Totally inappropriate.
Posted By: Linda on 2007-01-14
In Reply to: What do you think? I know this may sound crazy, but here goes. sm - Curious
He sounds like he's good at his job and also at flirting. He is interested in getting to know you better? Why doesn't he just come out and say - hey baby, how about a roll in the hay? Keep us posted if you pursue this. I'd like to know how things go. Believe me, he knows he's good looking. Good Luck and be careful.
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You are totally correct and it was inappropriate.
Don't listen to the obviously ignorant posters. First of all, this is a bra were are talking about. He went out of his way to come over to make that comment to you. He later told you he thought you were pretty and may have been "overly friendly" to you. And even the girl at the counter said, "he's weird, why would he ask you that", totally confirming the fact that it was indeed inappropriate and uncomfortable. I don't know if I would do anything about it, but just know some of us do not think you are overreacting or seeking attention and you are 100% right in your feelings of being violated. Some of the others probably can only wish this happened to them if you get my drift.
Totally inappropriate, but I think I would probably ignore it.
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Amen Sister! She is totally unrealistic! Totally. Loved your post! sm
My grandparents (from VT), will tell you that my grandfather began farming at 6-7 under the supervision of his 10 year old brother. haha No major incidents - his mother tended the home and ran a nursery and she did have the siblings watch over each other. I didn't even think about all of this until you mentioned the farming post. I loved it!
I, for one, need plenty of sleep - so I must work during the day while they are here...Oops, I gottah go! My 2 year old just fell off the kitchen table.
just kidding
No, I think that is inappropriate SM
Even worse my son's first grade teacher told me son, "Angels aren't real." Fine...she doesn't believe (whatever), but she most certainly did NOT have to tell my son that Angels are not real!! We happen to practice a Christian faith, and we believe...and for her--an authority figure in his life and someone he would believe without question--to tell my son otherwise infuriated me. This was also the school that would not sing "We wish you a Merry Christmas" at their "winter program" and instead sang, "We Wish you a Merry Winter Solstice." Ohmygosh! Better to leave the song OUT of their program than to turn it into something pagan (sorry to offend those of you who are pagan, but I imagine if the situation were opposite and we changed one of your songs you wouldn't like it either).
Oh well...I guess all you can do is just openly speak to your kids and explain that some kids (and adults) believe and some don't. My 3rd grade son believes in Santa about 50 percent I would say...leaning toward not believing...but it is just something fun for kids, ya know?
I'm sorry about this!
Chickadee
Inappropriate??!!???
That 911 operator needs to be *#%@* fired, yesterday!
tell the guy it's inappropriate; do not allow it again.
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Is it inappropriate to ask someone (sm)
I have been seeing a man for a little over a year. During this time he has had financial issues and I have given him money without expecting it to be returned. Recently his financial issues got worse and I was not in a position to help. Now he is telling me that he "has money coming to" him but he doesn't say from where. It is almost like he is specifically avoiding saying from where. Normally I would not ask anyone about their finances, but he has never had a problem with telling me he had financial problems and taking money from me, but now that I could not help him, he is getting it from somewhere and not saying where. It makes me wonder if it is from another woman. Am I being paranoid? Should I come right out and ask or is it just none of my business?
That's inappropriate.
How about when you are pregnant and tell them you don't want to know the gender - then they proceed to say "she" throughout the rest of visit when referencing your baby.
What's inappropriate to some...
is dead on the money for others. Some become uncomfortable when posts hit close to home, resulting in bashing of others. In a nutshell, we don't live above our means, we have a very nice lifestyle and we live debt free by choice. I think that is the American dream, not working at a job you hate, being in debt up to your eyeballs with no way out and still buying things you just gotta have now and living hand to mouth. There are others out there who agree with me, believe it or not. A lot of you here just wallow in your self-pity and poor me attitudes. No wonder the other board is so much better, there are positive attitudes over there.
Looking for inappropriate comments? I don't think so! (sm)
Okay......and thanks for your input. I am the OP and I just want for you to know that I think that your comment was a little on the ignorant side. "I am not soooo appalled." I was a little shocked that he cared so much to go out of his way to make sure I found the right size bra. (He walked away from his job to come over to the checkout counter that I was at and felt the need to ask that, even though I was being checked out by a female clerk that was fully capable of making sure that I found what I needed?) Even the female clerk looked at him and said "What are you talking about?" I told her about the bra I returned to his service desk an hour earlier and she said "He is weird. That is none of his business!"
For the record, I receive male attention frequently and I am not easily offended or overly prudish when comments are made to me. This on the other hand was a bit strange.
My intentions were to ask others if they would consider this question to be inappropriate or not if they had been asked the same question under the same circumstances. I am not playing 'poor victim' here as I consider this a minor incident (yet still inappropriate).
