Try to work an earlier shift. Your
Posted By: Stardust on 2008-11-26
In Reply to: what about the transportation issues - Frazzledmom
daughter should be able to keep herself busy with homework, chores, etc, until you get done working. Then when you aren't working, let her have her friends over or take her to a friend's house. You don't need to be distracted when you are working, especially in our line of work. She will just have to understand. But I would let her have her time with her friends when you are off. It will be less distracting for you and you won't have to jump up to see what is going on.
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I also work a split shift.
I stay in my pajamas as long as I can. After work I chill and then do whatever chores around the house, and then take a shower and make myself somewhat "presentable" by the time everybody gets home.
I used to work for a finance company many in an earlier lifetime, sm
At that time, I never saw anything repossessed. However, they would guarnishee people's wages. The first thing you need to do is to contact the lenders to work something out. Sometimes they used to refinance the loans to lower the payments. Or, you could contact somebody like Consumer Credit Counseling Service (be careful and find a legitimate company). They can work out deals with your creditors. Be prepared that this will not help your credit rating, but the companies usually work with you if you are up front and communicate with them. At least they did back when I was working with them. The worst thing to do is to avoid them.
On the other hand, if you financed the furniture through the store, it could be that they would repossess. I know they do with cars.
What I was referring to was taking out a loan and putting down household goods as collateral, which is what people did when I was working for the finance company.
after my shift...sm
I was in Walmart for 10 minutes because there was non-Christmas stuff that I needed and then I went to the grocery store, which was not crowded at all. I was going to go to Target for 1 thing until I saw the parking lot. Not a chance! That 1 thing wasn't that important. This is the first time I've gone shopping on Black Friday in years. It was good to reminded why I don't do it.
midnight shift
My husband learned to leave me alone so I could work when I got a few really lousy paychecks. I told him if he wanted my undivided attention, I would quit and he could get a second job. That always seems to shut him up real quick.
Midnight shift
nightowl:
You know what? I think u are my long lost twin (LOL). I second your statement!!!
Just finished my shift...sm
Hi SAM! It felt like such a loooong shift with all the tough dictators. But that is behind me now. Weatherwise, we hit 70 degrees once so far, now back down to the low 50s. I love how the days are getting longer.  Enjoy the rest of your weekend!
My DH works 2nd shift and does not always get to see our son's FB games and sm
never can go to his practices. I sit with other parents rather than alone or with strangers. Sometimes it is moms, sometimes dads. It is really the same as sitting with other fans at a pro baseball or football games. It is easier and more fun to sit with someone that shares the excitement with you. It is 100% innocent most of the time. In fact, I have not seen it otherwise EVER.
Getting mom, a 3rd shift LPN, on xmas mornin...
My dad would go out and start up the car to get it all heated, and we'd head out early to get coffee and doughnuts and pick mom up at work on Christmas morning. She always worked Christmas Eve so she could be off on Christmas Day to be with all of us.
There was always lots of snow during Christmastime then and the long drive to the ol' "Hunt Hospital" was always just so beautiful....no traffic, just beautiful back roads with pine boughs heavy with snow hanging over the power lines....
Haven't started my shift yet
I'm much too busy fighing with Bank of America about a hold they put on a check I deposited through the ATM on Monday. My checking account was over drawn. So they HOLD the check for 11 business days. How does that help me not be over drawn any more?????????????
After numerous phone calls and a trip to the local branch, I finally got someone who knew more than the rest and has pointed me in the right direction. His name is Marlin. I love him.
Ha, My shift ended at 6am, but we're on (perpetual) OT
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Midnight shift husband for 18 years now......sm
It will get better....eventually. It took about 8 years for my hubby to realize I can't work midnights like him because we have two kids to raise.
Believe me, it is very difficult at times, but it does get better.
It might help if you have a calendar in full view for him to look at, so he knows what type of schedule you are on regarding work, kids activities, etc. Once he sees it in writing and realizes all the pressure that is on you, he may begin to understand.
Believe me, night shift is not easy for the marriage.
It takes great patience and understanding of both parties for it to succeed!
I sleep with my golden retriever at night now!
If you are reading during night shift - do NOT play maze game
I know you are curious, but please refrain from playing the maze game until the sun comes up!!
Ah, the L was there earlier, but I ate it.
Sorry.
