There's no real need to tell them . . .
Posted By: mistakes on 2009-01-03
In Reply to: When to tell your kids the truth ... - MTHubie
imo, that may open the door for them to rationalize that behavior. My son's 13-year-old friend was over the other night telling us the stories that his dad and grandpa had done as a kid (fairly wild). He thought it was hilarious. This boy was thinking it was pretty cool and my husband and I both shared the thought "What's he going to do to outdo dad and grandpa?" It's okay to admit you're not perfect and you made mistakes, but to tell them might just justify it to them. We told our children drinking is an adult decision and when they are adults they can make that decision but for now it is illegal and big trouble. We also told them what consequences they would face if they were even around kids drinking. My kids love sports too much to take that chance. sex is a tougher issue, but we've explained it is also an adult situation that should not be brought into their child lives until they are adults. That is an ongoing conversation right now . . .
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he's not a real person, but that feeling is real - the magic. nm
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of course it's real!!! It's all real, hence the title
gross
If all this is for real...
I can't imagine that you haven't ripped her superior little head off! What a nerve this woman has. Stand up for you and your child. She is NO better than you are just because you chose to raise your children differently than she did! I am more like you, in raising my children that is, they do not have a lot of structured activities...my 7 YO just wants to be a kid and play! I don't force him to play with anyone he doesn't want to...and you shouldn't feel like you have to force your child to play with anyone he doesn't want to.
Take a stand against this woman...tell her what you think and let it go...what's she gonna do, ground you? 
Definitely real.
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Up and real
We've had ours up since the day after Thanksgiving along with all the inside and outside of the house decorated at the same time.
let's see, what is more REAL,
googling something
or experiencing with knowledge 1st hand???
Real Dad
My husband met his real Dad after 20 years of searching. We live on the East coast. His Dad lives on the West coast. My MIL did not want him him meeting his Dad for the same reason.
I can tell you this, his Dad was very receptive of him. He answered some questions that neither my MIL nor anyone else could answer. It was a nice reunion.
Please disregard your mother's opinion at this point because she is probably scorn and feels you should feel the same way. It just doesn't work that way with the child that wants to know their Dad. My husband didn't care what his Dad was like, but he wanted to see him and talk to him.
He now only talks to him occasionally, but I can say that my hubby sleeps much better at night and has learned acceptable, which has really helped emotionally with this struggle he has had all of these years wanting to know his Dad.
Even if you just write a letter explaining that you just wanted to know who he was and to make sure he is safe! Holding grudges and putting a lot of emotional junk out there at first is sort of a turn-off in my opinion, but in time, you'll find your answers.
Good luck to you, and so glad you at least know he's safe and has a family that loves him, albeit he left out on you. Hold those kinds of feelings in your heart instead of holding grief or demeaning feelings because the "good stuff" lasts longer and doesn't cause as much heartache!
Take care and God Bless!
Is this for real?
This could be anybody...and probably is NOT a young expecting couple, I'd bet...wow, how unbelievable.. BTW, how did you find this? Just curious. Guess I'm just not very Internet savvy, cause I can't find anything worth looking at out there...
Get real
It is unrealistic to expect parents to pick up a high schooler - chances are both parents work.
You are missing the point here - the schools are not doing job!!!! Kids don't feel safe at school because they are not safe - and that's the fault of we adults. We have to demand better accountability from the school officials, including the school board. Even if it means some of the Dads - or Moms if they feel qualified - patrol the school themselves as a voluntary security force. It's pathetic that our kids have to even think about protecting themselves from other kids, but that is the world we have handed over to them.
HomeMT, I applaud you for protesting your child's suspenson. I think she should be allowed to carry the pepper spray. I would get her into a self-defense class, too, just so she can learn some other methods of protecting herself. This doesn't have to martial arts, but there are 1 and 2 hour classes where they can teach you methods to protect yourself from an attacke from behind, etc. All female children should have this trainng.
