We waited 10 weeks, until 1st doctor appointment 9sm)
Posted By: LS on 2006-10-19
In Reply to: Moms - how long did you wait to tell people you were pregnant? - inquiring mind
We just weren't comfortable telling anyone right away. Wanted to be sure everything was ok and had "stuck." I'm a very private person and would not want to have to deal with people knowing if something had gone wrong - I'm not really one for all the pity and tiptoing around you that people do after the loss of a pregnancy. Plus, once you tell it's all anyone wants to talk about!
I had someone tell me once that she was PG even before she told her husband. She miscarried two days later, then was calling me to tell me not to tell anyone and wondering if she should tell her husband after the fact. I was uncomfortable.
Having said that, if you feel so inclined, go ahead and share your joy! Congrats!
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Doctor's appointment soon
I have a doctor's appointment in the middle of June. I'm going to try to deal with this until then. I tried looking up anxiety on the internet but they way they describe it didn't seem to fit. I hate asking for another pill to take. I have way too many now. But, if it takes away this feeling, I'll do about anything. Thanks.
I waited about 7 months.
I wish I had done it sooner. I couldn't eat anything without getting sick by the time I gave in.
Yes, it's fun. I waited until I had a little gray,
and after my niece started going brunette from her dark blond, and it looked pretty good. My natural shade is a dark greenish brown, and my skin looks better with just a hint of red in a dark brown. It changes with time, but just looks more natural over time, since it gets closer to the color of the roots growing in. My picky older sister thinkgs it looks good, and even my hairdresser likes it.
I think we have all waited too late
to take our money out of the market. We probably should have made the move a year ago. I don't know what to tell you to do. I guess it would depend on the amount of interest you would have to pay on the loan. I think it will be several years before the market recovers.
How about the answer...think we have waited long enough. nm
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Lady, you have got to get a life! Seriously! You probably waited
all day for a response like this just to justify your hate and meanness. You need serious, serious help. I am not kidding!
Another thing, my parents waited until we were older
and it was awful. Your kids know when you're arguing and feel the tension. It makes for a very unhappy home life. It was almost a relief when my parents finally separated and divorced. Life seemed so much more peaceful.
You've waited at least 5 years too long already.
Your boyfriend has the best of both worlds and has no reason to marry you. If you stay with this person out of "love" I guarantee you will look back on your life one day with deep regret.
More concerning is that you say the other man is able to take care of you. Is that what you're looking for, someone to take care of you? You can't expect another person to make you happy or to validate your worth; it can only come from you.
I think your biggest issue is lack of self-esteem, and if you learn to love yourself the question about your relationship will answer itself.
I wouldn'tve waited 4 years - it would take me all of 4 min.
The next morning I'd be in town speaking to a lawyer about a divorce, and picking up a restraining order at the local P.D. on the way home. And maybe a pitbull with a long biting-history at the local SPCA.
And that would just be for STARTERS, before I got REALLY angry.
I have a vet appointment
tomorrow. I talked to them on the phone and they told me now that it sounds like a tape worm. I hope they can figure it out soon, I hate to see her suffering with a belly ache. She also looks like she's losing a little weight. She's still playing and running around and drinking though.
I did buy a cook book for dogs over this past weekend, but I'm a little hesitant to start this. I'm just afraid that the dogs won't get the proper nutrients. Anyone else cook for their dogs?
CJ had a followup appointment
He is doing decently well. Got up and voided for DH at 5:00 a.m., then got himself up as I was preparing the car to take him for his recheck. This time I remembered to put in the 9-inch thick orthopedic mattress. Can't believe I forgot that for his postop ride home! They got more air out and lapped up some special food they brought him that smelled like cat food. So I brought some of that home and his appetite did kick in - yay! He's also appreciating having the water and food bowls up on the feeding riser, so it's nice we have all this stuff already in place.
We are giving Sasha lots of loving too so she doesn't get too worried and depressed.
Thank you all for caring. I have an appointment on
Thursday to see a Christian psychologist at a local church. I have been thinking of attending this church for some time, and when I have my appointment it might be a foot in the door so to speak. Thank you again for your kind words. My post was just another way of reaching out. When I get terribly depressed I tend to internalize everything and avoid people. I really need to sit down with someone and just unload. I think this is a step in the right direction.
Congrats on that appointment! sm
A lot of people are returning to church. I was too "busy" for years and got away from it and feel it at the holidays. My views of the right/wrong religion have changed a great deal over the years. I no longer believe there should be huge "differences" in churches and ? being loyal to just one. I am "searching" as well because my kids have married people from other faiths and I feel they are "pulled" as to where to go, and that should not be. I'm happy you are thinking of returning and faith is so important these days. You have inspired me to get off my butt as well and get back to church (and I am not going to give up until I get back there.) It can be very depressing because it does haunt one on the holidays (at least me anyway). I can't imagine not having faith. Congratulations to you! 
