Unfortunately, children do hold grudges...
Posted By: mom and daughter in heaven. sm on 2008-12-18
In Reply to: Talk about holding a grudge - A mother
YOU call him. He hasn't had enough life experiences to know any better. Show him how things are done. I would just say I am sorry if I have wronged you. It wasn't my intention. Maybe I could have done things differently. I love you. Come over for Christmas.
Even though children hold grudges, they never stop loving their parents. It is the people you love who can bring about the most upset and emotion.
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Children having children not a new thing, where do you live?
My son, who is now in his early 40s, told me years ago when in high school about all the teenage mothers that were at his school and said they brought the babies to school, and he seemed to think it was like the girls having playdolls like when you were little. This is not new and apparently folks think alright to have their children sans marriage, be it preteens, teens or adults. I guess my years alone do not make me shocked at anything anymore. Others talk about this job being isolated and your post says some of this if you were shocked at what the son said.
Hold off on 911...
Nah, not elderly...yet. Just raised with good morals and my priorities are where they should be. I don't expect people to give me anything.
Doesn't matter if you spend $20 or $20,000. Again, you spend what you can afford. If 10,000 was under budget, great. You suggested everyone should give a minimum of $25 then your 60 guests x 25 = $1,500. You made a profit.
If the "bride and groom incurred a very big expense", that's their problem. Take a nice honeymoon? I wonder how many don't even HAVE a honeymoon. Why do you think you are entitled to a nice honeymoon?
You are missing the point. A gift is a GIFT. Whether it's money or an object, it is GIVEN to the bride and groom from their guests out of the goodness of their hearts.
People like myself do understand that the bride and groom or someone dished out some heavy duty dough for a wedding, and we sit there at the table and say "Can you imagine what they paid for this?" Then we laugh.
Guess I'm being too practical, but I'd rather take the money it cost for the traditional wedding and put it towards a house.
How's this for a new theory: you save until you have enough for the wedding AND honeymoon of your dreams. THEN you get married.
By the way, I do give money at a wedding, but I give what I can afford.
NOW you can call 911.
hold off if possible!
Had I known about flushes prior to my surgery in 2001, I would have done everything in my power to have avoided it. My digestive system is so out of whack since I don't have a gallbladder, it's terrible. I have done 5 flushes since this past May and have seen all kinds of stuff come out. I really believe they could have saved me. I just didn't know about them and of course the Dr.'s aren't going to tell you. All they say is that you don't really need it. Visit www.curezone.com and checkout the liver flush forum. That's where I learned about it. Good luck!
Hold out until you get a new job.
Sounds like a few companies..
I am when I can get a hold of her...sm
I have been trying to call and can't get an answer.
trying to hold on, but I also am
starting a "sock account"!
He did say he wanted to hold off since my dog sm
is young, only 1-1/2 years old. I'm a wreck from trying to keep on eye on him as much as possible. Then, when I get comfortable after he hasn't had one for awhile, another one occurs. Just 3 weeks ago we had 15 inches of snowfall and I let him and our other dog out to potty. Well, I called them in and found the little guy in a snowbank and the ned of our lot shivering with the endings of a seizure. I ran outside in my barefeet and got him out of the snowbank and carried him in. It just tears me up to watch it. LOL--it probably IS worse on us than the poor poochies.
SHUT UP AND HOLD ON!
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...hold off on surgery. nm
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hold on tight - sm
You need not to panic. The stock market is going to have highs and lows of varying degrees. If you bail out now you will have lost money, plus all the taxes you will pay. Hang on!! 
Hold the pickles.....have had it that way...yuck!
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Hold on, can you or can you not kill a spider?
I just killed 1 the other night and I do not know if I was supposed to do something else to go along with that or do I have a jinx from now on?
Also did you know if you hold in your stomach muscles
and breathe slowly in and out through your nose it works the stomach muscles? This is based on Pilates and also Greer Childers breathing techniques for losing weight. I do this while watching TV, working, driving and standing when I think about it and not sure if that is why but I have very little belly fat.
Can't Hold Us Down by Li'l Kim & Christina Aguilera. nm
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It's a buyers market. Just hold on to that job.
