This will be total and much needed catharsis....
Posted By: "big gal" on 2007-06-19
In Reply to: I confess - Me
I am almost 54 years old and the permeating thought in my brain is that I am "a monstrosity," something my mother called my sister and I because we were tall. My father is still alive at 86 and says about some "pretty little thing." THAT drives me INSANE because I am not. He asks when I am going to play piano for him, and I laugh, but I think, "Never, because you have always criticized me." Still does. God help us all. That's the thing that has totally messed up my brain. I am a "monstrosity" and will never be a "pretty little thing." There. Now I have said it on the internet.
But, FYI, I am not a tall humongous woman, I am just tall and not a "pretty little thing." There, I typed it and that's almost like saying it out loud.
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Total shock
That's all I have to say. 
I am in total agreement with you.
I have been working today and just thinking about not ever having to do any business with anyone who talks like the ones I have done today. I laughed the other day when 1 on here asked when did she go from Transcriptionist to interpreter. You may not know this, but years ago we got a difficulty factor, just for dictators like we have to do day after day now, unbelievable, isn't it? None of those dictators could even approach what we hear now. It is irritating. Some days I have taken off a little early when I know I am having 1 after the other, can make up that time another day- just too irritating and getting on my nerves to continue.
I am a total believer and do believe that
kids see things before they are old enough to think they are not supposed to. I still will smell my dad's aftershave every so often. I just think of it as he is coming around to see how I am doing. (My BF thinks I am crazy by the way.)
total witch
you are a stalker and i am reporting you
Thanks. I am total IC and work for one company..sm
and I have worked for them for 3 years. I do have a FED ID #, as my employer requested that I have one when I first started. Hence, I also have a business name, but I file under my SS# and my personal name, not my business. I thought maybe that would make a difference. I still have the letter, as I keep all of that stuff *just in case.* I know that being an IC, we are *suppose* to file quarterly and I did read somewhere that there may be fines involved if you don't, so I did not think too much about it when it happened. I file in April and everything is in their officed prior to the 15th, so that could not be a reason why the fine, either. Needless to say, I am confused. Maybe I will seek out an accountant this year and leave all that stuff in their hands. It is getting to be a drag and too time consuming for me anyway. just trying to save a buck, even though I know it is deductible. thanks for answering me. I appreciate it.
My stepmother and father (a total man's man)
just had their bathroom remodeled and had a big sunken tub put in just so he could take baths. He is 64 and in very good health, but finally realized how good a tub soak feels. My step-mom tends to light candles for him and add bubbles and he loves everybit of it. BTW, she often joins him as well. they also have weekly at home massages by a masseuse. Men need to slow down a little sometimes and enjoy the gentler things in life.
This Southern Gal is in total agreement with you! Nothing else need be said.
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My husbsand is a total embarrasement
He thinks boxer shorts are shorts to wear at home when company comes over.
I bought him a nice denim lined shirt/jacket that he took to our seamstress and had 2" round buttons to replace the "normal" looking buttons. I swear, all he needs now is a Tonka Truck to complete the look of a properly dressed 2 year old.
HELP!!!! I think things need to start vanishing when I do laundry!
Those total sons of you-know-whats.
My situation was not QUITE the same.... It turned out I was the other woman; the guy I was dating and thought I was exclusive with turned out to have a fiance he didn't bother to tell me about. Looking back, there were a few hinky things I should have noticed, but they weren't the usual things, so I was thrown off my guard.
I do have a very good male friend whom I call my adopted big brother. (He's married, has been for decades, and his wife is aware that we are friends/business associates.) I asked him flat-out why men cheat, and he said (a) because they can, and (b) the thrill of the chase, or some bullhockey like that, that we testosterone-deficient females can't seem to understand, I guess. He also bluntly told me that I probably was not the only one, i.e. the only "other woman." I would not be surprised if that were true, but I never actually found out, since the SOB (and I do NOT mean 'short of breath') married the fiance and left town.
My best friend put it rather succinctly, when we were discussing another topic:
Men don't change, and women just learn to be abused gracefully. (Because this too is a form of abuse.)
Aw heck, I'm a total hick and even I know to call...
on an RSVP to let them know that they can count me in or out. It just seems like one of those common courtesy things...at least call whoever to let them know you got the invite for sure and it wasn't lost in the mail. 
Smaller total amount of more feedings?
Have you tried feeding him more than 2-3 times a day and just putting a smaller overall amount in the dish? He might think he's actually getting more.
