Try to re-read the above couple of posts
Posted By: UR not getting it on 2008-11-24
In Reply to: It's not just about rolling pin - Opinions
about material things. It matters not if it's yours or your husbands (a little weird to me to begin with if you're married). I think you're missing the point.
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I read a couple of them too
and thought they sounded really nice, especially the ones on Friendship and Marriage. Congratulations to you both!! I hope you find just what you're looking for.
I have read all of the posts here and --sm
in my opinion, it is time to do what you have to do. She already has feelings against you, so what difference does it make. try to protect her as best as you can. protect your gd first and foremost. Get her some help, for YOUR peace of mind. God knows what you have done to help in your lifetime. Do not worry about your siblings or what anyone else might think. Do what you have to do..it is time. good luck to you, and God bless.
Now that I read your posts..
I'm figuring that's what my problem was. I had a tubal ligation after my third child 15 years ago. I had endometrial ablation done last March because of heavy periods, which was the best thing I ever did. It was to the point that I sometimes had to get up twice a night to change everything. My doctor told me that I might need another ablation sometime down the road or maybe a hysterectomy eventually.
I have not read through all these posts, but
I had a cat pee on my daughter's new bed and was horrified. We got urine gone from wal-mart and that fixed it totally. Hope you find a solution!
I can't read posts either...
Can't read posts either!
Before I even read the other posts
I understand what you are going through, having been through it TWICE - long story, I refused to be the 'other woman' both times. You have to change the way you think about this man. Maybe your brother did bring him into your life for a reason, to help you grieve and to show you some of the qualities that you want in a man - but at this time, this is not the man for you. It is very difficult to let go. I still wonder sometimes if I did the right thing by walking away, but I could not sleep at night knowing that I destroyed someone's relationship. For history, the first instance was my high school sweetheart. He went into the Army. We wrote letters all the time and talked about marriage. So, imagine my shock when he brought home a woman he'd met while in the Army. I had one conversation with him after that. I asked him if he was happy and he said he didn't know. He couldn't be sure if he'd done the right thing by being with this other person and not me. I KNOW I could've stepped in and he would've left her. But would it have lasted? Would he eventually regret what he'd done? After all, we were different people. So, I told him that I could not talk to him any more. It was too hard. If things didn't work out with this other person, I told him he could call me any time. He is now married to this woman and I pray that he is happy. I made the right choice, as much as it hurt to let go, and that is what you have to do.
When I read these other posts...
No kidding, Natalie.
Whenever I read the posts from forum members who are trapped in an unhappy, sometimes downright abusive domestic situation, I look over at my boyfriend and silently give thanks for hitting the jackpot with him.
The horror stories I've read on this forum about some of these men make me appreciate every single little thing he does for me (and makes me wish every forum member could find the happiness I was lucky enough to find).
The good ones ARE out there, ladies, they really are. You just have to keep opening up those Pandora's boxes until you unexpectedly come across the buried treasure!!!
I have read the above posts and really,
I am not stupid, do not need a shrink, am not in the least bit of trouble with any debtors, no one ever calls my home about a bill. I have spent money, sure, but have sold a zero lawnmower (have several left) no longer needed (4,000 for that), have only monthly small bills like electricity, water, no house payments, no car payments, nothing other than the credit card. I take several trips a year, nothing new to do for me and intend on this year also. My trips are paid in increments over several months so by the time the last payment is due, I have not paid thousands in a month in order to go. I say I spend a lot, nothing wrong with that but I am intending to pay down the credit card starting in May or so and can then throw at least $500.00 a month or more towards that. What I do now is pay what is due and the interest charge. Some months I pay extra on that. There is nothing wrong with spending really. The bad thing is when you are in debt above your ears. That is not the case here. I have been entirely out of debt several times and this will be no exception. I have no clue as to what common sense has to do with someone who spends a lot (if they can afford to).