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your fear should not hold him back.
I understand your feelings, but this seems like a completely reasonable and good trip being planned, one that could mold his mind/heart for his future. Your son could make a very positive difference in many others lives. If you haven't already, learn to trust God.
Hold on, now - not all old folks have that smell
I have an aunt who is 89 and she always smells so good, likes her really nice perfume and never a stinky. She is in 80 group. I am quickly getting to that ole folks age but I also love smelling nice although I don’t do the perfume as I love those nice shower gels.
Are you going to hold his hand on the subway, too?nm
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Mine's 43...don't hold your breath ;-) nm
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Well, dont hold your breath.
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Victor can hold a grudge but...
he loves Niki. It will be rough for a while but I think all in all this will bring them closer together since it involves both of them so directly and of course the kids.
I think a lot is about to happen with Adam pretty soon too. He thinks the Newman's are a broken family but he doesn't understand the half of it. He didn't really grow up in a traditional family and I don't think realizes there are bumps in the road but they are still family and will always be close - the last few months is typical of the Newman's but will come back together as a tight knit group.
Do you ever watch on holidays? They usually do re-runs of old episodes.
Let me know if you have any questions about the past. I have been watching for about 20 years. I started as a kid because my entire family has watched it routinely since it started and I was sucked in with the rest. My husband now watches it (but of course denies lol). A lot is based on history of the characters.
i hate it when i hold the door for someone and they
snotty, like i owed them that courtesy. i've even said "you're welcome" to people. once, a woman said, "I didn't ask you to hold the door for me, fat ass." nice.
Thanks to all, but with the loss of bone to hold the
teeth in, it seems I don't have many options. I just met this dentist, who is just wonderful, on Wednesday through a friend. I am going back in 2 weeks to have an old filling replaced that has cracked. I will talk in more detail with him about options when I begin losing my teeth. I was told I had about a 40% bone loss on the bottom especially in the front. Thanks again.
I only have 1 question - if you hold these degrees
what are you doing on this forum? Why are you not putting your masterful degrees to a better position that would be more than the lowly MT
Hold it, are you saying zinc helped your
insomnia? I have gone through some natural items my husband had and still waking usually every 2 hours during the night, drives me crazy and needless to say the next day feeling like a zombie. I also take biotin and have the longest eyelashes now, not so much help for the hair but my dermatologist told me to take that the rest of my life due to the severe hair loss. Talk about avoiding the scales, only my scales and I know the truth there, do not even weigh in the doctor's offices, just tell them take a guess.
Anna Nicole's burial on hold maybe
Anna Nicole's mother is trying to stop her daughter from being buried right now. Also the father of Daniel is trying to have his son's body exhumed. This is really sickening. Let her REST IN PEACE already.
I'd hold off on the foot pedal, Scott, sm
as you may hook up with a company that will provide you one that is specially programmed. I bought a wav pedal a few years ago and never used it.
Catalog with a possible web site out there called Hold Everything might
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Anyone try a GB flush to hold of surgery? Successful
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You ever deal with Lab couch pup?Mine would hold
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hold on....letting adults paddle my kid?
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Have hope, just dont hold your breath while you
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hold up...are you sure this is a Roman Catholic Church?...
First, let me state I have utmost respect for my faith and priests but they cannot force your daughter to convert...it is against the Roman Catholic faith to do so (prosyletizing). Also, in regard to all the other issues that you mentioned, any so-called "sinful activities" that may or may not have gone prior to marriage, these are reserved only for the confessional and not for the premarital screening process. The priest has no right to ask for "penitence" or to know their secrets. I think you may be onto something; my suggestion is to contact the archdiocese this priest lives in and calmly state your case without passion; he may have had other complaints against him. A wedding day should be a sacred occasion filled with joy and i hope you can resolve this issue.
So funny - I remember when I thought it was hold me close I'm tired of dancin'......! lol
But I like Tony Danza better. Going to sing that from now on. LOL
I should mention that I am 42, have 2 children and done with having children. nm
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You must a) not have children or b) your children are young
I don’t see them as being spoiled- I see lots of kids in the age group of one (30+) who are totally in the me scene, not just the 1 I have- she married and her husband same - a me type person. The other not spoiled but just got nasty when he did not get the money left to me and he thought he should. Just to think, this was my chosen 1 if I had to choose. Oh well, live and let live is the way I see things now.
she said *he definitely does not want more children*
but she said that HE definitely does not want anymore children...that's what the OP said so I responded based on that *fact*.... 
