This is truly sickening. I had an uncle who lived with his mother sm
Posted By: I know what you mean on 2007-11-06
In Reply to: I have a friend who called me to say her 34 year old son dying - In your shoes
until his 50s, lived off of her, stole from her, slept in the same bedroom. They are both gone now, but the whole family was disgusted by this and him. She was definitely an enabler. Would borrow money so she could "help him out." He attended a methadone clinic monthly and she paid for it. No one could tell her anything, either.
He died young. Committed suicide.
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I found it for you, have known because my mother did exactly this and lived out her old age
in her own home, hello! From 3 different sites...
Reverse Mortgage - A loan that enables elderly homeowners, to use their home’s equity without selling their home or moving from it. A lending institution makes a check out to the homeowners each month. This payment is really a loan against the value of a home. Because the payment is a loan, it’s tax-free when the homeowners receive it. These loans are non-recourse.
• reverse mortgage - essentially a home owner signs over the ownership of the real estate to the lender in return for a stream of payments
Reverse Mortgage – Money borrowed by senior citizens using their home as collateral. This loan has to be repaid from the proceeds of the estate when the owner dies.
If it worked for my mother, then is ok with me.
So sickening
that we women have to treat men as if they are little boys. Yes, those other women don't nag, etc ... until they become THE woman and his behavior actually matters to her.
Some men just need to grow up!
it's sickening, I know and eventually we....sm
I am certain eventually in Florida (south) - we will have the same - I already know that Home Depot here has self-checking out/cashiering ongoing......I knew 10-15 years ago that cashiers were going to be slowly faded out in this country......and that we will check our own things out from stores
BUT....CUSTOMER SERVICE IS ALREADY DOWN THE TOILET in S. Florida by the way.....sorely lacking here for 25-30 years.....
this just adds to more lousy customer service....2 words which I think MANY PEOPLE (in the field) just don't get.....CUSTOMER SERVICE - think about it....we are the bread and butter on these people's tables - and they ACT like they are doing US a favor....OH I HATE WAL-MART!!!
As sickening as sex offenders are....
you can't stop them from playing the lottery. It stinks to think that a person who would do such a sick thing would be lucky enough to win the lottery. Not really anything you can do about it though.
You have GOT to be kidding me. That is the most sickening thing I think sm
I've heard in years. Seriously. I wonder if Ms. Oprah is still gonna promote this Secret stuff.
Hey, I don't want to promote my religion, but these people need God for real. I found God late in life (thankfully) and so I don't have to fall for this "Secret" hogwash crap.
Granted, I do believe in some of the theories that I've heard, but it is very, very misleading.
Well, I live in a big city and it goes on here all the time. Sickening.
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My uncle did that, his daughter
who was 8 told him not to, but he didn't believe her.
How wonderful to know someone like your step-uncle!
Have a great weekend with your family!
Does he like Uncle John's sausage? sm
I can't remember where you said y'all were now, but that is definitely a local thing. Their plant is in Brandon. Anyway, they are also available online but the shipping is very expensive. They are the ones that make the mojo sausage (and other fresh sausage) and sell it to Sweetbay/Kash N Karry stores.
Love the Italian therapy! My dad and uncle were...
raised that way...no coddling or worrying about hurting the little one's feelings. My grandmother would have made a fortune from her therapeutic thwaps!
Going to my aunt & uncle's house as usual
My husband, my parents, and I all drive down to my aunt and uncle's house every year. We usually bring something like pumpkin and/or apple pie.
I had a great uncle who hated the custom of "viewings"
And you know, so many people will say things like, "He looks good/peaceful/asleep," etc. My uncle always used to say, "Now how can he look good, he's dead!" Well, my dear uncle passed away at the age of 96. He died peacefully in his sleep. He was independent and active all of his life. The day he died, he had been working in his garden, doing house repairs, and cooking dinner for himself and his wife. Business as usual, except he went to bed that evening and quietly passed away. Wouldn't we all like to finish out 96 years like that! There was a closed casket at the viewing, and his wife told us, "Well, you know how Joe felt. He didn't want people filing by saying 'He looks good.' But the thing is, he actually looks great!" My aunt was a little sad that she didn't have an open-casket viewing, but it was Uncle Joe's wish for a closed casket.