If you had read my posts you would know
I am not only complaining of the reversed names. I am tired of trying to make something halfway close to words that we use with English that they are trying to do and very poorly. Thank goodness I could throw in the towel tomorrow if I get so ticked off I just do not want to ever hear again. Most do not have that option.
did you read my other posts? sm
am i supposed to leave him alone when he is having stomach aches every single morning because he doesn't want to go to school? (this has happened in the past too, but after a while he got over it). he won't eat at school (for two months now, at the beginning of school he was fine about eating at school). i don't want him to worry himself so much he develops an ulcer. i'm offended at your comment. i love my son very much and only want him to feel better. him feeling anxious about going to school to the point it makes him throw up in the morning, i don't think that's normal. he feels anxious about going to wal-mart, toys r us, hunting stores. is that normal too?
sorry, you hit a nerve with me.
i don't think i will comment any more about my son with this board.
thanks to the other people who seemed concerned and wish us well.
I went down below and read all the posts regarding this poster and her way of sm
parenting. Although we have absolutely no right to tell her how to raise her children, I will say that I am concerned about this way of parenting and living in general. She reminds me A LOT of my sister in law who, mind you, is absolutely perfect. Her kids are perfect, her house is perfect, her yard is perfect, everything is so perfect in her world that it leaves absolutely NO ROOM for mistake, i.e., leaving your coat at home, forgetting your lunch, etc.
I can't stand to be around my sister in law for a nano second, much less Thanksgiving dinner. If you are not perfect and your kids are not perfect, well, behind your back she will talk about you ll day long about how difficult it must be to be you. When, in reality, everyone is thinking this about her. It literally makes my stomach turn at just the mere thought of her.
I don't know about you, but my closest friends are humble, make mistakes, are far from perfect, very forgiving (which my sister in law is not), and just giving in general.
Contrast the 2: The perfectionist who thinks she is teaching her kids responsibility by not helping then when they make a mistake, instead ruling with an iron fist so that "they will never do that again!" OR the nurturing mother who understands that children have short attention spans and can get caught up in moments and will forget their coat or their lunches once in a while and that it is our responsibility to help them and guide them along the way, teaching them love, forgiveness, and that it IS okay to make a mistake.
Honestly, I feel so sorry for my nieces and nephew because of the perfectionist spirit that my sister in law gives off. She really reminds me of Mom of 3 Children. Hey wait. Maybe they are the same person!
Apparently you did not read all of her posts
either.
katie, if you read all the posts...
i think you would have to agree that it was more than a difference of opinion. the posts came across as genuine anger and lashing out.
i stand by my opinion that his/her lashing out did not originate with a tv show, that it went much deeper. i dont care to know the specifics, only pray that it gets resolved.
and that is just MY opinion!
well, I did happen to read all of the posts, and --sm
I just don't see where there was anger and lashing out, but that's just me.
and why do you read posts you have no interest in?
Perhaps no life? Grow up!
That is one of the nicest posts I have ever read on
MTStars. Thanks so much for sharing. It truly is more blessed to give than to receive. 
I can read the posts but it takes
about 15-20 seconds after you click on the post before it comes up. From NJ, Optimum online service.
I've read some of the posts
If indeed this guy has a criminal record, specifically for drugs - which you should verify the proper way through your local sheriff's office or clerk's office - I don't think you would be wrong to tell your daughter that she's not allowed to go anywhere with him. Just be prepared that she may seriously rebel! But you are right, if they're in a car together and he has drugs in the car, she could get arrested too. I would explain that to her and tell her that is your reasoning behind your decision. Yes, teenagers will do what they want most of the time anyway, but that doesn't mean that you shouldn't try. My mother had the attitude of 'well you'll just do it anyway' so I was allowed to do pretty much whatever I wanted. I do NOT recommend that method! :)
Blondie, have read your posts before sm..
You sound like a very good person, very caring. I was in the same situation once with a neighbor's dog. He would go to Canada hunting and just leave his dog tied to a dog house in mid-winter in New England and I would take her into my home, feed her, keep her warm and all. This neighbor today I can say with full confidence was borderline-retarded without a doubt. I am so glad I did this. I even at one time went to the dog pound and claimed this dog who had gotten loose and said it was my own. I could not let this poor dog suffer because of its owner. All I can say is do what is in your heart, it may cost you a few dollars more but think of it is abandoned children and you are there for them. Take a good look at this guy and truly ask yourself is he is capable of the love and caring you have in your heart. I know times are tough, but perhaps you are the one who is meant to save these poor animals. Sounds like this guy is either not the sharpest tool in the shed or something else wrong with him. Does he have enough money for beer or etc., and not his dogs? Then he doesn't deserve them! Think hard about the dogs and what would happen to them if it were not for you. You are a very nice person. I hope you find an answer. As for your husband, only you can answer that question. I think he should at least stick up for you and address his dumb friend as to what his responsibility is in the situation. Good luck, Blondie, you are a sweetheart to put up with all this, and I am sure the dogs are in a better place with you. Do you have an SPCA or someone who could help with the food? Perhaps online you can find a way to make your own food suitable for dogs at a reasonable price. May God be with you. Perhaps you are meant to care for dogs in some way that would be beneficial to you in other ways. God bless you for caring. 