By all means, keep the vet appointment sm
just to make sure of what's going on. She could have just about anything, from arthritis, tendinitis, Lyme, or even a blood clot. I'm glad the med is helping her. Is it Rimadyl? I would avoid using aspirin until you hear from the vet.
I would go ahead and make an appointment
with an ENT stressing the problem you are having. If you end up getting better or going to an urgent care first you can always cancel the appointment. It you know of an urgent care that you trust you could give that a try. Good Luck
That appointment with the thoracic surgeon
came to a halt when I had what I thought was a gallbladder attack and no, the physician's office calls and says no problems there, however what about the hypoechoic cysts in your right kidney. A scan I had a year or so ago picked up polycystic kidney disease but now with that, first things first and trying to seek more information regarding that. I guess with my age things just start falling apart! One thing I have done today though was to go to foot doctor about what he called "syndrome" in both feet and he prescribed Lyrica and said possibly would help the overall pain all over the body but mostly the ribs. This is the first physician who has said maybe the rib pain associated with the fibro that I have. Thanks for asking!
Who covers for him/her/them when they're off or can't make an appointment? nm
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i suggest making an appointment with your doc ASAP sm
the health of you and the baby might be at risk...why take a chance? you already have enough to worry about and have 3 more months to go! i'm glad you came here for an opinion, but we're not practitioners...i think you need to get off your feet and talk to your doc stat!
Have an appointment with GYN oncologist one week from Friday. Thanks for the well wishes. sm
I am hoping for the best myself. I am hopeful that whatever it is, is in the early stages, as we had been following this cyst I had removed for 3 years and it was not suspicious until it just started changing appearance and removal was recommended. Thought after removing it I was home free, but guess not yet. I do know that cancer is no longer a death sentence and hopefully with a hysterectomy it will all be gone. I am just praying that it has not spread anywhere else. I'll be 42 years old tomorrow!!! Heck of a birthday present!
It has only been two weeks, it will get better.
Maybe do more fun things with your kids, as they're probably upset right now too. You are lucky to have them and four is a blessing. And for yourself, how about joining a bowling league, a gym, or taking a craft or cooking class etc....just something to occupy your time and meet other adults and new friends. You may even meet others in the same situation and that always helps. And always remember how much better your kids lives will be in the long run being out of that kind of situation. That may help you to not be tempted to take your husband back because you are lonely, because that does happen and it's understandable. It's a long time to be with someone. Best of luck to you.
Yes, used now for over 3 weeks and
think it smells good, other than that I have not seen any change at all in the hair situation, still falling out.....
Only used them for about 1-2 weeks when they - sm
were newborns. Personally I don't think they should be used for long at all or they become dependent on them (tops 2-3 months when newborn). I know someone who has a 3-y/o who walks about with one in his mouth 24/7; can't understand him at all even when he does take it out of his mouth to talk, major speech issues I think because of it. I feel bad for him, angry with her for being lazy and not trying to get him to transfer his need for a security object to something less destructive. One of mines has a doll and blanket that are her security things, and the other and old teething toy that is a cat from Right Start with all the rubber "feet" cut off, still sleeps with it at 8, both are well-behaved and mentally developed kids with no issues of any sort.
I used to get one every 2 weeks...
I just called a local service and had 2 sisters come every other Friday. We paid them $75 plus $10 tip. We just now cancelled the service and decided to put that money in our savings account and do the cleaning ourselves:-) We had to get the house totally cleaned up anyway the night before, which was pretty stressful. It was good, though, for the year we did it. They brought their own equipment and dusted and cleaned the whole house except for the basement. We'll use them for parties like the one we're having this month, but that's it. Just check your local paper and call a few. Ask questions to see if they fit your needs. You can have them come every day if you want, once a week, every 2 weeks, or once a month, whatever you need. Good luck!
I have someone come every two weeks
She does basic cleaning - dusting, vacuuming, mopping, cleaning bathrooms. I pay her $75 each time. She has basically a one-woman business that she is just getting started up. I found her listing in the local newspaper and lucked out, because she is a really super lady and I enjoy having her here to talk to, since my husband and I are "empty-nesters" and I am home alone working all day.
As far as what you should pay, I think the area where you live and the cost of living needs to be taken into consideration. I would expect to pay someone in New York City or Los Angeles more than I would pay someone in a small Midwest town, for example.
Just my two cents. 
