Visit from polar bear
Posted By: Misha on 2007-10-19
In Reply to:
Interspecies play. Click link below.
LINK/URL: Polar bear visitor
Complete Discussion Below:  marks the location of current message within thread
The messages you are viewing
are archived/old.
To view latest messages and participate in discussions, select
the boards given in left menu
Other related messages found in our database
I love Polar Express.
/
DH and I are polar opposites and married for 24 years.
On our very first date, we went to a party held at the apartment of one of his friends. We got there, and all he wanted to do was sit and watch what was going on. He didn't socialize, barely talked and seemed completely uncomfortable. I was irritated and went off to meet people and dance and have a good time. He took me home, told me he had a nice time (I wondered how), and he kissed me goodnight very sweetly with his thumbs sort of hooked into his pockets like a cowboy. He didn't even embrace me, but somehow he made an impression. To this day, I tell everyone that it was THE worst first date I have ever been on, and yet here we've been married all this time.
At first we tried to compromise and do things together, and just as you say, there was always one of us not really having a good time. We'd both end up resenting each other and would think, "If he/she really loved me, he/she would want to be part of my world and share my interests." My husband is an introvert, but he does have his interests. He's a runner; a serious competitive runner at the age of 50. He's good at it, and he loves it. He's very involved in his track club. I'm proud of him, but for me it's dead boring to drive for hours and then sit next to a track all day waiting for him to run a 2-minute race.
By the same token, I love being outdoors. Hubby is NOT an outdoor kind of guy. He hates camping. I love backpacking. He's afraid to be out of his comfort zone. I like trying new things. He's afraid of animals. I think it's a great day when I see a bear or a snake along the trail.
After a few years of compromising, we just decided to do our own thing and support each other. We don't take long vacations together anymore, but we do get away for romantic weekends or have quiet dates now and then.
What we came to realize is that we see each other every day. We like our home life together. We enjoy that. Our separate interests only take a fraction of our lives together, so we pursue those on our own, then come back and enjoy being together again. On any given weekend, he'll be running somewhere and I'll be hiking somewhere else. On Sunday evening, we're back together again for the rest of the week. Once or twice a year, we go away, but we go to separate places. He may be off running somewhere with his club while I'm home. Another week, he's at home and I'm out hiking on the Appalachian trail. We did this even when our children were small. I have to admit, it's much easier now that the kids are older. This past summer I drove to Wyoming from Philadelphia with our 18 year-old. Hubby didn't want to take that much time from work, but we talked every day, and he was excited to hear about our adventure.
So, even if you don't like the same things, it can be done. You just have to get past the idea that you're "supposed" to be together, or want to be together all the time. That's not necessarily so. I think that doing your own thing and supporting each other in your individuality actually makes each of you more interesting to the other. So, if you like going out with the girls, have fun. Tell him all about it when you get home. If he prefers to stay in and watch a movie, he can tell you about the movie, and when you're done sharing, you snuggle up and say, "I'm so glad we're together again." Enjoy your time together and make the most of that.
Where do they allow bear hunting?
I can see it if it is in some area where they are overrun with bears that are getting in trouble, so I'm trying not to freak out here. :o> Bears are cool animals, but then again I wouldn't want to run across one hiking. It would be great to see one from a bus in Alaska, like my parents did.
Bear meat is said to be very strong and gamy, but if you can use the meat makes it a lot less politically incorrect than just hunting for sport. (DH and I used to fish, but it was strictly catch and release).
If you have a big dog, like a rottweiler or ridgeback or malamute maybe, I'd think they could help you, LOL.
I would look on the internet for recipes that use herbs. I like sage and rosemary, but I don't know if they go best with bear.
I would definitely get the fur for a rug or something. The Indians and Eskimos never wasted anything when they hunted, and that's the way to do it.
Good luck finding recipes.
And here is one with Bear & Teddy
Teddy is the Schipperke and has white feet. He's smaller but otherwise looks very similar to Bear. Here they are with hubby.
No snow here, but here is Bear.
Bear thinks he's found a bunny. It's just a stuffie though.