Yes!! Exactly the same for me, only earlier (sm)
That same horrible, boring feeling but it was not related to work - it was related to my life. I think when you are a mom you start to become just sort of a facilitator for your kids in everyone's eyes - not really the kids eyes - but all the other adults and family members. I mean think about it - we had a group outing recently and all the moms sat on the deck "watching" while the kids and dads went waterskiing and getting pulled on the tube, etc. If as the mom you do decide you want a turn you have to wait patiently for all the kids to have their turn and then if you really boldly get up there an say you just really want a turn - you might get one. I know that's kind of a silly example, but that's how it is in real life for moms! Anyway, for a few years I wanted excitement so bad - I felt like I was going to explode. I am not sure a midlife crisis is always a bad thing - sometimes it is sort of a wake up call saying Hey!! You're not getting any younger!! is this how you want to spend the rest of your life??? Mundane and half-***?? I made a lot of changes - one of them was changing jobs - but then I changed back because I really like having my freedom with my job - but did find a better transcription service to work for. My marriage has been rocked and I don't know exactly what I am going to do about that yet, but I HAD TO make some changes. Whew!! Sorry you asked? LOL!
I saw this earlier this morning, as well--sm
and on my start page, they actually showed a picture of the poor puppy! I was appalled at what I consider to be a lenient sentence for inflicting nothing but anger and hatred on a poor defensless animal. Unfortunately, treating these types of people the same way they treat other beings constitutes a crime and violates *their* rights, and would instill a punishment on us far worse than what he received. However, if it was possible to inflict on him the same as he inflicted, I would be the first in line to do so!!! I highly doubt one of his punishments of 48 hours of counseling is going to undo what is screwed up in his brain! But I would surely love to be his *counselor*.
I saw this earlier today (sm)
On the Today Show. It seems that some feel sympathy for her because of her age. From what I have seen, she was asking for it from the moment she was stopped. The police have no idea who or what they will encounter and he could have been facing oncoming traffic about to plow him over, all because a "72-year-old lady" wouldn't move off the road.
Or from earlier, Cagney and Lacey. nm
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This is 100% correct and like I stated earlier
The mother is making excuses for them not to go. She needs to check her attitude because kids play on this. Pack a bunch of things they like and don’t play into their crying. She apparently does not care much about the MIL- it comes out in her posts- saying she only wants to show them off? Most grandparents want to show off g'kids. This is not unusual.
What happened to all the other posts that were here earlier? Mod..can you help? nm
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Eye problems posted earlier
Turns out it was just another eye infection that had my upper "flab" under the eybrow swollen so bad. Whew! Was I ever scared. The eye is now back to normal complete with "weeping" that I have had for the past 8 years when I'm on the computer too long.
I want to thank you all for your support and suggestions. You guys are the greatest.
My daughter had done years earlier and
I noticed the other day she looks as though some have started to not be as aligned as they once were. I am hoping she will get a clear one to help realign hers.
Oh, I remember back way years earlier
when Elvis was serving in the army overseas and he met Priscilla- get this, very hush, hush now but he brought her to live with him when she was only 14 or 16 years old, just a child and he was in his 20s. She finished high school in Memphis. Heard years later she was living with his family, not what happened. Now what would that be called today? Older guy, really young girl?
My grandchildren bypassed me in earlier years
to go to their maternal grandmother, their aunts, their cousins, etc. I just finally gave up and did not seek out their visiting me anymore. Their mother did not want to share (my son should have done his share to see both grandparents to have time)- bottom line on this, they live about 15 minutes away- girl went off to college and wrote me saying surprised I did not come around nor call and I seemed to be ok with that. I did not go into why I was not in the picture, told her I was very happy and accept things as they were. She said saw her aunt more than me and told her that was the way it had been since she was born, not my choice but I just came to accept it. I do not worry about it anymore.
I know you said that earlier; you however did not give specific instructions on how to use it. sm
I was just trying to be helpful -- not take the wind out of your sails!
An office manager earlier in my career...
... those of you who have been around long enough will know the type... the polyester queen who'd started with the doctor when he opened his practice in 1951, and she used to work until 11 o'clock every night, keeping things caught up, but never put in for OT pay, and because she had done it, she expected the rest of us to do it too.... Labor laws? We don't need no stinkin' labor laws.... (No, we didn't stay one minute past closing time. We didn't let her guilt us into it.)
When I started at the job, I was promised a raise in a certain amount after 3 months. I got half the amount, and I was too chicken to raise a stink. Later, my finances got so tight, I went to her to tell her if I didn't get a raise, I was going to lose my apartment and have to move back in with my parents. She claimed she asked the doctors, came back, and told me I'd have to move back home. I later found out she never asked the doctors--and that if she had, they'd have granted the raise. Grrrrr.....
My desk was right next to hers, and if my typewriter was silent for more than 5 seconds she'd look over and comment on the fact that I wasn't working. Nevermind that I was looking something up in the Dorland's at the time....
