The ones I knew had it harder, no coddling (sm)
Posted By: MeMT on 2009-02-26
In Reply to: Men and Women- Relationships - Question
My grandmother worked her butt off, and took care of the kids and her husband was a jerk (my mother's stepfather). Her husband and love of her life had died in WWII and she had remarried. She should have left the SOB she married but in that day and age she already had a strike against her from being remarried and no way in heck would she have been able to make enough money to support her four children. She had a LOT of responsibility. A lot of us still live that way now. You're just lucky :)
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I'd rather ID's were made harder to get so my next
:/
It would be much harder for them to adapt. - sm
Would probably suffer at least a few falls when they jump up onto something thinking their claws will hold them, and whoops - no claws. The little declawed girl I'd adopted from a rescue had been declawed by the original owner, and had developed a very specialized way of jumping up onto things like tables, bookshelves, etc. First of all, she had the ability to jump about 6 feet, STRAIGHT UP. None of my other cats could ever do that. And her landings were almost surgically precise, almost as if she were landing on a bed of nails. But then again, considering how sensitive here little paws were, that's probably not too far from the truth.
To me it always seems to be harder on the boys (sm)
My husband are like that - oil and water for sure. We just can hardly stand to live together anymore. We have been trying to stay together for the kids for years.
How did affect you and your sister?? Would it have been better if they had stayed together or was it just a bad situation either way? I feel like I am choosing the lesser of the evils.
why is it so much harder these days?
My grandmother raised four children during the depression. She and my grandfather both worked out of the home. In fact, so did my mom and uncle, the two eldest children. And their story was not unlike many other families. The fact is, MOST generations before the post WW II era had parents and children working. It was the fact of a very hard life. So how is it that my grandparents were able to raise the so-called Greatest Generation? By not indulging children. They didn't have time for it. And everyone was on the same page, so the village could indeed raise the children. Everyone was held to the same high standard of social behavior, and no parent got bent out of shape if someone else contributed to the child's discipline. And yes, of course, times were not so wonderful back then either. There were plenty of problems.
It is not ok for children/teens to be out of control or to express their rude opinions without a care how it will be received, just as it is not ok for adults to do so. Freedom of speech has nothing at all to do with rudeness. Freedom of speech in the constitution guarantees us the right to put forth opinions and ideas for change without fear of having the King or government lop off our heads. It doesn't mean you can go around publicly calling people names.
I really do not look forward to the state of affairs in another 20 years when the I-I generation (Indulged and Irresponsible) has to step up to the plate.
but it's harder to dose
I think if there were a pill, I might feel differently, but I am against people smoking pot in the name of medicine. There are other drugs to combat nausea and such, without the high. I really think it's just a big excuse for people to get high and that is what I am against. I can tell that the majority here disacrees with me and that's okay, too, but I figured that instead of a bunch of one sided posts, perhaps the OP would like to hear from someone on the other side. Maybe not...
Yes, they do thrive!! I think we work harder (sm)
Than any other group of parents - we do it all and we bust our butts to make it work because we need the job and we love our kids. I have done this since before my kids were born (10 years) and took another job for a while away from home. My kids were miserable being shuffled around all the time. My daughter even thought up my resignation letter for me, exactly what I should say, "I'm sorry, you people are all really nice, and I appreciate the job, but I'm not spending enough time with my kids, so I really need to work at home again." How do you like that??
to me, Absolutely Everything in life is harder
  
Much harder with women with children who work
outside the home. This is a piece of cake compared to mothers who not only have to get their children ready for school and/or nursery and then get them there. I have done both, much easier this way.
Husband for sale - harder to work with him home than the grandkids. (sm)
He is cleaning our furnace and muttering, muttering, hollering where is this, I bet I have got up and went in there 4 times this morning to just have him mutter never mind I found it.
You gotta love them, but he of all people should know my money comes from my butt being in that chair.
I find it to be harder working from home with children who are not in school..
I have a 2 year old home with me all day and believe me it would be much easier to take her to day care and get my work done...
Love Barnies, too, but harder to find one now that S'bucks bought up so many of them. nm
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If you only knew!
I'm not a pagan, just simply educated on many different religions and other things of interest to me.
I knew when I saw what was going on,
simple. He was having wrecks and letting me know about them. His wife was deceased and I tried to get help for him and even telling him he was being taken, did not think so. Red flags flying all around- 1 lady who cared for his wife before her death, married, younger than me, all of a sudden taking interest in a 90 year old man who did not use deodorant? No way. I was out of town, bottom line after his death the person I spoke had got $60,000.00 from him, had him set up an account in her name and his social security check and other monies going directly into that account. I knew what I saw. She went to the bank the day after his death and pulled all out. I have been there.
see, I knew you all (most) would come through
for me. Sounds like a good alternative. You guys have given me great ideas.
