This is a minor source of contention in my family - sm
Posted By: NYMT on 2009-06-14
In Reply to: Eating Out - GabbyChick
My husband and 17 year old daughter love going out to eat, whenever and wherever. I find that most restaurant food is way too gussied up for my tastes and I prefer my own cooking to anyone else's. Not to say that they DON'T like it. I'm a good cook and so is my daugher. To me, I can think of so many better ways to spend the money of a dinner out, one evening of which equals usally about half of our food budget for the week. It's hard to justify that kind of expense just to get out of doing the dishs.
So, in answer to your question, about once every couple of weeks to fast food, once a month or so to Friendly's and only on special occasions to a real nice restaurant.
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Minor regrets
The only real regret I have is in believing him when he said he was going to "be a father" and stay home every time I tried to regain custody. The younger boy suffered for this because he was left home more often after the older was grown. No, he didn't try to take the kids right away. I think he waited until he saw I was completely overwhelmed with single parenting and then pounced, two years later. I have ABSOLUTELY NO REGRETS about leaving him!!! I never would have my 22 year healthy marriage and two kids with my present husband, who is a honey in every way, had I not left.
Wow...you know what? this is one of our more minor issues (sm)
More and more I am realizing I have to get out. I have been talking to an older friend recently who is telling me that I have never really even had a marriage. He has done the e-mail thing for a long time. He sends me a note that says, "Put this on your calendar". No questions asked. And oftentimes, I learn about his future plans through other people, who know before I do!
If a child is a minor, it is the parent's
responsibility to get them to school and make sure they stay there. One mother here in my town had to go and sit with her daughter at school everyday for a while just to be sure she was there.
You're the parent, she's a minor child
This is sadly too common. Your daughter is pushing your bottons in a big way.
I remember being that age and partying it up. One day it just became very boring and that was the end of it. Sadly, many people I knew didn't have it quite that easy.
My first real love and a friend of his were killed from DWI at 19. Not only did they hit a car with a family of 6 (who managed to live), the rest of us had 2 funerals to go to. The priest for my boyfriend's funeral was actually his uncle!
The pattern she displays is not good. Many "good girls" hit this age and venture into situations which they're ill-equipped to handle.
My guess is that she's doing plenty more than she says. It's not that she doesn't love you.
I have no idea how expensive it is to get a drug test done on her hair, but that may be one avenue. Of course, it'd be easy to get hair from a brush, etc. I have no idea how you could get a UDS unless you simply asked her point-blank for one (since she claims she has nothing to hide). I'm just not buying it, I'm sorry to say.
About 2-3 years ago a friend of mine from high school was found dead in her apt. from alcoholism. This was one of the girls who had parties at her house in high school. She didn't even live to see 50 and died alone, sick, and miserable. When I found out from another friend I was surprised at first, but started retracing backwards and it was clear as a bell. Her father was an alcoholic. We didn't realize the significance of alcoholism in previous generations like we do now.
I also agree with another post I read about that this is "your" home, so she needs to abide by your rules. Of course, Dr. Phil says that all the time, too.
I can't have kids, but I remember being one. Speaking of Dr. Phil, maybe you could check his boards, too.
It's so frustrating to get to this point, but just know that many here will support you and offer as much advice as possible, even if it may be from an MT without kids.
Please keep us posted, and best of luck to you.
It may be a minor inconvenience but definitely get your phone number changed.
I went through a similar situation, but the guy I met and went out WITH FRIENDS with only ONCE went nuts on me and did the same thing, calling all hours of the day and night, showing up unannounced, at church when I picked up my daughter from Sunday school, he was sitting in a chair next to her and had no business even being there and didn't even go to my church. I asked the Sunday school teacher about it and she said he said he was my daughters stepfather! I said, no, he is not and he's nuts. I quit going to that church and I really liked that church, but I had to protect myself and my daughter. Finally, when I was at work he broke into my house, broke every pane of glass in all of my family photos hanging on the wall and stole some of my panties from my dresser and there was a note in my underwear drawer and it had the B word written on it. I was scared to death and I called the police and they arrested him. I was so upset that I moved to another city that was still within driving distance of my job, I changed my phone number, and my brother even got me a different car so he wouldn't know I still worked at the same place because he would drive by and see my car. When I got to work every morning, I parked out of sight and came in through the back instead of the front the way I used to. Oh, I also changed my last name to my grandmothers last name.