You need to read my posts more carefully.
That's exactly what I'm saying. When tonsils get infected, they do more harm than good and should be removed. I am saying that there's no corresponding indication to remove a normal, healthy, non-infected foreskin.
And incidentally, foreskin serves a protective function as well.
I can post today, but I can't read any posts. Anyone else
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Hey, I didn't read all the posts below but sm for suggestion
Can't help ya with the subway system. I think newbies are all in the same scary boat, but internet could help.
My suggestion is one of those suitcase things on wheels that he can pull. Maybe one of those and then some sort of satchel/mailbag/backpack also.
Seems kind of cruel for this company to throw him to the wolves like that. They should be able to offer a little guidance??
Anyhow, I can't even imagine how you feel. I live in a college town with both kids in their 20s and every time they leave the house, I'm afraid they're going to get lost LOL. So I can only imagine your anxiety.
Try to help him look at it as a challenge rather than something he's going to dread. Once he gets to know the ropes, all should be fine.
Hang in there :-)
I have read all the posts below in answer to your question (sm)
and I believe your main problem lies in getting him to go to the doctor (I have one of those myself - he will probably die at home because he won't go) and in your case, he doesn't see any symptoms, so why should he go? I sympathize. It seems it might have to be something drastic to make him go. Are there other family members who might be able to help you convince him? A bribe of any kind that might work? Good luck with this. I hope you can get him to go. Sending good thoughts your way.
It's therapy. At least for me it is. I don't mind it. Just don't read the posts if you know
they will bother you. I'm sorry to be so rude, but you can't dictate what other people posts unless it's religion or politics. If you start getting into the media and bad news, then you are really censoring the board and you don't want to do that.
Edgy posts are here, just have to be quick to read them as they
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You really need to learn to read before answering posts
She NOR her husband initiated this contact - it is related to sports. Don't insult people when you yourself don't have all the facts. It makes you look like a foolish bully.
Good for you! To read your posts, it really sounds - (sm)
like something has happened with her, since this is a change of character for her. You said she was an awesome friend for many years, and she probably was. But something happened to change that. It could be any one of many reasons, too: Drug habit, early dementia/Alzheimer's, schizophrenia, even a brain tumor. The latter sounds very possible. I wonder what her husband thinks about all this. He seems like a pretty decent guy. Depending on how you view his friendship, you may or may not want to discuss the problem with him. Maybe he needs to get her to a doctor.
I think you were lucky when he offered to do the work on your house for a low price, and DIDN'T screw it up. So many times, you hear horror stories about such things. So the fact that he did the work, and it turned out well, sounds like you have an asset in his continued friendship. BUT, you of course want nothing more to do with the wife.
The easiest thing would probably be to just cut all ties with them both, but I still have this feeling the husband is a good guy. He could be caught in the middle of all this. Or in denial that the lady has a serious mental problem going on. It would also be interesting to know WHY she lost her job. The mental issue could very likely be the reason.
Anyway, I think you were very wise to change the locks! ;D
Many posts hafta read fast cause they are pulled if
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Moderator needs to see, unable to read posts and I am with Bellsouth, not comcast
Nothing here I guess
Chia, Chia, oh you gotta read the posts more carefully
I said getting jackets -not coats and fleece jackets at that, spread over 4 months (from debit card) of $7.50 per month). I don't know of any store I can go in and buy a jacket for around $7 using my debit card and they let me spread over 4 months. Oh, I wear them around my home all the time in the winter to give extra warmth so this is not a frivilous buy. You might say with wearing the jackets actually cutting down on my heating bill. The people who lived in my home prior to me had gas bill of over $300 per month, I keep the overall house lower temperature and my bill now around $140.00 a month.