Knew you could do it.
Didn't take long at all once your Realtor knew you meant business. Better for him, anyway.
And to think I knew all of these
guess not, have so many of those sayings and yet had never heard of this.
I wish I knew
I have one in the house now that keeps landing on my computer screen. I can't get rid of him. Even my cat is no help this evening.
They say she knew nothing - I don't see how though (nm)
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That is when I knew that...
...it was over in my first marriage When I was glad to see his a** go out that door and say to myself *good*, then I knew I had really lost that lovin' feeling.
THanks so much, knew there was a way nm
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maybe you took him b/c you knew
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I never knew that
But with the large refund we got it's paying a credit card that we've been trying to pay off forever so I'll take the refund anyway I can.
I knew someone who did this too
I think this is a wonderful idea - of course, it wouldn't work for everyone but I can see a lot of benefits if it could work for you...
No...I never knew that either
Not that I care either way, I like her, just never knew that
Yes, and this is how I knew as well. sm
When you get to I don't give $ ___ you are there!
I wish I knew what to say but I am
65 now and have yet to have a midlife crisis. What is going on in your life that you just want to sleep and nothing else. You have no joys in life, just work alone? I have been in what I call ruts before but eventually snapped out of those. One thing is with my work if I would ever just get so fed up with working a lot and burned out basically, would find some time to take off from work and do other things I might enjoy, such as an escape to a movie, the zoo, etc.
Hey thanx, I never knew that! :) sm
About only adjectives with three or more syllables getting the comparative/superlative form of "more" and "most".
I've ALWAYS said "more stupid", but "stupidest" or "most stupid". Why, I don't know. But I usually avoid that word in any form.....
if you knew you were about to die
A friend of ours was a heavy smoker and drinker. He had an heart attack and quit smoking because of it. He has a bad liver and had to quit drinking. Now he found out he has about 9 months to live if he is lucky. He has cancer and it is in all his organs. He had started back to smoking and drinking heavy. Would you do the same thing?
We knew that - we won't dock your pay for it! LOL
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thanks Jon-but I knew difference between the 2.
Gee. I knew that would happen! LOL!
Thanks so much to you all. I KNEW I needed help! :-)
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Where are you? Wish I knew how to send
pictures so I could show you what our place looks like. I live in suburb of Atlanta and even the bigger homes in my neighborhood, say the 2-3 story places do not run, say over 400-500$$. I could not imagine paying huge price for a home to have a cracker box. I think lot of people paying huge amounts for homes would be surprised if they went on line and checked for homes say in Henry County or Fayette County, both just right outside Atlanta. You really get a bang for your buck here. Not only the cost but wonderful place, clean, quiet, really nice. What are the costs of your homes there?
I never knew they had that! Thanks for giving
me JUST ONE MORE snack to try!!! LOL. 
The last I knew they were about to wrap and that was some
strike would make any difference.
I knew what you meant
You know I did not even notice that, and I knew what you meant! I work third shift so believe me, I was in tune with what you were thinking...I get up too early every day. 
HOW DARE YOU! She said she DID before she knew this (sm)
How rude of you to tell her to get a clue!! Very mean!! Why does somebody have to be mean in every thread?????
oh - I thought maybe you knew something
different and I was ready to go get it! Mine has attempted to get peanuts out of my peanut feeder when the squirrels let him.
If you knew me personally you would know that I do sm
not try to keep up with the Jones'. Far from it, to be honest. This post all started when I was really shocked to see that others had to leave certain areas in the ward whenever she wanted to visit the common area, etc. And then to suspend 2 docs for checking out her chart. I just found all of this odd to me. I am not obessessed with celebs. And when Di died? I really could have cared less. I mean, I was sad, but I didn't watch or read anything about it!
It certainly is! If you knew this family and this SM
young man! He used to have the lead in high school musicals with such a wonderful voice, is such a good musician and an all around good guy. It makes me so happy. He left for his tour of duty about 2 weeks before Thanksgiving, a very hard time to leave his new wife and family.
Thanks for your post.
Probably knew you'd be complaining about it
I'd say he expected you to carp on him about it, maybe because he really wanted it and figured you wouldn't, and that you'd complain about it, about the price, not really needing it, whatever. I'd love it if my hubby brought home a nice new TV.
