That was a very good post. I wish more people shared your opinion-
Posted By: I sure do.(But of course I didnt in my 20s!! on 2006-12-26
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can you print out this post and give it to her? it is so sweet, - and the fact you shared your feeli
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Good advice - second opinion
Getting a non-military second opinion is a good piece of advice. Ask the docs or nurses at your infirmary or base hospital who they would go to or send their spouse to and make the appointment and go to them. She could have a-fib as well and feel like a dish rag. Godalmighty, everyone wants to cut!!
Definitely not a good thing to use that tape, in my opinion. But! sm
You can do a lot of other fun things! I hung a few witches, a scarecrow, a black cat, pumpkins on the brick outside and will go and get hay, etc. in a few days to decorate with.
DIdn't ask for your opinion on dietary content. Have a good day. nm
All good points, good post. (nm)
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I'm sorry. I'm glad you shared with
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Wish my DIL had shared my g-child
with me like she did with her mother. GD now in college and wonders why I am not in her life so much. Lives close by but I was always bypassed for her other gmother. I guess being paternal gmother just does not count much. I just finally stopped trying to be there.
Thanks to those who shared what they saw & those who are just funny! but I know (sm)
those of you who have had no UFO sitings have just had your memories altered! LOL!!! Except the one with the lady who "exercised" her child in a harness. She was really an alien.
My mother never shared anything
with me and neither did my dad. We never heard about sex, drugs, alcohol or anything that they might have tried or did during their younger years. It was like having parents who did no wrong and it was unrealistic and somewhat annoying to me growing up. My parents were fairly strict parents. So I basically took the understanding that my parents didn't understand because they never did anything. So I did it anyway. I drank alcohol at the age of 15. Tried cigarettes around that time as well. Started having sex when I was 15.
I look at this way. If my parents had shared these things with me, maybe I still would have done what I did....who knows.....but because they never shared anything with me about their life.....I couldn't go to them with what I was experiencing because they portrayed that they never did anything and if that was true....they wouldn't understand. Them telling me may not have stopped me but I think it would have made me go to them more instead of doing it all behind their back and hoping and praying it would all turn out okay and I wouldn't get caught.
I have two boys. The oldest one isn't mine but he stays here a lot. His mother doesn't want him to know anything about her past and that is fine....whatever. To each his own. My stepson has asked me questions about my past and I've answered general questions. He knows I had premarital sex. I didn't tell him I was 15 or how many partners I've had, but I just told him that I didn't wait.
You shouldn't share with your kids every single detail but it doesn't hurt for them to know that you were once their age and you screwed up as well and so you know what you are talking about and that you understand.
The bottom line is this....whether you tell your children or not.....our children ultimately make these choices about sex, drugs, and alcohol. We can guide them and teach them right from wrong, but they still ultimately decide for themselves.
why do people post responses like this?
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How many people do ya think opened above post
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i wish more people could post pics!
I always look and admire them. May not always comment but I love them like it sounds like you do!!
I think your perspective on things is shared
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Yes, the news IS unreal. They throw us headlines night after night but never tell us later how it all turned out. So it seems less and less real, the less truth we get, and the more Britney, etc. we are forced to hear about. You're right - it's hard to just go about life as if everything were normal, when lately the world seems like it's anything but. Sometimes just watching the news every day can be too much. After 9/11 I got 'addicted' to the news, couldn't turn it off, but after a while I just couldn't stand watching those buildings fall over and over, night after night, and I was getting depressed. So I decided to temporarily quit the TV news 'cold turkey' for 2 weeks. Sometimes that can be amazingly refreshing!
And your post is exactly how people see things differently,
for example you think Kelly and Carrie the best- well I for 1 do not care for their music, would have never voted for them and absolutely loved hearing Fantasia- so you see different minds play into who the final contestants are. Simple.
For real. If you post, people are gonna have an
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I'm glad you shared. I'm tearing up too. You sound like a
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Right now 120 people have read your original post in this thread
So that's 120 people that do not mind versus the few that complained. Keep writing. I get a kick out the stories of your little dog. It is better than the fighting and name calling that goes on other boards. Even my kids stopped doing that in middle school.
