The department you deal with in Michigan for things like this is called "Friend of the Court".
Posted By: MT and worn out on 2008-09-22
In Reply to: Unfortunately, I am court ordered to do it - This is going to be a book....NM
You need to get in touch with your version of this in your state and tell them what is going on and file a form for re-do the visitation agreement. You may even have to see your original divorce attorney. We went through this with my husband's ex-wife and he filed papers to amend the visitation and what they call an "in pro per" form. Which basically is a DIY form. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't, but you need to get started now to get your ducks in a row.
Have you thought about talking to somebody at the local VA office in your state or city? Those guys are a wealth of information.
Good luck to you.
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let school deal with it...You've got a bad court
After your experience with this court (which is the same one you'll be in for anything unless dad moves out of jurisdiction), I would just let the school handle it. Depending on the state, if he's kept out of school for so many days, the school should file truency action against him. As far as custody goes, you've probably got a losing battle in that court even if your son says he wants to live with you unless the ex agrees to let him move. Before going in for custody, be sure you've researched PAS (parental alienation syndrome) etc (Leadershipcouncil.org is a good site) and how it's used to discredit mothers in courts. Google the owner of kourts for kids and follow that case (titleman v titleman) which was just scheduled for conference with the US Supreme Court with 2 amicus briefs. Hers is not an unusual case. Google the judge in Wilson Co, TN recently reprimanded for refusing to follow court of appeals mandate to reverse her ruling which put a kid in sole custody of father who DCS and other pros said sexually abused him. Can give you the judge's name and other info if you e-mail me, but moderator won't allow real names on the board. Like I said before...be sure your ducks are in a row before going to court.
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My so-call "friend" is always standing me up - SM
My husband and I have, or should I say HAD this really good friend that we have known for about 6 or 7 years. We used to do almost everything together (go shopping, go to movies, out to dinner, etc.) For the past several months, we have invited her over to our house on MULTIPLE occasions for dinner, coffee, etc., and she usually tells us that she will be coming over, and even gives us an approximate time frame as to what time she will be here (it's always the same time in the evening). She has stood us up EVERY TIME for the past several months! We try calling and text messaging her when it gets to be a little after the time when she said she would be here, but she never answers her phone or returns any text messages, EVER! We never even hear from her the next day explaining why she was a no show. On a few of the occasions, we have even made dinner for all of us because she said that she would be over for dinner, but just completely blows us off! I am so tired of this! I am done with her. She obviously is not nearly as good of a friend as we are. She even forgot my birthday this year! I don't know what's going on with her. She never used to be this bad. I mean, she has blown us off a few times in the past few years, but never this many times in a row! I'm definitely not giving this so-called "friend" the time of day anymore as we have given her multiple chances to not blow us off for once and show us that she is a true friend, but obviously she is not anymore. I just had to get that off my chest as she blew us off again last night!
Sounds great but what department
do you find this in? Never have seen in my Publix but certainly don't mind asking. I will get and try, anything to keep those babies off the new stuff.
Go to a department store and have it professionaly done. sm
You don't have to buy all the expensive products that were used on you unless you want to. Just pay attention to what is used and then go to a discount store and use cheaper products.
I agree. The health department
needs to go in and take over. The poor little girl is probably dealing with an alcoholic or drugged-up mother or maybe she's mentally ill. The little girl shouldn't be living with such an irresponsible mother. At the very least the health dept needs to go in and fumigate and clean them up and monitor the house and family members. Better that than having 30 families trying to contend with this problem.
Vet called before and after surgery, and assistant called this
this afternoon. I cant wait to see her. She has only been gone for 1 day and as one lady stated, the house is empty. Working from home, I have become quite attached to her and her to me. Thanks for all the well wishes and Boo Boo Kitty thanks you too !!
Check with your local department of the aging, too. nm
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I guess I lucked out in the stepmother department
Because I honestly love her as much as my biological mother. I was 8 when my dad remarried, and to be honest, my sister and I were pretty much brats. It wasn't instant family love, but she and my dad worked together to make sure that none of us were treated any differently just because of who had which parent. She did look at it as an adoptive type situation and even gave me a cross stitch poem about how I didn't grow under her heart but in it. It has been 27 years since they married, I never call her my "step"mom except when I'm trying to clarify things for people, and I always tell people that I have 2 brothers and 2 sisters, not steps, halfs, full, whatever, because that is how we were taught. I know not every situation turns out like this, probably only a minority, but it does happen. I'm sorry if I offended anyone because that was not my intent.