I am so sorry!! I have 4 children myself
30, 28, 24 and 17 - and can honestly say that we have gone through periods like this before - it is usally something really silly that gets all blown up - a misunderstanding, etc. Enjoy your birthday to its fullest - send a gift/card to your granddaughter as you normally would and go about your business with no bitterness - it will all work out - they will be back to you soon - really! :)
Yes, and then only if there are no children.
Sorry, but tobacco is a dastardly substance that people need protection from IMO.
Does she have children. If so, what are
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I have 2 children of my own,
starting with K. This is my sil who is having the baby and she has 3 children already and has run out of K names. So, I thought I would give her a hand. Thanks for your suggestions!! I am passing them on.
All children are different
it seems to me you keep comparing your 19-year-old to your 21-year-old. Since they are two separate people, they should be treated as such. Times are a changing. I'm sure it does worry you, but if she's off to college, she is probably staying out late there too.
both my children do just that and they are
both well-rounded, well-behaved, straight A students. Children have to live in this world and we as parents have to love and teach them. I know I am not the exception.
Whether having children or not is, without SM
question,your own choice, but you come across as very cynical. Perhaps you are watching too much TV or listening to talk radio. Things are not that bad. Oh sure, there is too much media attention given to Britney Spears, but most young girls, with the proper guidance, don't want to be her. There is a challange to motherhood, but most of us meet it very well.
Children & TV
How many hours a day/week do you let your children watch TV? Do they have TV's in their room? If so how do you monitor (or do you monitor) what they watch?
Have you ever banned certain shows from your house? What do you think about all those "sassy" shows on Nickelodean and Cartoon Network, like "Zach and Cody," or "Drake and Josh" or "Hannah Montana?"
I'm thinking of changing the TV rules and want to know what you all do with your kids.
Is this only to children that you know and
the parents know who the treat is from. We used to give out special home-made treats but always with a note saying who it was from. Now our neighborhood has grown so much we have a lot of children that don't live in the area. I don't want to give out something to someone and then their parents not let them eat it.
23 and 25 and like your children
my of my kids friends have older parents. All the kids like to hang out at our house because we "seem so much cooler" than their parents. Believe me, nothing goes on in this house that shouldn't. We just always have lots of junk food in the freezer, don't mind the music up loud, and love to just sit and chat with the kids. Last night one of my son's friends was picking him up to go to youth and she was early so we talked while he got ready. When it was time to go she said she didn't want to leave. It was really sweet.
Do you have children? LOL! sm
Meant that becasue I have a friend that says she has "brain damage cuz she has kids". I have a book that is titled "If questions for the soul". Not all questions are religious but most are. I had another one that was the same but not religious ? and loaned it to a friend. We often have these books in the car on family road trips. Really gets the family talking.
My children, now 26 and 25, are right there with yours. My
son works in retail (grocery store) and buys his jeans to wear to work at the thrift store. None of us mind wearing thrift store clothes. We tend to shop clearance racks and sales. They are not particular about the brand of clothing they wear (I never was either) so long as they fit and are comfortable. I'm really glad mine don't feel the need to compete with everybody else and spend everything they make trying to keep up with others.
Since I do not know you or your children, sm
I can not tell you the effects it will have on them--but, do not think for a minute they do not know about and cannot feel the stress and fear you are dealing with.
For me, it was best for me and my children to have a peaceful, happy home than to live one more day like we had been. This is a personal choice and for us, I made the right one. Good luck to you.
you know your children and how
they are prone to react (ie, 'you turned out okay'). I never lied to my kids, but only shared my experiences when I thought it would add to their education about a subject, and of course was age appropriate. For example, about drugs, they know what i think about pot/weed, but they don't know anything else i may have tried. Sometimes personal experience gives validity to the discussion, but i sure wouldn't make it a confessional.
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