I am about as real as it gets
I am putting the truth out there and if some don’t like, nothing I can do about it. No one, including this girl, is allowed to have any sort of pepper spray, knives, guns, paper cutters and if you think children are not being suspended for just having drawings, then you are not listening to the world around you. A 15 year old knows right from wrong about school issues. I do not see this parent getting anything reversed. Her child was wrong in having it and if the parent bought for her to take to school, they are wrong as well. You should read my post because I said either she or someone else pick up the child if safety is such an issue. I think in high school most children hate riding the yellow bus and would rather walk,drive or be driven to school and usually is the case now. I hold the parents resonsible for the sad state of affairs with the schools- too much pampering with Johnny and Janie. The kids have no respect for their teachers nor for their own selves.
I am not real sure about this, but---sm
I have seen advertisements for the newer digital type hearing aides that run around $1500 for each ear. good luck.
Get real
This guy doesn't need a kidney - he has taken a new job and has to learn a new route. The mom should leave him alone - if he isn't smart or resourceful enough to contact the vast number of resources that NYC has to offer tourists and new city dwellers on how to get around in Manhattan, then he isn't smart enough to have that job.
For crying out loud, some of you women just won't let go of your little boys.
I think you are for real. .
I believe what you see is for real. . I don't see these things to this extent. just a little. I think it must be a gift. though we can't undernstand it fully. . .
Are they for real?
 I can't imaging a service posting a pay of 5 to 7 cents per line - I wonder how many people can (or would) work for that??
Yep - this would be for real and actually
I did take today off to drink it up with jose and lay in the pool all day not giving a flip anymore!
get real
rent here in Miami for a studio is 2K a month - I drive my car to the store twice a month stock up and live on about $300 a month for groceries -- BTW furnished room too for $575 (small kitchenette, full bath and living/bedroom area) so quit griping and realize how lucky SOME of you do have it -- BTW - Im single, and even s/o who does not live with me has had problems with money lately -- we are both "stressing" but surviving
so you babies need to grow up and quit griping and working a weekend, 2 or 3 wouldn't hurt either.
Yes they did! And I have a real one and I
If you go on e bay, please don't get the felt ones which are fake. You need to get a real one. Though the vintage collectors (which I am) will pay top-dollar. I took a lot of time to find one and it is real wool and I love to wear it. The crinoline underneath can be found on e bay and you can put in the search as square dancing crinoline, or crinoline. Make sure it does not go below the skirt much like the wedding dress crinolines, 2 different things.
I do suggest e bay, but do not look under costumes. Look under vintage poodle skirt and make sure that your mom or someone who knows the real thing from the fake. If you are going to spend money, don't waste it. Also you can get saddle shoes, (white and black tie shoes). Believe it or not, I wear it around (I live in Florida) and may elderly women stop me and so do their husbands to thank them for the memories. BTW: Friskyfrocks vintage is one vendor on e bay who knows all about crinolines. You can e mail her and ask her anything you want to know. She is very honest. Her name is Nellie. Tell her Diane from Florida sent you. Good luck!
Are you for real?
That "all woman" robot will never experience menopause either, so why would anyone suggest she take a pill? Bashing hormones and birth control pills and feminism? I'm not sure where that all came from out of a simple question about menopause or how you even can put all of that together. Just like every woman's PMS, giving birth, work, family, marriage, etc experiences are different, so are the experiences of menopause. For those who can get through them all gracefully and without problems, I say you go girl! But for those who can't, I say if a man came up with a pill that will make all the discomfort go away, he's my new best friend. And phooey on you if you just don't get that not everyone can be (or wants to be) an "all natural girl." That doesn't make us any less "all woman" or our husbands "all man." Bravo to the women who have reached out and asked for help - too many of us don't until it's too late or we've agonized for too long. Deenibeeni, take a bow - you've earned the applause!!!
oh get real, because
you can find it in print does not make it true...
For real? or something VR came up with?
For real...
