This is what I would say to them sm

Posted By: tired on 2009-05-04
In Reply to: My thoughts are that things will eventually settle down, but -- - Amanda

Maybe I'm wrong but I would say, "This baby will be well-loved by me because he or she carries my genes and my son's genes. No matter how you feel about me, you are carrying my grandchild. I will love this grandchild whether you hate me or not. So therefore, I suggest you think about cutting me out of his or her life. This will be the same as cutting out part of my heart and I won't allow that. This child will be my grandchild and nothing and no one, even God, will ever change that fact. If my son loves you enough to create a child with you and I love my son, then I shall love you and the baby as much as I love my son, whether you love me or not. You can choose not to "like" me if you will, but my grandchild will always be loved by me and will always be as much a part of me as my son. So think about that, please, before you judge me." Then never mention it again. Let her throw dishes at you if she wants, she is carrying your flesh and blood, whether she likes it or not. Don't utter another word and make up your mind that this baby is your flesh and blood, a part of you. Try to relax and let things take their course. I feel for you. This child may end up being the joy of your life, don't let anyone take that gift away from you. Sounds like your son needs to grow up whether he likes it or not. They'll come around once they see the baby and so will you. Just "be there". My DIL made me make an "appointment" to see my grandchild. What a heartbreak it was! I felt like an unwanted salesperson but I did it! Wear your suit of armor and be strong. Don't give her an excuse to shut you out or sounds like she will. Be as nice as can be, it's not easy, they can be very hateful and mean, and your son is probably afraid of her wild moods but he has to learn to step up to the plate. Be positive, good luck! Sounds like this baby could use a smiling Grammy.

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