For the last several years I have lived in another state and am happily married to a very nice man, but I'll never forget that horrible experience in my life.
So what? It's a minor blip in everyday city life.
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Adult photos are legal. FBI stepped in because the sicko had pics of a minor.
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I use One Source, ..
whether they are any better or not, I really don't know, but when I think to take them, I can tell a difference, I just haven't been taking them faithfully..
Going to the source and this is what the CDC states about
HPV in men.
http://www.cdc.gov/std/hpv/STDFact-HPV-and-men.htm#cancer
I would not have confronted him and would consider the source as others said. sm
There are so many people out there that know of issues in marriages and keep quiet or to themselves about it. I think it takes a very good friend to tell someone of issues they know or saw. So I would either say this person is a very good friend or this person has a reason to stir up trouble; again, consider the source. I would have kept quiet with the hubby and looked for evidence and investigate before I disregarded it or confronted him.
A source to help with food (sm)
www.angelfoodministries.com as well as salvage stores (scratch and dent, surplus items)
reliable source? Want to prove it here please...
Where is your "inside source's" integrity?
S/he should be fired!
Real reliable source you have there...sm
Anybody who can Google exact quotes could have seen your reliable source was just another way to make yourself seem more important. How sad!
The least you could have done was type it yourself instead of copying it and pasting it from here:
http://www.fafarazzi.com/gossip/226704/britneys-life-on-the-inside
The day I start worrying more about a celeb's life more than my own or my family's, someone please hunt me down and put me out of my misery!
I never said my reliable source was personal - I DID get it from an
internet source - but it wasn't the one you found - obviously checking my sources - so you DO care - so you are just a hypocrite!
Yes, but their source is the National Enquirer
I will believe it when there's a credible source and in the meantime, hope it isn't true.
Consider the source. DD in hospital this summer sm
with serious illness. After about the fifth time a nurse had asked us what her symptoms were - my daughter just looked at me and I said simply "Gross edema?" because explaining how every part of her body had swollen over the last 4 weeks just got old. Nurse looked at me and said, "Are you a nurse?" I said no - but I do do MT..... wanted to be a smart aleck and said "No - but I stated at a Holiday Inn last night!"
Walnuts- natural source of melatonin
Want a better night's sleep? Try sprinkling your dinner's tossed green salad, fruit salad or steamed vegetables with a handful of walnuts. Or enjoy a baked apple or poached pear topped with walnuts for dessert.
Melatonin, a hormone produced by the pineal gland, which is involved in inducing and regulating sleep and is also a powerful antioxidant, has been discovered in walnuts in bio-available form, making them the perfect evening food for a natural good night's sleep.
Melatonin has been shown to help improve sleep for night shift workers and people suffering from jet lag, but maintaining healthy levels of this hormone is important for everyone over the age of 40 since the amount of melatonin produced by the human body decreases significantly as we age, and this decrease in antioxidant protection may be related to the development of free radical-related diseases later in life.
In a study published in Nutrition, Russell Reiter and colleagues at the University of Texas have not only quantified the amount of melatonin present in walnuts-between 2.5 and 4.5 ng/gram-but have demonstrated that eating walnuts triples blood levels of melatonin and also increases antioxidant activity in the bloodstream in animals.
The authors theorize that by helping the body resist oxidative stress (free radical damage), walnuts may help reduce the risk of cancer and delay or reduce the severity of cardiovascular disease and neurodegenerative diseases such as Parkinson's or Alzheimer's disease. Walnuts, best known as a heart-healthy nut, are also a rich source of another highly cardio-protective nutrient: omega-3-fatty acids, so Reiter and his team will next investigate possible synergy between walnuts' omega-3 fats and melatonin. To us at the World's Healthiest Foods, this sounds familiar theme in Nature's symphony in which whole, wholesome foods each provide a wealth of nutrients whose harmony promotes our optimal health.
