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  • To every action there is an equal and opposite reaction - Newton third law of motion.
  • Go under Internet Properties, Privacy, Sites and you can block any websites you want from there - MtMommyof2
  • settings...sm - Val
  • LOL My son is about this age - sm
  • First of all, don't go there yourself! - anonamiss
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      • well it wasn't a por n site, it was just YouTube - xx
    • ROFLMAO...come on...that is extreme..nm - worried
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I've known other brilliant people who indulged in self-destruction.  There have been studies that suggest the smarter you are the less happy you are, and there may be some truth in it.

The first reason for this would be people with attitudes like yours, abc.  They hold smart people to the highest standards.  They don't allow a genius to be human, but they do have weaknesses.  Imagine spending your whole life hearing "If you're so smart how could you, why haven't you....".  There is enormous pressure put upon them by others to do something great, to perform mental tricks for the amusement of others, to "prove how smart they are".  Some become as insecure about it as beauty queens do about their looks - I remember when I was married to my genius, we watched a show about a child prodigy who could play great compositions at the age of 4.  This show upset my ex, I could see it made him jealous and insecure, and nervous that he was not as great as everyone assumed him to be.  Just like there's always someone richer, thinner, and better looking, there's always someone smarter too.

Another reason would be lonliness.  The smarter you are, the less you have in common with the majority of the population.  The things that interest you most people can't even understand.  I think one purpose Mensa was created was so that they could find people to talk to on their own level.  The pitfall there is most of them are so specialized in their own areas of interest they still don't have anything in common - the gifted musician does not want to discuss quantum theories with the scientist, they can understand it, they just aren't interested in it.

In my ex's case, his substance abuse has three factors - First, he's physically handicapped, and his health has always been a problem.  He self medicates with substances to escape the misery of being in his body.  Second, he's a classic nerd who never had any friends or a social life.  He started abusing substances to try to be one of the cool partying folk, to fit in.  All of his current friends abuse substances, but he at least has some friends now, that's how he sees it.  Third, the pressure to perform has caused him to give up.  He was a computer guru before computers were cool.  Once computers were mainstreamed to the general populace, and new software was coming out on a daily basis, he could no longer know "it all".  When he reached that crossroads, he panicked, gave up and dove into the bottle to hide from his insecurities.

A high IQ is often just as much a curse as a blessing.  I am assuming the reason to abuse substance is pretty universal - the desire to escape reality for a while, then it becomes a habit.  If a person doesn't have the courage to deal with reality and change their life, they may choose to destroy it instead.

1.  Do you have a physical problem keeping you from seeking out new employment?  If you do, please see your doctor now.  If you have a true disability, see what you can do about maybe collecting disability.

2.  Do you have emotional issues going on that you cannot handle well right now?  Please seek out help, again, through your physician.  If that is not an option, go to your phonebook and look for a community help line phone number.  Someone there can help guide you in the right direction.  In my city, that would be in the white pages in the blue section.  Not sure how everyone else's is. 

3.  Do you have anyone at all that you can turn to for living arrangements, even on a temporary basis?  If not, you better get on the ball and start right this second looking for another apartment or even just a room so you don't end up on the street. 

4.  Look into getting some help from your local food pantry.  Again, a friend, clergy, or a local help line could lead you in the right direction to do that.

5.  Call your gas and electric companies to see if you are eligible for help on your bills.  Many companies offer this. 

6.  Do you have any stuff you can unload at a flea market?  I would say ebay but it sounds like you don't have time for that.  A flea market would be good for some immediate cash on hand.  I looked in a box I had been holding onto for years and never really looked at what was in it (my ex-mother in law gave me what I thought was old Christmas decorations).  I ended up making over 2,000 bucks on ebay for the crap that was in it.  Still don't know why people went nuts over that stuff, but apparently they were some kind of collectables (as I remember there were some old lead figures, some kind of collectable penny lucky charm thingy and a couple old Lone Ranger and Tonto dolls still in boxes, and stuff like that.)  Anyway, if you have been holding onto stuff just because, get rid of it now.  It could put a few extra bucks in your pocket. 

7.  Don't post here looking for help.  In your situation you need REAL and IMMEDIATE help. Call a friend, go to your church if you belong to one and talk to your clergy.  Seek heart-to-heart and face-to-face help and counseling.

8.  When the dust settles, make a plan, start an emergency fund (even if it is just 5 bucks a week) and don't ever ever let this happen again. 

Just my two cents. 

What happened to freedom of choice?  When did what we do off the clock become everyone's business, and when did we, the workers, agree we need some authority with a conflict of interest to police everyone's health for their own good?