I cant even bear to read the article
These girls must be monsters. Also the pro football player just indicted on charges of dog fighting sickens me. If you want to help, you can go to the Humane Society website and they have pre-written letters that can be sent off to the powers that be for him to get maximum sentencing. This world is a mess.
This one made me laugh because bear was one of the best
meals that I've ever had. One of our scout leaders is a hunter, and brought a bear tenderloin on one of our camping trips. He marinated it in Italian dressing and then cooked it over an open flame on a grate. It tasted very much like beef filet. He had enough for every boy in the troop to try a slice or two, and they all wanted more, including our VEGETARIAN scout! Our vegetarian actually hates veggies, so his diet is mostly bread and cheese. When we got back from the trip we told his mom, "Good news! Your son has decided that he likes meat. Bad news is, you're going to have start bear hunting!"
So, this is the only time I've had bear, and I'm sure the tenderloin is the mildest cut. But it was dee-lish quickly grilled with a simple marinade.
Bear is a very handsome boy, congrats
on the new addition to your family.
Finally pictures of Bear available.
Introducing Bear - our new black spitz mystery dog (possibly chow mix, Belgian mix, or my favorite, Swedish Lapphund!).
Bear and Teddy are just adorable. They might
decide to water that Christmas tree LOL.
Oh darn, Bear just ate Santa
right off the tree. I'm not actually a big fan of Santa decorations, but this was one of a set of cute homemade-looking, brightly painted flat ornaments that looked like they were made from bread dough or something. I don't know exactly what they were made of, but it doesn't look like he swallowed much. He's such a puppy.
Bear ate Santa off the tree...now he's...sm
eaten/torn up the ottoman? He probably does miss you a lot Misha....It's a long day without mommy.  Cat
Sounds like Bear needs a crate so you
don't come home to a destroyed house LOL. My dogs love their crates. How was the first day for you?
Humping the same bear toy he suckles on? Hmmm!
nm
Bear season opens in PA the week before T-giving.
I also have a friend who travels to Maine for bear season.
I've seen bears many times while hiking and backpacking in PA and northern NJ. (There are LOTS of bears in northern NJ, by the way.) Also, black bears are very active in Shenandoah National Park as well as the Great Smokey Mountains NP. I do believe that Shenandoah has the densest population of black bears in the world. On one day's 10-mile trek there, I saw five bears! They are very, very cool animals, and I consider it a great treat to see them. I have no experience with grizzlies, which have a different reputation, but the blacks are generally pretty shy and keep their distance. If you respect them and know how to behave in their home, coming across them in the wilderness is not usually a problem.
Clan of the Cave Bear / Earths Children series
There are now five in the series - Ice Age story thoroughly researched by author Jean Aul. There is a website about these as well. Ayla is one of my favorite characters.
I also am a big Nora Roberts fan.
Parents with child who threw teddy bear over the overpass (sm)
I would not! No would I have gone after that teddy bear. I would have told my child, "Oh, well, you threw it, you lost it." That boy is 10 years old! My rule is to never give in to anything demanded through a temper tantrum.
I am going to visit my mom...
I work Wed-Sun, so I will be off tomorrow. So, my daughter is going to take me to visit my mom who lives approx.2 hours away. I am really looking forward to my visit. She is a beautiful lady. She has Alzheimer's plus some other things going on, but when she is here mentally, I enjoy every moment, down to the twinkle in her eye.
No free visit.
It was $75 to adopt her because they can't find a spay scar. I got a $10 certificate towards a rabies vaccination and $40 toward a spay.
I finally got her to eat some catfood, I know not the best thing in the world for her but I just wanted her to eat anything at this point.
I think she might be puking too from all the hair she's chewing off herself. I don't know how she's doing that. The bottom front teeth are broken down to the gum line and her top teeth are broken at different levels and she's missing one completely.
Hopefully whatever is going on is easily treatable.
C'mon visit us in NC
Hayseed, we've got daffodils, crocus, phlox, forsythia, tulip trees, Bradford pear trees blooming. The rest of the trees are budding. We're about 2 weeks from green. :-)
Come visit anytime you want!
visit to the other side
I was at a bridge and on the other side I saw people sitting on lush lawn and playing in the water, lots of laughter, etc. I was met by a spirit who said (telepathically) that I had things to do before I came in but that it was totally my decision to stay or return. I chose to return. That evening I told my doctor the whole story, from the moment the nurse told him I had passed to what they did to my body next and my experience on the other side. Needless to say, he was speechless. This was in 1964 and none of these experiences had been published yet.