Many, many years later, I somehow wound up next to her at a retirement party for one of the doctors. She too had long since retired, and I too had moved on, but they invited back any and all of the old staff they could find. By the end of the luncheon I was wondering how on EARTH I sat next to that witch with a capital B for 3 long years and didn't KILL her. Because she was still at it--picked on every single thing I did, including the fact that I ordered steak, because steak isn't for lunch, it's for dinner, and that if you can't afford to pay cash in full for a car, you are not to buy the car, you are to ride the bus to work until you have saved up the full cash price of the car. Then she grabbed my hand and screeched, "Do you bite your nails?"
Come to think of it... it was during that era that I started getting really, really cranky............... :)
Traffic is lighter earlier in the morning
And you'll have a little extra time at your vacation destination! I'm usually geared up to go on vacation anyway and it doesn't seem too awful to have to get up early and go!
Hope you have a great time!
On Jackson, what I said earlier today to husband was
since Farrah Fawcett died today, McMann yesterday I had always heard of hollywood deaths coming in 3s since I was a young child and I told hubby would not be surprised if another person dies soon. Unbelievable, sure did not think about Michael Jackson if this is true.
Ed Bradley from 60 minutes died of leukemia earlier. Sad. nm
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Acetone is nail polish remover, already said that earlier
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Posted about cabbage soup diet earlier
I made the soup yesterday and along with what it calls for added additional bellpeppers, garlic, lots, coriander (spelling?), parsley and both chunked up tomatoes and whole tomatoes. It is absolutely delicious and filling. Ok, not even 11 a.m. yet and I cooked some turnip greens this morning and ate some already (today is the vegetable and soup day). This diet is being used as a bridge for me as next week when I am not supposed to be on the diet, I have been setting up meals such as fish, lean meats and loads of vegetables, not fried for this week coming up. I had tried this diet some years back and like 1 of the posters, found it completely unpalatable but then again did not try the various spices like I have this time. Hope I am on my way to the XXXX amount of weight I need to lose!!
I posted earlier today asking for some suggestions to relieve severe s/m
hot flashes. Tonight I am doing a search for cures and came across a site that swears by apple cider vinegar. There are many posts on this site stating this has been a miracle for not only hot flashes but many other conditions. Now my question. . . How do you drink vinegar in water every day? I am terrible about any liquid medicines, etc. with a bad taste. Anyone use ACV? I wish there was a better way to ingest it. Thanks!
Yes - does not work! Hoax if you ask me. MetaboLife doesn't work either.
The only thing that works for me is exercise and eating correctly! No quick fix, unfortunately.
I wish we could all go the week of the graduation but their graduations are always a week earlier th
ours. So actually all three of my kids are still in school this week while all of hers will already be out. My youngest is actually missing school to go but my two older kids have finals so they can't go at all that week.
Thank you. I guess I'm just trying to find a nice way to say it without causing friction and keeping the peace.
My DH is your typical male, just deal with it when the time comes whereas I want to take care of things right away without hurting anyone's feelings.
And FYI, the thread we are posting in right now was one I started, you started the earlier one. nm
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Not by choice earlier in life, but now no kids by choice
When I was young we desperately wanted kids. We tried for years. (I never took birth control ever, and we even took fertility drugs and planned for multiple kids, just never worked out). Then went through a period of years where husband didn't want them but I did, then years where husband wanted them but I didn't, then about 15 years ago we both decided we didn't want them. We didn't even know what we wanted in life for ourselves and we figured if we couldn't figure out what we wanted why in the world would we bring kids into the world. Now I'm thankful we never did have kids and hope that we never do (I'm 52 with only one ovary - had ectopic pregnancy a few years back), but chances are I do not think we will ever have kids. Now I just cannot tolerate the kids. The little ones are very cute and we love hearing them play in our neighborhood. Some of the things they say are the funniest, but once they get to a certain age it seems like something in them transforms. When they lose the innocence of youth and start becoming little bullies talking back to their parents with their snotty attitudes we just always say, if he was my kid he'd never see the light of day again. Nothing drives me more insane to see the way some of these kids talk to their parents.
But now a days with all the bad going on in the country (around the world) and the country heading for disaster, and if the Mayan calendar is correct and in 2012 we see some major earth changes and the possibilities of civilizations being wiped out, who would want to put their kids through that.
So, I just say - I'm free of kids and loving it!
You dont work for them, you work for YOU. If you
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I TRIED to work, WANTED to work, but
So now I have to scramble for the rest of the week, trying to catch up on what I didn't do today. And of course, working today was in hopes of catching up on whatI didn't do last week. This job is a never-ending hamster-wheel of lunacy.
Everyone has to work once in a while!
