This person is putting it harshly but ...
Posted By: sm on 2008-12-16
In Reply to: Wrong ways in life. - Nyria
the message is correct. and I just came in the middle of your conversation so sorry if I got it wrong. However, this is a sore subject for me. I wish I could counsel people before they get to this point.
but I was with my now husband for 8 years before marrying him. My daughter, our daughter was 4 when we married. I say my daughter because I felt like a single mom the whole time even after we married.
Looking back and I am now past my prime, I am 45 and with a chronic illness, but looking back I wish I had just taken my special needs child and moved on with my life. but I stayed out of fear of being alone, fear of raising a special needs child on my own, fear of getting a disease, not being in a monogamous relationship, etc. and even though he eventually married me, I do not think he was nor is he now marriage material. I have stood by him, followed him from state to state with his work, helping him get through college, waiting on it to be my turn and it never is. So these days I have taken the attitude that I am on my own even though I am married. I do blame him in a way but I also blame myself. but he could have just as easily walked away too.
Rule number one take care of self first, be it school, career, financial independence, etc. then get married. Not the other way around. Some people form attachments with their long-term mates but some NEVER do.
Start now. Start today. Enroll in a school, train for something you can be financially independent doing, be happy with you first and the rest will follow later down the road.
(((hugs))) I wish you the best.
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Do you feel it makes you a big person putting her down?
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she absolutely can be judged harshly; any teenager should be for this reason
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Are you a night person or a morning person?
Just curious . . .
She is still herself...she is not putting herself out there (sm)
for a beauty contest, she is an entertainer, looks the best for herself. She cannot become someone else. She still has a right to perform.
Are you putting down a lot, like half?
I don't understand how you can even get such a high mortgage. Is that really possible? My husband and I make over 100K and have great credit and I know for a fact the most we MAY get approved for is 300,000 and that's with a lot of luck. Please enlighten me!
I was actually out putting trash out when
the police car got there. The neighbors, as I said before were not home at the time. The officer asked if I was the caller and when we were talking about the problem the neighbors pulled up. I was not about to wimp out and act like it was a big surprise that the police were there. I confronted the issue and was not two-faced about it. Since I worte this morning I found out that this guy went to the neighbors and complained about me and asked if they had any problems with his dogs barking. Each and every one stood up for me 100%. What I don't understand is why he didn't apologize to me after driving me crazy for so long instead of being rude and acting like a two-year-old. The police agreed and told him so. Also, as I stated before I was not sad about the neighbor. I was sad about the dogs. Their barking was not their fault. They need supervison and the neighbor needs to know that each of us in a neighborhood needs to be mindful of others. I am glad I did what I did now.
What I am doing is putting vinyl down...sm
that looks like wood. It is in vinyl planks. Do it yourself easy. Me and my mom put it down. My son's room cost about $80 to put down in there. My hall floor is only costing $38 and is looks very nice. I don't care if it is cheap it looks much better and is lots cleaner.
I don't see a problem with putting that on there, but...(sm)
Maybe it's me, but I don't see why it has to be addressed at all. Just put the start and end times of party on the girls' invitations and the sleepover thing on the boys' invitations. It certainly would be acceptable to put the explanation in the invitation if you feel the need to. I don't think the girls' parents are going to be upset either way. I certainly wouldn't let my girl stay at an allnight sleepover with a bunch of boys or vice versa -- no matter the age LOL :)
The car isn't worth more even after putting in a
you might be able to call a local automobile salvage yard, auto recycling center, or junkyard place to see if they would come out, look at it, and see what they would be willing to pay you for the parts....
Try putting up some aluminum foil.......sm
to see if that will work. I know that for woodpeckers doing this scares them off. If this doesn't work, iF you have a county extension office office call and ask them what they recommend. Otherwise you can call a wild life preserve in your area for advice.
Good luck!
Well that makes me laugh, because putting
waste their time clicking!! See below.
she keeps putting obxious instead of obnoxious. Tsk,tsk.
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I see from your answer why the friend is putting you off.
No one posting has gotten anywhere close to what you are suggesting in your language. Shame on you.
Because you keep putting xx inside your email. That is your name. nm
xxx
I plan on putting them in a crock pot with
the roast and potatoes to cook all day. so maybe they will be okay. Thanks!
How about putting your hot water bottle/bag in SM
the microwave to just get the chill off ot it before you apply it. The house was frigid cold and I wanted to warm up. Kept it in for a little two long and the whole microwave and kitchen smelled of burned rubber for I don't know how long! TOP THAT, why doncha! 