In my opinion, it sounds to me like you don't get many comments offered to you and perhaps you would welcome them if you did? (That's what I get from your comment anyways!)
"Did you find one that fit" is inappropriate? I don't think so.
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In some areas of the country it isn't really inappropriate sm
Not to be disagreeable but where I live a simple kiss on the cheek is pretty normal when meeting someone, etc. So perhaps it is a more common thing where that person is from and therefore there may have been no ulterior motive behind it. I recently went to my brother's wedding and quickly realized that not everyone wanted a kiss on the cheek when I gave them their lei at the luau party - though it is custom here.
I would do it right back, all the time in inappropriate - sm
situations. Give his crotch a grab and squeeze, or pinch his butt, etc.....and I would do it in front of others and see how he likes being treated as a piece of meat. Of course if you do this when no one is around he will take it as in invitation so this approach does have its down side. If he persists, then I would just slap him or his hands until he cuts it out.
your opinion is again inappropriate, as you do not support yourself.
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This is a very inappropriate and wrong comment, why do you say this?..nm
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That is just mean. I'm not defending inappropriate clothing sm
but your nasty little comment is mean for no reason at all. Don't overweight people face enough trials in their lives w/o someone like you making "big panties" comments?
thank you, anon. And this, Philly, is why your posts are inappropriate.
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Listen if small children tell you someone is inappropriate
The majority of the time- the majority- little children are not going to say someone touched them inappropriately or such thing sexual unless it is happening or has happened- they just do not. Listen and learn from the children.
it's not illegal, but it's inappropriate & he shouldn't be allowed to teach anymore
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Totally, totally agree.
You feel inadequate and no matter what you do - you feel like it is not enough - and that is depression. Get on some medication, or get some therapy and start taking time for yourself and enjoy life. Been there and done that myself - STOP FEELING GUILTY - you deserve better!!
Totally against the war
said it right from the start, told my husband the war was of no use, more and more that is being proven true, hate that young guys are being killed there day after day, the middle east never had as many bombings as they do on a day to day basis now, blood being shed all over the place, the house not wanting to give more money for a no win war, I lived through Viet Nam, no difference here, just different land. Mark my word, different president, the war will be a thing of the past and yet all these fine lives lost.
I am totally
terrified of the draft. I posted earlier about my son wanting to go to Africa next summer and me not really wanting to let him go. I guess you know what my answer would be to the above question so I guess I shouldn't say anything at all.
I was totally going to say
me too!
Oh, but what I've gained ...
(I'll think of something).
Totally think it is really none of your
business that they are working. You don't have any authority and your supervisor is the one to tell them NOT to work. If they have been told not to work and they are, that is between them and the employer.
totally.
My imagination is way too fertile. When someone tells me they are "trying to get pregnant" or they remember the moment their kids were conceived, it's exactly like showing me photos of the deed. Photos I'd way rather not see. ick.
I totally get what you are saying sm
and feel 100% the same way. If I had the means financially, I would help whomever and whenever, my hubby feels the same. However, to not respond to someone who is reaching out to you, I feel, is unforgivable. I would also like to say, give it some more time - you don't know what the situation is and I feel someone who has as big a heart as you obviously have, should hold it open just a little longer.
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Totally agree with you!
Santa Claus was a wonderful time for me and my children. I did not suffer any ill effects from knowing the truth. This is a magical time for children. They believe in goblins, ghosts, the Easter Bunny, play friends that only they can see and talk with, fairies among lots of others. Why in the world would anyone want to deny a child the pleasure of thinking they are that important that this man in the red suit is coming especially to give them presents. It really made me feel special but I guess other parents want to cut some of the fun time from the child's life.How sad....
I totally agree with you, well said.
I find that others think since I work at home, they can interrupt me any time they want, I am expected to cover things while they are at work, etc. I want to be left alone during my work hours to do my work. I have worked in offices where you were not allowed to have personal calls during work hours, which is fairly common. I think I am going to disconnect my phone during my work hours. Sometimes I feel by working at home I don't get the same respect for my job than others in my home that work outside the home.
Oh, I totally agree with you there...sm
these are the kids my daughter deals with every day, but she understands at their age, they didn't ask for their circumstances. No child at age 8 or 9 should know anything about sex, using the B word, MF word, and other stuff. They can't write a sentence but they can tell her how to get more food stamps, how their older sister had another baby so she could get more money in her check....the stories go on and on. But the point we started out with was GI upset...they can't help being made take meds that make them physically sick.
I am totally out of debt -
house, cars, motorcyles, credit cards. Everything!
It feels great!
I totally agree with you...
Just a curious question. We are only as young (or old) as we feel, right! I am 37 and feel (most days) much, much younger...like I said before, it is a relative question...thanks for your reply! 
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lol, totally NO CLUE..