LinK, see my post below. People do go to yard sales
for the reasons you stated, but it was very underhanded that the woman would snatch up the doll for $2.00 knowing she was buying it from a little girl when the mother wasn't looking. It was just plain wrong.
If you don't want people to comment on your personal life, then don' t post about it.
If all you want is sympathy or someone to agree with your point of view of a personal situation, then you need to phrase your post in such a manner to elicit only that type of response. If you are asking for opinions and advice, you need to take the good with the bad. Remember, honestly is not always pleasant.
Also, I have noticed these type of posts seem to be made in the heat of the moment without a great deal of forethought as to content. If you don't want to hear that you have made a negative impression upon someone or don't want negative commentary on your personal life, then you really should not be opening the door to invite it in.
I was not laughing at anyone. I just wondered why people didn't post
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Obviously some people didn't read *or get* the whole post about the followup phone call ;)
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good post
I adopted shelter pets....my daughter and I both wish we could bring them all home and donate to humane society. If I had the money, I would buy a ranch and take in neglected animals.
good post..sm
I wholeheartedly agree with what you just said 100 percent, except that God also wants us to live by his commandments, which means Thou Shalt Not Kill; and also taking one day a week to honor only him, to sing his praises, and to rest. So many people think of the weekend as their time off from their duties in life, but forget to honor god. He also wanted us to honor the original religious holidays, and I am not referring to Easter and Christmas, which are man made holidays, not holy days. God was referring to the religious Holy days written into the Torah. A lot of people have no knowledge of that either. I also agree there are going to be an awful lot of ticked off people when Jesus returns. I only hope, and I mean hope, that I will be counted among those he receives as his own. I try my best, but I also know that I am a sinner, as no man is exempt from being one. I have been born again, but sometimes fall short of what god wants us all to be. Bless you for having the courage to say what you said.
Good post.
While it's politically incorrect to even mention race (other than ''white'' as the other poster mentioned) or country of origin (other than American), the families of the slaughtered students probably don't think this is the time for political correctness. It is naieve to assume that everyone who comes to this country does so out of love for this country or respect for American culture/way of life. It is also foolish to assume that parents do not impart their own beliefs to their children. And 8 year-olds are not just hatched from the egg--they HAVE been to school and HAVE been somewhat influenced by their families and culture by that age. And they CONTINUE to be influenced by their family. Some immigrants are motivated to come here strictly for economic reasons but hold onto the cultural attitudes of their country of origin. A love for one's country does not necessarily occur by osmosis -- it is shaped and influenced by family attitudes and home environment no matter what the country of origin. A recent NY Times article cited a poll taken in which a majority of South Koreans expressed trust for the North Korean president more than the American government. While, apparently, nobody anywhere has any use for Pres.Bush anymore, that's still some gratitude after so many of our soldiers have died over the years defending their country. No, this political correctness and assumption that every person who relocates here does so out of love for the USA is sheltered, naieve and damaging to our country.
Good post
I had a panic attack in February, my first and hopefully my last. I agree that medication is not a good long-term solution, but my doctor gave me about 14 days' worth Klonopin. Just enough to give me a chance to catch my breath (literally). Then I started exercising again and did the deep breathing he recommended. When I went back after 6 weeks, he asked if I wanted any meds to keep on hand and I told him no. If I needed it, I would call him.
I hope your doctor can help you like mine helped me, because even though my attack was a one-time thing, nothing chronic like you seem to be having, I know it wasn't anything I want to go through again. Good luck to you!
good post.
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Good post
What I'm thinking is.....it does not matter if you are black, white, pink, purple whatever....people grieve in different ways....and if somebody falls out....starts screaming......it might be the fact that they are finally realizing that this is a loved one that they will never see again....
Thanks for this post OP; all in good fun.
