This may sound a bit weird., but /sm
Posted By: alm on 2006-12-15
In Reply to: Need help with in-home elder care... - Frazzled
I read your post and got to thinking about when I lived in a really large house and kept missing the knocks at the front door. I got myself one of those wireless doorbells, and would take the "bell" part from room to room with me when I was expecting a delivery... I wonder if you could take the part that usually screws onto the door frame and put it on a necklace or something for you mother to wear and "ring the doorbell" when she needs help, and then take the "bell" part from room to room. Actually mine was loud enough I didn't need to pick it up and move it unless I was going upstairs. They might even sell them with 2 or more receivers (what I call "bells") so you could hear it ring on whatever floor you are on.
Good luck. I took care of my uncle when he had lung cancer and we rigged up a baby monitor for him, but he was in a 1-story house and I could hear him except at night time, so I can empathize.
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Okay, this may sound weird but.....
I have seen this in two different children in the family and they were all middle children. I know some may say there is no such thing as the middle-child syndrome but I say different. My daughter has two friends who were middle children growing up and they both had outbursts and seemed upset all the time, and their parents were constantly upset about them. In seeing this in my family and with friends, I really truly believe there is something to this. My mother is a middle child also and I can see she is perceived differently by her own siblings. She has been treated ugly by her younger sister and older brother. Her own parents (my grandparents) have always treated her differently, even though they would deny they have. I have seen it with my SIL and her daughter, the middle child. Now, on the other hand, the couple of middle children I have not seen it happen in was where the other children, one older and one younger, were opposite sex; she had two brothers. My mother had a sister and brother, my other family members also have sisters and brothers, but the ones with two siblings of the opposite sex than they, seemingly have no problems like this. A close friend had an older son, then a daughter, and then the youngest girl. The middle daughter began this behavior as well very early on. Since my girlfriend was a middle child, she quickly picked up on this and started spending time with this child alone and doing activities completely separate from the other siblings. She did tell me that if she were perfectly honest, she realized the oldest child probably did get more attention and then the second came along, probably not the same amount of attention, and then with the baby, of course, lavishing again because that child was the baby of the home. Being a middle child herself, she was very honest about this and knew what she felt like, so from early on, she spent a lot of time with this child, which may have seemed over doing it to the other siblings, but I have to say, it really changed things for the better for this child. She seemed to just blossom and the negative behavior just stopped. They took pictures of her by herself without other siblings around, movies alone with her, time cooking in the kitchen, just a lot of one-on-one time, and it really changed her for the better. I'm really sorry this is happening but I have to say, I've seen this happening over and over in my family and my friends. There is something to this middle-child thing. I think without even realizing it, parents are behaving differently toward the middle child; I can't put my finger on it but even I know we took tons of pictures of our first and as parents know, we tend to put the next child in everything together with the first, and sometimes their own identify gets lost in the shuffle.....you know?
My girlfriend did have a particular doctor who wrote books on this and she read a lot of the books, which she said made a lot of sense to her. She did not want her middle child to feel the way she did growing up and with the suggestions made, she did try them, and the return was great!! Maybe try this? I know you love this child just as much, but I'm certain the frustration you feel (and it sounds your son feels as well) is coming through. With his age, he just doesn't have the coping skills to know what is bothering him necessarily, so maybe a good book on this would help you.
This may sound a little weird
But I live in a really big city and I would put him in a retirement complex. That is a really good place for people with lots of money who don't feel like cooking for themselves or being alone. I hope you live in a big city too. Good Luck!
OK, this is going to sound weird, but I'm surprised nobody else suggested it... sm
but the key to a good sex life is to know your own body. I mean *down there.* Without your partner! Get a little vibrator, they even sell them now at supermarkets and drugstores in the aisle where they sell condoms. I think the polite term is personal massager. Also get some lubricant. You can go the whole route with candles, in the bath, read a sexy book, use your imagination. Then once you figure THAT out, you can help direct your partner... show him what you learned. A whole new world will open up for you!
