We got married on our property...
Posted By: phillychick on 2008-08-20
In Reply to: Where did you get married? - Sara
just a little ceremony with a few friends and the pastor. We have 15 lovely acres of land and were married near the barn. Everytime we walk past that spot we stop, say I do, kiss and walk on. If we ever leave here we will take some of the dirt with us as a fine memory.
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This was not on my property...
My sister-in-law and I were both picking up our kids from dance class, and my sister-in-law was picking up this girl, too. They were playing outside by the cars. She has an appointment today, so I will probably call later and see what the doctor said.
Thanks everyone!
The 10% was lakefront property
as in over 6 acres, not a home there but glad he is no longer around. I do not understand about who was wrong? The money taken up front from the present realtor, I was told, was put into escrow. I am catching flack from a relative who thinks I should have the money in hand. Her son does not have a realtor selling his property and when a prospective buyer backed out, he kept their earnest money. Please explain when you say he did not do right. I have been in no hurry to sell this, do not need the money in a desperate kind of way but out of town and we are having to keep the yard maintainedm do not ever plan on living there so decided to sell.
Anyone know how to become a property appraiser? (sm)
I think I would like to do this as a side job. Can look it up online but would like to hear firsthand if anyone has info on this and whether or not it is lucrative.
Thanks!
At least you own property to pay taxes on -
I don't have my own pot to p__s in or window to throw it out of. I was totally depending on that refund to help pay down my gas credit cards.
No don’t have to sell but this property is 1 big headache
We have to go every month to cut the grass (6 acreas) and I told my sweet hubby today if something happened to me, hello, he would have to fool with all that. I have no use for it but have had since 2004 now, did not make up mind to sell until about a year ago. I told the realtor just to let me know when he got other offers..
Sold the property, finally
Well, I guess the man was wrong for wanting me to accept the $110,000. I have sold the property today for $140,000. That is a chunk more than I can now think of ways to spend- just kidding, planning on putting new flooring in, paying off most of the home where I live and paying my bills off. Hooray!!
Property I am trying to sell right on the lake
and the people around there kinda sound like you and yours. That is why I am selling!
I have sold some property, not closed on but
get this- the new "owners" have gone in (I was told they wanted to spring clean and thus the realtor gave them keys to the place to do so) and stripped the carpets that were there and also dismantled and took down part of a cabinet. The closing was to take place the first of July. I called the realtor and asked when did spring cleaning turn into renovation. One person had asked about a possible early move-in as their lease ran out today. I told realtor no moving in, nothing else done until closing. No answer from him- no emails answered, nothing. I sent him 1 yesterday saying - oh, never mind, I will check on my property myself either Thursday or Friday morning, hope I don’t find squatters there- guess what folks, now he calls late yesterday evening wanting to know can we close today. Oh, the power of persuasion. Some people really have the nerve!
Property taxes...oh my goodnes!!
Our area and I think much of the state were being reassessed this year. The first tip was when my husband read in the paper that our particular county did an outstanding job with their assessment and should be an example for the rest of the state. My husband called today to see when we would could be expecting our tax bill and was told they could give us the amount, did he want them too. He told them he really wasn't sure he wanted to hear it!! OK - this marvelous job that our county did was -------- a 60% increase. Can you believe it????? And we do not live in an extravagent area at all! We have to come up with an extra $1900 in three months! Piece of cake!
I fear America is in for tough days ahead. Our society in general cannot keep up with the increases that we see on every hand. Milk - Close to $4 a gallon here. Gas price increases - and we live 30 miles away from anything, work, church, shopping. Cheese - $7 for a pound of cheese!
How can we continue on this pathway when our incomes do not increase at the same rate? Can't our congress people and senators see the predicament we are in??
Another issue along the same line - I'm wishing today that I was on Welfare. If I was on Welfare, I would have no problem running to the eye doctor because I desparately need my lenses changed in my glasses which are at least three years old. My son needs to go to the doctor for an infected, ingrown toenail - no money so he endures it. My daughter needs a graft on the gum line of her teeth where here gumline is beginning to expose the root of the tooth - again no money for that so it won't get done. I could go on and on - but I'm paying for all the Welfare people to go to the doctor for their sniffles. Yes - I have insurance that we would be covered for a major medical expense, cancer, etc - but there is $3000 deductible so none of these smaller things are covered.
OK - I'm totally overwhelmed with these issues right now and I know that I am not the only one with these issues. Thanks for the listening ear and the wonderful sounding board that you all are!!!