So what's next - we all have no health insurance eventually because some greedy insurer decides something we do is a risk?  In this profession in particular, they could look to disqualify us for being overweight, or the likelihood of carpal tunnel, or any of the other problems that come from being chained to a keyboard the majority of the time.

On the other hand, some politicians introduce platforms aimed to force us to buy insurance.  But what if you are disqualified by the almighty insurers?  You can't make everybody get insurance if more and more people are refused insurance due to risk.  Something has got to give here, and the madness must stop.

Remembering standing outside waiting at the Brooklyn Fox for the following groups at one time or another way back when:

Little Anthony and the Imperials

Martha and the Vandellas

The Shirelles

Otis Redding

Little Stevie Wonder (he was 13)

Smokey Robinson and the Miracles

The Ruffin Brothers (David and.....cannot remember the other one's name at the moment)

The Thymes (later on)

before the British Invasion music which them some of us started appreciating......and going ape waiting for the Beatles at 54th Street at the Warwick Hotel, 500-1000 young girls on the 4 corners of that intersection mobbing taxicabs....*LOL* - those were the days....

In this "economic environment"  I find it really hard to put up with the pecking order of snobbery, when I know these people are doing terrible financially.  How do you reform a snob, especially one that doesn't even have enough money to eat?

Has anyone here had an experience with their cat having a reaction to their rabies shot booster?  My 4-year-old Persian just had a rabies booster 2 weeks ago at a new vet's office.  (Just moved - have only been going there for about a year).  My guess is they use a different brand or manufacturer of vaccine than my old one did.) 

Yesterday morning, exactly 2 weeks after getting her shot and seeming just fine, I found a large, 2x2 cm lump on my cat's right lower hindquarter.  Thinking it was a hair mat, I put on my glasses for a better look.  It wasn't a mat; instead, it was a subcutaneous lump that felt similar to a lipoma, but was firmer, not as soft and squishy as a lipoma.  She had also vomited 4 times during the night -- food, not hairballs.  She's never done that before.

I took her to the vet right away, and they aspirated some fluid out of the lump, looked at it in a microscope, and said she had a lot of white cells.  (She also had a fever).  They sent off the slides to the lab to see if this might be vaccine-associated sarcoma - something I never even knew existed until yesterday!   While waiting for the lab results, she's on an antibiotic, as well as an anti-inflammatory for 5 days.

So, I got on the internet and did some research about these vaccine-related sarcomas, and would advise any cat-owner to do the same thing.  The information I found was NOT encouraging!  Did you know that the occurrence of these sarcomas has been increasing since the early 90's, when they started making adjuvant (more inflammatory) rabies vaccines?  The sarcomas are VERY aggressive in cats.  (I had a former cat die in only 7 months after a mastectomy for breast ca. with adenosarcoma.)   They think some cats may be predisposed to developing sarcomas at the site of injection for both rabies and the feline leukemia / FIP vaccines.  The rescue where I adopted my cat advises its adopters not to get the leukemia/FIP vaccine, so I don't get that one.  But this is the first I've heard about the rabies shot being dangerous, as well. 

My reading brought to light the fact that vets almost always give the rabies shot as distally as possible in the RIGHT rear quarter.  The reason?  If a sarcoma forms, they're very invasive, and they found that tumors from shots given between the shoulder blades or in the scruff of the neck tended to spread into the spine and lungs.  (Oh, GREAT....)   Even more thrilling to learn is the reason they give the shot in the lower rear quarter:  It's so that if the cat gets a sarcoma, the best chance they have of prolonging the cat's life is to amputate the entire leg. 

Each state differs, but in California, rabies shots for cats are recommended, but NOT mandatory.  Had I known this, and about the danger of the adjuvant rabies vaccines, I would have skipped the vaccine altogether.   My vet recommended that if she gets a rabies shot in the future, (which I don't intend to do with either of my strictly indoor-only cats), there is a SAFER brand -  Merial "PureVax".    It's a non-adjuvant vaccine that is much safer.  (My guess is that it's probably more expensive, too.)  It's also apparently not easy to find.   My vet office doesn't use it (WHY, I don't know, since they're recommending it...), so that's just one more reason for me to say "NO" to rabies vaccines in the future.  However, If I were getting a new kitten, I would make sure it got the Merial PureVax instead of the regular kind, provided it's approved for kittens.  It's disadvantage is that it's given yearly, rather than q.3 years. 

Anyway, regardless of whether my cat's lab tests come back positive or negative for malignancy, after what I've learned from researching feline rabies shots, I thought I'd pass the information on to everyone who's interested, so they can talk to their own vets about it and at least make a more-informed decision about vaccinations than I did!