I would check with your parks and wildlife department. sm
I believe in Texas it is against the law. It used to be and I think still is.
Deer are beautiful animals, but they are very destructive. They are best admired in the wild.
Ask for first/last name and then call local police department
to see if they will do a check on these people to see if there are any reports of misconduct. This sounds too good to be true, actually. Light housing for free rent may lead to cleaning the pool and pressure washing the house.
I have been trying to find a room mate off Craig's List. There are many legitimate but why take a chance of ending up profiled on Nancy Grace, is my thought. Another woman I know who has done this successfully takes their name and birth date and calls the local police dept. She said when she tells them she is a single woman and about to interview a stranger for a roommate, they oblige.
I'd also say, take a gun if you have one.
Robbery is going to skyrocket in this economy. That is another concern.
I did contact the State Department. Sorry I asked....
I had no idea there was a website I could go to in order to get information, but I did find it after I posted my question. The travel advisory is largely for border towns. As far as Cancun, they just ask you use common sense in travel i.e. do not go alone after dark or to "bad" parts of the city, careful with money etc. The same advice you would give someone visiting L.A., Detroit, or New York for the first time.
I'd check with your state's unemployment department.
Likely they have better information than your co-worker. ;) They probably have a website with all the information about who is eligible, how to apply, etc.
Of course, if you don't like the job, there's really no reason to fight to stay on, if you can't meet their goals and expectations. And be sure to make a note of what you just said, about the working conditions, and the fact that the people aren't friendly certainly contributes to a hostile work environment.
Meanwhile... start perusing the "companies" section of this board (and the MT Companies section of MT Chat as well) to find names of companies that people like working for, hunt down their websites, and start applying online. And keep a list of the ones you apply to, when you applied, and what happened. You'll need that information if you are approved for unemployment, to prove you are job-searching.
I did what I just talked about above, and that was how I found my new job, after nearly 28 years working for a doc who closed his practice....
Best of luck, and keep us posted!
The local police department told me to call them so
I called the department back (not 911) and advised them to please not tell anyone else that. I also had the email address for this person at Paws and sent her an email telling her sorry I got her at a bad time, did not mean to interrupt her day and to have a nice day. I went back within the next week to check again on this doggie, no other reason. Hubby did not particularly like when I told him (later after the deal done) but fed her again and then followed her to see where she was going. She went to some homes close around and I figured maybe that was where she lived. No one that I called there seemed to have wanted to give assistance. I could not bring her home when I first saw her because noticed she had droppy boobies and need puppies close around, but ?? I never expected a reply like that from someone who supposedly helps animals. Makes you kinda cynical, doesn’t it?
Ask the Department Stores that sell them. They often have travel sizes. NM
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Call a minister or hospital social service department - nm
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Thanks TravelinMT. Point well taken. I did check out the State Department's advisory
and they do have one, but they break it down into areas of Mexicos. Obviously, it is the border towns that are dealing with high crimes and they warn about going there. As far as the "tourist" cities such as Mazatlan, Cancun, Puerto Vallarta etc.. they ask you to use just common sense, as you have stated, not walking alone at dark, down alleys, and just caution with money etc.. I also travel to Mexico every year (love, love PV by the way) but this is the first time we've been to Cancun and everyone just freaked me out. I have always felt safe there. The people really do encourage tourism but that is how they survive in most cases. I definitely would feeling safer walking around Mexico than some places in large US cities like in Chicago etc. Crime is everywhere. You just have to protect yourself and use common sense.
Well, up here in Michigan
It is sooo cold, better today though. And luckily very sunny! IT's a real winter here after several years of "fake" winters!
I'm from Michigan and s/m
I have 6 in my home, 2 teens, 2 younger (7&8), 2 adults. I spend minimum of $150 a week on food, probably closer to $200. I do plan my meals out for the week prior to going. I really need to get back to my couponing days! I will do it religiously for months and then fade out when I don't have time to do it. When I do couponing, I spend about the same, but get a lot more food for my buck.
This also includes cat food, cat liter and dog food (little dog), cleaning supplies.
1.59 here in SE Michigan nm
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In Michigan we have . . .