Normally in this industry, you are paid an incentive to work "holidays". When I was in-house, I was offered a day off other than the holiday I worked, which was great. I was also offered to only work a 4 hour day, in-house. At home, you should also be given an incentive for those holidays! Some people think that Martin Luther King Day is more important than Christmas because they may celebrate Kwanzaa. Some people feel that April Fool's Day is important, so they are willing to work Easter. It goes on and on... There will be times in your life when you have to make a choice, "one day off" or a career in the "medical field". I would have to agree that we are important especially on those holidays. For example, most hospitals and emergent care units are staffed with one doctor, so it should really be only STATs you are typing. It is hard to "choose" when you want to be "sick". Hence, our salary!!!!!!! Most people will work all kinds of crazy schedules to accomodate their own lives, so why be so uptight about working Christmas because your employer requires coverage. On the other hand, this should be rotated amongst a pool of typists. I worked with a lady that would always volunteer for Thanksgiving (she had no family), so she could have Christmas off just to make us all mad! She'd say "well, I've worked the last 10 Thanksgivings, so I deserve Christmas off! It was so sad! Hmmmpphh! :) Good luck! Have a nice holiday (no matter how you spend it)! 
He did see my dog and work him up sm
and everything came back negative. I'm going to push him more on Tuesday when I call him. I like our vet a lot-have been using him for years with all of my dogs and so far he hasn't steered me wrong. I'm just not sure I want to wait much longer on getting him some medication. The poor little guy suffers so and it just scares the heck out of us. I mean, there isn't anything we can do but hold him and ride it out and just be there when he comes out of it. I just haven't had to deal with anything like this before.
Nah, I do it, too, the more I work, the more I do it.
on vacation, notsomuch!
Does this work?
testing
Both will work actually.
For people who want to learn about something, anything, Google is a great tool. If you want to get into semantics about it though, personally I have real-life, first-hand experience with these critters called OTTBs. That stands for off-track thoroughbreds. They live until their late 20's and sometimes into their 30's and that is rarely taken into consideration by the racing industry, who I feel should kick in a little cash at birth, for every single horse they register with Jockey Club, to ensure that these animals can be cared for, for the rest of their lives. Oh wait...that would put a crimp in the breeders bottom line though, wouldn't it.
I used to work
with someone who would say the quirkiest things. got on my nerves.
And I used to work with someone who had
a stick up their rectum and made everyone's lives mundane.
No, not every day and get this- I only work
part-time. She is always available when I want her to come over, can stay the night if I am working later, whenever I want her. You are probably going to start throwing rocks but my pay to her is anywhere from 50-75 dollars a day, depending on what she does, any extra things I have her do like cleaning the closets, putting up seasonal clothes, other than the regular clothes washing and the house cleaning (she does not iron on a regular basis but if I need something special, she would do that)- she used to cook for us but my hubby does that now. I DO NOT want to quit even my part time position- heck my husband might think I had the time to do housework too and ugh!!
Never during work...
I don't get that. They could buy a lot more if they only shopped on the off hours ;)
That might work if
He would actually go. I can only do so much to make him go. He is the most stubborn man in the world!!
It might work
to cover the parts of the couch they are scratching because cats tend to return to the same spot. If you cover the couch completely, they may go under the cover unless it's secured. If you prefer the cats stay completely off the couch, you could use Scat Mats. They give a little shock from a battery when touched.
Good luck. I've declawed cats before to save the furniture, and they never have the same muscle strength in their upper body after they lose the claws. I've switched to dogs because dogs listen, LOL.
I do work for PS and this is the one - sm
operation she does not like doing, says it leaves horrible scars. She does them but shows many before/after pics and actually has the patient talk to others that have had it done before she will do it for them. They go into it with their eyes wide open. So if you do get it re-done be prepared (that is if a Dr. will re-do you anyway).
How did that work
with insurance? I have one in my left armpit that really bugs me because it is so visible when I wear sleevless tops. My doctor told me that insurance would not cover removing it because it would be cosmetic purposes.
They do work, but -
You have to keep replacing them when their nails grow, or sometimes they just come off. I have all mine trained now not to touch the furniture. In fact, in the 25 years I have had cats I have never had a problem with my furniture being ruined (and I even have leather). I have scratching pads (both upright and the ones in the track ball cirle) that I keep supplied with fresh catnip that I grow myself. The cats LOVE it! They want to show me they are using the designated scratching areas because I always praise them when they do. Now, you need to put them in high traffic areas, not squirreled away some place your cats never go. Put them near the furniture, covered with fresh catnip. Then slowly transition the posts to another location, but put it some place the cats can easily get to. I bet it will work. Best of luck to you! :-)
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