If you do something like that make sure you have a generator as a source of power.
will eventually run out and you will have no way to recharge it. In the event of an emergency you would be out of luck unless you have a generator to provide power to the outlets in your home. We have one landline phone with absolutely no features on it. It is simply a basic phone line connected to a regular telephone that plugs directly to the phone line. It is not a phone that requires electricity. A basic phone line with absolutely no extra features is inexpensive.
consider the source - this generation of 20-something advertizine geeks.nm
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Percentage-wise, shoplifting is a more likely source of
I was horrified, what - a year ago? - to watch an episode of Oprah where three teenage girls AND THEIR MOTHERS were guests saying in front of God and the world that the girls engage in oral sex, how common it was, etc.
There was some point in this country when we decided that "shame" was bad (the oxymoronic suggestion being that we should be ashamed of shame!) - and nothing good has come out of this ridiculous 'progressive humanist' idea or its twin - the notion that outcomes should be the same for everyone regardless of their ability or effort.
Let's get the notion of shame back on stage - front and center. There ARE things that humans do that SHOULD make them feel shame and guilt. When we lose our ability to experience guilt, we have...let's see now, what do we have again? Oh yes, now I remember - we have Bernie Madoff and his $50 billion scam, television you can no longer watch with your children, teachers seducing their students, and a whole lot of other very unpleasant consequences.
Nature's Plus Source of Life vitamins.
They are made from whole foods rather than synthetic vitamins and guarantee a burst of energy. If I don't take them a few days, I can really tell a difference. I love them.
Family is great but I am never back in my hometown where family is... So I always have extended fami
You can always pick your friends your stuck with your family. An Xmas for me is where my husband and kids come home to. It is what you make it!
I agree, beans and all legumes are a great source for.......sm
plant protein and fiber. Great option for vegetarian.
This is a great beanice dish:
rice
beans (any kind)
onions (chopped small)
olives
turmeric
spices
Fry a little in olive oil or canola oil, then cook in water, 1:2, or 1:1/2, depending on kind of rice.
You can substitute beans with lentils or chickpeas, or put all 3 together....
I had heard Vitamin D was a good source for bones,
of course and being as I along with others on here do not get out as much as we should sometimes, had heard maybe I should take. I have pain in my ribs (checked for other things and scans, x-rays turned out ok) so started this morning with 4000 units. Anyone else take and if so what dosage? My ribs were hurting before I got out of bed and since seem to be feeling some better.
It's been on the radio. Apparently the main source is TMZ, nothing official yet. nm
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Summer. Friends or family? Family. Tired or Awake?
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She may have head AND body lice from any kind of source. Look for critters in
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Big difference between family values and family jewels, eh? lol
LOL. I love this show. I think Gene and Shannon and her sister are a riot! What characters. It really is amazing to me the kids seem so laid back and so normal. They seem like great kids.
Does your family still do the early Sunday dinner w/family?
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Important to check source before posting/forwarding these types of emails and misinformation
Please, actually GO to www.snopes.com and read what they have to say about this negative e-email that has been circulating for months now. Right there at snopes, they debunk/clarify all of these mean-spirited accusations.
Specifically about it being factual and verified by snopes, it is NOT verified by them. Below I copied one paragraph from snopes.com but please go there read it in full so that you can hopefully choose not to pass on this Internet e-mail full of misinformation.
FROM snopes.com -
Variations: One version of the e-mail in circulation claims "We were told this was checked out on 'snopes.com'. It is factual. Check for yourself." and includes a link to this web site. It's our guess that whoever included that bit was counting on folks to not check, as our article says the opposite: that the polemic is not factual but rather is false.
Me again - Even if you do not care for Barack Obama, surely you do not wish to pass on lies or misinformation and engage in or extend the negative campaigning we all hope to NOT see much of... at least, I hope this is true, especially of people who talk about being Christian.
At least open your mind enough to read what Obama has to say about all of this misinformation. Between snopes.com and his own website, then make a decision whether or not to engage in actively passing on misinformation. Snopes is a great place to verify information that comes to all of us in these emails.
http://www.barackobama.com/factcheck/2007/11/12/obama_has_never_been_a_muslim_1.php
http://www.barackobama.com/factcheck/2007/11/12/obama_is_a_patriot.php
I sure hope all the good hearted folks on here won't flame me for encouraging us all to check things out before we post them or hit that FORWARD button.