I go to one every 3-4 weeks - sm
and when I was looking for one I asked a friend who went to one on a regular basis. As stated below there are the rip-off ones who do all this fancy garbage that does absolutely nothing. My friend said to go to a "straight" chiropractor (no clue what that means, guess it is how they practice, and one that graduated from Palmer school of Chiropracty (Sp?), pretty sure it was Palmer, if I am wrong I will post a correction. Mine is very reasonable, $45 a visit (my insurance covers it 100%). I too started out 2-3 x a week, then tapered down to 1 a week, then every 2 weeks, and now do every 3-4 weeks. I have not been for about 8 weeks now because I hurt my shoulder but it is all better now so I will probably start going again. It feels great to get the back cracked, gets so tight from sitting here all the time.
I think just a few weeks at most ... sm
I don't intend to keep the car for long. Last night we had decided until the end of the semester. After talking with it I am waffling about taking it at all. I am sure he will have it back by Thanksgiving. Thank you.
I had a bag of those a few weeks ago (sm)
My dogs finished them. So far so good. So then I bought the name brand ones this weekend at Sam's. $12.00. Evidently they are not the ones recalled, but I went and looked at the bag, and it says, "Made in China", so out they go. I can't believe I forgot to look - lately I have been looking at everything. Even if it's made in US, I'm usually afraid because of the wheat gluten, etc, that is imported. Good luck with your dog. Hope he is okay.
Just ate there 2 weeks ago - sm
WONDERFUL!!!!! This is the third Emeril's we have eaten at. We ate at one in New Orleans and one in Atlanta and now the one in Gulfport (used to live in Biloxi, so we are trying to support their rebounding economy). We always eat 4 courses and are never disappointed. ENJOY! Worth every penny!
3-1/2 weeks!
That sounds like a wonderful vacation. . I'm taking off a few days too and I'm really looking forward to it.. Hope you have a great time!
2 weeks
as it sounds like routine blood work. If no call by the 23rd I would call the office and leave a message and then you will probably hear back on that Monday.
2 weeks?
I just had bloodwork last Thursday and I got the results on Monday. I guess it just depends on the physician/lab. They used Quest Diagnostics.
I am 43....just, B-day was about 3 weeks ago- sm
My DH is 6.5 years older than I am and dying to retire. He keeps telling me at 55 he is done. He will then go out and get a PT job somewhere, probably at $7.50 an hour, just to stay active and bring in some money. I want him to keep working until he is 62 at least then one kid is done college anyway, and we will be able to sock away quite a bit in the 7 years that we have no mortgage and have for mad money, home improvements, save for kid's weddings (they are going to get 10K each and that will be it--can do what they wish with it, but that is the gift--not going to be one of those nutty parents who blow $25K on their kid's wedding--I did it for 5K, everything including honeymoon in 1996, so can they). But in 5 years the house will be paid off (2013), as well as our loan to pay off his debt. I may or may not be done with mine at that time. So there is a goal and it will be nice to be out of debt then, though our monthly expenses now, mortgage, food, utilities, college funds, etc. come to $3400 a month---luckily combined bring in about $4300 a month currently. I go for testing on the 15th for an administrative asst. position for a neighboring county sheriff. Want the job but on the other hand don't want to change my current schedule, etc. But it would be nice to have a nice steady paycheck coming in.
I go about every 3 weeks when I can - sm
I did not go for like six months and just went about 3 weeks ago. I just go when I have a little spare time anymore which is not too often. I went initially because of a car accident, very stiff neck and shoulders, went once a week, then every two weeks, now when I feel like it. Since I had not gone for a while my spine was sore for a day or two, but it does make me feel better as I get so stiff sitting here working 6-10 hours a day. Need to start exercising too, I am sure that will help too. As for dissing chiropractors there are good and bad, there are the ones who rape you with all the different machines they put you on (been to one of them, racked up $800 in 3 days), or those (as a friend swears to) are called "straight" chiropractors who attended Palmer Chiropractic school, who don't stick it to you. My visit is $45, lasts 10-15 mins, and my insurance pays for the it, no co-pay for some reason. She ends up with $36 in the end and I do not have to pay the difference. But just tell him you will be starting to come in once a month or so from now on, what is he going to do, tell you to go somewhere else as the is unacceptable to him?
He will be in about two weeks (sm)
I am going through with the separation and in fact have signed a six month lease and paid a deposit and first month's rent, so no turning back now! Thank you for your encouragement the other day and everyone else too. I do know that what he did was wrong, I was just having some grief over the "dream" I had coming to an end. I went to a board on cafemom and talked to some others who have been in abusive relationships. Apparently it is very normal for anyone divorcing to feel grief and doubt, but from what I hear, I will be feeling much happier once I am out and away from the relationship. Thanks for checking on me :)
Usually I would think about 1-2 weeks,
especially if they sent them out. What did your doctor say about calling for the results?