I grew up in the ྌs, graduated in ྒྷ...and I didn't know 1 person who did drugs. Never saw them being dealt at school, no guns, knives, etc., brought to school. the only pregnant girl in our school had to stay in 1 classroom all day. Now it's like a status symbol to be pregnant...go figure right!
Real Tree
We just put our tree up today. A 10 footer that we paid $35 for which I thought was a great deal. We used to have an artificial tree until our cat started eating the needles (she won't touch the real needles). She got really sick (the needles stayed in her stomach) and she had to have an emergency operation. No more artificial tree from then on.
Real tree
I'll never do fake.
real tree
not bought, but hunted for; we love the smell of cedar throughout the house!
PDR not real MT-friendly....IMO
the best drug books are the quick reference styles specifically made for MT - and now some come on CD making it even quicker/easier. The Quick Look Drug Book CD is my favorite.
You got it!!! I am so real, it's scary *LOL*
And I never tried to push my upbringing/religion onto anybody ever in life and now I'm not into organized religion but very into G_D! And I would never push my ways down anyone else's gullet.
Never had a cat before? You are in for a real treat (sm)
Cats are just so cool. I have 3 dogs and my 20 year old cat just died in Feb. They work their way into your heart just like dogs do, but in many ways are so much easier to deal with. And they have this way of looking at you when you give them the "wrong" food that day, like you have just totally lost your mind. If you're gone for a few days, your dogs will be so excited to see you when you get back. Cats will act like they don't care, and are just so uninterested that you came back (till an hour or so later when they decide to "forgive" you. As you can probably see, I miss my baby. Best of luck with yours.
Well, hello, this is the real world
and a company is in business to make money. They care less about a sick child at home, that is your responsibility, not theirs and they are completely right in telling you to get someone to watch her or else your job is on the line. That is called business but at the same time you are complaining about bleeding so much, you are wanting to go on a field trip? I do not think you have your priorities in line - that is if you want to work or maybe just quit then you could go to see about your almost passing out, feeling weak, dizzy, go on the field trip with your child - oh I almost forgot, without the income you might not be able to do the things you want. Up to you really..
Found my real Dad.
I was born in 1982 and was raised by my mom and FINALLY found my dad after years of searching. He lives in Houston. I don't want to just show up out of the blue and say dad, here I am. I have his address and phone number. Mom says that I shouldn't contact him, he walked out on her after I was born, but I want to know what he's like.
I guess he went to a lot of trouble to start a new life somewhere else, got remarried, had other kids. In all these years he hasn't made an effort to contact me, but I still want to meet him. I hear his wife doesn't want me around, but she can't stop me from seeing my dad. Still, I don't want to make any waves. What should I do.
It is a real eye-opener.
I would have never thought to call 911 much less do CPR. Good grief.
She is a real keeper!
 If she looked at you with those big brown bulging eyes you would really laugh. Sometimes when I am afraid and feel like I might have a panic attack coming on about my mom, or when work is so terrible like now, etc. I think of her and just animals in general and I actually feel myself calm down. Thank you so much for your very nice comment. I don't want to fight with anyone. Thanks for recognizing that.
Yep, George W. is a real
xx
Someone could be a real stinker and (sm)
place a call into Homeland Security and sweetly, but in a slightly panicked voice, say anything that pops into your head, whilst at the same time nonchalantly slipping in about where he hails from. No one will ever see him again.
I am a real sap when it comes to romance
just like in Say Anything with the boombox, I fall apart when Clint is standing in the rain wanting her to get out of the truck. Another tearjerker for me everytime is The Notebook!
Real tree...sm
I like tall and thin, but DH likes big and fat. This year, it's kinda tall and fat.
real cedar, usually big, but its not up yet.
around here everyone welcomes them cut them out of the pastures...they smell so good!
real cedar here too...sm
A mid-sized one, not cut yet...much easier than years gone by....