Saunder's hot fudge ice cream sundaes (and other yummy stuff), Vernor's ginger ale, Faygo soda (mostly fruit flavors), Stroh's beer and ice cream, Better Made potatoe chips, and Velvet peanut butter.
I don't know about PA, but in Michigan.....
First off....document, document, document. Then call your local housing inspector. Tell him your sad tale of woe. They will come out and look and see if you have a valid complaint. A place I once lived in had BIG, BLACK BUG!!! Really big ones...The housing people made the landlord spray and eliminate the problem. THey were water bugs of some sort.
If that does not work, see if you have something like a Landlord/Tenent Association. They advocate for the renter against people such as your slumlord.
Depending on your income, try your local Legal Aid society. They are lawyers who help based on your income. Sliding scale at its best.
What I did was send MY slumlord (a management company) a certified, return receipt requested letter informing him that until he brought my apartment up to city housing standards, I was not going to pay my rent. But I made sure that I opened a savings account to keep the rent money in so he didn't think I was doing this because I did not want to pay my rent. Things eventually got fixed, but I had to go to the landlord directly to get my deposit back.
How PA works, I don't know, but I am sure you must have something similar.
Good luck.
Only 10 here in west Michigan.
Windchill is -15 though. And snowing to beat the band to boot.
Been getting them in Michigan, where do you live?
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I live in Michigan....and yes, we are in a recession. sm
Regardless of what the drive-by media says, we are in a full-fledged recession. Our governor even signed legislation giving big breaks to movie companies who come to Michigan to film their movies. Well that might be alright for the east side of the state, but that doesn't help us on the west side of the state. Electrolux and Bissell to name a few were only the tip of the iceberg. Our schools are going south in a handbasket also. Things just don't look good for Michigan. Especially now that gas is over $4 a gallon. I am predicting $5 by the end of the month, first part of July and any tourism dollars that would be spent here by out of state people or traveling locals, will now be kept at home. Michigan needs help, but then don't we all.
Michigan passed it and I support it.
I think anyone who is seriously ill should have whatever is available to help ease their pain. I know it helps with nausea of chemotherapy too. I think it should be decriminalized. People are killed every day by drunk driving or those who go into violent rages or blackouts. Most pot smokers will only get enraged if you try to take away their Dorito's! 
20 here on the west side of Michigan. nm
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We live in Michigan and we keep our heat set at 68. sm
I live in Michigan and it gets COLD!!!. Not as cold as Wyoming, but I swear, sometimes....lol.
The only time the heat gets turned up any higher than 70 is on bath night. Then we also have a little propane heater we got from our local surplus store that helps in the bathroom.
In my office upstairs, I have an old heat lamp from our turtle tank that has a clamp type base and I have that clamped to the shelf over my keyboard. I have it aimed so it hits my hands and helps keep them warm. I figure if it works for our turtle, it will work for me. LOL.
We dress in layers too, even the 12 yo son. DH has some problems as he is diabetic, but Eddie Bauer Ragg wool socks are worth every penny you pay for them.
We do the plastic on the windows and we also spent some big bucks on plexi-glass and got two 45 x 64 pieces for our DR and KIT. We hold them in with double faced tape and then seal them with the same kind of tape they use on ductwork for trailers and RV's.
I agree with other posters too, get your thyroid checked. My doc told me that was one of the reasons for people being cold all the time.
Good luck.
perspective: 10 below in Michigan -- hate it!!
there's no preparing for this. for us, 39 degrees is a heat wave.
just get all the supplies you could need and stay in. the dog and three cats have cabin fever. i have to go out and shovel -- just shoot me!!! kid has a temp of 103. this is so harsh. beyond words... stay warm.
XanaX, I'm with you. West Michigan here and -5 at 3:15 pm. nm
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Michigan, Saw them in Detroit at Olympia
It WAS NOT a reunion tour . . . I'm really old. LOL
originally Michigan now living in the sm
south. you brought up the other things I was thinking when I posted about Vernors. Saunders hot fudge, Faygo, Stroh's ice cream (use to have a Stroh's ice cream shop by the house back in the 70s when in high school) and those wonderful Better Made potato chips!!!!!!!! Hubby was just in Michigan two weeks ago and brought back a bag. Nothing like em!!!!!!
What part of MI are you from? I am from the Pontiac Waterford area, born and raised!