That's not a bad idea. he's forever putting
a few $$ here and a few $$ there in his gas tank and he has a steady girlfriend. Maybe a gift card to the movie theatre too! TY!
Anyone not putting up Christmas lights?
I usually make a big to-do out of having the house and yard lit up, but this year I don't think I'm going to. The few hours they are on a night sure packs a punch on the electric bill. How bout everyone else?
Although for different reasons, I'm putting mine up
later than usual. I usually have them up by Thanksgiving, but this year I think I'm going to wait until the first weekend in December to do the outside lights. We don't usually light them every night. I'm going to start my indoor decorations then, too, but holding off on the tree until a week or 2 before Christmas.
Our current house is a little small and the tree really clutters it up. We're moving in January and have a lot to do before then. If I didn't have kids, I probably wouldn't put the tree up at all. I love Christmas, but things are just too hectic and cluttered right now.
putting up Xmas lights
Sorry if this may seem really dumb but I've never done this before - how do you attach the lights to siding on a house around windows and doors? It's not wood siding, it's an older home with aluminum siding.
Not putting you down, but do you honestly believe Danny
xx
It probably varies from person to person (sm)
With me, first child I was out of the bed seriously within 5 minutes of having him. I didn't tear or have to be cut, he was 7 pounds, 3 ounces. The doctor did some type of vaginal massage on me though while I was in labor and that was supposed to help loosen the vaginal wall?
Second child, same experience. She was 8 pounds, 1 ounce and within 5 minutes of having her, while they took her to the nursery to get cleaned up and all, I walked downstairs with my husband to the cafeteria to get a drink and stretch my legs. I had already put my regular clothes back on as well. My doctor who delivered her was walking in my room as I was walking in and he was stunned a second and said he thought I was a visitor, LOL, not the patient.
I don't think you have to have bed rest in normal cases. With my son I went home within 24 hours with him and with my daughter we went home in only 20 hours.
Well, 10 years+ MTing, so kind of new...I see what you are saying about putting in a few sm
hours, etc. Can I be honest? I like working on holidays. I really do. BUT, that was not my point. My point was that I don't like other MTs telling me that I SHOULD work that day. And that is my obligation. Because to that I say, no it isn't!
Putting in middle initial so can differentiate
the difference is that apparetnly this law is to have women see a fetus growing and thinking this will change their mind by seeing the ultrasound. My heart told me what to do and my mind certainly was such that I had more sense than to bring a child into the world I could not possibly care for financially to start with. I never worried a minute or a day with my decision. I can live with most all decisions I have made in my life very easily.
Okay, which caption are you going to steal, and what publication are you putting it in? LOL
nm
*humid* in Florida is putting it VERY mildly....LOL
I saw that, too! They are clever. Also remember putting the pole
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AWW thanks for putting that up I love cats but son's allergic
I don't think I will be able to have a cat for at least 10 years. He's on shots but I don't know if he will able to tolerate them. He went over to a friends's house last night that had cats and he didn't have hives but they made him sneezy/sniffly.
Anyway thanks for showing us those beautiful babies!
I am putting my post inside so no one has to read
I think it is just a matter of personal opinion, no winning or losing to it. Just as mt101 called me paranoid, I dont take it personal. I am my own peson and my happiness/well being is not wrapped up in what another thinks. I dont know that person and she can think what she wants. I would never try to tell her she could not have that thought. The whole "sticks and stones" thing. I just think it is sad someone can let anothers opinion make them feel so miserable.
putting a book on your desk is NOT pushy, however,
telling someone they cannot do so, IS pushing your opinions, now isn't it???? You ACLU anti's are the pushiest kind of people out there.
Deny Him now, but remember, eternity is a LOOOOOONG time.
Putting cold weather to good use.
This morning I made home-made chicken stock in my pressure cooker. It's now been strained and is sitting on the back steps in a metal pot. It's only 18 degrees outside, so it shouldn't take long for the fat to come to the top and solidify, which is something I usually have to do overnight in the fridge. I should be having some nice soup for dinner or late afternoon snack today!
Picking blackberries & putting them in an empty coffee can.
There was a field nearby with TONS of wild blackberry bushes. Some of them we would keep for ourselves and make blackberry cobbler, or we would sell them in empty coffee cans to the neighbors for $5/can. What a bargain!
Hayseed, I love your down-to-earth way of putting things
My beliefs are similar to yours - I do believe that their is something within us that lives on, but I don't know in what form or how. I have studied many religions and I think there is some truth in almost all of them, but none of them have a corner on THE truth - if there is sich an animal.