Done the monster trees over the years (pines in the north and cedars in the south). They always look smaller outdoors, especially in the snow....Cut 'em, haul 'em, strap 'em to the top of your station wagon or SUV, get 'em home and realize ya gotta do more surgery before ya can get 'em through the door, much less set 'em in the tree stand...Ho, ho, ho!
At that point, it's time for a nap and then consider the decorating part later on.  Cat
I could be a real brat when I was little and
I had my tail swatted more than once. I deserved it too. No doubt about it.
I'm not beating on my kids but they have certainly had their tails warmed more than once too. They knew exactly why there were getting it.
My kids aren't out terrorizing their schools or neighbors. I think if more parents disciplined their children, we would have less child on child violence.
Teach them right from wrong.
Before anyone jumps in and say a swat is beating your kid. It is not! There is a HUGE difference between inflicting damaging blows and a disciplinary swat.
Is that your real name you posted?
NM
Real people
Harry Ball
Lasagne (girl's name)
Squalisha
Uniqua
Roan (a boy's name)
Rhaine (girl's name)
Matrix (boy's name)
What is up with these names? Four of these are people I actually met. I am still in shock or awe, not sure which.
and, last but not least by any means:
A law practice that had a sign by the freeway:
Cheatham and Steele
Would you feel comfortable there?
Sorry for the error. It can be a real SM
problem when you hurt all over. Thanks again!
Aussie boy was real
nm
This is a real concern
This happened a couple of times in a small town nearby us this week, it seems some perpetrators read the obituaries to see who won't be home since their attending a funeral, then robbing the people blind!
While our neighbor's son Dan was dying at his own place some guy came in and stole the Dan's golf clubs, and his TV.
I was going to attend the funeral, and a friend called me up the very day, and not friendly told me to stay home, and keep an eye on the house. I was kind of irritated with her at the time, but now I understand.
Definitely real - 8 ft tall (nm)
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Real or fake? Big or little?
Christmas tree preference?
still I have no real proof of what he has done (sm)
I can't prove he cheated when he wasn't with that guy and I can't prove he opened the cards without my knowledge.
He can look at my debt and see it as a fact.
Not real sure about the format this
year. Agree with you. I have loved Danny from day #1 and I really liked Anne Marie (I think that is her name, from Nashville, sang Natural Woman). Didn't understand them blasting her the way they did.
Right...no problem YOU don't have can be real
Please do advise us when you have a physical problem that isn't commonly in mainstream awareness...so your pain can ridiculed the way you have mine.
You are a piece of work that could use a psychologist yourself to work on your empathy issues. I bet you laugh your hiney off as you're typing away each night, since other people's pain are such an object of mirth to you. What a class act!
Real Housewives
Don't know why I watch this trash - perhaps to see what I'm missing since devoting myself to the "helping profession." That's a joke. I heard the big K punched her boyfriend and had charges against her and to me she is more man than woman anyway. Bethany is so full of herself she stinks. As for Simon, well I think he goes both ways IMHO. They are writing a book on child care. Did you ever see how these boys act? Well, if my name were Francois and I had to talk French I would be angry too if I were a boy. I think coming up are the Real Housewifes of New Jersey. This should be more down-to-earth and we shall see. When are they going to cover some more "normal" people? Does anyone really live like these jokesters? I feel sorry for their kids, they'll never know how the real world makes it through the day. The Countess won't allow lowly people to call her by her first name, God forbid! Disgusting but I keep watching, I don't know why. Get real, do an "ordinary housewife" for a change - Geez!
No real experience with it, but .... SM
my son had training for the state department of corrections, which was done where a lot of law enforcement entities hold their training (this is Georgia). Anyway, there is a store there that sells all kind of official equipment and other stuff. You might find something you like there. Website is below.
http://www.reddogonline.com/catalog/
It is real. She claims she was joking but I don't think so
and I'm a Faith Hill fan. I think someone told her she had won, she was expecting it, so she was shocked.
AND, if it really WAS a joke then I actually it makes her look even worse. Who would make a joke like that and take away from Carrie's moment??? NOT funny IMO.
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