When you are sinking in this deep pit - it hard to remember and to comprehend that "MY GOD SHALL SUPPLY ALL YOUR NEEDS ACCORDING TO HIS RICHES IN GLORY." I'm sure He will do that because He never fails. I'm anxious to see how he supplies that need.
My property tax rate stays low
because there are so many mansions in my town. There is a house on the market right now for $23 million, plus lots of others in the 5-10 million dollar range. What is really sickening is that these are second or even third homes for some people. But they are paying such high taxes, it really takes the burden off us little guys who live way, way, way on the other side of the tracks.
If the injury occurred on your property... sm
...and you have homeowner's insurance, it should cover any injuries that occur on your property.
However, it is unlikely that the amount the ER charged would meet your deductible unless you have it set extremely low.
It was very nice of you to offer to help. Since the girl had surgery on that finger, she obviously should have had some kind of brace or cast or something to remind her not to use that finger while playing - just so that something like this would not happen.
20/20 hindsight, huh?
We pay property taxes in KY on car tags. (nm)
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Tell you father to sell the property...
buy something decent and let you stay there for free.
Until everything is settled, move in with your father.
You are definitely living in danger.
How, for heaven's sake, can your father hire sex offenders to work in your house?
a doggie purse is personal property.
xoxo
I am close to retirement age and got property taxes
just a few days ago, about $2,250.00- I called and asked if I got anything off when I reached another age, say 70 or so and was told in 2009 I will have reached the golden age of 65 and my taxes would be only about $800.00 per year! Good Golly Miss Molly, talk about good news! The school tax break comes through then for me. There are some good things that come with aging and this is one!
That sounds strange, cars in with property but
now much do you have to pay?
I live in Kansas. Our property values
I am sorry to hear about your financial predicament. I hope things work out for you.
She lives on his property so kind of hard - sm
to call the police on him or order him off his own property, he has every legal right to be there, except for being a total nut case. I hope he wakes up and gets help, but I do not see any of this ending well.
that's what I said: Only property gathered during the marriage is divided 50/50. nm
nm
Definitely understand that - you shouldn't have to have your property be forever a memorial! (sm)
you were VERY kind to leave it there and take care of it for six months. So ridiculous that people gave you a hard time. I'm sorry that happened to you! Bad enough that you have to know something so awful happened in front of your home without a constant reminder and strangers coming up to your house all the time. And it is not your job to maintain it for them. If the family understood, then certainly no one else should have any say whatsoever.
But he "FOUND" it in private property! Ludicrous reasoning. nm
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I am MY property. If I choose to use my assets for money, that is MY business!
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I married the same man 3 times and still married to him.
Together for almost 29 years now. 
As a landlord with rental property, tenants seem to "pay partial rent" or not pay at all sm
beginning around Nov or December (the holidays). Were they both laid off? Is there no income coming in? Even though I don't know the situation, I can guarantee you that the money was spent elsewhere and now they are paying the price. I'm sorry to have to say this.
My husband and I worked with a family on getting caught up and they were 2 months behind plus late fees (about 1,800) and it was right about this time last year. They had a great Christmas though!
I don't have an answer for you. I don't know if there is anyone who can help someone like your friend or my ex-tenants. Rent should be people's #1 priority and sadly, a lot of the times it just isn't.
With the prices of homes and property taxes today, just about everyone is house poor.
It's so sad when you can't go out to dinner often, buy nice expensive things for yourself *just because*, go on lots of trips, go to sports things, see shows/concerts, etc., all because you own a house. I'd truly rather rent and ENJOY my life! :)
Having a pet is a personal choice and it should be kept on personal property
nm
Married?
I get the idea this guy might possibly be married and living with his wife in another city. If you continue to see him, 2 months is no time to clamp down on him to ask him about where the relationship is going. You sound as if the situation desperate. If not married on his part (I probably would check this out really good)you give a man plenty of rope. If they care for you, they will be there like a little puppy dog, if not then you have your answer. Again check for a license.....Living in another city, seeing you once a week, sounds really like a hmmmmmmm to me.
Are we married to the same man?...sm
Im stuck in the same situation pretty much. My husband does very little to help me in any way, shape, or form except when it suits him. I do the bills, most of the housework (he occasionally puts up dishes and sweeps the kitchen), all the child care (for 3), make all the phone calls, etc., everything. When I want to go somewhere there is always a big deal made...when he wants to go somewhere (even when I NEED him here so I can work if I get behind) he will go. I almost NEVER get out of the house without one or all children (if I get out)...when HE wants to go somewhere he does not want any of them to come. I think those so wondeful marriages are few. All I think about is leaving, but the kids....they love him. You cant work with someone when they wont work with you. 
did she know how he was before she married him?
nm
I think we are married to the same man!!
