This an abnormal situation your child

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I went to get an annual in early April.  They said if it is normal they will send me a card. (I have used this OB/GYN for the last 6 years and this is usually what happens).  I never received a card.   The nurse calls me Thursday and left a message on the machine to call her.   I called her back, she was already gone so I told the receptiionist to have her call me on my cell because  I always have it with me.  I received no word from her so by 3:00 on Friday I call her back.  She was already gone for the day.    I call her back this morning (Monday) she was with another patient.  I call her back at noon, she was out to lunch, I call her back at 2 she was doing something else.  Well I told the receptionist how unhappy I was and what all was going on.   I  finally after 1.5 hours get a phone call.  She said my pap smear came back abnormal.  The did an HPV test on it and it was neg.  They want to do another pep in 6 months.  She acted like it is no big deal. 

I don't understand.  If it is abnormal why would they want to do another one.  Wouldn't it be abnormal too? 

This has happened before and they did a thin prep and it came back okay but it was sooner than six months if I remember right.  What is the usual protocol?  Thanks for any help. 

I too have lumpy breasts. I once had 13 cysts aspirated at one sitting.  1-1/2 years ago, I went for a mammogram, to a new and better mammo place.  I had films, the radiologist wanted more, then an ultrasound, and then right then a biopsy, which results I got the next day and it was a large cyst, that they got most of.  Went back six months later and nothing new.  I have had a total of 18 cysts aspirated and/or biopsied.  Fibrocystic disease/aka lumpy breasts are a pain to deal with.  I cut down on my coffee and also menopause helped, with the hormones not helping the cysts grow.  I was worried too about cancer.   You should call your gyn doctor and ask her/him for the report on your mammogram.  I watched the biopsy, asked many questions while the biopsy was being done, asked why they wanted more films, why an ultrasound and was told the truth, so I felt better.  Cysts are very hard to feel all of the time, and my doctor told me years ago that I was the classic example for "lumpy breasts."  Take care and make that phone call to your doctor and/or get a copy of your mammogram faxed to you.  Hope you get good news soon.

After the test the tech told me to wait so she can run the films by doc to see if everything was okay or if he needed more images. This was my 1st one. She returned and said she needed more images.

I waited 20 minutes.  Then she said you'll be here for a while, he wants to order an ultrasound.  I was so scared by this point.  All by myself.  No explanations.  My breasts are "lumpy" which is why my GYN sent me there in the 1st place.

I rec'd my postcard in the mail that he wants to see me AGAIN for more images. Why? Anyone with this before? He didn't recommend me to a surgeon or anything. Just more images. I haven't heard a word from my GYN either and I'm sure she's gotten the results as it's been a while now.  So, I'm going back next week for more images and I'm scared to death.

I have 3 young boys and a hopeless husband (I mean that in a good way) who can't really function without me.  Anyways, please let me know what you "think."  I just don't know. I do feel sharp pains in my left breast at times.

Even though the agency may guarantee anonymity, it usually isn't too difficult to figure out who "blew the whistle." I have seen people harassed and threatened in similar circumstances. If this were a child who couldn't speak up for himself/herself, I would be calling Social Services in a New York minute. But that is not the case here.

It's up to the people involved to decide what to do. You made a suggestion, I pointed out some of the hazards involved in following your suggestion. Two sides to every story. 'Nuff said.

Long story short, my DH has a 2-hour commute (roughly, depending on Atlanta's traffic) to and from work each day.  Now, this is only temporary, as when our DD graduates in May, we're moving out closer to his job.

Last night, he asked me what I thought about him taking an apartment on that side of town for 2-3 days a week, like Tues-Thurs, coming home on Friday-Monday.  We have 3 kids, the youngest being 8, who is very, very close to his daddy (the other 2 are 20 and 17, so would probably relish the idea of Dad being gone overnight).  Not to mention the fact that I work at home and don't have a lot of contact with the outside world (y'all can feel me, can't ya?). 

