There will probably be consequences to this action
Posted By: Sue on 2009-02-11
In Reply to: 12-year old girl forced to take pregnancy test due to school rumor - OMG I'd be livid!
because I do not see how someone in the school system can just take it upon their own self to ask for a urine specimen from a child. I would just play a wait and see and what will come into play is the person who actually ordered/took this will probably be suspended/terminated. It was definitely the responsibility of the school to let the parent(s) know first and not take into their own hands.
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Definitely agree there are consequences
Someone can not help the way they were born though. If a child is born with a visible handicap, they will spend their life getting hassled because they are "different" through no fault of their own...it isn't politically correct but it is the way of the world, and absolutely the way of the schoolyard. Someone born with an invisible problem like gender issues must put up with even more - from people who act like its a "choice". People do not choose their handicaps, and consequences for having them aren't very fair. Maybe people born with cerebral palsy, for example, make people "sick" too (and we've all seen very handicapped children in wheechairs at the mall, haven't we - not very pretty, and we've seen ignorant people snicker and point at them too) but they didn't ask to be born that way and most people know it isn't right to judge them. as they have it rough enough already.
What a sad statement, pushing the consequences
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Your neighbors should suffer some sort of consequences... SM
for how they've treated their dog!!!! And let me tell you, it's not just rednecks or trashy people. My ex-in-laws, a very wealthy couple who were known throughout their church and community as giving and loving people would go out of town and leave their dog chained up in the backyard for weeks at a time. They'd just leave a whole bag of dog food for the poor animal and lots of water. They wouldn't even ask anyone to come over and check on the poor thing! We lived in another state at the time and I continually threatened to call animal control on them but my now ex-husband would beg me not to get his dad in trouble and would always call one of their neighbors to check up on the dog.
After one of their trips, the dog disappeared never to be seen again. She was a beautiful white shepherd. They had the audacity to call me and my ex up and cry on the phone about how awful it was and expected me to sympathize with them! I just simply said, that dog probably got herself loose and ran for her life. I hope she's found a new home with better owners!
Then they went and got another german shepherd and didn't take care of her. We moved in next door to them (never be your in-laws' neighbor, it's just like on Everybody Loves Raymond!) and I ended up taking care of this poor dog because once again they were never home. Then the dog was sick and in pain and could hardly move around and I told them repeatedly she needed to go to the vet. Did they ever take her? NO! I had to scrape together the money and take that poor dog to the vet to find out she was anemic and had bone cancer. It was suggested that because she was in so much pain she should be euthanized. My ex-husband didn't think we should make that decision cause she wasn't ours. So when we told my in-laws, they broke down crying and said they didn't believe in euthanization and could bare to part with their beloved Ruthie! WHAT!!?!?!?
So they let the dog suffer until I called the humane society on them. So you see there are just people in this world that don't deserve to have the unconditional love a pet. Those people deserve to be chained up in their backyards for a few days with warm, nasty, days old water and dog food. See how they like it!!!
I'm glad your situation was resolved, but I would keep an eye on your neighbors though.
Anyway, I'm an animal lover too and I just can't stand to see an animal suffer. I would have cried right along with you.
You need to take action.
1. Do you have a physical problem keeping you from seeking out new employment? If you do, please see your doctor now. If you have a true disability, see what you can do about maybe collecting disability.
2. Do you have emotional issues going on that you cannot handle well right now? Please seek out help, again, through your physician. If that is not an option, go to your phonebook and look for a community help line phone number. Someone there can help guide you in the right direction. In my city, that would be in the white pages in the blue section. Not sure how everyone else's is.
3. Do you have anyone at all that you can turn to for living arrangements, even on a temporary basis? If not, you better get on the ball and start right this second looking for another apartment or even just a room so you don't end up on the street.
4. Look into getting some help from your local food pantry. Again, a friend, clergy, or a local help line could lead you in the right direction to do that.
