This is basically what I have been doing the last few years (sm)
Posted By: OP on 2007-12-30
In Reply to: Sorry to hear all this; here's my advice - sm
But I don't think he is just going to go away...he has a good job, 401K, and we have a lot of equity in our home...in other words, I would cost to much for him to leave. Even if he has another woman that he is all excited about, the money is very important to him. But basically I have started doing my own thing, not calling him, etc. He has been upset saying that I don't even miss him when he has been gone..he takes all these trips and then we are supposed to have a big party for him every time he comes home. Well, we've been married 14 years - he leaves because he wants to be gone, so I am not going to throw a big party for him every time he comes home.
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Yes, they are basically against everyone but themselves I think (nm)
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Basically the same as we always have
Swimming in our pool, visiting friends, eating outside on our deck. We go out to dinner every Saturday with friends to get a break from the kids, and this weekend we're going to our local Balloonfest so not much driving involved. Luckily everything is pretty close by and we usually only spend approximately $80 a week on gas for two cars.
Well put? It was basically unintelligible...
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Basically you are saying you are not trusting him
now, even before he moves in permanently, otherwise you would not be, as you state, paranoid about his cell phone. Trust is upmost important in a relationship. If you don't have that, it is really doomed from the start. Been married almost 10 years now and never have checked a cellphone, email, nothing that pertains to my husband. I think women sometimes have an extra sense so to say and they know when something is up. Maybe that is what is happening with you. In my case, I have never had 1 minute of worrying about him. In another relationship I knew before I saw or heard. Called women's intuition.
She has basically admitted that the swats
are no punishment, so if you don't make her do the suspension for the 5 tardies, she will have no punishment for it at all, and thus it will probably continue. She'll just take the swats each time. You'll have to sign the paper for it this time and then they'll have it on file and won't ask you about it for further incidents. (BTW, I've got nothing against spanking, but only by a parent in this day and age, and certainly not a 14-year-old.) If she is really concerned about her grade, she'll get to class on time after this suspension.
Basically just lost my son when he married into
my DIL's family. Just sucked him clear in. No time for our side of the family after that, not his g'parents, his maternal side, aunts, uncles, cousins, no one. It was all her side that mattered. I got charged for any work around the home I needed done by my son, he did her family's for free. I tried to be there but never barged into their lives and now not in their lives at all. I do not worry about things anymore, no use in it and just try to work and live my life to my liking. His marriage just kicked me to the curb and it used to hurt but not anymore. I have accepted I do not play a part in my son's life nor his childrens.
Friends of our set up their registry at Honeymoonwishes.com. Basically asking everyone to pay for h
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I have some health issues that basically prohibit
a lot of the things I mentioned, bending, stooping, cleaning, etc. and I can afford to have someone and why should I not? Oh, by the way there is a lot of time she watches television, I do not mind and I pay her per hour more than I make an hour so I think for 4 hours here is a good pay. The thing was I only had 1 pair of panties (I felt should wear to an appointment this morning, knew exactly where I put them and they were not there.) If you knew how much I gave her, not only money but have bought her grandkids things at Christmas, given her clothing, lots of things when she asked, then you would understand about why I am upset she stole something from me. I buy clothing and then do not like and give her brand new things with the tags still on them so I have a right to be upset about someone stealing.
I was disappointed in the group last night basically
No one really grabbed me like I would like them to. Adam was okay but I am just not into him as well. The group overall had none of the zing felt with the first group. Oh, well, I think there is a brand new group next week, isn't that so and how many more groups are there?
My SIL makes it this way and the meat basically falls off of the bone.
I know that once she gets the pork seasoned, she puts in a small roasting pan and then sets it in a "bano maria" at 250 degrees like for 10-12 hours depending on the size. I will see if I can get the recipe from her. As far as the seasoning, it all depends which way you want it, for Cuban style mojo seasoning, it can be bought already made in a bottle at the grocery's store in the international food section, probably Goya brand. Then, there is the other seasoning with the oregano, salt, vinegar, garlic, black pepper, and olive oil.
He basically tackled another player and just held him down...and then punched him in the gut a few t
stupid on his part but he got a 15-yard penalty for it...he won't get fined
Basically stick to a schedule. Laundry is only "housework" while I"m working. Keep calls sh
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I did a lot of research! Basically, I scoured the public notices in the local paper. SM
You know, the ads that say a certain property will be auctioned off on the courthouse steps on a certain day at a certain time. Well, I learned quickly that just because you've read the public notice does not mean the property will actually get sold when advertised. Like the person said below, a lot of times the owners rehab and pay back payments right at the last second. The trustee selling the property is usually an attorney hired by the bank or mortgage company that hold the loan on the property. You can call the attorneys and find out if a propert is still being auctioned off which I did a number of times. Once you find out who holds the mortgage, you can contact the bank or mortgage company directly and make an offer.
