The pledge in and of itself is nothing. There has to be more.

Posted By: Lllls on 2009-01-01
In Reply to: Teenage 'virginity pledges' are ineffective - Study

My husband and I were virgins on our wedding night. It can be done! But the culture makes it seem impossible. Neither one of us made a public pledge. We were raised to wait, didn't date anyone until we were in college, and by then we were mature enough to consider the consequences of our actions. We were also young, ages 23 and 25, when we married; not teenagers, but still fairly young. (We're about to celebrate our 24th anniversary.)

I'm not very fond of trotting out young girls at father-daughter pledge parties, etc. I think the kids are pressured to do that. And that sort of pressure is not a good thing, whether it's to have sex or not to have sex. I would also prefer not to have government money sunk into chastity programs. But, I'm equally opposed to the DARE program, which also has a bad long-term track record.

It comes down to the culture of the family and the maturity of the individual, and yes, also in parental supervision. My friends and neighbors think it's cute and sweet that their 11 and 12 year olds date. ACK. I hate hoochy-mamma clothing for little girls. I hate listening to boys talk about girls with complete disrespect. As a society we can do better. We don't have to be repressed. Sex is a great thing! I like it a lot! But I also think of it as wonderful gift that should be treated with respect. That respect has to be developed gradually, nurtured and strengthened. A public pledge made when one's friends are all jumping on a bandwagon isn't going to amount to much in and of itself.

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Teenage 'virginity pledges' are ineffective - Study
- Human nature...sm - IMO
- The pledge in and of itself is nothing. There has to be more. - Lllls
  - I love your post...sm - agree 100%
    - I want to start a new campaign, calling it - Just Say Maybe
      - Family charts sm - gemini
- Remain a virgin & you don't have to explain to your kids later in life - Proud Mom
  - who really cares anymore? My SO and I will never get married - and we have kids together
    - Same here - sm
    - I have to disagree. Marriage is not a dying - wannie
      - It's just another example of "Diff'rent strokes - for diff'rent folks".
      - dying tradition would refer to the new generation - it doesn't matter how long you have been marrie
        This issue gets rather funny though when - Nonmarriage style
        Here commonlaw marriage recognized. - sm
  - Why do kids have to see your - Questioning
    - They don't...just celebrating an anniversary date will show... - passing thru
      - Well, I have a simple solution - Questioning

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