I am white but my hair is a total 'fro!
Always has been and I can relate to your distress! I would use any conditioner but only lightly rinse it out after shampoo. I also use a wet my hair with a spray bottle of water and use a little bit of conditioner straight on my hair before combing it out...and I always use a pick--just like you would if you got a perm or had an afro. Seriously! The bigger and wider the teeth, the easier it is. Or, if you absolutely hate the idea of a pick, use a vent brush. The trick is to not comb through or brush out dry curly hair because it will only frizz and boof, know what I'm sayin? If a hairdryer is necessary, like for wintertime, get a diffuser so no direct blast of air hits the hair because it will frizz out.
During my school years, a braid or ponytail was my best friend. I wish I could do it now but all I can manage are Pippi-Longstocking braids and they look kinda gay on a 35-year-old chick.
you need to buy the brush to put it on, total price for the first time is $28
you can apply it in two different ways, one way in which you let your moisturizer dry and the put it on and another is use a bit of moisturizer to get that "dewy" look. Also you should always start off with less (at least with our brand) because it is layerable for a fuller-coverage. Also there are 6 different shades to choose from so you should be able to find a perfect match.
I saw it. A total hoot. My teenagers loved it
and so did I. 
I was a total cougar til my prey caught ME, lol!
My boyfriend is YEARS younger than I am. Started as a one nighter that turned into a 4-day sleepover...I thought he was totally hot but also totally dumb as a pet rock.
Fast forward 2 years...He's sitting on my couch watching the news, and we've been living together 1-1/2 years. He's still totally hot, but not at all dumb as I had initially suspected and, in fact, handles our finances, etc.
Yeah...being a cougar totally rocked, but it turned out even sweeter than I expected when my prey caught ME!!!
Takes a total of about 10 seconds to click
on every site. I sincerely hope anyone that visits this site would want to help all of them.
Dave Ramsy, The Total Money Makeover....
His message, "Live like no on else so later on you can live like no one else." Budget is not a bad word and saying no to the kids is not wrong and does not make you a bad parent.
I am in total agreement. 13 years old and wanting to date - no way!!..
One of the problems is, as a previous poster write, is DRAMA. Some girls live for the DRAMA (i come from a family of six girls). These kids (but not all) want to and in some ways are forced to grow up too danged fast and it can lead to life-long problems if they do not have a strong mom/dad or just an extended strong family support system. The media has played and contuinues to play a role in the evolution of our teenagers as well (MTV, etc). That is why it is important to keep these kids busy and involved in activities because it is helpful,. JMO..
The Illusionist - total chick flick! Great movie!
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Ooooooo! That's an awesome theory! I'm a total Lost freak too. SM
I can't believe I missed this thread!
Make your own income, hire a plumber. Total unnecessary. Men are useless in the family plan.
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Needed nt
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Thank you so much...I needed that. nm
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I needed this
I read this today and loved it: If winter comes, can spring be far behind?
Thank you!! That is EXACTLY what I needed to know sm
I have 2 dogs, one who is VERY furry and I was concerned about dog hair cloggage.
Thanks for taking the time with all the great info :-)
Yes, he needed to go.
I don't know how Scott stayed in as long as he did. Nowhere near the talent of the others, although I believe the the two top contestants are Adam and Alison, who are miles above the rest. I think Adam is an amazing talent and should win. He is the only reason I am watching AI this season. Otherwise, it has gotten extremely boring. I never did understand the enthusiasm for Danny Gokey. Good voice, but he does not appeal to me at all.
You may not believe this and probably will not but thought you needed some help the other day
as I was reading the posts. You certainly came across not just as a person who was grieving but with the last post about the person committing suicide, I was thinking this does not sound exactly right. If I felt depressed and/or suicidal and felt like I could not handle things, your emergency room would probably see you and refer you to someone and then you would probably wind up waiting again. I doubt they would do anything specific for you. There are some 800 hot line crisis centers you can call.
Thanks so much to you all. I KNEW I needed help! :-)
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FOOD IS NEEDED!
I volunteer at a food cupboard twice a month. Today I went in to fill requests for families in need, and the shelves of our little interfaith cupboard were nearly empty. It was a struggle to get together some basic items for four families.
This is a problem with food cupboards all over the country. At holiday times, food drives are held and shelves are full. Even during the school year, more donations come in as school and youth groups run food drives to help those in need. But during summer, donations slow to a trickle as people are busy with summertime activities or away on vacation. Food drives are forgotten, but people still need your help.