That's weird.
That portion of the toolbar says at the bottom of the left sidebar when I scroll up and down. Good luck!
Boy, they can just HAVE that weird,
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no, thats weird, unless
like our daughter, whose husband just installed a new stove -- he didn't know about changing the orifices and had it set for natural gas instead of propane -- they didn't know it but they were gassing themselves a few days.
is it so weird?
People who are under stress are likely to do anything - whether it be physical or emotional or mental stress. If the auditors didn't catch the error for so long then I say shame on the foundation - this woman was obviously very ill.
Not weird but
I just started collected Willow Tree angels. They're precious. I believe in angels. Right after my sister passed away I was wandering through a store and out of the blue a woman asked me my opinion on a pillow - it had angels on it! I took it as a sign that my sister was telling me she was okay and was now my angel! I had goosebumps at the time.
That is so weird (sm)
Because if you're where I think you are from your signature, just up the highway they've had those avalanches, and here in Seeley we're snowing as I type, and have had at least two feet of white stuff in the last two weeks....of course, it did rain last night a bit before snowed again, and the same the other day. But still.....weird weather we're having, huh....and even read that where you are, you have less than normal snowfall, and it's "dry snow" ....so if they tell us come summer and fire season that this snow didn't count for anything, I'm gonna be reallllyyyyy po'd....lol.....anyhoo, keep dry.......
Not weird at all - sm
I think that definitely has something to do with his behavior. I often jokingly use that as a defense to friends/family when we're out and he starts acting up. We do try to do one-on-one things with each of our kids and will continue to do it. He just requires a little more one-on-one. Thanks for your post.
How weird is this?
My husband and I were just talking about that dweeb, Billy Mays, too!  He gets on my nerves so bad. I cannot stand that dude.
Weird...
I don't practice feng shui yet but plan on learning...
I was looking at apartments to rent and walked into one (after looking at several) that just felt like 'home.' I couldn't explain it, but the feeling of peace, harmony and happiness just filled the apartment (occupied by a single nurse and her very large, very fluffy kitty).
I snapped the apartment up not only because it was beautiful but because of the incredibly positive energy the apartment exuded.
When I was signing the lease, I was explaining to the manager how good I felt about the place. She said, "I think maybe there's something to that feng shui the woman who lives there now does."
YEAH, DEFINITELY!!!!!!
no not weird,
i never was much good at the sewing part, but i do my own cleaning, make most my meals from scratch, and have made my own butter, enjoyed the simplicity in the past of a wringer washer...i think all the conveniences and hired services sometimes make for more stress, not less. there is a satisfaction to be had there, and it is the biblical way, in my opinion...carry on!! but by the same token, those who hire out help and use all the conveniences are not weird either...
No, definitely not weird...
I don't mind cooking and cleaning but some days with working and taking care of 2 little ones, it would be nice to just pay someone to do it...if we didn't have the money to do it though obviously it would not even be a consideration...believe me, we have money to have a maid come in once a week but my husband says no, so guess who does it??? me
that's really weird. Even Mom and Dad?
They probably suffer from dementia. Brother, also?
Don't be sad about the others.
I would mention it only to your parents, brother and boyfriend.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY
and many more to come!
Yeah, its so weird
I can only lose weight doing low carbs too. I have done Weight Watchers and even staying in the points doesn't do any good if I am including too many carbs in there.
3 weird dogs
We have 3 dogs, one large, two small. The big dog is weird - he hides when he sees flashlight beams or hears electronic tones (like when the cell phone blows up) and it is so bad that he will knock over furniture trying to find a hiding place where he hunkers down and shakes and his paws sweat, so I guess these things really scare him. It is funny because he is huge and fearless most of the time.
The male small dog eats tomatoes right off the vine from the garden and likes to lick cast iron (antique sewing machine legs and a candle holder on my fireplace). He will lick these for hours. He eats great expensive food and takes vitamins too. So why???