Not only does my husband blow EVERYTHING way out of proportion, but he suffers from narcissistic personality disorder! I lie to my husband anytime there is an issue that I know will really upset him and his own mother backs me up b/c she knows how enraged he becomes. I too feel guilty but having peace in my home is far more important to me. He definately needs some counseling and probably a good anti-depressant. I think the tape recording idea is excellent and I have always wanted to try it myself. Maybe if we let them see how ridiculous they sound they will wake up to their behavior. I feel for you b/c I have been in the same boat for 9 years now. I just keep praying and keeping the faith that one day he will change.....before I have a nervous breakdown!!
Very much married but ....
my eyes know beauty when I see it!
We had 2 --- they were my DHs before we married - sm
The one was a pure-bred with champion lines, the other a puppy mill dog. As stated below they can live very long. The PB lived to about 14 before she got cancer and we put her to sleep when she got too sick; the other was 16 before she got sick too and had to be put to sleep when she got too sick too. The first one was a bit mean though, fine with adults but did not like kids to mess with her and would bite/nip if a kid got to close; luckily she never made contact but not for lack of trying. We had to muzzle her at the vet. Great watchdog though. The other one was quite a yapper and dumb as a stick but quite a sweet dog and very loving, ate everything in sight though and she ended up quite porky. Sweet dog though. They are good dogs and I would not mind having another some day.
If you are not married I don't think you can do that - sm
though I am not sure about that, but it makes sense. He could add any kids they had but not the ex-wife. (he would have to lie and say they were married I believe) Also if for some reason his job pays for it then he is getting off scot free, though there are probably not many jobs that pay for it in full now days (my DHs used to pay for it until about 2 years ago, and now we pay but only about $150 a month for a family of 4, so it is a steal, and very good insurance luckily). Personally I would not do it, he should just try to pony up and pay a little more each month to get current again (get a second job if he has to); $1K is not that far behind, what 2 months maybe? He can just work a little harder to pay her.
You married her son, right?
Then apparently her way of bringing up a child did not harm him, is that true or did you marry some dunce? I guess she might have a little sense- you have to re-educate her?
was it like this when you first married...
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but most of these are not actually married sm
The man usually only marries the first wife and the rest are not legal marriages.
yep...got married.
sheezh
Where did you get married?
A church, city hall, a park, on a beach, on a sailboat, a private home, a cabin in the woods, other? Was it in the U.S. or a foreign country?
I got married (eloped) in a chapel. It had 4 pews in it. Made in the U.S.A.
We got married
in the country by my husband's nephew's backyard pond. It was beautiful. I walked down on a long white aisle runner and stood under a decorated trellis. Wouldn't have traded an outdoor wedding for the world.
had to be married twice the same day.
Married at a beautiful,famous restaurant in the state of Kentucky. Lived in Cincinnati, Ohio, which is right across the bridge from Kentucky. At the last minute the rabbi said "I can't marry you there, I am not a licensed Rabbi in the state of Kentucky. We were married legally early in the morning at 8:00 am at the rabbi's house in Cincinnati where he was licensed as a rabbi, in his flannel shirt, his wife in her housecoat to witness the wedding, my hair had not been done yet by the hairdresser and was standing on end, so much for the groom seeing the bride 24 hours prior. At 12:00 noon the wedding progessed in Kentucky with 350 guests and 32 yards of chantilly lace in my gown, but we were already married. The ceremony was for show only.
I was married at 17 and had her...
and she was married at 17 and had the first of my grandchildren. I am now 48 and have 7 of them....all is well and it's true, grandkids ARE better than your own! You can send them home when you are done spoiling them. BTW, both my daughters are done having kids, so that's it for me!
When I was married, my ex said..
...he was glad I didn't call all the time like some of the other men's wives did where he worked. We worked similar hours so I really didn't have the opportunity and neither did he to be on a telephone. When we separated though, he brought up the fact that I never called him and didn't sound interested the rare instance when he called me. Go Figure! I called if there was something that simply wouldn't wait until he got home and vice versa! I've never used the telephone like lots of people, even as a teenager. Do better with letters and cards, dinosaur that I am, and love email. My daughter lives about 1-1/2 hours away. She and I went on a short 3-day vacation when she and her fiance were engaged. He called 3-4 times a day and I became pretty irritated, even though I tried not to show it. I try to leave them alone to live their life and wish he would let us enjoy each other once in a while. She and my granddaughter came one evening to my house recently and we went to dinner and a gymnastics meet. They were here about 5 hours total and he called 3 times during that time!! Feels like he does not trust her. 
mostly yes (still married now x27 yr)
Would you ever date/marry.....
someone who is less educated than yourself?