If you can, please consider donating to your local food cupboard. Anything you can give would be appreciated. Even a couple boxes of cereal or a jar of peanut butter can make a difference!
Thanks again so much..I needed to hear this.
A day doesn't go by that I don't pray for a miracle. As the obvious enabler, I just always feel if I helped her just this one last time, this would be the time she turns it all around and I want to be there for her. Everything positive she does, I praise her, only to be crushed the next minute for it was just a mirage. It wasn't really there. Every night I have gone to bed saying a pray that we can just get through another day, and honestly, some days, I wasn't sure that I wanted to wake up. I just couldn't do it one more minute. When you love someone with everything you have and realize it still is not enough, that right there is the most devastating feeling ever. For every tear she has cried, I've cried thousands. I try to be strong so she thinks I am uncaring. If only she could see or feel what I feel inside. If love could have saved her, she would be. I am going to put it in God's hand because I have nothing left to give. Everyone wonders how and why I have survived and gone through what I have..and honestly, I have no idea. I hate the thought that it has become such a habit that I just expect it. I wait for the calls to come every day, as they will, on the next crisis. I wait for my day to be ruined and that is one of the reasons that I chose to work at home. I was embarrassed when she would call me 15 times at work, even though I told her not to, or she'd show up. Just barge through my office. I've gotten beyond what people think, but I know my friends understand and love me for me. Thanks for listening. Another dark day. Sadly, I have had to pretend to be on vacations so she won't come around trying to manipulate me but then she calls me nonstop on my vacations to send her money. It honestly never stops and I don't think it ever will. Please everyone say a prayer for me...
OMG! Thanks for that. Needed the laugh!!!
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Thank you so much for your kindness. It's just what I needed sm
right now. I've never been one to have the "victim mentality" although I can see how my post probably came off that way. They never gave me a chance from the start so you hit it right on when you called it a tribe mentality. I think a lot of it is jealousy - as my mom points out - I had that a lot growing up because I tend to get along with everyone - not a jealous bone in my body - and I can tend to irritate those who "don't like everyone" or who have sour attitudes.
When the poster said that she found it hard to believe that all 3 hate me for NO REASON I didn't want to respond because they do hate me for no reason. If you were to ask them why they don't like me or want me around their answer is, "just because I don't."
Anyways, your post was very kind and I am thankful for it. God bless you!
Gift help needed....
For my hubby's company Christmas party this year, we need to take a wrapped gift ranging in price of $18 and $22. They are doing the "everyone pick a gift" sorta thing. So, it will need to be for male or female, ranging in ages from 20-60. See my dilemma? I am thinking a gift card wrapped in a huge box. LOL
I would appreciate your suggestions!
Thanks!
No electric needed.
If they sleep together, they dont need electric heat, body heat will be enough. I would build a "cave" of strawbales, toss in some loose straw and there ya go. I wouldnt use blankies as if they get wet, they will freeze. Like lying on an ice cubes Mostly, dogs just need to be out of.the wind. If they dont sleep together, just build 2 caves. Either way, should be snug so body heat will build a pocket of warmth around dog.
sweet....I needed that
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opinion needed
(some background info) My husband and I have been married for almost 10 years, been together for 15 years. He has a friend whom he has been friends with since high school. His friend is married and we have become somewhat friends as a couple. I really don't like these people but I have NEVER let them know this. Its really that I don't respect the things that they do, on the other hand they are very nice and would do anything for you so I tolerate them. They have a garage that is full of pictures of naked girls so I don't allow my children in there (my husband doesn't get this but that's another issue altogether) and they are very "sexual" with each other regardless of who is around them (again I don't like my children seeing this). Needless to say unless I can find a babysitter for my kids I don't generally like to go to their house. Well my husband turned 40 last week and this couple wanted to take him out for his birthday. Apparently they started planning this with my husband a few weeks before his actual birthday. My problem is I wasn't invited. I could see if it was just the guys but the fact that the husband and wife were taking my husband out along with another friend (male) and I wasn't invited bothers me. It immediately made me think that they were taking him to a strip club (which I don't like him to go to, again another issue in itself). My husband wasn't going to go but then Friday he decided he was going. I once again asked him who was going and he said the couple and a friend, still not invite for me. I confronted him with it when he got home from work and told him that I wasn't mad at him but very irritated with the fact that I wasn't invited. He replied that maybe his friend didn't think I could get a sitter to go out (which I am very fortunate and I NEVER have any problems getting a sitter) but that he wouldn't go. He didn't say "geez hon, of course your invited, lets get a sitter and both go", nope he just said "i won't go". A week or so before this he went to this friends house for a football game/party, again I wasn't invited, my husbands reply was "well you don't like football", I feel I should have been able to make my own decision as to whether or not I wanted to go whether I like football or not. Then today for the superbowl my husband tells me he is giong to a party at a coworkers house and then he will be home. Then later a friend of his comes to the house and she's gonna go with him oh but no they aren't going to the friend's house they are going to a different friends house, then the pub and then will be home by halftime, too bad I have to work and can't go. I guess at first I thought it was the first friend who wasn't inviting me and now I'm thinking my husband just doesn't want to be around me. What would you do? I have stayed very calm through all this but its really grating on my nerves now and I was hoping to get some opinions. Thanks so much...