The small female dog is a crack-up. She is one now and still acts like a puppy and carries her toys everywhere. She will for no reason run in small circles and then lie down flat on her stomach with her legs stretched out like superman flying. She sleeps lying on her back on a pillow like people do and snores like a freight train.
I guess you can tell that I love dogs! They are weird, but they are my babies.
THis is so weird because I had an email
from Paypal this morning confirming a purchase and I don't even have a Paypal account!!! I checked my bank account quickly but that seemed all in order. I sent the email to spoofpaypal.com for them to look into it.
Men are just weird some times##
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Not weird at all - see inside
Men do stuff like this, most of them I expect. He just so happened to have you walk in on him. Please go to counseling to work through any problems you have, or go alone if he refuses to go. :-)
Seems weird he would go to craigslist
for help.
How weird. I was just going to ask the same thing
I also have huge bags under my eye. I never paid too much attention until my daughter told me that I looked tired one day. Boy do they look awful. Cover make up doesn't even begin. I was hoping others would have some remedies to at least make them less puffy and dark. I may have to try Preparation H.
This story is so weird to me, I can only wonder...
I watched 'The View' today.
How did this man get pregnant? This is a puzzle to me.
And how come that his wife, who had an hysterectomy is BREASTFEEDING the baby?
How did her body produce milk?
Isn't it that one must be pregnant before producing milk? t is all a hormone thing.
This is all so weird to me, downright scary and I do not like it a bit.
It's all just to confusing and weird to me
I know it's a woman with man parts, but since he/she now looks like a man, it's just too strange. I was also wondering how the wife was breastfeeding.
That explains it somehow, but still weird..sm
What is a puzzle to me is how this man/woman got pregnant?
This is only possible if he/she has still the female organs and he/she is artificially inseminated.
They mentioned only 1 operation, the removal of her breasts.
It is also weird to me that Barbara Walters is so interested and fascinated by this story.
I used to admire her a lot, but lately not so much.
But for being over 70 she looks really still great, lately not so much, though.
The whole story is 'mocking' God, I do not like it at all.
They will tell the child: 'Your father had you! The poor child.
What a weird situation...sm
There is nothing wrong with you or your husband being friends with the mom. I think it was totally acceptable for you and your husband to go to the funeral because your husband knew this woman. Why wouldn't he go? It would be childish and immature to not go.
Also I think the relationship between the mother and you and your husband is not the brothers or the ex's business. The mother is free to be friends with whoever she wishes, and it is none of their business. It seems to me they need to get over it. I would continue being her friend and tell them to get a life.
Weird twitching?
I have this weird twitching/slight spasm feeling in my upper abdomen, and I wondered if any of you have typed this or heard of it. It feels like a baby kicking. I wonder what in the world it is? Anyone know?
That end of craft is just WEIRD sm
Most of us who make them and/or collect them aren't like that! They can be outstanding works of art, but that is what they are...ART. They are not surrogate children.
I will say that they are a blast to dress and to look at. IT is fun because they will stay little AND their Carter's won't wear out. They are also a lot of fun and a lot of work to produce from the setting of eyelashes, to the microrooting of the hair to the properly blushing and veining of the skin. They can also look absolutely hideous! I have seen some really awful ones too.
You are right. That sort of love and attention should be given to a real child or to a pet, not a doll. I do them because I love dolls with a passion...to twiggle with or display. I collect all sorts of dolls and I am starting to rehabilitate old dolls as part of my reborning skills. I do change their clothing because I make a lot of doll clothing. I play with them as far as changing clothes for a new display goes, but they are artwork!!!!
Weird symptoms....sm
My sister-in-law went to the ER tonight. Her symptoms were numbness all over her body, nausea, dizziness, and shortness of breath. She started antibiotics Friday evening. These symptoms started tonight. I thought it may be the anitbiotics. Some kind of adverse reaction. She has a pilonidal cyst so they put her on Sulfa antibiotics. Well when she went to the ER they said they didn't believe it was antibiotics but a panic attack. She said she has never had a panic attack in her life. How weird. I just wonder if it could be the anitbiotics even with no rash. I would hate for it to be the anitbiotics and her keep taking it and get worse.
