We had my son's graduation party this past weekend which turned out great! please sm
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Now I'm just wondering if I should do anything for the family/friends that helped with making some of the food, setting up, etc. Looking for advice from people that have been through this. Thanks
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Looking for graduation party ideas for son's graduation. I have a few friends helping me sm
but any new ideas would be great too. This is my first born graduating so I'm kind of clueless what I'm doing. One friend suggested a poster board with lots of his pictures. My sister suggested putting his trophies, awards, acceptance letter from his college, etc. on a table. As far as food, we are having sloppy joes, meatballs, pulled pork sandwiches, possibly some sausage sandwiches, fried chicken, pasta salad, macaroni salad, german potato salad, olives, pickles, nuts, cookies, chips/pretzels, dip, cookies, cake, etc. Any more ideas?? I'll be doing this three more times (oldest son is 18, youngest son is 3 so I have a while in between - hopefully I'll be a "pro" by the time the youngest graduates!! XXXXX)
This past weekend my neice was
leaving school (this is her freshman year) to come home for the weekend. Her car wouldn't start. She certainly could have called her RA for suggestions or even called campus securtiy but due to no experience with something like this she caught a ride with a friend that lives in our area. Her mother and a friend took her back to school yesterday with jumper cables (turns out the battery was dead cause she had left a light on) and a few lessons about her car. They showed her how to use the cables, check air pressure in tires, check oil, washer fluid, etc. Both my kids are still home so these are things I had never thought of and obviously my SIL hadn't either. A lot of these things I still don't know. I lived with my parents until the day I married so I have always had someone to take care of these things for me. I just wanted to pass along this tip for anyone else like me that just never thought about it before. I guess we all live and learn.
read another report over weekend that mom has been paid in past for IVF.
And the story goes on and on...
In the past, great vacation
I have been to several Club Meds, started out in Eluthra in the Bahamas, then Cancun about 3 times, Paradise Island in the Bahamas, Ixtapa in Mexico, Playa Blanca in Mexico and then the last trip my daughter and I took was to Turks and Caicos. You can see, I really loved Club Med at one time when children or just my daughter and I traveled together. I loved the fact that all you had to do was get your suitcase there and from then on your trip all paid for. Now having said that, I feel now Club Med is overpriced for the deals you can get now days. At one time the all inclusive was Club Med and now so many others have the same to offer at lower prices. The last time I was in Cancun I was very disappointed in the food, not like I had been all the other times. I had a wonderful time for those years I did go, though.
graduation
A few years ago, we had 5 in our family that were graduating, 3 from jr. high & 2 from high school... then again 3 from high school so we all ended up giving them $40 each.. I think it depends on what you think is affordable.. the gas card sounds great... I will have one this year graduating, a nephew, then one nephew next year & then my last child in school in 5 more years.. I'm gettin old.. lol
The school should know when graduation is - sm
contact them and inform the nephew of the date and the aunt.....and hope the graduation will be after the wedding or they may have a zillion excuses not to come as too busy with wedding stuff. Or ask the nephew just to have his wedding in June, or April. Good luck.
housewarming vs. graduation gift
My grandma got me luggage and my mom got me a pots and pans set.
Update on son graduation/nephew wedding
For those of you who may remember - my son is graduating high school this year and my nephew decided to get married in the same month. I had received an email from my SIL stating that my son's graduation best not interfere with her son's wedding. (longer story - that's the condensed version).
Anyways, my son's graduation is May 15. While at my SIL's today, they announced the wedding is May 11. SO, definitely no conflict (whew) but after a few minutes I realized that the 11th is on a Monday (apparently it's cheaper to get married during the week). And the wedding is in another town which means trying to get off work, get changed, gather all the kids, travel out of town (hour and a half away) and then get back home since the kids have school the next day and the adults all have to work the next day. (definitely not going to stress about it though and will be planning my son's graduation party for the following weekend  )
graduation gift for high school sm
I know this subject was brought up before and some said up to a thousand dollars for high school (grandparent). I cannot afford this and it is almost being hinted that the kid needs money although already has a brand new car, is working and is going to a local community college to save money. The kid literally has everything, nice home, clothes, etc. We have worked our fingers to the bone literally and can't just "hand over" part of our retirement savings. If we give anything from a store it is always taken back for the money as it is never "good enough" and with the parents' approval. I almost want to get something nice engraved so it can't be returned.(Luggage is out.) How much would you take out of your savings, I don't know what to do. What would your limit be for a gift to an 18-year-old? The kid is a good kid and not the kid's fault, kind of a "tradition" to expect "cash" as a gift.
When I turned 30, that was my roughest, until I turned 40, which was my roughest until I turned 50 .
