This mom is lifting more than one finger

I don't think there is a shortage of love from this mom towards her kids and if a mom really wants her kids to do well in the long term, there comes a time when the hand that folds closed can open back up later to welcome back responsible adult children.  Today's young adults are so into themselves and unprepared for the world and let's face it, the world is a pretty scary place to be in today's economy. 

Everyone needs to know where the limits are, whether it is behind the wheel of a car and obeying a speed limit or not sure what to do next in life.  This mom should not have to make a choice about her own sanity and that of her kids.  OR if they put her in that position, they need to realize the parts they played to make it be that way.  Putting the 19 on notice that $50/wk is expected plus one chore gives him an opportunity to make a choice.  Making sure the gk's are taken care of while the daughter reorganizes herself without making mom shoulder the responsibility of the family is generous.  It seems this mom's finger has been bent too far and does not fit the experience you had.

• How much should I have to do? - anon
  • It's called "tough love." What about when something happens to you? - deb
    • She was getting a lot of child support before and -- - anon
  • Tell him you want $100 a month of that $180 he gets for rent. nm - Fingers
  • Let them grow up - Patty
  • As soon as you stop enabling them - sm - renee
  • parents are suppose to be there for their kids, but he needs to get his s**t together - tabby
  • take a look around the - corner of time
    • Let me explain more- kind of long winded - sorry! - anon
      • I have a friend like you - MTer
      • Don't beat yourself up........... - sm
        • His father is his problem - - anon
          • Yep, I thought daddyo might play a huge part in - all of this...... been there! nm
      • what does it matter - corner of time
    • Your mother gave you the best gift of all - SM
    • This mom is lifting more than one finger - BTDT
  • you can say no, it really is okay - BTDT
  • my kids aren't grown yet, but - thinking i'll stay ex-MQ
  • You have to learn to say - SM
  • I had the same problem wtih both sm - MT forever it seems

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I am requested to bring this everywhere.

Buy two kielbasas (I use Hillshire original polska, you can use lean but I use the other). Boil in water for about 7 min., do not overboil or will cause to break.

Drain to get ride of grease and cool just a little, then cut into 1/2 to 1 inch rounds (easy) and then simmer in currant jelly (one jar) or if you can't find currant, use grape. Put aside in refrigerator. Before the party, reheat in microwave and get rid of excess jelly, put in wooden toothpicks to serve on platter. People tell me they "can't leave them alone." Big hit.