This sounds really weird, but s/m
meatballs slow-cooked in a crockpot or Dutch oven with sauce made with one large jar of grape jelly and one jar of chili sauce. Delicious!!
Isn't it weird how when you have an accent...sm
you don't know it until you get around other people who are not southern? People up north don't realize they have the northern accent until they come down here I guess.
What a weird post from the OP this was anyways!
Also her hint that she feels for this boy in a way she never felt for her husband!
Duh?
She should spend more time trying to seduce her husband than fantasizing about her daughter's boyfriend.
It msut really be very cold in her bedroom.
I pity her husband and he should do the same. fantasizing about 18-year-old girls.
What was she looking for in our answers?
Encouragement?
Condoning?
I, myself, I would never post such stuff on a public forum.
And the administrators and moderators know exactly who we are, they have our emails.
Are you trying to pick a fight with me?
Belligerent you are!
that's a really weird comment...nm
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I was a weird mixture....sm
Head cheerleader, but a band geek (clarinet,violin,sax,and drums). Homecoming court, but an honor student and class salutatorian. I had friends in nearly every group, but would often spend my lunch hour in a bathroom cubicle because I would rather be alone and read.
Graduated in 1981 and the late 70s and early 80s were a great time to be a teen. The era that saw Disco Sucks T-shirts and the emergence of Blondie, the Police, and AC/DC's new frontman. Andy Gibb and Leif Garrett made my knees quiver. I was upset that I was a month too young to vote for Reagan in his first term. The year I graduated, 1981, saw the advent of MTV and AIDS.
Wow...that was a trip down memory lane.
Can you imagine how weird it must be for -(sm)
medical personnel to have someone of that level of fame come in to the ER (or the autopsy lab?) It would just be so strange to be putting in an IV or firing up the defibrillator and thinking to oneself, 'OMG - this is ____!' (MJ, FF, Princess Di, Elvis Presley, etc.)
Its so weird, but this is common for these families
with BPD members - when a new person comes along who is actually healthy emotionally, they are always "blamed" for everything. I wish I had more time to share some of this fascinating data, but I have to work...and there are probably those who aren't interested. When you experience these sick games for years, and then actually read the exact same stuff in medical/psychiatric journals, it is just mind blowing! You realize its NOT you and you're not imagining this stuff. Very enlightening. I wish you all the best.
How weird, but huffing must be the reason - sm
they almost prevented me from buying my groceries a few months ago because I has wine and beer in the cart and my 6-y/o picked up the wine and put in on the belt. They had a total cow and said I could not purchase the wine because my daughter had touched it. I was floored. She was just helping me and no clue it was alcohol. They let me by with it but after a bit of an argument. They said it was some new law in our state, well maybe they should post a notice on this as I had totally no idea of its existance, and normally my kids don't touch the "untouchables" as I get them out on the belt but she was quicker than I this particular time. I need to buy some White Out myself, wonder what will happen?
Weird but good stuff
Mmmmm! That does sound tasty!
I went to a pizza place and tried their "grilledchicken & strawberry salad." Oh my god I am in love! They had baby salad greens, sliced up strawberries, strips of grilled chicken, sunflower seeds, shredded jack cheese, and raspberry vinegrette...just delicious! I would have NEVER tried strawberries or sunflower seeds (never mind both!) in a salad, but since then I have been making it myself almost every day now!
So nice to be "regular" for once now too if ya know what I mean 
Sounds downright weird to me
but i am probably a lot older than you, my husband too - both over 50. maybe it is different for guys in their 20s or 30s or even 40s. but if my husband started burning candles and taking bubble baths....well, let's just say...no, i won't even say that. it would just be weird is all i can say. weird.
Weird fainting. TMI enclosed.