For my particular house, it was a waiting game. They actually listed it with a real estate agent and wanted $80,000 when they first listed it. I called the real estate agent they listed with after it had been on the market for about three months. They were asking $60,000 at the time I looked at it. I thought they were crazy cause it was a 2 bedroom that needed a lot of work. Just so happened that at the time I walked through it I was stilling bickering with the insurance company over my settlement, so I wasn't quite ready. Then, three months later I'm at the grocery store (I live in a small town and it is wonderful!) and someone was telling the cashier about a little blue house that had been for sale for a long time and nobody was interested in it because the basement was a cinder block basement which scared people off. Anyway, long story short, the person said they were now asking $45,000 for the house. I had just settled with the insurance company and thought nows my chance to get a great deal!
I called the mortgage company and offered them $36,000. I low-balled because I was prepared to negotiate. They countered with the full asking price. So I countered with a $40,000 cash offer. I said they would be crazy not to take it because I was a cash buyer, didn't have to wait for financing, and didn't require a mechanical inspection. My brother-in-law waterproofs and pours basements for a living. I had him look at the basement and told me that it was a dry basement and he would get a bobcat from work and dig out the dirt around the foundation of the house and waterproof it from the outside and that should make it solid. I have cousings who are trim carpenters and roofers, although the roof was in good shape, no leaks. So I felt safe not having a mechanical inspection especially because I have all this help should something go bad.
The mortgage company decided to sweat me out and didn't give me an answer for two weeks. What they didn't realize is I wasn't sweating because I thought they'd be crazy to pass me up. My waiting paid off. They called the Monday after the 4th of July holiday and said it's yours if you still want and I said "I do."
I bought the house As-Is. Also this was a foreclosed property which means the owners that were foreclosed on cannot rehab the loan and take back the property. It's mine once we close.
So that's how I did it and I can't believe I did do it because I actually felt like I didn't know anything when I started. I just prayed a lot and feel like I had some divine intervention for sure!
I think you are taking this out of context...I originally asked about my in-laws basically coming ov
and then the issue of locking doors and security gets brought up...why is it you can't post something on these boards without it being blown out of proportion???
Yeah, the True Blood series is basically like soft porn...
definitely not advisable for a 14 year old!!!
Meatus, labia, mucous membrane...basically all genitalia related words...
make me throw up a little in my mouth. LOL
My husband is 7.5 years younger. Been together almost 20 happy years...nm
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My feelings; people shacking up together for years and years
and then all of a sudden deciding to get married don't need a thing, obviously. A shower should not even be given. I lived with my now husband a while (nowadays who doesn't!) before we married and I also had been married before years ago but he was not....so of course HIS mom wanted a shower. I told her absolutely not unless it was just the immediate family, his mom, sisters, etc, more like a celebration/get together. And so that's what we did. Showers are tacky, period. Unless it's a couple of young kids getting married straight out of the house and that doesn't happen much anymore.
my dogs are basically indoor dogs sm
but have a doggie door to go in and out as they please. Sometimes our Jack Russell gets excited and barks inside the house. My DH grabs is belt and snaps it and the loud noise shuts her up right away. I am not trying to frighten our dog, but many times just saying knock it off doesn't work.
Been with a man 13 years older, now with a man 4 years younger.
Younger is better, at least in my case ;)
Sorry, meant 75 cents. Still, that was years and years ago.
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I studied to be a scopist years and years ago
Back in the early 1990s I took a course called Note reader Scopist. They read court reporter notes (those long skinny papers that looks like a cash receipt) and types them into documents. I had found the course through something called At Home Professions but just didn't finish it because it was too expensive for me. But I am familiar with them and even found my book from the first course I took. Looking back I think it would have been a blast if I had kept up with it.
It is definitely legitimate. A lot has changed since the early 90s, so I'm not too familiar with the industry now. I do remember what was really weird was it didn't take a lot for me to learn it. For instance I could look at a line of court notes and see something that looked like: NV p srn - and I seemed to know exactly what it said. Just weird. My DH used to say that I understood it because I was an alien and my ship crashed in Roswell. HA HA HA Anyway...that's what I know about it. But if you Google note reader scopist or at home professions i'm sure you could probably find a lot of info.
I have been vegetarian on/off for 35 years, was vegan for about 5 years sm
not that hard. Right now, I am having so many issues with food allergies and celiac disease, having to give up nightshade veggies...nothing left to eat. I am eating some meat now, but not when the gastroparesis sets in!