I guess my question is, am I being selfish to say absolutely NO to this idea, or what? I felt like crying when he brought it up; just the thought of him being away for 2-3 nights a week makes me sad.  We have a very close relationship, spend all of our time together when not working, and I just am not sure how to feel about this.

Of note:  I am not the least bit worried about him *acting up* while he's away.  We have a super-strong marriage and are completely devoted to each other and our family. What would y'all do?

Yesterday, my son went on a field trip with the school to a local amusement park.  It was a 1-hour drive.  He begged me to take his Nintendo DS.  I finally gave in and said only 1 game.  I was chaperoning the field trip but was required to drive myself there and could take my son home with me, rather than riding the bus home.  When my son realized it was time for the buses to board the kids going back to the school, he said a girl in his class had his DS game (not the unit, just the game).  We looked for his class, but they must have already boarded the bus.  I told him to make sure he asked her for it first thing the following morning. 

When he got to school today, he asked the girl for it.  She said she gave it to another one of his friends in their class.  That boy said he put it in my son's desk.  Then another girl in the class said she found a DS game this morning under her desk and that she gave it to the girl that borrowed it originally.  Of course, that girl said that never happened.  Now my son has no game.  He just got it about a month ago and paid $35 for it out of his own money.

First of all, I have already told my son he will not be taking his DS on the bus anymore, period.  I don't care if it's an 8-hour drive both ways.  He's not taking it.  Here's my dilemma:  What do I do about this girl?  Do I just let it go?  I would really like to call her parents and let her know what she did in the hopes that they will take this opportunity to teach their child about responsibility and courtesy.  She asked to borrow my son's game.  My son was kind enough to lend it to here.  She should have returned it to him directly, not give it to someone to give it someone, etc.  I don't know this girl or her parents.  I'm not sure how well they'd take my parenting suggestion.  I'm not looking for them to replace the game (as much as I think they should, I will not ask that). 

I told my son he needs to take responsibility for his carelessness in not getting the game back when they got off the bus.  He knew he would not be getting back on the bus and likely would not see the girl the rest of the day.  I should mention these are 4th graders, so they should have had some clue here.

Okay, so do I call the parents or just chalk it up to a lesson learned?

You said below that you have not achieved orgasm.  I think that may be a large part of the issue.  Also, as a previous poster said, if you are continually aroused and then let down, you may get to a point where you don't want to 'try' anymore.  It can become emotionally draining. 

What I suggest is that you spend some time alone and learn about your body.  What I mean by this is learning how to please yourself first.  When you discover how to achieve orgasm on your own, you will then be able to help your partner help you achieve orgasm together.  If you are experiencing orgasm during sex, most likely you will want to have sex more often and will feel more confident. 

I would also suggest that you spend some time online reading about the G-spot.  I know it is somewhat contraversial and not everyone believes that spot exists, but I think that is a good place to start as far as information is concerned.  Try masturbating on your own and see what happens.  Learn about the sensation of ograsm so you know what signs you are looking for.  I know a lot of women get a strong sensation and get scared and stop.  So, really, read about what signs you are looking for. 

Also, you can purchase a vibrator.  You can use that alone or with your partner during sex.  Trojan has a new fingertip vibrator that you can buy online.  I saw a commercial for it, and it looks like it would work fine.  It is really hard not to reach an orgasm with the aid of a vibrator. 

Okay, I hope I wasn't too graphic for anyone's taste.  If you want to talk in more detail or have any questions you don't feel comfortable posting, send me an e-mail and I'll try to help you out.

would you do? I need advice. My father has told me he is about to be evicted from his apartment for not paying rent. Background info: My mom and dad are divorced. He lives alone. For years my mom took care of him and paid his way. He sat at home and did basically nothing. I hate to be ugly but I have to speak the truth. My mom would have to give him gas money, etc. When my mom wouldn't give him money he would go to his elderly mother and get it who was on a fixed income. So he has a past of not working. He says there is no work but he has said that for years even when the economy wasn't bad.