My uncle told me each teat on a cow gave different kinds of milk (sm)
One for whole, one for 2%, one for chocolate, and one for buttermilk. That was when I was *real* little; I don't think I bought that one very long.
He also told me that the mountain people had to have "hill cows" which had legs shorter one side than the other so they could stand on the hills without falling over. (If you've ever seen cows standing on a steep hill in the mountains, you'll understand why I believed that for a while...)
LOL.
My uncle's sister worked as Paul Anka's assistant
and got us free tickets to a show in Vegas :)
When our rich uncle got out of the poor house we'd be rich...sm
when we were young we'd think we'd be rich one day and it took us a while to catch on!
Whatever my mother-in-law and mother are cooking--lol
we go to my in-laws for Christmas Eve and usually have ham and kielbasa (we are Polish) and then my mom usually has turkey or roasted chicken on Christmas Day
I don't even know what that is... lived in CA, AZ, OR
and Nevada. Never heard of scrapple.
:) Thanks! LOL--I wish you lived near me too...SM
We live in Nebraska.
My idea of shopping is Walmart, Target, and K-Mart. It worked while my boys were young, but now that they're getting older I guess I'll hafta dig deeper in the pocketbook and shop at stores in the mall. Thanks for the link! :)
Chickadee
I wish I lived
close enough to a beach to go every day, but then again, I probably would NEVER work!
You see, I have never lived by
myself. I went straight from home, to the college dorm, to my grandma's for the summer, then I got married. I never got to be on my own. I think everybody should have that opportunity. I think it would have changed me in lots of ways.
I agree - a mother is a mother and a daughter is a daughter for life sm
despite the problems they had, which i truly believe stem for anna's drug problems. obviously her mom wasn't too bad or she would not have raised daniel for a while. i think the mother wants her buried in Texas so the grave will be close enough that she can go visit it without having to come up with expenses of going to the bahamas to get there. although i contradict that too in poor anna needs to be buried with her son.
In my day, no vaccine. We all got it. We all lived.
At least now he will be immune. Hope you had hubby don't come down, too, but if so, it doesn't last forever. Just keep him away from others while contagious. And don't let him scratch!
When I lived in Colombia....
no one printed anything for me in English. Their country, their language, respect their ways. Those who come here should do the same - our country, our langauge, our ways. If you want to speak Spanish, go back across the border.
We speak English here precisely we were all originally from somewhere else.
The "We were all immigrants" argument is inane. Any country can say that. Mexicans were not originally from Mexico except for the Indians, who are extremely underprivileged and discriminated against by the Mexican government and the majority of Mexicans. Within the Latino culture, there is plenty of discrimination and prejudice - the lighter the skin and hair color, the higher the prestige. Latin American countries look down on the Caribbena and Mexico, etc.
Prejudice, stereotypes and discrimination are not just a white-black issue.
Why is that the Vietnamese and Koreans and other Asian groups come here, learn a new alphabet and many times will learn both Spanish and English in order to do business, but the Spanish speakers come here and demand everything be done to accommodate them?
It don't want to be Americans, they should stay home. If they want to adopt the American culture, come on over - legally.
hopefully this will be short-lived
I'd still send pictures, etc., especially to your grandparents. Good luck!
lived with us for a year.
by the time she moved out, no one would talk at the dinner table. my husband & I would go outside to talk. not good. hopefully your mil will be able to get some friends.
She has lived with us for 2-3/4 years so she...sm
knows all of the family line. We have been told that the judge that is finalizing the adoption spends a lot of time hanging out with a child that is old enough to talk with him at the time of adoption so she's looking forward to that. We've got the camera ready to go with a new battery and lots of memory on the memory card for the photos.