I've never fainted in my life. Tonight I had a bad tummy ache, went to go potty and while sitting down decided I was going to throw up. So I picked up the garbage bag, the fan noise got really loud, my stomach hurt and then next thing I know my kids are standing over me asking if I'm okay. I didn't eat much today and the kids brought me some crackers when I was able to get up and I feel better but a little freaked. I also smashd my glasses into my face and somehow dang near broke my leg. I can barely walk on it. I'll see how my leg is doing tomorrow before I call the old doc. If I had insurance, I'd probably just go anyway. Has anyone had a random fainting spell before?
Too weird, too sick. Nuff said (nm)
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I know this sounds weird, but take him to a salon.
Ask them to help with clothes cuz they'll give him cool tips.... He'll feel really great to have a fresh new look for high school....
Weird kitty habit - what does it mean? (sm)
This is the first cat I've had to do this behavior, and I have no clue what it means - must be some instinct maybe? Whenever she goes to one of her water bowls (that have fresh water put in them every day), just before she starts drinking, she wipes her front feet on the floor, like she's digging a hole. Then she drinks.
I've seen cats act like they're burying their dinner after they've had enough to eat, and heard that it is an instinct that goes back to wild cats, lions, etc. burying their kill so they can come back to it later. But what do you think the foot-wiping thing is?
Extremely weird and maybe disturbing to some,,,,,
I used to have a dog that masturbated. No joke. Not seen anything like it since.
Both of my cats have done the same weird thing....
One is a male and one is female, didn't get them at the same time, but they both act like they are nursing off of a blanket that I crocheted. The male has done it a lot longer than the female and he will curl up with a corner of it in his mouth and fall fast asleep. It's so funny to see this 12 pound cat acting like a kitten.
OK. This is weird and maybe should be under the Confessions topic.
But I love the Godfather. I mean, I really LOVE that movie and Godfather II. I've watched those two movies a zillion times, director's cut, saga, DVD extras, you name it. (Not so fond of part III.) I'm not sure why I love it so much. Maybe my upbringing? I wasn't raised by mobsters, but I was surely raised in an Italian household. (I don't need the subtitles to know what's being said in Sicilian/Italian.) I like the complex theme, seeing Michael Corleone go from a righteous good guy to a powerful mob boss, twisting the admirable quality of protecting family into the distorted mess that brings him to his ultimate realization of his own guilt.
When I have I have the time, I get out some nice primitivo, some good cheese, lovely chewy bread and roasted peppers and watch those movies.
You're not weird. Maybe you can stress that you'd like it to be just old
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I would feel weird. She should have been upfront about
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there are *weird psychos* in EVERY religion...
I so respect everyone's religion but I am appalled by religious fanatics...the ones who go wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy overboard and I think misinpret Bibles.......taking things to the EXTREME.....
fanatics, extremists - nope, cannot deal with them....and shouldn't have to but I notice each religion has so many different levels and sects - it's almost like different religions within each separate religion....I get some of that....but not all of it....
*scratches head quizzically* because I'm a live and let live type of person and so it's difficult to understand why EVERYONE doesn't let everyone live and let live.....
Programs? Man that IS a weird wedding! - sm
I think you should tape as much of it & the reception as possible, just for laughs later on. Who knows, maybe something will happen that will be worthy of 'America's Funniest Home Videos', or at the very least YouTube! ;D
weird- I have kindof the same thing-
I lost 70 pounds over the last 2 years and then started having pain in my upper back between my shoulder blades. At first it was intermittent but now its constant and it has also spread to my neck and now my shoulder joints. Not elbows though. I can't figure out what would be causing it as I worked this job before the weight loss with no problem.
I was considering a breast reduction, thinking that might be part of the problem, but wouldn't you think I would have had the problem BEFORE the weight loss?? Although, I have not really lost anything from that particular area- just went from a 40 DDD to a 36 DDD.
It is frustrating and maddening,though. There is nothing worse than chronic pain! Mine is making it very hard to exercise too and I do not want to gain that weight back.
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