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I wish we could all go the week of the graduation but their graduations are always a week earlier th
ours. So actually all three of my kids are still in school this week while all of hers will already be out. My youngest is actually missing school to go but my two older kids have finals so they can't go at all that week.
Thank you. I guess I'm just trying to find a nice way to say it without causing friction and keeping the peace.
My DH is your typical male, just deal with it when the time comes whereas I want to take care of things right away without hurting anyone's feelings.
Have you turned it on?
Just kidding....
You all have turned me on to
the French press. Gosh, don’t get out enough and have not heard of this. I love strong coffee, want to sniff up the coffee houses whenever I stop to get some, mine sure does not smell like theirs. I hope I have the same luck as you have, can hardly wait.
Yours could have turned out that way
but I have now a 40+ and a 30+ each and both are doing extremely well, always respectful, kind, considerate. Maybe just a swat (as you call it) was just that, like a little pat so I can understand the way you are thinking.
Not everyone turned out okay
some had brain damage from lead poisoning, some died from ATV accidents, some drown in bathtubs, lakes, rivers, pools. We simply got lucky and ran our guardian angels ragged. Obviously the rules/laws were made because other children weren't so lucky... She shouldn't have asked. She simply shouldn't have even conceived of the idea. A 9-month-old does not belong on an ATV.
My MIL was the same way, until she turned 70. sm
A man, contracting work on her condo, was interested in her and would not give up until she went out with him. She spent the best 5 years of her life with this man, until he passed away.
When the right man comes along, you will know, and it could happen at any time.
LOL!! Yep - I've turned it on :-)
Yep, me too. Turned it on today just to see...
her "announcement" and I had to quickly change the channel again. She's the worst. I will be happy to give it a try again once she is OFF
I have turned those sheets every which way
but loose, have about 3 sets and nothing has been working. I am making notes of all these answers and check the mattress out. It is huge and thick so have to get the measuring tape out.
Turned 40 today
You wanted some positives....if you are healthy, be thankful, a lot of people are not....I will be 65 this year, people say I look 40.....I'm healthy, physically active, triathalons & all that that entails to stay fit.....very fortunate--kids grown & gone. Worked hard raising kids & now it is paying off.....don't have to raise grandkids. Retired from one career & started another.....Be happy! You know more now at 40 than you did at 20. Work smarter, not harder!
I've had several already and I just turned 40
I had a few problems going on, hence the need for so many at my age, but it all turned out okay.
Anyway, I have small boobage, so there was quite a bit of adjusting involved with trying to get my under-endowed self on the plates. Not the most comfortable thing to do, but as it is over so fast and could possible save my life, it's 100% worth it.
What we women go through. When my husband had his first prostate exam, he came home whining about how embarrassing it was. I then gave him a whole litany of what embarrassing really was as far as PAPs etc. What a baby.
Now, go get those mammies grammed!
I turned 47 in November.... thanks!
xx
My DH just turned 70 - Thinks he is 40 ##
I am 69
Hush don't go imagining something!!
Yes! I turned the volume way down . .
maybe because it's a singing contest and I feel like a judge. If she was a contestant, she'd get the boot.
Glad your day turned out well...and that was
great you huddled. After dad talked to them on the phone, and they came back inside they did their chores, made their own lunches, while I tried to get that headache to go away. DH just took them with their allowances from last week to Walmart probably to remind them the positive points of being cooperative. Yep, I love them too and don't want to think about the next 15 years when they leave. I just think for me and maybe some of us it is difficult working at home all day and doing double, triple duty. I have been worried about my MT pay and wrote my DH a note today I am indeed going to take some time off from MTing because I feel burnt to a crisp. He said something about a month in a house at the beach (with kids, and with him just popping in), but I know I won't be able to take much time at all off from work. Our production job is so tough, man, some days are difficult for mom, dad and kids. But it cheers me to hear your day got better. Mine is too because I rested and the kids are out at Walmart which they love. About my taking time off from MTing, we'll see how long that lasts LOL. Dream, dream, dream.
Googling turned up:
Small amounts of ammonia are normally in the bloodstream. Many serious illnesses, including liver damage, can cause blood ammonia levels to rise. High levels of ammonia can cause patients to become confused and die, if left untreated.
I have been called only once since I turned 18....
and I am 55 now. I was actually looking forward to it too. I made it as far as jury selection. They needed 13, and I was #14. Oh well..at least I got to see how the system worked. And even if I had been seated, there was no guarantee that the case would have gone to trial anyway.
Its a no..turned down...not a chance
I had my meeting yesterday afternoon with my lawyer. Although I am clearly disabled I fall threw the disability loop holes. There are 2 types you can sign up for. The first you must have worked 10 years consecutively. I worked when I was first married and then when we had kids I stayed home with them until they started school and then went back to work as a substitute teacher. I had worked 9 years consecutively and had a stroke so I am disqualified there.
