Upset with my child's school -- failed eye exam

First, the facts.  My child has retinitis pigmentosa.  His vision is 20/200 without glasses and his best corrected vision is 20/70.  I have taken him to the specialists at the University of Michigan and the prognosis is not promising.  He is only 8 years old and I don't feel he needs to know the true extent of what his future might hold.  He inherited this through me, as my parents were both blind, and this is a congenital defect. 

He came home from school yesterday and informed me they were all tested by the Health Department with an eye exam, which, of course, he failed miserably.  He informed the technician that he could not see the chart, so she told him "just guess."  Then he was asked if his glasses were old, that he might need new ones, and he informed me that she would be sending me a letter stating he needs an official eye exam and new glasses.   

So, before I blew my top, I went to the school office this morning.  I asked to see my child's emergency contact sheet, which includes a section regarding existing medical conditions.  There it was, plain as day, stating all of his ophthamologic conditions.  I feel this information should have been checked by their staff before they administered and unnecessary test on my child.  I informed the principal that I did not want him subjected to any more visual testing (which they plan to repeat in two years).  They didn't seem to understand why I would not want this free testing.  I asked them if they would perform a hearing test on a child with a hearing aid -- then they finally got my point.  I think permission slips before testing might be appropriate. 

• Upset with my child's school -- failed eye exam - MissAnthrope
  • For several years I signed a permission slip - daiseymae
  • Our school send notices home when they - sm - XXX
  • In Georgia, we receive permission slips also. - (sm)
  • In Florida where we lived, we did get permission slips - ahead of time.......nm
    • I grew up in FL, too, and we got these every couple of years, no permission slips. sm - Confetti
  • Our schools are required to perform - kg

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I need some opinions from other moms.  My little 5-year old dd got in trouble at school and was put in time-out.  First, she was talking to her other friends during a movie that they were watching, then she was talking and playing during nap time.  She did not get to go skating or get ice cream like we usually do on Saturday nights.  We went to Lowes to get some things for the house and she found a book that she wanted, I told her no because she acted up in school.  That has been her punishment so far. I am thinking about having her go apologize to the teacher Monday for acting so ugly Friday or would that be too much?

She has been in daycare since 1 year of age and last September she went to Pre-K.  This is the first time anyone has mentioned having any problems with her.  The night before my 15 month old kept us up all night and I know with my 5 year old doesn’t get enough sleep she does act up and I feel that was the real problem, she was tired.

If so, how did you go about figuring out how to teach them? 

Our daughter was in public school but we moved her to a private school at the first of the year because she was very behind in the public school and they refused to give her extra services.  Since moving her to the private school we have found out that she does have learning disabilities, which means that she would need to return to the public school since the private school doesn't have special education services available.  She has learned a lot while in the private school because of the small class size and a teacher that spends a lot of time with her and we know that she has learned much more than she would have if she had stayed in the public school.

Now the public school is wanting her to repeat the grade when she returns there in the fall.  Yes, the very same public school that refused to help us before and actually blew off my questioning if she had learning disabilities now only has a "repeat the grade" attitude.  The problem I have with that is that she has proven on testing done at Sylvan learning center that she is academically half way into her current grade, so if she repeats the grade she will be bored for half of the year because she knows that material.

Therefore we're considering home schooling but don't know how effective this might be with her learning disabilities.  Does anyone else do this?  How did you find out about the techniques you needed to teach your child so that they could learn?  We know that she has an average IQ so that's not a problem - it's just getting her brain to process the information correctly.

Thank you.

plans pay for new lenses once a year and new frames every two years.  I go every two years for both and exam and new glasses because usually my frames are out of wack with loose screws and the like by the then and I just get it all at once.

However, I don't know the rules for contact lenses as I've never liked them, but I do seem to recall with my sister that there is a yearly exam required especially if you are wearing those disposable ones.

Yeah, I tried to attach pictures and I could never get it to work...someone has always bailed me out who knew how to do it.

You need an internet link to the picture--can't just directly upload from your own directory.  THEORETICALLY all you need to do is click on the little picture icon (if you hover over it with your mouse cursor it will say "insert picture") and simply insert the http address. 

Right now I just did it with my favoritest "photoshopped" picture of a baby skunk in my barn but it will probably show a red X because I can never seem to get it to work right.  (No preview button to verify if it worked before posting--always a bummer).

When all else fails, you can always ask admin.  

Just need to express a little;

On my way home from a nice lunch with my DH, I saw a horrible car accident where a teen girl T-boned a car and killed the driver of the car.  I am beside myself with emotion right now. The poor girl flipped out when she learned that the other driver was dead, literally running across 4 lanes of traffic and collapsing in a fastfood restaurant parking lot.  My heart is breaking still for her as well as the other driver's family and friends. 

I have a teen daugther chomping at the bit to get her license and I DONT WANT HER TO...just because of stuff like this. 

Please remember these families in your prayers.  This young girl has a long, hard road ahead of her I'm sure...not to mention the other driver's family...