Wow, a couple of people need to take a couple of happy pills!
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Religious posts and political posts go to appropriate boards. NM
Goldbird
If I don't read before I go to sleep I can't fall asleep. I will read sm
until I begin to fall asleep. They say reading relaxes you fully and it works wonders for me.
I used to suffer from insomnia, but not since I've been doing this - about 5 years now.
Plus, I've grown so much and have gained wisdom by doing so. I enjoy Christian books and reading the Bible.
My mom had a couple of
brothers who wet the bed until they were about 13! There was no abuse and it was a model household. Bedwetting is very common in boys. My brother also wet the bed until he was about 7 or 8. He quit when he got a brand new bed. My step-dad (ignoramus!) thought that proved he was being lazy, but this is a phenomenon that happens a lot, that a new bed stops the bedwetting. Michael Landon even made a movie about it.
My daughter wet the bed until she was about 4. (My two boys never did.) The solution for her was simply waking her up at about 12:30 every night and walking her to the bathroom. After about 3 or 4 days (I am not exaggerating) she never wet the bed again. That is all it took to train her body to wake up when her bladder was full. I'm not saying that it would necessarily work for this child, but I am saying that his mother, winner that she is, probably never thought about how she could help him solve this problem. It might be easier than you think.
Other couple....
If other couple are that into sex that they like hanging pics around and acting out in front of people, maybe they are using him for a third person (if you get my drift...) Lots of people in that lifestyle that you would never know about.
I have a couple (sm)
Inis, which is a perfume from Ireland that smells like the sea, and Amazing Grace by Philosophy. I am looking for a new scent, though, as I have been wearing these for a while. Am interested in Dune by Dior and the lily of the valley perfume....hmmmm
A couple from me...
My nephew (now 27 years old) used to day "pink-honk" for ping pong and "cowadoctor" for helicopter.
I also hate to hear "ax" for ask.
here's a couple
feminine products and birth control. they are the dumbest commercials and do they really need to advertise them anyway?
I took a couple....(sm0
...English (the 6-hour) and Psychology. Basically, what you save is the tuition, not the study. You'll see people on various forums saying they studied for 23 seconds and passed, but don't believe it.
Study guides vary in quality, so I can't really advise you on that except to check reviews on Amazon and places like that, and also make sure that it's one that covers the current exam because CLEP does change them.
The exams themselves aren't "tricky", but they do require you to know the subject.
A couple of thoughts.....sm
The pain could be from either the swelling, peripheral neuropathy or a blood clot. You should see a doctor right away as if you have a clot it could break off and cause a stroke or heart attack.
sometimes in couple relationships
one couple is the _leader_ couple and the other is the _follower_ couple. It may just be that after a period of time, this couple is feeling that they want to spread their wings a bit and establish their own traditions...and just don't know how to communicate that to you without hurting your feelings (which hurts because of the noncommunication and you are left to wonder what is going on!).
You have extended your offer for your New Year's party. Maybe pick a time when you know that no one will be home at your neighbors and call to leave a casual message that even if they have something else planned, they are welcome to drop in for whatever time they could spend so you and yours can wish them a happy start to the new year. Otherwise, I would just let things play out. When the time is right to talk about what is going on, you and the other family will know it. Try to keep an open mind and a good relationship.
I have a couple of techniques.
I read the bible in bed. It is the only book that I am motivated enough to keep redirecting my brain until it focuses on the message. Otherwise my brain keeps doing what yours is, reaching for the same addictive ideas to obsess over.
Are you aware of any thoughts that trigger relaxation? There are just a few memories I can conjure up that cause the relaxation to start. Like lying in my grandmother's hammock in the sun, listening to leaves rusting in the breeze and the occasional motorboat buzzing by on the river below. Ahhhh, I'm there.
Another one is swinging on my swingset on a very sunny day in my back yard one sunny summer day. Overhead there is the occasional sound of a prop plane high in the sky, sounding like a big, lazy insect.
If you can remember something like that and have your mind go over those details and allow yourself to relive the relaxation, then you are "meditating."
But I didn't figure out how to even recognize this until I took biofeedback.