5. Call your gas and electric companies to see if you are eligible for help on your bills. Many companies offer this.
6. Do you have any stuff you can unload at a flea market? I would say ebay but it sounds like you don't have time for that. A flea market would be good for some immediate cash on hand. I looked in a box I had been holding onto for years and never really looked at what was in it (my ex-mother in law gave me what I thought was old Christmas decorations). I ended up making over 2,000 bucks on ebay for the crap that was in it. Still don't know why people went nuts over that stuff, but apparently they were some kind of collectables (as I remember there were some old lead figures, some kind of collectable penny lucky charm thingy and a couple old Lone Ranger and Tonto dolls still in boxes, and stuff like that.) Anyway, if you have been holding onto stuff just because, get rid of it now. It could put a few extra bucks in your pocket.
7. Don't post here looking for help. In your situation you need REAL and IMMEDIATE help. Call a friend, go to your church if you belong to one and talk to your clergy. Seek heart-to-heart and face-to-face help and counseling.
8. When the dust settles, make a plan, start an emergency fund (even if it is just 5 bucks a week) and don't ever ever let this happen again.
Just my two cents.
Husband's action
You must be a young one. Having been married a LONG time, and been through almost EVERYTHING imaginable in a marriage, it is neither shocking nor surprising, so don't be scared. My intuitive self says he is acting out of anxiety. You offered information that you are having problems in your marriage right now, and perhaps he wanted you to walk in on him. I too have walked in on my husband while he was spanking the monkey, so to speak. When we were younger, I would have been offended and hurt but you will learn that men will be men. As for me I don't deal with stress in a sexual way. I have found through the journey of marriage that sex can be used as a powerful tool to convey other powerful emotions too. Some men, no matter how good your sex life is together, are like little boys, they have to hand their hands on it just to make sure it's still there, I guess. Take this opportunity to talk openly about what emotions are really going on underneath, and I can almost guarantee you it will be fear. Once you get to the bottom of what he is feeling and what you are feeling, you will begin to ease the tension and be better able to deal with your issues.
Big brother in action again
What happened to freedom of choice? When did what we do off the clock become everyone's business, and when did we, the workers, agree we need some authority with a conflict of interest to police everyone's health for their own good?
So what's next - we all have no health insurance eventually because some greedy insurer decides something we do is a risk? In this profession in particular, they could look to disqualify us for being overweight, or the likelihood of carpal tunnel, or any of the other problems that come from being chained to a keyboard the majority of the time.
On the other hand, some politicians introduce platforms aimed to force us to buy insurance. But what if you are disqualified by the almighty insurers? You can't make everybody get insurance if more and more people are refused insurance due to risk. Something has got to give here, and the madness must stop.
you just have to stand up and take action sm
You don't have to make a decision to leave him, you don't have to hate him. You do need the truth from him and an apology with remorse. I am picturing you all being young adults when this happened, is that the case? How old was he? How old were your sisters? If he was a young man and they were young adults it was still wrong of him but he could have changed his ways and regret his actions. If they were children, that is completely another story. If that is the case, I would not be able to stay with him if I were you. But you need to stand up and tell him that you believe them and that he needs to confess and apologize and reassure you that it has not been a recurring them throughout your marriage.
If you disagree with a certain belief or action, then don't do it YOURSELF... but
don't try to force your beliefs upon others who may not share them with you. Everyone has a different situation. Dif'rent strokes for dif'rent folks, ya know.
I have a dalek action figure!
and a box of Jelly Babies from around 1983 my mother bought from PBS! I absolutely ADORE the new Dr. Who series and Torchwood...but I get it off BBC3 and it's all unedited and just freakin' awesome!!
the kind of action that could get you shot in this
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Neither, action adventure! The moon or the sun?
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i'd have decked her. Reflex action. (nm)
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put her in your yard; her owner cannot argue against your action.
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Right now just trying to keep him from eating my 3-year-old action figures - sm
I wonder if he eats a spiderman figure does he become spider dog??? I keep finding small plastic arms and legs around the house. It is getting kinda spooky. If I find a small plastic horse head in my bed, cute or not the doggie may have to go... LOL...
To every action there is an equal and opposite reaction
It won't be making any difference. I tried a couple of techniques for my adults and very soon I came to realize they found the antidotes for them. If there are 10 sites telling how to monitor your kids, there are 1000 more telling how to escape it. Down the road you will be pushing your kids to visit those sites (full of porn banners & adult materials) and nothing else.
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