Definitely a podiatrist visit
I had to take my daughter a few months ago and she had a severe case of athlete's foot. Her feet always stunk and then she complained that they hurt and they were peeling and cracking like crazy. The podiatrist said it would take months to clear up. Feet are nothing to fool around with. I'd definitely make an appointment.
visit letssaythanks.com
And send someone in the military a personalized free printed postcard. This would be totally cool if a bunch of us did this. Let's shower them with these very cute cards.
Tell your sister she can come visit, and tell him to
You can always get another spouse, but you can't get another sister.
Actually, the first visit was 4 hours.
The next two were 2 hours each, if that matters.
Well he doesn't even want to go visit his dad at all (sm)
asks me not to make him go. But he says he loves where we moved and part of the time he seems much happier. I think he just thought that when we moved there would be no rules. I will look into some counseling for him though. thanks
Like the Oriental rug one. Do you visit
aa
DOCTOR VISIT
Where is one you will not believe: My sister has emphysema. She went to a pulmonary specialist. He sent her for a bunch of tests. On her next visit to him, he tells her she has 1-2 years to live or less. She started crying. He said "Are you crying?" She just looked at him. He said "Why are you crying?"
Well, you can imagine how upset we have been over the last 3 months. It was hard for me to even talk to her, as we cried the whole time. I would try to comfort her, but I needed comforting too, as she is the only relative I have left other than my immediate family.
She called me last night and said "I AM NOT DYING." It seems the tests were all mixed up from the hospital where she had them done. I told her we should sue them for all they have put us through. I cannot believe they did this. You just have no ideal what we have been through. You can imagine what my sister and her husband have been through. I am so glad she called me immediately and told me.
I would tell them not to visit unannounced any longer.
:)
One hint - when a dog lover can't visit or
travel places that others think are fun - its because the person doesn't want to do it! Best excuse in the world.... I know...
I pick at them until they come off. Cheaper than a dr visit
nm
DH and I went visit stepdaughter in Naples, Fl.
xx
So cute!! You must visit this site...
http://icanhascheezburger.com/
There's a clever caption for that picture of yours there, I just know it... :-D
I had my postoperative visit today.
the surgeon said that I am doing very well. My first band fill is in two weeks.
I have absolutely no regrets!!
One day our pastor stopped by for a visit
and my son, who was 5 then, was talking to him. The pastor asked my son what time his bedtime was and he replied, "it's s'posed to be 9 o'clock, but mommy says we piss 'round till 10." I almost died of embarrassment. Unfortunately, pissin' is a word I use quite often and never realized how much kids picked up on it. Thankfully, the pastor laughed and said he understood completely as he grew up on a farm and there was a lot of that going on there.
Appreciate your feedback, if you visit the site.
//
Ahh, that's why I don't visit political board.
aa
a 4-hour visit? i don't think i could tolerate something like that
:)
Want to tell you about my Salt Lake visit
as you said your MIL there. I visited there and that was the best smelling city I think I have ever been in. I wrote email to the chamber of commerce there stating that. Have no idea where the sweet smell from but wonderful smell walking on the steets there.
Having your children visit at work does not just go along
with a small town setting. I lived and worked in Atlanta and the hospital I was at did not want family members to visit at any time, kids, mothers, aunts. Being small town has nothing to do with this practice and I think it makes sense myself.
your husband should tell his father to visit
only when he (your husband) is home.
grrr the dr's office should not be telling her about your visit
I had the same thing happen. I went to the ER and asked to be a "no info" patient and do not let anyone know I was there including my husband who was a staff member. 30 min they showed my husband to my room!!!!!!!!!
Honestly this HIPPA stuff just goes out the window when your spouse or relative works at the hosptial.
I would speak to the office manager and physician about their breach on confidentiality.
Just do not list anyone for emergency contact information.
I'm a single mom and I have friends # listed on his car seat, in my wallet and at the hosptial record who could pick up my son if I had to have surgery or worse. My family isn't here for me now they are the last people I want around me if something really bad happened.
