see a house foreclosed on but for once I was so happy to see a family go along with their hanger ons. Their customers, I mean friends keep stopping when I am outside asking me where Kevin went. I tell them to try the local jail.
Your mom's neighbors should not have...sm
dogs if they can't have a fenced in yard to keep them in their yard. Nobody wants someone elses dogs coming over making messes in the thrash and trying to bite and going to the bathroom in their yard. Dog owners should be responsible but not all are.
Are we neighbors?
Mine gives away stuff too, her husband doesn't know, and now that they are retiring their credit card debt is a big problem.
Maybe that is the reason for my neighbors
still having their lights on the house, and ON.
that would be right - if neighbors esp are Russian
We had new neighbors move in who
had a similar theory about what was acceptable.
They had a habit walking into their neighbors houses without knocking. My parents were too polite to say anything, so they were clueless that they found it appalling. We didn't normally lock the doors when we were home, but to keep them out, we kids started locking them when everybody was inside, just to befuddle the barging-in neighbors. One time my dad had been working in the yard, and he was doing his usual change out of his work pants at the back door. He had privacy because he would announce he was changing, and close the door at the top of the stairs so that he had closed doors on 3 sides (door to garage, closed back door, closed door into rest of house, and open doorway into the unfinished basement. The clueless new neighborgirl decided to have a visit, came thru the open (big) garage door and opened the door into the house, where my dad stood, crouching with pants around his ankles. Oh the bellow that came out of him!
That new neighborgirl did drop by and barge in quite so often after that ...
anyone have trouble with their neighbors...????
beginning to wonder if there could be anything worse to have to put up with. I have been dealing badly with these people for almost 2 years now and am in the process of remodling to sell out and find a better spot to live. my neighbor is going down hill quick. what used to be the all american suburb, has turned into trash neighbors...sorry had to vent!!!!
No, I just said I feel sorry for your neighbors.
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Thanking god for my neighbors.
I got lucky when I bought my house about four years ago and am surrounded by home owners. Many of our houses are duplexes or duplexes converted into single dwellings (like mine). We had one bad group down the street on the corner (the landlord lived next door) and they were almost impossible to get out he spent gobs of money to get them out and in the mean time they trashed his property. The neighbors all kicked in to help him repair. This time he checked all the references and made sure none were bogus it took an extra month of the property being empty but he has had no problems with them and they are extending their lease and other than that home there is only one other house that rents and the owner (a sherriff) lives on one side and rents the other. My suggestion is try to move into a neighborhood that has very limited or restricts renting.
VEGETATION AND NEIGHBORS
Hi: Do you know them? If you do, have you said anything? If you haven't then assure them that you "don't mind" if they come on your land to cut back their vine. If this is not a possibility, then get some of that vegetation killer and put it on the vines on your side. I think some of them even will go back to the root, so maybe it will kill the vine on their side too. That might not be all bad for you. So, when it is all gone on your side, re-landscape your areas and dig down with one of those sprinkler shovels (the ones that cut and look like a pancake turner straightened out) and put a barrier, like chicken wire or something more solid. I think they hve plastic things for that at Home Depot. I guess it wouldn't help your lawn if the roots are all in it,, but maybe you could cut and roll it back and put in some Zoysia grass if it is legal in your area or another grass lawn. I have a trumpet vine I have been nursing along for 4 years and the weather is so bad here that it is still a tiny thing. Maybe I should pull it out?
yep, friendly with ALL my neighbors
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Are you sure you aren't one of my neighbors?
Sure do have the same attitude. Have a good day!
Friendly with all the neighbors except
for the ones directly across the street - they are loud, obnoxious, lazy and don't know the meaning of the word neighbor and are raising their 2 kids to be the same.
Personally, I have neighbors who are sm
teachers. The rule in the high school here is that Cell Phones are to be turned off while the students are in the classroom. If it rings, it is confiscated. I totally agree with that rule. School is for learning, not text messaging, etc. However, in case of an emergency, of course, they should have the ability to dial out in an EMERGENCY situation.
How many neighbors could you borrow something from?
If you're baking a cake and run out of sugar or an egg or something similar.
I've got three.
Is it because of the neighbors in general
or just that you don't want to impose on anyone? I have 3 that I can borrow from and have. My very best friend who lived across the street up until last year was someone I always went to and vice versa. We could borrow anything from each other and I mean anything. We joke with each other all the time now when I need to borrow something really crazy that I wish she was still here because if I asked the others, they'd think I was nuts.
Neighbors want tax breaks because
they say this purple house is bringing down property values of their own homes.
PS: I think the neighbors have a problem with a
People I know who've relocated from Calif. to Washington (or Oregon) felt they had to change their car's license plates on crossing the state line, in order to avoid persecution. Usually folks tend to blame Calif. for their property values (and TAXES) going UP.
please do not let the door hit you on your bum
Right next door,
Henry, close to Eagles Landing - we can visit....
My parents have horrible neighbors.
They are nice people, but their three daughters are always dressed in dirty clothes. You will often see one of the girls out in the yard with no clothes on and they are old enough they should have clothes on. There back yard is totally trashed. They have junk thrown everywhere and the kids are out there playing in the junk with dirty or no clothes on. They have several dogs that they can't keep pinned in and we often find them in my parent's yard taking a dump or just walking around. They had two goats and when my dad caught one in my mom's garden, he shot it with a BB gun. They had two ponies in their back yard, which isn't big enough for one pony let alone two, and the one pony had what looked like a old tuna can stuck to its hoof. They never mow the front yard. They have junk all over the front of the house. I don't even want to think about what the inside of the house looks like. Their dogs come over and my mom has tripped and fallen over them as she suffers from MS and her balance is not good. Both the parents have dark long brown hair and if you see them from the back, the only way to tell them apart is by their tattoos. My mom has called the humane society about the animals several times. Nothing has been done. I told my mom to start shooting animals at random as they enter her yard. LOL!
that is sort of the way we started off with our neighbors...
but, then we started to see the real THEM!!!!!, time after time after time...thats why that saying that dr. Phil uses is so true "good fences make good neighbors". we should have never started associated with them in the beginning. up until then i had never even allowed my children to play in the front....I should have kept to me rules.
She may be lucky, but I feel sorry for her neighbors.
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No, not really dense, she said felt sorry for my neighbors. the ones who
are nice, quiet, have a sense of wanting to live in a nice community, wanting to have something in life. So, now my deah, DUH to you because she said she felt sorry for the neighbors and the above fits mine to a T. I guess you can take some people out of the country but you will never take the country out of some people. Read again, she is sorry for having nice neighbors such as the doctors, lawyers, judges and the like where I live. Yeh, makes a lot of sense to me. NOT.
my neighbors waiting for snow outside
with a flashligh in North Carolina!!
Should add, these neighbors are not nice at all! I am afraid of what sm
they will do to me and my family if I tell them what I did. I'm just being completely honest with you.
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