Peace to ALL.
SIL family, us and another family snacked,played
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No she did not have Daniel throughout his whole life but there were times when he shouldn't have been with her but her mother would not take him without money. She was living in a motel with a bfriend and Daniel. She was broke and it was not pretty she had some really rough times and she was not always the "playboy" girl she worked in some really raunchy clubs.
I dont know about a brother but it has been a long long time age I do remember meeting a "sister" once and lots of different "boyfriends". There was always someone with their hand out.
I give her mother the benefit of the doubt but look at how things are going and what her mother is doing. There have been lots of back and forths in Vergie and Nicki's relationship and none of it has EVER appeared loving. Nicki was not innocent but I think she grew up and moved on with her life and her mother still wants to talk about her little Vicki.
No one is perfect not me, not you neither was Nicki, but her past was her past and she needs to be laid to rest, she went to extremes to establish her wishes let her be. Nicki is gone but the baby is here and needs to be sheltered from all this hoopla!!!
when it is a family, the family tends to think
since an addition is being made to a family during pregnancy, a lot of families see themselves as pregnant - as one - as a whole unit...nothing wrong with it - actually makes the entire family participate in it, which is a GREAT thing............not like the men of the 1950s who went to work and the moms did absolutely everything else....I like men/families who WANT to take part and be involved.
Old fashioned or not - I prefer the way the men participate today in all of it..........makes for better communication and all know what's going on in the family....
FYI to all, keep your old fashioned minds open because a closed mind will make you old WAY before your time.
There are 4 in our family and we each sm
get to pick one definite thing to do. My hubby says that is his pick. LOL
All the best for you and your family and keep..sm
Keep us posted here - I will remember your *handle* countrymt and will be on the lookout for your posts!!!
I have family down there
My husband is originally from Boston, and we go down about once a month or so for a few days to visit his parents, brother, etc. It's kind of like a second home for me!
Family
My heart goes out to you, as I too understand that kind of pain from family. Just know that it is not you that is causing this rift. It is your brother, not his wife even though it is obvious that she is doing the manipulating. Your brother should not be able to be manipulated so easily by his wife's insecurities and jealousy of your relationship. Unfortunately in life, and in families perceptions get screwed up with time, and distance, and if one does not hold true to their fondness of one another, or respect or what I call the family gene that holds a family together through thick or thin, then there is nothing you can do about this situation. He obviously cannot hold true to his feelings for you because of his wife's insecurities. Just let things be and don't become bitter or begin to cut yourself off. Sometimes things change down the road for the better.
re: family
Yes it is sad that the family unit is being seen less and less. Yes self control is a responsibility....but that comes from the Lord...that is a fruit of the Spirit...so what I'm saying is it is our sin nature to stray and we will be held accountable for that sin...the only way to be forgiven for it is to ask Jesus for forgiveness and accept Him as our Saviour...don't know if I'm wording this correctly....
I pray that you get what I'm trying to say that we all need Jesus...I pray that I worded correctly...
Yes, my family sm
DH and my mom didn't get along well (although she was quite controlling and wanting to run our lives after we got married, and I do understand where he was coming from). Eleven years ago we moved 300 miles away. Now I see my mom and other relatives only very occasionally. Luckily she can come see us once in a while. I have to beg DH to go there, and my vision is so bad I can't drive it myself.
I haven't been "home" in 2-1/2 years this time. And yeah, I regret it.
I miss my mom, my family and my friends. But DH is never gonna change, and I have 3 kids, and I'm stuck. :(
My family went to while once and after just
10 seconds inside my DD backed out. My DH valiantly stayed with her while I went through with DS. I asked before hand to make sure they could not touch me...that is my biggest fear also. They told me there was defintely a "No Touch Rule". My DH and DD told the guy at the front my name so I heard all through house my name being repeated in a very spooky voice. One "monster" did come right up to me and I just kept saying "no touch rule, no touch rule, no touch rule". He stuck to the rules and I did feel better after that. Needless to say DS loved every minute of it.