I visit a market with the organic food
but knowing the problem with the connection with chicken and the bad feed, was asking DH tonight about the chicken purchase when he showed me the signs, all natural, no addictives, no hormones, etc. This is a wonderful world market in Decatur, Georgia and they have everything. I love seeing all those things that I never eat and would not know how to prepare from other countries, noticed the Chinese okra tonight and it was huge, always a treat just to look as we shop.
You looking to visit, vacation, or possibly move there? nm
s
OMG! - she is hilarious. Let me know when she shows up - would love to visit with her also!!
x
A local nursing home might appreciate a visit.
xx
Best places to visit on the East coast
In June, my husband and I will be attending the HD Bike Week in Laconia, New Hampshire. If you had to name just two or three places that everyone should see on the East coast {Washington, DC, Maryland, Virginia, Connecticut, Massachusetts, Pennsylvania, etc. down to North Carolina} what would they be? We will be visiting Maine - that is already on the agenda. We plan to visit Arlington National Cemetary and the Capitol. We have been on the Freedom Walk in Boston.
We have not determined how much time we will be spending on the East coast. Please just name the places you think we should visit if time wasn't a concern.
Thank you very much for your time, assistance, and input. I appreciate this very much!
Any chance you could visit family or a friend...
for a few days when he leaves the dogs? Or simply tell DH that you will only take care of your guys? Let hubby experience what a job it is. I have a cat and a large black lab and those two alone can keep me pretty busy. Can't even imagine what you go through on a daily basis, let alone when you have extras. I believe in karma, and you have a giant reward coming your way one of these days, as do many of you other kind-hearted posters.
And vice versa, just because the kids do not visit
does not mean their parents tried any and everything to raise them properly and then the kids turned out rotten. Works both ways.
Just an update on my Social Worker visit.
No one has come by yet, but it's only Monday, but I did get the house cleaned with the help of my son, his girlfriend, and two of his friends. I took the advice below about shuffling all my ex-husband's junk to the garage. He has a fixer upper car in the garage anyway, so I just piled stuff around it, on top of it, and in it. The garage is a complete mess, but we don't live in there, so whatever. My son and his buddies cleaned up outside the house too. We had about 10 bags of trash for the trash truck this morning, but they took every one of them. Thank goodness!!
I'm way more calmer now than I was on Friday when all this crap broke loose. Thanks to everyone for calming me down. I'm ready now for when the social worker stops by. I saw another officer over the weekend at the gas station and he asked me about my situation, asked me if my ex was ever served and then told me that he was proud of me for finally getting rid of him and that he would talk to his boss about this whole "social services thing." He said his boss (who was the officer at my house on Friday) doesn't really know the ins and outs of the community like the officers do and he'd make sure he let him know that my ex is the one causing all the trouble.
So that made me feel better too. I just can't believe how ugly this is getting. I guess I'd better prepare myself because it will probably get worse before it gets better. The divorce is just beginning.
Visit the station rather than call the cops...
Don't call the police. Rather, go to the police station and ask to speak to a detective. (You can call and make an appointment if you don't feel like spending an hour or so in the waiting room.)
You absolutely must get the law involved. You heard this kid threaten to kill his mother. Obviously, his mother is intimidated by him as well.
You can "file" reports without them showing up on the public blotter. By filing reports and keeping the detective involved, you just may be saving your neighbor's life. The cops will surveil the neighborhood on a regular basis and even keep an eye on him. (He's probably getting into no good elsewhere too.)
Also, you and your family could possibly be in mortal danger from this whacko kid as well.
From what he's said and done so far, you can expect this to escalate far beyond your wildest dreams/nightmares. He's not going to give up until you and your family are gone...one way or the other.
Think about it for a bit, but be sure to act quickly.
When I was younger, there was a similar episode with a neighborhood bully where the parents had no control. A bunch of the bully's neighbors ended up taking his parents to court on what I think was a 'show cause' complaint. The nonsense stopped after the court appearances.
However, times are more violent now, and within the past decade or so, these bully types have been blowing away people in alarming numbers. So, don't put your family at risk.
Good luck.
|