But wait, is her mom still putting out that Christian book about parenting? LOL
I mean seriously first the Britney trainwreck and now the little one (who is 16) pregnant! Oh joy ! That woman should be ashamed of herself and not writing any books unless it titled
White Trash Parenting
OR better yet.......
How to Turn Your White Trash into Millions!
LOL
Also look into putting in a "credit freeze" which wouldn't allow anyone to open anything in
Go to Suze Orman's website. Good luck.
I am having a South Beach pizza and putting some fat free
cheese on it with a little fried ground beef to make it more tasty. LOL! I live alone and have gotten out of the habit of cooking. However, on Sunday I made my mom and stepfather salmon cakes and scalloped potatoes. It was very good, and my mom ate better than I have seen her eat in some time. Perhaps I should cook more often.
FYI: I don't get the South Beach pizza to lose weight, just because it is a little better for me than regular.
Dang it, my posts keep automatically putting anonymous....sm
It is me though.
Someone putting that many demands on a gift is taking advantage of you, and you are letting them. nm
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Try putting your headset up in your desk drawer or up on your desk. SM
Make sure there are no cords hanging off your desk. I only had to lose one headset before I learned that that hanging cords just entice cats. The best thing to do is unplug your headset and put them away at the end of the day!
No, I am not that person...sm
Nor am I trying to be ugly...I think YOU come first in this situation. If not, you'll get in deep trouble with your health, then what? Your family needs you...take care of yourself, and make your husband pitch in...that's all I'm sayin'
Who is this person?
I have no clue who this person is.
I saw a person having 1 of those 1 day
and they could do like all the other people around, just ignored it. I was in a public building, guy down and frothing at the mouth, not a good scene but totally ignored.
What do you think causes a person to be --sm
unable to show feelings/compassion for anyone else? I have a friend?? who shows no emotion at all. Says it is the way she was brought up and her family are not talkers. I shared some devastating news about my son with her last night and she has shown more sympathy to her dog after it was spayed than she did to me. Just do not understand how someone can see a person as broken as I was last night and offer absolutely no comfort.
I think that person needs more than just a
xx
Perhaps you could help me tell if this person is just like you or not?
If not that is fine, but you could probably use your "talent" to help others, like a PI or something.
Are you the same person who
posted a month or so ago having sent an e-mail to your husband's family regarding your husband's brother who is in jail and the father's apparent favortism? Just curious if this is the same family we are talking about. I remember that husband was bipolar and alcoholic.
I don't know the legalities of the situation but you might have to go through the garbage of calling the police, the dramatics and the ER one last and final time. But then be done with it. He's not choosing to get better and you can't make him. Change the locks.
Be strong. Hugs to you. 
Mom of 3 you are one nasty person...
I hope your children dont take after you. Teaching them responsibility is one thing but pure nastiness is another.....
What a Wonderful Person
I wish I knew more people like you. It's too bad that some people are like this, but unfortunately the world is so much different thatit used to be. Keep doing what makes you happy.
The person who last had our number...sm
still uses it, so we get calls for her all the time! We got this number over a year ago when we moved and constantly get calls for her. We always tell them this is not her number anymore, but I guess lately she's been using it to give to loan places because they told us this. They apologize but it still stinks. She has a lot of debt out there, especially for school loans. We don't want to change it, though, and go through the same thing again and having to tell everyone our new number for nothing. We're also signed up at the Do Not Call website.
how condescending can a person be?
After I had a surgery 2 years ago, I gained an incredible amount of weight - not water. Last May I started going to the pool and doing water aerobics every single day for 2 months and changed to a low-fat diet. I did not lose weight, but I was replacing fat with muscle, which is the first step with the amount of weight I was dealing with. Then I started getting one URI and sinus infection/ear infection after another. All that exercise kicked my GI tract into hyperdrive. Now I have IBS and colitis. I can't exercise because I have to battle real and exhausting pain for the next 2 hours. I have pain every single day. I no longer have hunger pains as normal people do, so I really do have problems knowing when it is appropriate for me to eat. I've been with 2 different GI's during this time, failed 5 or 6 different medicines, and still can't lose weight, diet or exercise. My pay has been cut in half. I had to quit my second job and only work part time now instead of full time - all because I wanted to get healthy and in shape again.
The next time you think having extra weight is a choice, let me invite you to pay the $600/month I pay for medicines to control my GI tract issues. 
I usually tip 15% because I also tip the shampoo person.,,,,
But if the hairdresser does it all, including the shampoo, etc., I tip closer to 20%.
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