To you and your family
My heart goes out to you and all the people in CA dealing with this horrendous threat. In the national news this a.m. (Wednesday) they stated conditions are improving in order for the firefighters to try to get in and attack these monstrous fires. Best of luck to you all. Keep us posted, if at all possible.
I have family there and know quite a bit about it. sm
Anything specific, such as area? Jobs?
family
Hey, Hayseed - You can adopt our family. We have enough of this kind of stuff going on, we can keep you feeling "loved" for the rest of your life! Seriously, have great nieces and nephew who desparately need to be loved. Your're welcome any time.
Here's what we do in our family....
I work 2 jobs, my husband and son scrap for extra money. They go out the night before garbage day, or the morning of. We have a flat trailer that has different buckets on it and they sort everything they find. They have break down the big stuff into its components and smaller pieces. You would be amazed at what the scrap yards will take and how much they pay.
For my family
It has had an effect on some with job loss and problems finding a new job. Luckily for me and my hubs we have been able to hold ours. Gas prices are outrageous as well as groceries, I have noticed the same as you. We live in an area where you have to drive quite a distance for any work - hence my decision to work at home in transcription and take a paycut. Had I known nearly 10 years ago that it would cost so much in gas we wouldn't be living where we do...but that's hindsight and nothing I can do about that now. We have talked about selling our house and moving but that seems like a lost cause. Working at home has definitely payed
off as every time gas prices go up, in a roundabout way I feel like I have gotten a raise.
I am buying generic more often and we have cut back on junk food. No chips, ice cream, soda, anything. We just can't afford it. If I'm going to spend the money I want to spend it knowing we are getting nutrition packed in.
we also grew a garden this summer to help cut back on produce costs.
Very much like my family - 2 each + 1 together sm
My biological mom moved out of state when I was in 3rd grade, and my stepmom's first husband had died in a car accident. Plus my sister and stepbrother are less than 2 months' apart in age, which mostly didn't get noticed because she moved out of state with my mom while I stayed with my dad. The only thing that caused confusion was that my stepsister and I have almost identical names (similar first name, same middle name, last name with same first initial), and the oldest 4 of us all have names starting with M. When my brother was born, they gave him name starting with J 
my family has quite a few ...
some others below posted a couple we do - peanut butter and banana ( which I have decided to save for when I'm toothless :D ) and peanut butter and dill pickles, but I prefer it on toast, lotsa crunch!
My grandfather liked peanut butter with thick slices of walla walla sweet onions and put enough garlic powder on the peanut butter you couldn't see it's color. When I was little he told me one time it's why he never got sick, I said sure, nobody will get close enough to give you their germs!
My mom loves to put ketchup on just about anything, especially scrambled eggs. She also used to buy the cans of Campbell's bean with bacon condensed soup and make a sandwich with it, with ketchup, of course!
My brother was/is addicted to salt. We used to find the salt shaker hidden in his room where the top was all crusted over from licking it to eat the salt. :P
gotta admit my family is weird to say the least! lol
I'm so sorry for you and your family
Losing a pet is always so hard. Sending your whole family love and hugs.
family
I find it interesting that when a young woman posted that her mother and grandmother were abusing her, no one felt sorry for her. Everyone one told her to forgive and forget. I also find it interesting how judgemental everyone was about who was the victim. That the grandmother and the mother were the victim and not the daughter. It seems ironic given the long, long, long, posts on domestic violence this morning.
Our family pet
has eye problems as well. She can barely see any more and we help her get around. We make sure she is fed at the same time every day, in the same place. The vet wants her to lose weight but she is fat and happy and at 13 years old we feel that is the most important for her. She is a small dog and still gets around well but we take her outside and watch her closely. I understand how difficult it is to watch and see a pet deteriorate.
We lost this dog's Aunt 2 years ago. She had many more health problems but was still perky and able to get around well. She died while we were at work and the vet said it was most likely heart failure. She never suffered though.
I feel for your loss. It is never something easy and will be with you forever. But I think it is important to remember the good times and the positive impact that the pet had in your life. It's too bad there is not more options for comfort care for our pets like there is for humans. Our family would have been so empty without any of these pets. My pets are truely my babies.
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