Try retraining him by your actions - sm

Posted By: missMT on 2008-02-15
In Reply to: Husband can't hug - ever - without it being...(sm) - Sad MT

When he tries to force your hand into his go along with it but keep your hand limp so he knows you are not enjoying it at all. When he gropes make the annoyed sigh sound and see what his response is. I bet he will catch on! Good luck.

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Husband can't hug - ever - without it being...(sm) - Sad MT
- LOL - they mostly ALL do this.... - Annoying, to say the least....LOL...NM
- Yup, just like animals, neither can they. LOL - nm
- at least ur not in my shoes - angelmt
- Bunch of cold fish on this posting.....nm - Janet
  - Amen! I'm glad i'm not a prude - angelmt
    - Neither am I - quite the opposite - I guess if you have never been in this position you don't kno - Sad MT
- The only time I get a hug that isn't sexual is if someone dies. - No kidding.
- I know exactly how you feel. - another sad MT
  - right, some of us need a hug for hug's sake... - a hug without the H.O. lol - NM
- Try retraining him by your actions - sm - missMT
  - Actually I do this already :( hasn't worked (nm) - OP
    - Okay, trying to think of other ideas for you - sm - missMT
- That is the only way my husband shows affection. .sm - groped too
  - hahahaha - it probably won't!
    - Mine's 43...don't hold your breath ;-) nm - OP
      - Mine's almost 47, hasn't changed. nm - TiredMT
        And here I thought marrying an older man might be the answer. . sm - groped too
- No they don't and you somehow need to make it stop - sm
- Enjoy it!... sm - Cheated-on wife
  - I'm the one being rejected. He is rejecting my affection unless it involves (sm) - Sad MT
  - I think that is horrible advice. She should let herself - sm
- No, they don't all do this. But the ones who do it, always will. - I dropped a grabber for a nongrabber.
- I would do it right back, all the time in inappropriate - sm -
  - R U kidding? My DH would LOVE that. The groping, - not the slapping. nm,
    - Sorry to say...we're mutual gropers in our family.. - WanderingMT
      - There are different kinds of groping (sm) - OP
        You need Dr. Phil, not a bunch of MTs. - Me
        Okay.. I hear what your saying... - WanderingMT
      - You sound like me, except my SO is off an on with his affection. - Im always on - LOL
    - then how about a knee in the crotch every time - sm -
      - Knowing him, he would just start groping me from - behind. nm
    - LOL - I hear you!!!
- OH MY GOSH! - ...
- Men - Apple Scruff
  - I guess I'll have to think about that but don't see how (sm) - Sad MT

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Well he took responsibility for his actions
He is taking full blame, not pointing finger at anyone else for his actions. He said it was an immature act, a mistake and bad judgment. TRY CRIMINAL.

He wants forgiveness and understanding and now has found JESUS and will put his life in GOD's hands now. He will redeem himself.

Kinda hard to forget and forgive this. Just disgusting. May be he won't do it again, but the point is HE DID IT and he cannot take back what he did. What's done is done.

He should still get the MAX time and should serve time in jail and he can reflect all he wants in there.

Why do you think the moderator bans such actions?
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I agree with her actions last night,
but when she said she didn't really care, it was about Simon's comments from the night before, not that she was in the bottom 3.

teaching kids to take responsibility for their actions
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Stop talking and make some actions...nm
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It burns me up when parents support their bratty kids' actions
This kid is going to get some bumps and bruises from the School of Hard Knocks, otherwise known as LIFE.