Okay, once they divorced he has been on skidrow. He is always broke of course cause rarely works. Every once in a while he will haul a load of gravel. He owns a dump truck. If there is no gravel to haul then he sits and does nothing. He is now to the point of being evicted and has no food. So feeling sorry for him I bought him some cereal, milk, sandwich stuff, chips, and vienna sausage. I am not made of money though. I mean we are just making it like everyelse. I bought him the food 2 days ago. I did it cause like I said I felt bad for him and I am his daughter. Plus I said now he can't say he doesn't have anything to eat. Well today 2 days later he comes over here and says I am out of milk. I can't eat any cereal. I said do you still have sandwich stuff? He said yeah but I don't have no milk. I guess that was my cue to buy him some more. I didn't offer though. I can't buy milk for him every 2 days. Then he says well what am I gonna do when I have nowhere to go? I said well you will have to go live with one of your friends who are single until you can get a place. By the way, I am married, and my husband says oh he__ no he is not staying here. He feels like he could do something to make some money. He said no I can't do that. I don't want them to know I am being evicted. When I didn't offer for him to stay here, he just sat there and put his head down. Then he said you know I have been feeling bad lately, dizzy and all. I think I may have had a stroke. Then he goes into this whole guilt trip. I don't know if I am gonna make it much longer. My I mention he has no high blood pressure or anything. He has been in perfect health. He feels perfectly fine to do whatever. But he says he may die because his health is bad. So I am like well you need to have some testing if you think that. Then he says well I don't have enough gas to get back home. I was like well why did you come here if you didn't have enough to get home? He has done this plenty of times too. He will come and say I don't have enough gas to get home . I guess I may have to sleep on your couch. He said that before one time and he did make it home and was riding around the next day so he must have had gas or money. Might I add he rides around all day. I don't know how he has money for gas and doesn't have money for food.

What would you do if this was your father? I told him to go get welfare and he said no. I don't want to do that. I said well can't you drive the dozer for Josh? That is a friend of his. He wouldn't answer. My mom asked him when she seen him why don't you drive Josh's dozer. He knows how to do that kind of work. He said it don't pay enough. Well if I was begging for food and being evicted I don't think how much the pay was would be an issue. Then after he finally leaves and I have offered no money for gas or anything. He calls me over and over and says I don't have nothing but sandwich stuff to eat. I can't believe my family won't help me. I said dad I bought you food the other day. I have to buy groceries myself and pay bills, etc. He said I know but how can your mom not help me out? I said cause you are divorced. I mean you get my drift, I'm sure.

When I turn him away, I know I will be the cruel daughter, but I feel like he could help himself a little. What gives? Advice please?

Being a cat person (all 3 indoors and scared to death of everyone, which is perfect), I love my neighbor's cats who come over.  But they are spayed and neutered and do not mark, etc.  That said, this is not always the case. 

I remember hearing on Randy Lemmon's Gardenline (ktrhradiolcom in Houston, 740 AM) where he suggested putting something under the ground.  Of course, this was for the hoomes in our area, and might not even come close to your needs.  It's been so long since I heard it that the entire thing escapes me.  I will see if I can find it or remember for you.  Otherwise, if you go to that site above and click on the Gardenline link, then go to the very bottom you will see a tab (red, as I recall??) that has all of Randy's archived tip sheets.  In fact, I was looking through them for something a frend needed last week.  The only thing is that I'm ont sure if he put this in an actual tip sheet.  This was definitely a call from a listener.

You could also Google some things like that, and/or check sites like SPCA, etc. for ideas.

It can be frustrating.  We have rats, possums, etc. here, but Houston is Bayou City.  I would never use D-Con b/c of the warfarin in it.