As I stated before, if you knew what
the emails said, you would think differently about the whole situation. I have told her to not contact me if she isn't getting the kind of response she thinks she deserves or wants. It is not my place to give her any info about her bio dad. If she found me, she can find him. I have no right to allow her to disrupt his life, just as she has no right to disrupt mine if I don't want her to. Again, so sorry if I don't come across as the loving, nurturing mommy type to you. Is your life unfulfilled, because if so, I'll give you her number!
I never knew there were books
I had never heard of the books, although then again we don't have any books stores in our town (except the section in Wal-Mart and Fred Meyer). I have heard a lot of times people like books better.
I knew Dr. Oz would come in handy for something
He was on Oprah one day last season when they were taking questions from the audience and a woman stood up and asked about this. She said she gets a funky odor and some fluid in her belly button. (Standing up and admitting that had to take guts)
Anyway, Dr. Oz said it was caused by some type of cyst under the naval and, while it isn't dangerous, needs to be checked by a doctor to confirm the diagnosis. I can't remember what he said about getting rid of it.
Whoo hoo. I knew having a cat would pay off.
A cat come up here stray and I made friends with it. I started feeding it, giving it milk and when I knew it was okay I started letting it in the house. H really did not like it in the house but I would win by playing on his sympathy and the cat would meow at the door; it was just too cold outside and that cat was obviously someone's house cat at one time. Well, unfortunately we have a mouse problem. Mice have ruined our stove to the point we need a new one but no $$$. We set traps and plugged up holes but obviously they are still getting in. Well, when I walked in from taking the kids to school, low and behold did I see my cat killing a mouse. Go cat GO. I know it is gross but when they ruin your expensive appliances. ...
My dad had all his senses- he knew exactly what he was doing and yes
he was a dirty old man, thought the ladies still liked/loved him at his age. I know for a fact- we used to go out for lunch (at same age) and he watched to see where a particular blonde would seat people - she worked at the restaurant. Nope, I made no excuses for him and no one else should either. You call what you know and I knew this. He gave away thousands of dollars after his wife died to a ditzy blonde in his neightborhood because he thought she "cared for him." Yeh, right. I hate for people to try to make excuses for this- he was a dirty old man. That was not out of character for him- mother told me the reason for their breakup was he went to a whor.. for sex and she did not want to come down with disease. Gone on for years- he did not change his spots.
time you knew
Don't know how long you have been married, but when this happens to me I visualize myself doing a jig at her funeral. Confronting her will not help because she does not like you! Why doesn't she like you? Who knows, who cares! Some women like being mean to other women and once they get a taste for it....they are hooked for life. You might be better educated, a better housekeeper, a better cook, prettier, funnier, anything. I have lived like this for 20 years and now she is getting dementia and she is really getting mean now, but to everybody and not just me anymore so I don't get ganged up on as much, thank God. It has been a long, long road to hoe. But that was my husband's mother and saying bad stuff about her makes him uncomfortable. If you are going to stay married, you are trapped. Let all slights go, don't lose your temper, don't stew or plot revenge, just visualize doing that jig at the graveyard and kicking a little dirt into the hole and laugh.
I never saw the policy, never knew he had
He could have made it out to his second wife (who died before my father) but I have no idea. I was contacted saying I had insurance money coming to me. I had to furnish a death certificate of my brother, my stepmom and then they asked for names of kids of my brother, last known address. An insurance company is pretty thorough when getting information. They do not take just at face value. They do their work before paying out the $$$$.
I always knew kids were not for me - sm
I have never been a kid person. I never babysat to make money as many girls my age did, nor did I play with dolls. Now animals...that is an entirely different story. I was always interested in animals, wanted to walk dogs for the neighbors, knew the names of the animals better than those of people, etc. My husband knew going into our marriage that I would most likely never want to have a child. He was okay with that. Been married 25 years now and no regrets. Do I ever wonder what a child from us might have been like? Every once in awhile, but definitely no regret about it. It can and does work for many people. The worst part? Total strangers asking "why" we have no kids or looking at us like we are from another planet when we tell them kids are not for us.
I see nothing wrong with it. She knew what she was doing.
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Thanks everyone. You told me exactly what my head already knew (sm)
and I was just letting that logic go right out the door. I would never be the **cheatee** either, because it just seems so dirty and indignant and also because I would never want that done to me, so I try to treat people the way I would weant to be treated.
You know, I am so glad I have a reasonable bunch of women here and wish one day we could all get together for coffee.
Thanks for keeping me in line.
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