I'm sure all the neighbors talk about that nut job around the corner who breastfed her very large baby at the ball park! C'mon now...can't even give the kid a juice box or something at baseball time? Something wrong with this picture. I seriously hope she's joking.
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I totally agree (sm),
in fact, I should have eloped since I had recently moved and hadn't accumulated many new friends yet. The reception was really lame with the weird mix of people, some of whom I couldn't stand, but mom assured me they wouldn't come, and we were just doing the right thing.
Put on a syrupy sweet voice and tell your mother it is tempting to make this a social event for us, but this is really THEIR event. Let's do it their way since it only happens once. Let's not ruin their big day by arguing about it.
He would be totally crazy ...
If I kept him in for 2 to 3 months!! We have a large deck and in the one corner of it is a dog house and he has totally torn off the lattice in one whole section (to the dismay of my husband, to put it mildly) because he wants to be with my neighbors dogs.
If I cut this off, it will basically be the entire section of pad right in the middle of the paw which I think would take the brunt of his walking. It is on his back foot.
I totally agree and nothing to look at either
I can't believe all these people think he's so great. Yuck.
I totally agree-
it does make the award seem insignificant. They say they don't want any kids to feel 'left out.' Isn't that one of the main motivators to work harder? What about the child who truly earned the award? How does that child feel when the same award is given out indiscriminately so as not to hurt anyone's self esteem?
IMO self esteem comes from doing your best and feeling pride in yourself because of it- and if you are doing your best and improving you will not need some phony award to feel good about yourself, because you already will.
When these kids grow up they are going to be in the real world where they will be expected to perform to certain standards because that is what is expected from everyone. It seems like it is getting harder to find people who find satisfaction in doing a good job just for the sake of doing it. I wonder if there is any correlation here.
Totally agree-
I don't know why the parents would not have told their kids by now, but it is for them to do. It would be even more traumatic for the kids to hear it from someone else.
I was adopted and thank God I always knew I was. When I was too young to really understand they simply told me that I was special because they chose me. For years I pictured this baby store and my parents walking up and down the aisles shopping, LOL.
I totally agree with you!
I have grown sons, 26 and 18. I would never snoop in their e-mail. We have a great relationship and I do trust them. I am not saying that I have not or would not read their e-mail, but if I did, it was because I was looking at something on their computer which they would be aware of (or at least not care) and if an e-mail looked interesting I would read it and tell them. I think they would do the same with me and I also would not care. I think if you have a good relationship with your kids, that you know them pretty well and would know if you should worry or not. I truly believe that most parents, if they would just open their eyes, already know when there are problems. I get angry when I hear of someone who says "I had no clue" because I think that they do and just do not want to believe it. I think you are doing the right thing by trusting your kids. Keep it up!
Totally understand that one!
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Totally agree
I first noticed him on "Roseanne" and thought he was strange-looking and not at all attractive. My opinion hasn't changed over the years.
Don't like Brad Pitt, either. I don't go for the "pretty boys." Give me some depth of character. Looks are definitely secondary.
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TOTALLY normal! (sm)
My kids are younger than yours, but I am the youngest of three. I have an older sister and older brother. My brother is the oldest and he is three years older than me. I can remember growing up and being picked on by my brother (and sister) and there were times when I felt like I truly hated him. I'm sure he felt the same about me at times. Now I love him dearly and I think he is one of the greatest men in my life. I'm sure it sounded horrible to you, but don't worry. It's perfectly normal.
Totally agree
This week in fact I was feeling down in the dumps, did some praying and went out to do something nice for someone else, it made a big difference!! Thanks for the post.
I totally get where you are coming from
and I don't know anything about your situation, but it seems like it would be a good thing that he looked on his stepdaughter as his daughter, although I can see how you would feel the way you feel since your brother was her father and it wasn't his choice not to raise her, and somebody should have acknowledged him as well.
I was adopted and to me my parents are the parents who raised me- because to me that is what makes a parent a parent. Had I been referred to growing up as my parents' "adopted daughter" that would have been painful to me and only a constant reminder that I was not their biological child.
Again, I don't know anything about your situation or your niece's relationship with her stepfather but if it was a good one I would think it would be nice that he thought of her as his actual daughter. He probably had just not been thinking about how it would make you feel.
I totally agree!
There are way too many gray areas on this. I absolutely detest child molesters and would never want one knowingly around my children. But the 18yo with a 15yo is completely different and should not be lumped into the same group and treated the same way.
I once worked in the children's services field and talked extensively with a professional who worked with sex offenders, and he told me that pedophiles can never be rehabilitated, and that they will always repeat the offense. There's a good case for locking them up for good, don't you think?
I totally agree with you ...
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Absolutely, totally, 100% against. There should be NO
legal age for drinking.
Totally agree
Yeah, that comment was not the smartest thing to say. Now she will probably fear the police for no good reason. Not a good move.
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