That was really defensive
Posted By: sbMT on 2009-04-06
In Reply to: EXCUSE ME! Smoking and/or drinking does not make you a bad parent! sm - Are you kidding
She said "rather than be responsible parents".
There are plenty of responsible parents who like to drink and smoke, although I doubt there are very few who inject.
And then you just randomly attack the church? What about "lets talk about parents who just walk out on their kids" or "lets talk about parents who don't ever care where their kids are," etc.
And do you really know that those kids are "too skinny" just because they fast? Or is that your conclusion? Maybe you are just so used to seeing obese kids nowadays that seeing a skinny kid makes them look starved?
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No need to get all defensive.
You never said that in the original post, so how would I know? My post still "flies" since you didn't give all the information relevant to the situation. My post assumes that the parents aren't perverts, since most parents aren't.
Don't get so defensive
I agree with the above poster. Putting the bible out IS pushy. Just hoping for that one person to come up and you can start talking about religion - better yet maybe you'll "save" someone to get another notch on the belt before you visit "the big guy in the sky". How silly all that is. There is nothing worse than having any religion being shoved at you as though it is right and everyone else is wrong. I know because I have an aunt and a sister who believes they are right and everyone else is wrong. Would you want anything satanic lying around? If not keep your propaganda material inside your desk or personal belongings not for the world to see. Like the poster said (not in these exact words) but if a person is of deep faith they will find comfort that the bible is close by whether in a drawer or not. Besides I thought it was a school this person was at. Not church!
I go on the defensive because I don't like ...sm
for my dog to be stereotyped. How can you be a dog rescuer and turn your back on a dog because of its breed? That is stereotyping. The fact that these dogs are automatically put down shows how close minded the facility is. If Michael Vick's pit bulls could be rehabilitated and rehomed then my God what is everyone else's excuse? The fact is people are afraid of them and it is easier to just put them down. Another thing, these so called animal control or whoever obviously are not in the "know" or they would "know" how to handle a dog, any dog. It just takes know how. I know another pit bull owner who rescued a pit on the side of the road who had been abused and it took three hours to gain his trust but it was accomplished. He got in the inside of the truck with them and rode home. They were in the "know." They took the TIME to gain his trust and let him know they were there to help him. They took him to the vet and spent $500 getting him treated for heartworms. Then they spend another $500 getting hip surgery. That is what I call a dog RESCUER. Now they were in the "know."
Maybe she is defensive because she was declawed
And being approached by possibly feral cats, no wonder she is wary of your other cat. I wonder if she just doesnt have litter box issues, regardless of being declawed. Maybe bad litter habits are what got her put out. I just think her being declawed may not have anything to do with her issues. Maybe, but, IMO, pobably not.
School counselor defensive?
I really need some input here. My family recently moved back to our original house because we could not sell it. The school they were zoned for before we moved back seemed okay, the children thought it was fine. We thought we would wait until the year was over before going back to the original school in our neighborhood so they would not flip flop.
My little boy who is 7 recently had problems with a reading group teacher who wanted him to be in a play. It was a big part. He is shy and I did not hear of his fear until they were into practicing. She said either do the play or get a zero. He asked if he could make up the grade. She told him to do a book report at the library (this is second grade). None of the children in the reading group were explained how to do this book report even my daughter who is in the same group told me she had to figure it our herself. My little boy did not know what to do. He was afraid to ask her again as one other time he asked for instructions she was very abrupt and did not answer him. So, I contacted his home room teacher to resolve it, as the reading teacher was not available (for personal reasons). The principal tried to arrange a meeting but again, this teacher was unavailable, and I finally received a phone call (she left a message) from her late Sunday night she was busy and could not get back to me and she would not be in for a week.
Week goes by, my little boy is okay but issue still not resolved. Top it off some kids were teasing him and told an older girl in the glass that he liked her. She sat down at lunch and told him she did not like him right to his face. Ever since, he has not been dealing with things well. He has gotten sick before school from anxiety, etc. I spoke 3 times with his home room teacher, and all she could do is say, "I'm sorry, I don't know what to do, the counselor is busy today."
On top of this, my little 8 year old girl's teacher constantly gives her tardies for being 1 minute late (I go to the office to get a pass but she refuses to call them excused). We drive 40 minutes, it has been foggy and one time I had a flat tire. My husband informed the office of this.
With all of this idiocy we decided to put the kids back in the original school here by the house and as I went into the office to let them know, the counselor of the school had to meet with me, urgently. She lit into me big time, saying I coddle my son and if I kept doing so he would be come effeminate (sp?). She also said that I am teaching my daughter to be critical of her teacher by saying there is something wrong with being 1 minute late. I said there were reasons for being 1 minute late and my husband told the teacher and the office. The counselor said, "set your watch back so that will take care of it and you will be early.",
This counselor continued to say that I was not parenting my son and daughter correctly and that she was livid that I would encourage a crush that my son was only 7 and I was not being responsible. I said I did not even know about this crush and that I thought the girl was rude even saying that to his face after he never even told her it was a rumor!
I left the office feeling horrible as she indicated I was "a bad parent," I am not kidding. My band says she just was upset because we were leaving and there were issues not resolved correcdtly by her staff.
If you got this far reading this I appreciate it. Thanks for listening. But really, is my instinct right that this "counselor" was out of line, saying my son is going to be effeminate and my daughter critical? Made me feel about 2 inches tall, but I did not let her know that. Nor will I tell the children. Feedback on this would be highly appreciated. If I could I'd give you a copay for listening. Thanks in advance.
well the word "hijacked" does tend to put one on the defensive
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My, aren't we defensive about our reading material...
the tabloids are trash most of the time, it doesn't matter how long they have been around. So you read the typical women's magazines, big deal. Not much in the way of intellectual stimulation there either besides how to get grass stains out of junior's clothes, how to make the perfect pot pie and how to please your man in bed (if you have to read an article to figure out how that's pretty bad!). Calm down and go back to your reading!
Awfully defensive in all your posts. IMO, you're a nature nut. Don't you see that most people
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Wow, talk about being on the defensive! Yes, I have children, but I don't work when they're pl
I'm single, too, pay the bills all by my little bitty self. I'm in the same boat, but I don't put my children in potentially precarious situations by working and not paying attention to them. You are zoned into the headphones while your children are playing around with stuff they're not supposed to. You should justify my post with a response, but one that is more along the lines of..."you know, you're right. I should work my schedule when the children aren't into things and I'm not watching." Incidentally, I work and sleep nights when my children are sleeping. I work 6 days a week and crank out around 2500 lines a night. I have my shortcuts streamlined to the point where most of the dictation that comes in I have a shortcut for, so I can produce a very large volume of lines in a very short period of time. I have somewhere around 60,000 shortcut entries in my PCShorthand. My children go to bed at 8 PM and that's when I start work. I go to bed at 1 AM and get up about 7 AM. I get about 6 hours of sleep a night and for me that's plenty and I function just fine. During the day, I am able to spend quality time with my children, take them to the doctor, do the shopping, pay the bills, school functions, etc., so it's a sacrifice I'm willing to take, plus it was easier finding a night job than a day job. Of course, there's absolutely no time for a boyfriend since I have the full time job of transcribing and the full time job of being a mother, but maybe one day that will be an option.
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