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I can only tell you a true story. My younger sister smoked (I never did) and she would try to stop but each time a stressful situation would occur, she would pick up again. At a young age, she was diagnosed with Stage IV lung cancer, never even had a cough and she looked great! She lived exactly 17 months, the charts said 18. By the 2nd month of DX the young docs told her, "nursing home or Hospice, you can't lay around here." This was when she had a high fever and reaction to chemo. She lost her hair, gained about 30 pounds, etc.from chemo reaction. She died penniless and heartbroken. She was only a year retired early from a great job and had the rest of her life to look forward to, yet cigarettes robbed her of her family, her dignity, her retirement fund, and now she's in the cold, cold ground, all because she "needed" a cigarette. She wanted to retire early and enjoy her 401K retirement plan and her kids. Her daughter just had a beautiful baby and no mother to share the news. Her grandchildren have no grandmother and I have no sister anymore. She just had to have that cigarettte and would listen to no one. Her oncologist told her, "Go ahead and smoke, what difference does it make now?" Is this what you want for yourself? It's the bare naked truth, please, I would rather you cut off your fingers than smoke, at least you would still be alive. Cigarettes STINK and they KILL. Don't let it happen one more day.

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Of course it has everything to do with it.

My son was born in September 1994.  We found out 8 weeks later he had pyloric stenosis after changing formula, etc.  I worked in Radiology as an MT at the time and had the GI study done there.  The radiologist was so nice, but informed me that our son was severely dehydrated and would need urgent surgery.

The surgery took place the night before Thanksgiving.  My in-laws brought my husband and I a plate of their meal with utensils and all.  Thankfully, our son (first born) came through with flying colors and is in perfect health now.

My parents were supportive on the phone, but my Dad had just been diagnosed with cancer and was too weak to make it in to see us. 

So, I guess it was the worst and the best Thanksgiving ever and one that I will surely never forget for a very long time.    

If you have a pet running around in this town you will be fined up to $500 whether the dog did anything while running about or not. 

I do hope the little girl gets past her fear of dogs someday.  I have a 6-year-old that has that same fear but she has never gotten bit so  I don't know why she has that fear.  She has turned now many playdates because of those tiny, barking house dogs.  One friend in particular wanted dd to come over and play so bad but dd refused because of the dog and I explained that to the mother.  I suggested that the litlte girl is welcome to come play here, after consulting with dd first and she agreed.  ( I wanted to make sure it really was the dog not the other girl).  So they come over, with their little barking, jumping dog and turned it loose in our house and dd started screaming and crying and very rudely ran them both off.  I felt bad because dd bluntly told them to leave but I did not get on to her too much about it because it did not make sense to me.  I had just explained that dd was very scared of the dog so why did they bring it to my house and turn it loose in my living room.   The dog was not mean, just very very hyper. 

MIL shares that same fear and does not know why.  She quit visiting a friend because their hyper little dog kept jumping on her and the owners would not do anything to control it.  I guess dd and MIL are 2 peas in a pod when it comes ot that. 

asking this information on an insurance form should be allowed.  We already deny many Americans affordable health coverage because of obesity and other medical problems.  What's next?  Asking how many foods we microwave or how long we talk on a cell phone (supposedly these cause cancer, too)? We already ask the obvious questions - smoking, drinking, exercise.  They have you weigh in and ask every question imaginable about your family medical history.

How are we supposed to obtain coverage if we're not in perfect health, and let's face it, how many Americans are in perfect health?  I was watching Celebrity Fit Club on TV and I looked at some of the people on there and thought what's wrong with them, only to find out their body fat percentage was 2 points over norm.  Come on America -- this is just another way to keep us from having healthcare coverage.  No, I'm not a smoker, just a concerned American wondering about the future of my health insurance. 

Last night, he and his friend smoked in his room and blew the smoke out the window, trying to be sneaky, not realizing that it would waft up and come in the upper deck screen door! We calmly confronted them, they admitted it, DS handed over his paraphanalia, a homemade bong out of a soda can, the rest of his stash (just a couple buds), and we called the other kids parents, who promptly came over and we had a group discussion around the kitchen table, after which the other kid and his parents went home .

DS is grounded from his phone, computer, house phone, all friends and activities until further notice. When he does have an activity, he will be highly monitored and supervised. His freedoms are greatly curtailed. He also will be doing more work on the retaining wall we are building in the back yard. We're not sure yet what else will be a consequence, but I have a friend who is a rehab nurse in a chem dependancy unit, so we may chat with her.

Besides making bad choices and stupid decisions, what REALLY makes me angry is that he was using his SIXTY DOLLAR trumpet mouthpieces for bowls. What a bonehead.

We have all done our best to accept my brother's wife, but she grates on everybody's nerves. Now, that we can handle, but a few years back my mom bought a new (second-hand) car and gave her old car to my brother. She even gave them $500 to buy new tires for the car.

Then, when my mom's "new" car turned out to be a lemon and had to be in the shop for a week, my SIL refused to let my mom use HER OWN CAR that she had given them while her "new" car was in the shop - even though my SIL was NOT working and my brother had a car to go back and forth to work.

Yes, I know my brother needs to grow a backbone already, but that kind of set the tone for my SIL's relationship with the whole family.

So - what's your in-law story?

In Michigan, the school HAS to provide transportation for the kids.  Someone on here posted they had to have a bus pass that cost $150, that is insane.  I'm sure I pay for it on my property taxes, but I hate to think of the person that couldn't afford that. 

Our school district buses the middle/high school kids together, which has worked out fine.  Middle school starts at the 6th grade.  I take my kids to school every day because the bus for them is here at 7:15 a.m.  We have a very strange setup for our elementary schools.  We have two elementaries that have K-2 grade and then one elementary for 3-5 (we used to have two, but they combined them last year).  Being that I have a 2nd and 3rd grader, they both get picked up at the same time (if they were to ride the bus) at 7:15.  3rd grader gets dropped off at 8:25 at his school and my 2nd grader gets dropped off at his at 8:50.  So, 7:15 - 8:50?  That is insane!  We live about 7 minutes from both schools.  They do ride the bus home as they are the first ones off. 

But as to combining buses with middle/high school with elementary?  To me is unacceptable.  The bus drivers have a hard enough time controlling the kids.  Even with the way that ours is broken out, the youngest grades sit towards the front, with oldest to the back. 

And during budget crunch time and the super bought $10k in office furniture?  He should be called out on that during a board meeting.  I'd also contact the local newspapers so that the word gets around.  All school districts are hurting and every little bit helps.  If he wants new furniture, it should come out of his salary.