I did. I had 2 yr of college, husband left school in 8th grade (to professional sport).
someone of a different race?
I've dated people of several different races. If all else was right, probably would.
someone whose parent's are divorced?
depends upon the sticktuitiveness of the person, and their moral compass.
someone who has bad credit or alot of bad debt?
Probably not, unless there were good explanations.
someone who is overweight or obese?
yes.
someone who affliates or supports a different political party than yourself?
Yes.
someone who is rude to customer service staff?
My husband was often rude and arrogant. Its not a good quality, but he has changed and so, I might do it again (if I were younger).
someone who talks a longtime on their cell phone when you are eating?
Probably not. That kind of inconsideration may be too hard to change.
someone who enjoys a different genre of music?
yes, mate does now.
someone who does not enjoy the same leisure activities as yourself?
yes, you don't have to do everything together. If you have the same morals, life goals, and some things you enjoy together, that would be sufficient.
someone who is a very picky eater or someone who is a vegeterian/vegan and you are not?
yes.
someone who prefers to spend leisure time alone or with friends (without you)?
Maybe not, unless it was a lesser part of of lesisure time spent away from me.
.....
not married but
met my fiance at a yard sale!
I was married outside the
Catholic church, and then later had my marriage sanctioned by my priest, after returning to the Catholic church. No problem. Does not matter where or if you were married at a different church first. My husband, who is not Catholic, just had to agree to raise our children Catholic. I would recommend your daughter and her Fiance consult a different priest at a neighboring parish, or possibly even contact your Diocese and express your concerns to the Bishop. I bet this would not be the first complaint on this priest. What this priest is asking of them them is not typical or normal of the Catholic Church. Sounds like he is on a power trip. Good luck!
bern
Are you sure they were acutally married??
Are you sure they actually got married? Now THAT would be a shocker. Wasn't he the one who dated all the beautiful high-maintenence women, and the one he picked was the kind of air-head blonde? I didn't know they actually were married. Where did you hear that? Wow...
Yes - the wedding was on TV, he married
he did marry the air-head, he called her princess.
Actually I am happily married
I have experienced this though with my in-laws. Grandmother divorcing grandfather as a matter of fact. She said she did not want my husband, nor I, nor my children talking to him simply because she was tired of him. She now calls him herself. But with such loss in our family grandparent-wise, I just did not think it was fair to the children to cut off yet another superb figure in their life. So, whatever their problem was belonged to them, not Pop-Pop and my children. It is just so often that children suffer in this manner. Family members just yanked from their lives because the parents have a hang-up. It just sounds like more of a jealousy issue on the mother's part in this case. Maybe she has a hard time accepting the fact that her ex has these girlfriends and her only pawn are the children. It happens over and over again. I am not a product of divorce, but my husband is and believe me it is no lie that children suffer even into adulthood for that matter. I just think that we as women need to be above this type of nonsense. Unless there are founded facts that the girlfriend is abusive in some manner, then why shouldn't she be allowed to call? Oh well, mute subject, I guess. I just feel bad for the children. Have a nice day!
How Long Have You Been Married?
My hubby did that after we were married about a year or so. He just liked my stuff, i.e., lotions, body wash, etc...He was my Ken doll; I would "dress him up," fix his unruly, naturally curly hair, buy his shaving cream and cologne, etc...Since we would shower together, he would wash with what I washed with (usually Sun-Ripened Raspberry!) and if I took a shower before him, he would yell and ask where my body wash was. Before we got together, he washed his body with shampoo instead of soap/body wash. Men like to do that for some reason.
However, since that started soon after being married, I didn't think it was worrisome; just cute.
I, personally, wouldn't worry, but I don't know your husband.
I'm married and don't have kids, so
I'm sure people are very curious as to why I don't have kids. And yet, very few people are bold enough to ask me since they don't know if I've been unable or what the problem is. Maybe they feel free to ask why you aren't married because getting married seems to be going out of style or something, and they really want to know why married people are the minority now.
Only had 1 boyfriend and I married him
Starting dating at 15, got married when I was 20. I was always too shy to talk to boys ;-)
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