Vehicles are not necessary or permitted at U.S. Naval Academy where son went until beginning of senior year.  Daughter went to self-contained college campus in Maryland.  Family member helped w/transportaiton when necessary.  Raised 5 children.  Shelter, food, clothing necessary expenses, vehicles & exhorbitant insurance for teens not necessary.  Check the stats on young drivers ages 16-25.  Then decide if you want your your teen driving.  It helps a lot if they pay their own way or at least part.  Def driving helps some.  Raised 5 children.  Lot of parents want the kids to drive so they don't have to be bothered.

Hey everyone, HELP me! I had a bat hanging on the edge of my sofa when I came down from my break at 12:30 p.m. to go to the mall for my iced tea. I called the guy down in the apartment downstairs and he came up and let's just say took care of it. I was in tears! Don't like anything to be hurt, but I floze out about such things. I have bad eyes, and when I came down the steps I thought, what's that black sock doing on the side of my sofa. Then I remembered socks don't have wings! Beam me up! I'm still upset! LOL!!!   This past week has been the week from

H   E   double hockey sticks!!!!!   I need an Ativan the size of a hub cap!   Just wanted all my MTs to know if could get worse. . .  IT JUST DID.

The guy who helped me is so tall he kinda looks like Herman Munster without the bolt, which is scary enough!!!!!!!!!!!!! He is nice, though and thank goodness he was there. Have a good day, guys! 

Because you posters are equating being unemployed with being a thief or an embezzler.  You'd be upset too if people called your son a thief.

I have never come across the problem with checking credit because my husband's and mine has always been excellent.  I guess you learn something new every day, about life and about people who can be so vile while hiding behind a computer.

the original post.  Sending my son to a boys' home is obviously a last resort.  I don't mean an orphanage or foster care.  I mean a facility that can help to retrain him if I can't.  I love my son very much.  I would rather suffer the pains and guilt of having to send him to a reformity, then to watch him grow up into someone who would hurt someone else and ruin the rest of his life.  I love all of my children equally. 

Secondly, when I took my child to the child psychologist, I had several visits with him first to see if there was something I was doing wrong.  I continued to attend each session with my child, including private sessions for myself after his meeting with my son. 

Thirdly, your comments were not helpful, just nasty, and that's not the kind of help I was looking for.  Anyone who's ever been in this situation already feels inadequate as a parent and doesn't need someone else to slam them.  Thanks for taking the time out of your busy day to do just that.

My daughter's friend's mom just informed me that my mother told her daughter (and mine) that she had been chased by a demon and had seen demons and ghosts. When my daughter told my mom she didn't believe her, my mother took out a Bible and swore on the Bible that it was true.  She has the little girl so scared she won't sleep in her own bed and won't go to the bathroom by herself.  I called my mom and asked her why she would do this.  She said it was the girls fault because they didn't believe her so she had to swear on the Bible to prove it to them.  I asked her if while she was saying all these things, she was unaware of all the times I have asked her not to say these types of things, and if she really did not know she was saying something I wouldn't want her to say.  She said she guessed she did know and that maybe she shouldn't come to my house anymore if she is going to upset people (patheticically) so I said if she can't honor my requests as the mother in this house then I guess she shouldn't come back.  I just feel so bad though, so bad.

my husband doesn't understand and my other friends homeschool (as do I), so I have no one to talk to about this. My 3-1/2 year old has been crying all day. What is wrong with him? Not crying, but unplugging stuff for my computer, unfolding laundry, taking DVDs and throwing them all over the floor.  So, I spanked him, yet again, and nothing is working. I sincerely cannot take this.  I cannot, I cannot, I cannot.  I have to put him in a program somewhere.

I am crying so hard right now because my husband and I are both advocates for homeschooling and having the children at home. I am suffering having to spend the majority of my day spaking and disciplining an unruly child which gives me no time to homeschool his brothers.  They (the other brothers) hate to see their little bro get into trouble, but what is one supposed to do? There are 3 of them and 1 of me.  I just lost it a few minutes ago as he just started tearing things up again. Here are the options: Get rid of every single electronic thing in my household (including my work computer), tv's, Playstation 2(which is 10 year old brother loves), and everything else and go back to the days of old where it was just mom, kids, and dad at work.  I'm seriously thinking he is just too distracted and can't help it.  OR solution #2, put him in daycare somewhere (this makes me cringe, cry, sob- because he will be just a number there (I know - I worked for one for a long time - I don't care what anyone says), or in a pre-K program somewhere, but around here they only last for 2 hours (GA). I know, because I've checked.

Anyone else with similar situation? I'm thinking of putting them all in school so I can work since I have to work. Our expenses outweigh husband's income. I must work. I only work at night,though, so that isn't an issue during the day.  I am at my wits end.  I know if I work, though, a lot if it will go towards daycare.  But inside my head and heart, I can't take this. I don't know why, I just can't do this anymore.