I just had this 2 weeks ago... (sm)
It's called pyelonephritis, and yes, you need to go to the ER. If you can't take Levaquin, they might know of something else, but still.
I'm taking something that decreases my immunity (according to the ER doc - I had never known that about Plaquenil before), and I didn't go through the high fevers, but it seemed more like it was because my body couldn't fight back with a fever. It actually made sense when the ER doc explained it, which is totally weird because the ER doc was a jerk otherwise.
Anyway, I hope you feel better VERY soon!
I told everyone at 6 weeks...
then waited to tell son when we had first ultrasound...
Ultrasound at 7 weeks?
Ack - I didn't realize docs were doing these so soon. There are so many variables in pregancies (and children) that I wouldn't be too concerned. But, after all the ultrasound horror stories that I have heard over the years, we skipped ultrasounds with both of our children. I had normal pregnancies and there was no reason to have one.
I measured completely different with both of my children through my pregnancies and with good reason, the first was 10 pounds 4 ounces, the second was 7 pounds 14 ounces.
I hope everything is fine, please let us know.
It is probably that engineer from a few weeks ago
the one that wanted extra cash because she could "type good." LOL
I started WW 4 weeks ago...
I actually NEVER cook. My kids are picky eaters, and they both are picky about different things, so we eat mostly TV dinners.
With WW, you can eat anything. You calculate "points" based on calories, fiber, and fat grams. You get a certain amount of points each day based on your weight. You also get 35 cheat points per week. If you are still hungry, you can earn points by exercising.
In 4 weeks, I've lost 6.6 pounds and I haven't felt like I was dieting even once. I wish I would have done their program years ago.
If you do cook, you can go on their website and use E-Tools to calculate points. You can enter your own recipe into the online calculator, and it will tell you how many points it is.
Right now they have a special where you don't have to pay the initial start-up fee and you get free E-Tools for $40 a month. That's what I'm doing now, and I plan to stay at it until I lose all the weight.
Good luck with whichever program you decide.
I have a maid come in every two weeks sm
She has her own business. I just lucked out - she advertised in the paper, I talked to her on the phone and then she came over and gave me an estimate and she seemed like a very nice, responsible person. She has been cleaning for me for about three months now and she does a great job and is indeed a very nice person.
I have a two-bedroom, two-bath house that is about 1800 square feet and I pay her $75 each time she cleans.
How much exercise have you had in the last 3 weeks?
The kind of exercise where your rib cage actually has to expand as far as it can go?
That kind of exercise causes relaxation, and relaxation is an antidote for anxiety attacks.
I was also helped by learning relaxation with biofeedback and I also take Effexor. Not everybody can take that though.
It's only been on the market 2 weeks
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Or eat the 2 weeks and get professional from here.
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I definitely needed him a few weeks ago.
Definitely HOT. What did you think of the season finale?
For the last two weeks I have been listening
to Christmas music in my car. Don't know why, but I was in the mood for some Manheim Steamroller, even if it is a little early in the year. I have to say that when I listen to the Hallelujah Chorus on this particular CD it makes everything that is wrong in my life seem so insignificant. I love this group's music. It just makes you happy.
Merry Christmas, a little early! 
I think about 6 weeks is the norm sm
My first and last both wear able to newborn size about 6 weeks. I probably would have upped their size sooner had I not had so many newborn diapers. They were both about 7 pounds at birth. My second child was 8 pounds 6 ounces and didn't wear newborns for more than a week.
I would definitely get the size 1 instead of the newborn. Of course, you could always call the new mom or maybe the grandmom and ask. But I agree that it's better to go up a size and have to wait a week or 2 to wear them than to get the wrong size and not be able to use them.
yeah i second that. it has taken 2 weeks for me
to get video games for my kids before. The holidays will make it take longer too!!
bloated after 12 weeks...
I got bloated somewhere around the end of the first trimester/beginning of second trimester. My pants hurt me sooo bad. I got some really uncomfortable stomach pains because of it. I finally had to break down and buy a couple of pairs of maternity pants. I was far enough along that I knew it was going to happen (buying pants) at some point in the next couple of months and it did not matter. Comfort is #1 in pregnancy, and if you want a pair of pants you can go out in and not feel embarrassed about, get some prego pants. I still wear those pants I first bought in my third trimester.
Really odd. I had a cold about 3 weeks ago and got another one now and a lot of
other people are having the same problem. This is very unusual for me to have this happen. Not much fun! I really dont get around many people at all so I have no idea where they are coming from.
I'm currently 8 weeks preggers
with my second child. I don't recall having major swelling problems with my first pregnancy. I would suggest laying off any and all salt and taking it easy and keeping those feet propped up until you deliver your baby girl! Congrats, BTW.
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