Being vegan is not hard...unless you are a celiac. This is how I figured out the celiac part because so many of the meat analogs and vegan packaged foods use gluten for the protein and I got really sick from it. I gave up all the premade things and the whole grains with gluten and I was fine.
There is vegan and then there is VE-GAN. By definition, vegans don't wear, use or consume anything that is derived of animals...no leather shoes, most shampoos and toothpastes are off the list, as are deodorants. No wool or silk. Anything with soap usually has animal byproducts. It is very involved and rather difficult to do.
Giving up meat, eggs and dairy is no big deal, except for cheese. You hear that ad about "comfort proteins" in a baby formula and there is such a thing. Mother's milk, be it human, cow, goat, whatever...contains a chemical that triggers the release of endorphins in the brain so that feeding feels good in more ways than one. The purpose of this is ensure that the nursed young want to nurse and thrive. Human milk has a lot of these, so does cow's milk and cow juice triggers the same reaction in the adult human brain. Cheese is concentrated milk and therefore these chemicals are also concentrated. As a result, cheese is an addictive substance. This is the hardest thing to give up when going vegan. Vegan cheese substitutes are nasty and they don't melt. If a dairy-free cheese melts, it contains casein, an animal protein and not vegan.
I studied this years and years and years ago
Most definitely is legitimate. In the late 1980s I studied to be a note reader scopist through a group called At Home Professions. I loved it, but unfortunately could not continue due to no funds. It was reading the court reporters notes which looked like a grocery receipt with a bunch of letters scattered on it. The weird thing was I found it extremely easy. For instance I would see a line that looked like: av e cr, and for some reason I would know what it said. My DH told me that's because I'm an alien and my ship landed in Roswell. HA HA. Well I know that a lot has changed, after all it's been over 20 years since I took the first course and know a lot of it is computerized now, but it is most definitely legitimate and I've heard people like to do it. I think I remember one of the courses was in medical terminology and another course was in legal terminology. Should be able to find a lot of it on google, or maybe go to your local college if they offer it and talk to an instructor.
This has happened for years and years, where have you been?
Frank Sinatra, Elvis, the Beatles, and on and on. This person is acting very normal like the age she is. You would have to have been under a rock to think differently, like this was an abnormal behavior....
Lost my mom 23 years ago and dad 18 years ago.
My son was not even 1 when my mom died....she was only 50. My dad died at age 59. So even though I feel your pain....I would have been very grateful to have them into their 80's. I guess we take what we get and be thankful. Sometimes it is hard though.
I was married for 13 years and 2 years
after my divorce I met the most incredible man. He was also divorced, we both have 2 kids, and though we are not married, we have been together for 9 years. They are still out there, you may have to go through a few marginal ones before you find him, but they are out there and available.
Was your kid almost THREE years old?
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I am and have been for 3-1/2 years....sm
feel free to e-mail me any questions you may have and I'll answer the best I can. For me, foster parenting has been a very rewarding experience.
this years
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I had it done 5 years ago.
The good: Surgery went well. Lost from 420 pounds down to 175.
The bad: Became depressed, lost my hair, damaged a kidney, and eventually gained the weight back. Weight 350 pounds now.
If you can't change your habits now, you probably won't change it then either.
Only 5% of those who lose weight (even with surgery) keep it off.
DH had one about 5 years ago....
It was a breeze for him, and only a $10 copay! He tried to be macho though and lift something pretty heavy 2 days later, ended up home for about 4 days and pretty sore! All in all everything has been A-OK, he has never had a problem. Didn't slow him down any either, he is still quite the man, if you know what I mean! LOL! Good luck, hope it works out for you.
We do...even after 21 years.
About 17 years ago,
I had an ex-boyfriend that owed them money. Don't know if he was buying it or selling it, and never had heard of them before that, or since then.
WW as of 2 years
I did WW 2 years ago. They have 2 plans, the core and flex. I did the flex. It is a point system. Basically you eat anything you want. You keep a diary of what you eat and add up the points at the end of the day. The points was based on the number of calories, amount of fat and fiber I think too. I don't know anything about the core plan. I did loose weight the 3 weeks I was there. I went from 196 to 189. I quit when I got pregnant and never went back. I would love to go back but I don't think I would get much out of a meeting anymore. I have a 5 year old that gets bored and a 16 month-old that won't sit still. I think the cost back then was $11 a week.
Had it when I was 11 years old. sm
I really cannot remember how long I had it before I was diagnosed, seemed to last a looong time though. Mine started out with one lesion on my torso, which itched but would feel like someone was stabbing me if I touched it... even if my SHIRT touched it! All of the lesions were very painful, but I remember that one most because it got infected. Turned a grayish green and oozed. I still have a large scar from it. Hope you feel better soon. It is very painful.