I have made an appointment to get her portrait made and the place we're doing that can create some adoption announcement cards for us with her picture and information on it to send out to people.
I like the tree idea - thanks for that one! Hopefully I could keep it growing! :o)
I grew up and lived in PA
until I made a few moves down south a few years back and moved to Ohio a year ago. I am about 45 minutes now from my hometown in PA, but my hometown in PA is just 45 minutes away from Pittsburgh. We could be close enough to be neighbors!
I wish I lived right next door to
help you with your project. That's my kind of fun. :oD I wuv a good rottie. Can't imagine playing with 3 of them.
How about: If I lived here, I'd be the cook!
Looks beautiful! WIsh I lived there. NM
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Did your parents help? I lived on my own but (sm)
it was because my stepfather did not want me there. I worked a full time and a part time job and tried to put myself through college. It took me years just to get an associate degree. If I had had help from my parents it would have been so much easier. It was very difficult as an 18-year-old to earn enough money to take care of myself.
I wished you lived near me...sm
So that you could meet my big baby and get to know him. I promise you would say this is no pit bull. My mom was scared to death when I got him that he would grow up and be this mean vicious killer. Well now she loves him to death. My father-in-law was against us having a pit. Now he says he ain't nothing but a baby. Some may be mean. But I am telling you mine is not mean. UNLESS he feels threatened or his family is threatened. Just a while ago a friend of my husbands was over here and CJ was just head set on getting up in his lap. CJ weighs about 70 pounds and he thinks he can sit in your lap. Lots of people say he isn't a pit is he? I say yes but he is a nice pit. Some are mean, some are not. It depends on the dog and a lot of how it is raised. This dog has been babied like a child from the time I got him. When he was 3 months old I got him and routinely rocked him in my recliner. Now he is just this huge baby.
We lived 2 blocks away from each other
I knew him in high school. He was the 'much older' Senior and I the lowly Sophomore. I had a crush on him, we'd ride with a group of boys & girls to away football games & he was always very nice to me. My older brother and his older brother were in the same class & had been good friends for years.
DH graduated & then two weeks before my senior year was to start, my now BIL came over to our house, after he returned from the Marines, to see if my brother was home. He wasn't but we talked for a few minutes. Then furture BIL went back to his home and told DH....you need to call Renee.
The rest is history.
We dated during my senior year and we went to all the dances. It was a great year and I have a box full of silly bids from dances, pictures and fun times! That was some 42 years ago now...LOL.
when i lived in the south, they said
i had a 'northern' accent. I'm born/raised Californian. When we moved to midwest, teased kids for having southern accent. however, when my husband used to work all over the country 40 yr ago, he could tell almost exactly where someone was from, hearing them talk a bit. With all the travel/moving around now, accents are there, but not nearly as identifiable, and ofttimes a mixture ...
never lived there but visited.
I love it. So jealous of you. Good luck!!
I lived there and HATED it!
There is nothing to do in North Carolina. The BIG event in Raleigh is the weekly Farmer's Market. The lakes are ugly, manmade bowl-like things. The police are out of control in that part of the country.
You could not PAY me to live in North Carolina again. At least not near Raleigh. Charlotte and the Mountain area are nice, but for the middle of the state? YUCK!!!
Twice so far in 11 years we have lived here - sm
Once when I lived at home years ago, boss got me out. I was excused the two times here as my kids were little and still at home, and no babysitter. My husband got called a few months ago, first time, no clue what he did with the papers or exactly what they said, I think he just blew it off, but no one has ever come to get him if that was the case.
The man who lived across the street.
We lived in cul-de-sac of 10 homes. The whole neighborhood knew each other. This man thought he was the boss of everyone, told everyone how to raise their kids, keep their yards, take care of their pets. He was physically and verbally abusive to his wife and kids. He was absolutely awful.