(But I also use melatonin, Effexor and lately Benadryl to help my annoying brain, and I can tell you there are meds that cause BIG problems for me, like Topamax).
just a couple more ideas
Some good ideas on stretcher.com and suite101.com for using leftovers. I always end up with a few tbsps of corn or fresh peas, carrots or other veggies. I keep a bucket (icecream) container in the freezer and add my veggies to that and then make veg. soup. I also save the juices off of roasts, hams, canned veggies if not used, etc. and put in freezer in ziplock bags to make soups or even gravies. Good idea to freeze in ice trays and add as needed.
I have to include my favorite daytime lunch for myself. A batch of instant potatoe soup in a jar. There is nothing hot that can be quicker. I gave everyone one I knew a jar of this for thier desk last year for christmas.
Potato Soup Mix
1-3/4 cups instant mashed potatoes
1-1/2 cups dry milk
2 Tb. instant chicken bullion
2 tsp. dried minced onion
1 tsp. dried parsley
1/4 tsp. ground white pepper
1/4 tsp. dried thyme
1/8 tsp. turmeric
1-1/2 tsp. seasoning salt
1 tbsp popcorn butter flavoring.
Combine all ingredients. in a bowl and mix. Makes 6 servings. Place in 1 quart canning jars to store. Instructions to attach to jar: To serve: place 1/2 cup mix in soup bowl and add 1 cup boiling water. Stir until smooth.
Couple of methods.
For slimming without looking like you are building muscle, jumping rope is just the ticket. Of course you have to wear really good, supportive shoes and have undamaged knees to do it.
Otherwise, yoga, pilates, working with light weights, and an eliptical machine have been my favorites.
I currently walk my dogs for my workout, but with huskies I get an upper body workout and ab workout at the same time, LOL. And dogs are very good motivation for walking if one fits into your lifestyle. :oD
couple recipies.
Cornbread salad is an easy quick one that lasts about a week so it can be made a couple days ahead of time. I do this and bring home and empty bowel every time. I also add a can of white shoepeg corn. http://www.recipeusa.org/Salads/Cornbread%20Salad%2012903.htm
Shoepeg Corn Salad - 2 cans white shoepeg corn drained, 1 lg bellpepper, 1 lg onion, 1 lg tomatoe chopped, 1/2 cup mayo, S&P, Chill. Make a couple days ahead of time. Can double or tripple recipe.
Have recipe for Italian chicken roll ups like cordone blue with ham, cheese, italian breadcrumbs, olive oil that you bake and can slice or serve whole, make ahead of time or serve cold after baked.
Also Chicken roll ups that you do with chicken, green onion, cheese, lemon peper and roll up in crescent rolls, mix remaining with cream chicken/cream mush. and bake.
If you have company you need to throw a breakfast casserole in fridge for breakfast next morning, just bake and serve.
sorry should be couple of months.
;(
I loved the first couple of those they did but since then
it has gotten just too cutthroat for me, and the people they have on there are not likeable enough to make me want to root for any of them.
I say there are a couple of things to look at....
1. What would the apartment or extended hotel cost? I'd look at the latter because a lot of people use them when they commute. With gas being $3/gallon and him making a 4 hour total commute a day it is probably cheaper to do this.
2. With his job, is there any way he can change his work hours to avoid the worst of the traffic?
3. If it were my husband I'd probably be willing to do it just until we moved because I wouldn't want to drive 4 hours a day myself! However, I would miss him being at home but we'd talk a lot on the phone while he'd be at the place he's sleeping at.
A couple inside
If you want to put together your own curriculum, sort of in the Charlotte Mason, classical style of education, there is nothing better than
http://amblesideonline.org/. They kind of lay out a plan of study for you for each level, and most of the materials can be found online or free at the library. My sister is using it for her 2nd and 4th graders.
Another one that I use for lots of extra printouts is
enchantedlearning.com
In fact, I was just printing out some of the Christmas worksheets for my 2nd grader to work on.
I have a couple of questions
When is your daughter's b-day? I.E. is she "young" or "old" for her grade? Also, is she involved in a lot of extra curricular activities, sports, etc? I had a child in advanced math and one was just too tough so he took it later on. Really I see no harm in waiting either.
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