I took it for about 10 years.
I just changed to Effexor. Ten mg is an extremely low dose. To keep migraines and neck/shoulder tightness under control I needed 20. But 50 mg, even though that's still a pretty low dose, could cause daytime drowsiness for me. Other people might take 100 mg, I believe. And at 50 mg there was a little weight gain, also. If you still have trouble, you might try melatonin also. I hope you're feeling better soon.
I don't think 8 years is all that much, I think it would be a lot of fun!
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My SIL had it done about 1 1/2 years ago; had no ...
real problems; lost about 125 pounds. I also know a guy who had it about 2 years ago and has lost about 175 pounds. He really has not had problems either. You really have to research the doctor, though, and a lot of people have had problems with it.
BF for 6 years
Also does not make me a crazed lunatic, either - as many of you have alluded to - you would be very surprised if you met me on the street - I look just as normal as any of you - only probably slimmer and with larger natural breasts - and remember large areolas (LOL)
Yes you can. I have done it for 20+ years, my mom
did it for 40+ years. I usually use parchment paper now, but before I knew about it I always used wax paper. I have never had a problem with wax on cookies or cakes and there has been no taste difference. Even some of the pre-modern cooking shows used to tell you to use wax paper on the bottom of your ringed cake pan.
The Wonder Years
I remember them well! Great suggestions above. What a great mom, and what a great son! Enjoy it!
When it comes to digging a bit deeper in those pockets, that's your cue: time for son to get a job and start pitching in!
I had them when I was 45 years old.
I had the Invisaligns, though, and those were great. You could eat anything because you took them out while eating, then brushed your teeth and popped them back in.
They were more expensive than conventional braces, but not by that much...and LOTS less noticeable.
Thanks, but I already get those. Been going for 4 years now.
:-)
Ten years old nm
She turned 10 on 06/03
The cat is about 3 years old sm
and is considerably overweight. We are working wtih the vet on that. I don't know if he just can't or has ever even tried. Our other cat goes over the fence all the time.
9 YEARS?!!!
Wow, my dear, you are dedicated.
I went through this sort of thing with my husband about 3 years ago. He was over-reacting, taking everything out on us, constantly talking down to me and screaming at the kids over every single little thing. After being utterly miserable for at least a year while things went from bad to worse, I kicked him out.
Now, three years later, he is a completely different man. Losing his entire family (we moved 600 miles away within a week of me telling him to leave) really impacted him, and, honestly, he hit complete rock-bottom - drinking, flaking on the kids for visitation, just being an all-around mess. And, you know what? One day he woke up and decided he needed to make a change or kill himself. So he changed.
We got back together in November, and I'm currently 6 months pregnant with our third child. There are times when he does slip back into old behavior patterns, but he recognizes it and stops and apologizes. They need to realize that it IS just a trained reaction, and it is possible to retrain your reactions, but he HAS to want it. Are you willing to wait for him to make that decision on his own? Can your mental health and/or your children's mental health handle it?
I know people are too quick to jump into divorce nowadays, but you have to ask yourself if staying is ultimately more harmful to both you and your kids - think about the role model you're being. I didn't want my kids growing up to think it's okay to walk all over their families because they've had a bad day, so I took action. I loved him desperately, so it was probably the hardest thing I'd ever done, but, in the long run, everything worked out like it should. 
I was 13 years old
and playing Monopoly with my best friend when her mother came into the room sobbing and told us that Elvis was dead. Of course, being insensitive 13 year olds, we thought it was funny she was so upset and just laughed at her.
over the years
Just as clothing sizes have changed, so have shoe sizes over the past years. What was once a size 5 it is now a size 7 - and so on - the what was once a size 14 dress is now near the size of a 10.
She is not even 2 years old
She will grow out of it. Forget trying to reason with her, she is still a baby. I used to keep my kids strapped in a stroller or inside the cart when I went shopping. They are kids, there are no easy solutions, you just get through it.
Also, I agree with poster below about the police comment. Why would you ever want your child to fear the police? Your child is already reluctant to be away from you and now you have exacerbated that fear with the threat of the police taking her away. You might want to rethink that one.
My mom had it many years ago. sm
It was very localized and they gave her a radium implant. That was difficult because she had to remain perfectly still for 24 hours. But it completely got rid of the cancer and she lived for more than 20 years after that (she passed away in 1999).
So it is curable, depending on what kind you have. Of all the cancers of the female reproductive system, cervical is probably the easiest to cure.
Hang in there and good luck!
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