Someone called me one day to say that man had liver cancer and had less than 6 months to live. I thought couldn't have happened to a nicer person. He died on New Year's Day 2004 and as we watched the ambulance leave his house with his body in it, everyone (including his family) gave a sigh of relief. Only 6 people attended the funeral. Isn't it horrible to think that way about someone? He was only 52.
When I lived in S. Florida, I heard ..sm
I thought that sort of thing is illegal in this country?
http://www.mojomoon.net/santeria.html
No she won't - as long as she lived there for 2 years -sm
single you get $250,000 tax exempt, above that CG applies, if married it is $500,000. That tax law has been changed for a while now.
I have lived in the area for over 40 years
and I know exactly where this is and I drive the freeways all the time, including the HOV (which is a lane for more than 1 person in a vehicle to use or a motorcycle driver). The lanes are to the left-hand side of the others and the bus driver apparently took the wrong lane. Ther are 2 there that run side by side, 1 goes straight on thru Atlanta and the 1 he took is the exit lane and apparently exiting at a high rate of speed (i.e. your average speed on the freeways) he was totally unable to make the stop at the top of the freeway. There are 2 lanes there, 1 directly ahead and the 1 he took has a stop sign at the top for a turn either right or left. So unfortunate for these people and our hearts have gone out to them.
Best City You've Ever Lived In
Milwaukee, WI... HANDS DOWN! Love the people, love the city, wish I could move back.
I've move a lot in my lfe- anyone else who has moved a lot who has a fave city?
I have lived in Wyoming all my life .....
It is definately West!! We have it all, flats, mountains, snow in summer, it has snowed here on the 4th of July!! If you are going to Yellowstone, chances are you will see snow in some places...not alot, but some. Jackson, in the mountains, and in the Big Horn mountains around Sheridan should still have some, depending on how late in the summer you come. We have a little of everything and lots of space to breath! I would not want to live anywhere else!! Welcome..I hope you enjoy your visit!!
When I lived on a farm back in the day...
One night my girls (little then) and I were coming home after work and we came down the hill and the headlights illuminated many, many dead cats, at least 40. It was so traumatic. The girls were screaming and crying, it was awful. And it was also a black lab that was the culprit. What a horrible sight that was. I'll never forget it.
Allergies possible? I lived at the dermatologist - sm
for a couple years, would get this horrible rash on my neck, hurt, oozed, itched, totally sucked. Dr. suggested I do my own allergy testing at home. I put a spot of shampoo, my ferret's hair, body soap, clothes detergent, etc. under seperate band-aids on inside of my forearm and left them on untouched and dry for 48 hours then removed. I had a horrible red rash/reaction to my shampoo. (was also allergic to 1 of my ferrets, the one that still had its musk glands. So I stopped using that brand of shampoo and it cleared right up. Happened again a few years later and switched shampoos again with complete resolution of the rash. Luckily it has not happened since. So it could be as simple as exposure to something he uses every day or on frequent basis, you just need to figure out what. My DH became allergic to Tide about 10 years ago after they changed their Bleach Alternative formula, got a rash all over his body from it, obviously we don't use that brand anymore. Good luck.
Lived in it for years and loved it. (sm)
Low payment. I think the plus with a mobile home as opposed to a condo or an apartment is pets. A lot of them allow a fenced in yard - at least here some of them do.
Lived right at the beach before, hated it
NM
You are such a crackup! I wish you lived next-door..... nm
:)
Once I lived near some storage units
So a friend and I rented a storage unit for the month, took all our stuff there, made up signs, and set them out by the corner when and if we were ready to sell. It was definitely worth the rent on the unit. When we weren't in the mood to sell, the stuff stayed locked up and dry and didn't have to be handled again and again.
I guess the same way we lived with the thought that the
.
Are you saying this 16-year-old lived at home with this guy?
If this is the case, the mother should be charged with child abuse. I have not heard this and if so I am shocked that a mother would allow this.
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