I will check on this later and see if anyone has added anything. 

Good luck.

Being a cat person (all 3 indoors and scared to death of everyone, which is perfect), I love my neighbor's cats who come over.  But they are spayed and neutered and do not mark, etc.  That said, this is not always the case. 

I remember hearing on Randy Lemmon's Gardenline (ktrhradiolcom in Houston, 740 AM) where he suggested putting something under or around gardens.  Whatever the "stuff" he suggested would create an unpleasant feeling for the cats, so they would not want to walk there.  Of course, this was for the homes in our area, and might not even come close to your needs.  It's been so long since I heard it that the entire thing escapes me.  I will see if I can find it or remember for you.  Otherwise, if you go to that site above and click on the Gardenline link, then go to the very bottom you will see a tab (red, as I recall??) that has all of Randy's archived tip sheets.  In fact, I was looking through them for something a frend needed last week.  The only thing is that I'm ont sure if he put this in an actual tip sheet.  This was definitely a call from a listener.

You could also Google some sites like that, and/or check sites like SPCA, etc. for ideas.

It can be frustrating.  We have rats, possums, etc. here, but Houston is Bayou City.  I would never use D-Con b/c of the warfarin in it.

I will check on this later and see if anyone has added anything. 

Good luck.

OK, I'm not sure if I'm overthinking this, but I'd love your opinions and advice.

We're good friends w/our next door neighbors -we go to each other's kids parties, have lot's of cookouts, and do lot's of things together. The last thing was our Christmas Open House. They were here, all was 'normal' and we all had a good time.

For the past three years we've celebrated New Year's Eve together. I mentioned it at our party a couple weeks ago and she kind of himmed and hawed b/c they may be out of town, but then, no, they would be in town. She'd let me know.

Then, later that week, a friend of hers who is an acquaintance of mine called me about this makeup she sells. In casual conversation she mentions an open house our neighbors are having and says she'll see me there. Uh, what open house? We were not invited, no mention of it, no come by after your family leaves, nothing. The acquaintance kind of back-peddles, but there's no going back. Their open house was yesterday, and from the looks of their driveway there were 30 or more people there.

Their kids came over today to play with our kids and the little was saying how we should have come over, didn't we see all the cars? I wanted to, but didn't say we were'nt invited.

Now, should I swallow my pride and just call over to see about New Year's Eve, or just let it go?

When you can tell she's about to give her "left it at home" speech, try to pull her aside so the child/children cannot hear her and then if she says she left it at home, just ask her, quite calmly and courteously, why she keeps saying this but then never seems to have a gift to give? Tell her that it's perfectly okay if she doesn't give a gift, for whatever reason, but it is unkind and insensitive to tell a child something like that and then not follow through.

The main thing is for you to stay calm, no matter what she says or does, and to emphasize that it is not the gift that is important, it is the child's feelings and his/her disappointment when a promise is broken.

I don't know your SIL so I don't know if this will work - but that's how I would handle it.

Yesterday I was at breakfast with my mom and sister.  At the table behind us (to my back, I couldn't see it, but could hear what was going on...my mom and sister saw everything) there was a man, a woman, and 2 babies.  One of the babies threw her crayons on the floor; the woman was not at the table; the man hit the baby in the head for throwing the crayons on the floor!  Now, these were babies, maybe 16-17 months old at most.  When the woman returned the baby was crying and reaching for her.  She comforted the child and asked why she was crying.  The man just said that she *dropped* her crayons on the floor, did not mention that he had hit her in the head.  I was so tempted to turn around and say, *and he smacked her in the head for dropping them too*, but I didn't.  No one said anything, although there were several other people in the vicinity. 

How would you have handled the same situation?  You just never know what kind of reaction you'll get when you say something to someone.  I'd have hated for the woman to go off on us and start screaming or something, much less the mean ole man.  I feel bad for the babies.  What, in hindsight, should we have done, in your opinion?