I definitely needed him a few weeks ago.
Definitely HOT. What did you think of the season finale?
Thanks for the site! Just what we needed! (nm)
Why did they say your dog needed a bath?
I just throw my collie mix outside when it rains and maybe take him to the groomer 2 or 3 times a year. If he was rolling around in mud and dead animals, that would be different.
LOL. Thanks. I needed that after the morning I just had. nm
Ok for all us that diagnose others sometimes, help needed here
I have some symptoms here and hoping maybe some of you have heard of before and can give me some "diagnosing." I do it myself quite a bit. Like I told my aunt, after doing this before the telephone was invented, sometimes we hear so much and pick up on things so hopefully someone out there can give me a hand. Here we go and thanks so much:
Pain on my right hand side around my rib cage, it's not a constant pain, I feel it when I take deep breaths.
Pain around abdomen when having a bowel movement
Slight pain in abdomen when walking
Some abdomen pain comes on suddenly while sitting still but not often.
A pain in or around my neck that is noticeable when I burp.
Needed that one for today. Thanks!!! NM.
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BCP helped me immensely, but I needed to take sm
something for nausea for the first week. Can't remember what it was, but it really helped. It was an antinausea med for pregnant women. You should see a gynecologist, though, to see if you have something that could be causing the pain, like endometriosis, or even cervical stenosis (what I had) which was helped with a D&C. Don't suffer. Life is too short.
What's shocking is that a rule is needed.
Many here have acted like this is normal behavior and should be excused and there are reasons for it, etc. Sure there are.........and there also many, many kids who do it to be obnoxious and so it has become a problem - like so many other things - but these parents continue to excuse their kids.
how many of you needed scholarships for college
tuition for you or a child and didn't qualify - did ya know the illegal immigrants are getting them? That's when I went off!
No reality check needed here (sm)
as far as any animal abuser goes. These are not little children--these are TEENAGERS. Dollars to doughnuts they've done this before....They were just caught this time.
You are right, cats are animals and not people. Animals cannot speak for themselves. They cannot call anyone for help. They cannot defend themselves against the ultimate predator--us, but yet we brought them into this world to make our lives richer. It is therefore our responsibilty to ensure their safety.
You are fortunate you can stay naive to such atrocities commited against animals and can shrug it off as just a couple of messed up girls who need a hug. It's just a newspaper clipping to you.
Divine intervention needed.... sm
Neatly stenciled white letters on brown sawhorse by side entrance to local church:
HANDYCAPPED PARKING
Bathtub opinions needed please!
Hi ladies! We are building a new house and our contractor needs to know the dimensions of our new tub in the master bath so he can build the platform around it. My husband has now decided it would be easier to just put in one of those stand alone claw foot tubs. I do not like them, but we are selling the house in 2 years and building another one for our permanent home. So I need opinions. Do you like the looks/functionality of these types of tubs or would you prefer a normal soaking tub with a ceramic surround? Don't hold back, I need honest opinions. Thanks!
My kids mostly got clothes, which they really needed sm
My son't (17) fav gift was a 20.00 indoor remote control helicopter. He has had so much fun with it. When my daughter (14) was shopping for a cousin she saw a Doodle Bear and went on and on about how much she loved hers when she was younger. DH got her one (I didn't even know about it) and that was was her fav. gift.
LOL. Thanks, I needed the laugh today...nm
Thank you. That's how I feel also and I just needed to hear it from others.
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