The 2nd one you have to have not worked or be low income. Low income meaning a little over $900.00 a month for dh and I. Kiddos don't qualify as dependants since they are over 18 or the income level would be higher. We are low income but not that low for the 2 of us. The only thing you can own is your home and one vehicle. We own our home and 3...the old truck we are trying to sale that might bring $500.00., the truck dh bought for $1000.00 and the car he inherited from his sis. Dh also inherited some land and some money from his sis. AND THEN there is the fact that dh and his sis had to put their dad's money in their names so they can pay for his care, power of attorney and all that, and although the money goes for ONLY his care and we use none of it it goes against my case.
So although I am disabled, in pain every single day of my life, I don't qualify for disability. Our income doesn't qualify us for Medicaid. Our income doesn't afford us insurance IF we could find someone that would cover me with all my health issues. I'm tired, defeated, exhausted, cried until I can't cry. I don't know how many knocks I can take.
I don't begrudge anyone health care...but how is it fair that I can't get it and its handed over to those that have never paid a dime in taxes? How is it fair that a convicted child molester will get his disability? (yes I know someone that is and will get his). I just don't get it. There needs to be decent affordable healthcare in this country for EVERY citizen. I'm not talking Socialized medicine. I'm talking decent affordable healthcare.
It should not cost $4000.00 for an ER visit and $500.00 for the doctor. Yes again that happened to me last summer. I would never have gone if I had not been doubled over in severe pain and my regular doctor sent me there. I left the ER with a huge bill, a prescription I could not afford to fill, and a huge bill I had to finish paying and I'm still paying. They made me pay $250.00 before I left the hospital. Another time when I fell and messed up my ankle my doctor sent me over there for an xray. My ankle was 3 or 4 times its size and they still made me pay for the xray before they would even do it. Something needs to be done with this crazy ridiculous business
My gas was turned off last week.
I hear your pain though not quite as bad as I used my money for bills to pay my mtg and the recent ruling by FEMA that I now live in a flood zone (100 year flood) and by 6/15, I had to fork over 300.00 or they'd apply their own at the tune of 2 grand.
I made 60 grand for 3 years in a row. During my last 2 months at my beloved job, I made 1 grand a month. Without notice, my account left and I was basically kicked to the curb.
Savings account is what would have saved me. After all these years doing this, I am back at ground zero. It is very stressful in this economy where compassion fatigue is quite apparent from the posts below.
United we stand, divided we fall, I suppose.
I turned the show on just because of the posts
and disappointed as I could be, did not watch that much, thought the guy a creep and his wife shoulda left years ago. I turned the channel.
Eeeekkk.... I've turned into my mom....sm
Yesterday my teenage daughter asked if she could go bowling with some friends after school today. Her room was a horrible mess, which isn't normal for her. I turned into my mom and said "You're going no where until that room is cleaned up."
EEEEKKK!!!! 
I had panel painted, turned out really
nice and has been that way for 3 years- never filled in any cracks.
I turned out really well, thanks to the village that raised me.
And, I had a really wonderful dad. I guess the best thing for you to do is to make your daughter's friend feel welcome in your home. My best friends growing up had great families, and I loved going to their houses for sleepovers, dinners, and just hanging out. Their examples gave me good models for how to care for my family and home when I became a wife and mother. As I said, this was back in the 1960s, and no one talked about such things in those days. So no one ever took me aside and talked to me about what was going on at home. I suppose, had it been going on in this day and age, the schools and authorities would have been contacted and I'd have had counseling, and whatever else is done these days. I'm not saying those are bad things, just that the people in my small town simply went with their intuition. They knew I didn't have a stable home life, so they offered it to me in their own homes. I remember all the mothers of my friends very fondly, to this day. All of them have since passed away. They were wonderful women. One in particular, kept in touch with me for years after I grew up and moved away, and even hand-knit Christmas stockings for my family, which I treasure to this day.
Yeah my DD just turned 9 and has been wearing 5s - sm
now for a few months. I wear a 7 and can actually squeeze into her a a pair of her open-ended sandels. She has always been in the 95th percentile for height and weight, but is slowing down some, now at about 88%.
Awwww I feel for you...your SIL has turned into
your SIL sounds like the way my mother used to be (deceased many years now) her entire life...like Joan Crawford in Harriet Craig, a movie I just saw the other night on TCM.
My father used to call my mother "Craig's Wife" when I was growing up and I never understood why until I saw Robert Osborne on TCM explaining all about this movie, Harriet Craig....which was also a remake of another movie in the 1920s or 30s called .....CRAIG'S WIFE!!!