I've heard good things and about things about taking prednisone. My mom was on it for SM
for awhile and it made her look so swollen. I sympathize with you.
Southwest Michigan, not much shake, but noticeable.
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Southeast Michigan (Ann Arbor Area)
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In Michigan they will issue an arrest warrant
If you don't show up for jury duty, they will issue a warrant. Wondering where the case was that a rapist was released due to juror not showing up? Something doesn't sound quite right there.
I'm with you. I live in west Michigan. I am more than ready. nm
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I live in Michigan and we just had 3 days of solid rain and $4.19/gal for gas. sm
We got the leftovers from Ike. Our gas is still $4.19 a gallon. We did not have the power outages that KY, IL, etc had, but we did have 3-4 tornadoes touch down near the MI/IN border. We have a lot of dams that are in danger of being breached and our whole side of the state is in a flash flood watch until Thursday. They figure most rivers will crest near the border by Thursday.
I live in Michigan...You can have ALL our snow. Merry Christmas. nm
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Today in Michigan it's a balmy 6 degrees with -18 wind chill
With those kind of temperatures, today thermostat is on 70 and that's comfortable. But I have on sweat pants, a sweatshirt, and warm wooly socks. Usually it's at 68 and 62 at night.
19 degrees in west Michigan right now. -8 wind chill. BRRRR..nm
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Court TV is now Tru TV as of 1 1 08 nm.
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Some will go to court WITHOUT you..sm
without informing you. Its your word against theirs that you were/werent served with a notice to appear. Next thing you know, you get a letter that a judgment has been entered against you. (Happened to me, and worse.)
Poor MT..I live in Michigan, pick me up will you? I'll even bring my own plate and fork. LOL. nm
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this should be challenged in court
This is NOT a communicable disease and should NOT be mandatory. What about possible side effects, what about 20 years down the line when they discover it caused a new problem. No. It is wrong to make this mandatory. This regards one's personal health decisions, for their CHILD no less. What next?
You need to get it back into court sm
and get this changed. Is there any reason you feel you might deprived of all visitation privileges? So hard to give real advice or opinion without the details. Sad for you though, must be hard. You need some court mandated visitation rules.
Yep, ordered to court but you might be ok
the only exempt 1 today was a new owner and he had just had lawn put down- but having said that- you are only allowed maybe a month and then after that a homeowner on same restrictions as others so don’t know how much it could get roots and grow by them. We have sprinkler system but I try not to use if I can, just too expense and I am cheap!
Court Jobs
Here where I live Court jobs pay excellent, plus there are all sorts of benefits, pensions, and a lot of time off. They're very had to come by, though. Some of them are civil service, and some is definitely who you know. I was a paralegal for a long time before I became an MT and I always wished I was able to get in the Court system.
I know my chances are 0 with that court
You said "I've seen them put kids in the custody of parents who are known to abuse them when the other parent has no problems, etc."
That's exactly the situation here. My son wants to live with his dad due to his lax (to put it mildly) parenting skills and will cheefully lie to keep daddy out of trouble. The last custody battle was the worst nightmare I ever hope to go through, every lie the ex told was taken as gospel, every truth I told was "alleged" - and while the judge was making the custody decision, my ex went to jail for being drunk and naked in his yard while my child was present, the court was quite aware of this and he STILL got awarded custody. I am really reluctant to jump into another such fiasco, and I told my son until he is ready to tell the judge in writing he wants to live with me, I won't go back to court.
I am convinced that by the time I got to court my son would be back in school, it would be a moot point, I would be told its "normal" to miss that much school, ex would get a pat on the head for his "loving parental concern", and the ex would retaliate by counter-filing to double or triple my child support payments.
That particular court has told me "lots of children go to school filthy and in rags, its the community norm, its no big deal". My child has experienced recurrent scabies and lice due to his father's lifestyle, (which is also "normal" to the court) so I am utterly amazed at his dad's sudden concern for his health.
when you go to court in the USA, you swear on..sm
In every court in the USA, one swears on a bible, probably the New Testament (I know it's not the Old Testament), and no matter who you are, you have to swear on the Bible (in a trial case). I would swear on it - it's a book about God, no matter if it's the old one or the new one, and as a result it still holds up as a respectable Bible to me for swearing to God.....I revere all books such as this, for everyone's religious beliefs.
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