Just know that you're the better person and I don't even know you, but I know so many women in Florida (and elsewhere too!!) who are like this and it all comes from their own insecurities and their need for control.....
Hope you get to feelin' better real soon!! 
Take into consideration I turned in my own husband
some years ago on exactly the same thing. I do not care if it is my momma, the law is the law. I was on vacation, my husband (at that time) allowed his girlfriend to drive my vehicle, she wrecked it, only was checked out at the hospital, never admitted and tried to charge the insurance I paid for her expenses. Did not turn out that way. I called the insurance company and told them they were having a scam run on them. I am on the up and up and he wasn’t so that is what I did and would do again.
I turned 40 today! Please tell me something positive about it!
x
My mom had those symptoms yesterday, turned out to be (sm)
Her blood pressure, it was 147/100 when we checked it about 20 minutes after her sx started. She is on meds but is still having a hard time keeping it controlled.
Another thought, again, based on my mom's issues: She very similar symptoms that kept getting worse and ended up needing a pacemaker.
So, anyway, your original thought about BP might be the angle to check on next.
my friend turned the tables
My friend's husband was saying the same thing about their dog, who was also 14! Hubby said the dog would start having "accidents," etc., and he didn't want to put up with it so wanted to have the dog put down before the problems began. My friend told her hubby that this dog was as much a member of the family as he or the kids so she would keep his feelings in mind when they got a little older and have him (hubby) put down before his health started to fail. Hubby got a whole new perspective and he changed his tune in a big hurry!
Has any of you turned your hobby into a business?
What is it, how did you go about it and how well do you do? I'm SOOO tired of doing MT work at night and would like to start doing something I love as a way of making money.
I turned my furnace on a month ago!
I can't imagine letting it get that cold in the house!
My parents were going to divorce before I turned 18 too...
But they didn't and when I moved out, then my little brother moved out after age 19, their relationship has gotten better. They go on trips and do all kinds of fun things. They don't argue like they used to. I think my brother and I (especially me being a teen girl with a "drama" attitude lol) caused a lot of their grief especially with my dating choices for a while when I was younger. I'm so glad they stuck it out because they seem a lot happier and healthier now. I really do thank God they did. I guess they got to rekindle their love once we weren't driving them nuts lol. I hope you guys can work it out because I'd hate for you to regret it down the road :o) I'd give it a really good try if I were you unless there is something going on where it's unsafe or unhealthy to be there. Also, some family counseling may help or just talk to him maybe? I'm still young & have no children so I don't know a lot about this, but just from the kid's perspective I can say it may get really good after they're grown.
They unknowingly turned onto a logging road.
Logging roads are not owned and/or maintained by the state. I believe it's the US Forest Service whose in charge of them. In any case, they are not public roads and are only supposed to be used by logging companies (popular with hunters also though). Unfortunately, the Kims did not know this when reading their map. They thought it was a normal road/highway.
Such a sad ending.
Turned out to be Domino's pizza - which I ordered
I tell you, it's a tough world!
SIL was having heart attack "pain" that turned out to be
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we havent (yet) turned our issues into cheesy
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I'm so sorry for your sad note. I hope your life turned
xx
All the pot smokers I know turned into morons with continued use. sm
All of the pot smokers I have known talked slower than everyone else, were slower to resopnd to just about ANYTHING, and stared blankly into space far more than non-pot smokers. They were apathetic.
Does it hurt them? I don't know, but it sure turned them stupid.
Glad to hear everything turned out okay for your furkid. nm
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I never said anything about what I have done in my past
heavens, I had premarital sex, had several abortions, drank until in a drunken state, smoked like a house of fire, cursed, had lots of sexual partners in the past, rode a motorcycle without a helmet, ate fast food, indulged in Burger Kings especially, drove way over the speed limits, cheated on my first husband but...... that was in my past. I never said I was angel, never. I changed as I aged and hopefully gained some wisdom over the years. I obey most of the laws now although living in Atlanta I still speed. All the above things of the past. I am saying and will continue to say, rules are made by the people voted into office. If you don't like them, vote and change things. Oh, something else, after marrying this last husband I even stopped drinking Cokes. I did it because I wanted to, not because I had to. And answer to another post, they have stopped selling Cokes in a lot of the schools because the kids are becoming so obese and that is just another way for them to indulge in meaningless calories. All the things listed in my previous post stand as I told them. And by the way, chickee dee, never mentioned I did unsafe or unhealthy, just came to my senses and stopped a lot of stuff.
I have something in my past
That I haven't told my husband and I don't plan on it. No one but me and one other person knows about it and the other person is long gone. It was something medical, and no it wasn't an unwanted pregnancy or anything like that. There's no need for him to know since I didn't know my husband back then and it doesn't have any bearing on anything in our relationship now.
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