We go with not so traditional and I think it's great! Thanks again! 
good post
I agree with everything you said... life is too short to sweat the small stuff. . My mom used to call me at times when I was trying to work and I would get a little aggravated but I always talked to her - I remembered the song that said "don't rush off the phone when your mama calls- you ain't that busy". . anyway, she has been gone nearly a year and I would love to have her call me again. . . There is nothing wrong with taking time for yourself but you are the only mother your children will ever have and they do need you, even if you (and they) think they don't. .
good post
good post - I think you were very wise in handling your teen driver the way you did - looking back, I wish we had done the same with our daughter. . We bought her a very old car and she was responsible for the gas - we paid insurance - rules were if you get a speeding ticket, the car will be taken for a period of time - didn't say how long - that never happened. . if caught drinking in the car, keys taken away forever. .that didn't happen either. . She did have a couple of minor accidents - the first during a rain storm at a very low speed, the second was when a deer jumped out in front of her car. . no injuries either time - except to the deer! She was allowed to have one other person in the car with her for first 6 months. . I believe that was probably not a good thing - should have had no others with her for at least 6 months - they also need all kinds of driving experience, night driving, inclement weather, etc. . It takes a while to get the experience they need to react correctly. . it's hard, because they are so eager to drive and so sure they are good drivers. . but it is our job to protect them. .
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I was fearful of owning a pitbull until I got mine too.
I have also learned that, by the majority, the pitbulls that tend to be aggressive are usually the females.
The same is true with a lot of breeds of dogs. Cats too. The females are more aggressive.
Good post again Misha.......no msg
amen! good post.
I agree -- you wrote what the Bible teaches -- and i too am sure it is more than we can imagine or understand now. Why the OP would be so interested in opinions rather than the truth is rather curious to me....
people mimic good taste, but
I would have been really hacked off about that. I do not like my MIL at all! I would have blamed it on her haha. Ill share one of my many many horrible MIL stories....
When my daughter was little, it took forever for her to get hair. She had said over and over how I needed to get it trimmed. I told her we will but we make a deal out of their first haircuts, and we would do it. We lived 5 hours away. Anyway, my husband and I left our kids with her for the weekend, and when I came back, she had trimmed her hair. I was furious... of course my husband didnt notice and couldnt figure out why my face was 6 shades of red. He asked her about it, and she said "she is my granddaughter."
I have plenty more to share, but I have a job and kids to feed lol....
Glad he had good people for the end. I know he appreciated it.
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I have trouble seeing age in other people...which is good, until I see a photograph. sm
I still perceive most of my friends from high school looking like they did then when I see them now in person. When I look at a current photo of them, I often think "wow, he looks older!" Even people whom I've known ONLY as adults look younger in person than in photos, even if its a nice photo (not just the unflattering ones). I guess movement has a lot to do with it, whereas a photo captures the wrinkles and keeps them locked in, LOL.
good post Misha!!! And to OP, know you're a better
My mother's floors you could eat off of back then - and we all were scared (terrified) of her.....my house is clean enough to be healthy and dirty enough to be happy...*S* .....I think Misha's post said it all and by all means, she posted it for you to utilize when you decide to confront hubby on these issues....
Best of luck.....from an equalist who, when my ex did a white glove test, I got so mad, I handed him the dust cloth and product(s) and told him, if he wasn't happy to do it himself..........'nuff said....*lol*... and him being the passive-aggressive a** that he was - I ended up divorcing him after nearly 14 years and thinking I should have been sainted for staying THAT long....never regretted one minute away from that either........been nearly 16 yrs....
that's OK, it's only my 2nd post on this website, I need to think of a good moniker!nm
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that stands as good reasoning, huh? "because of other people, that's why
good grief
oh good lord! what next! people just LOVE and LIVE to -sm
gossip and start vicious rumors! At this point, who cares! The woman is deceased and her poor daughter has to face a lifetime of continuing vicious gossips and rumors. Gossip mongers need to find something better to do!!!
Hello..You could have written my post. The jelaousy bug..Gets the good ones all the time!!! nm
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Good grief, lost of people get married and don't have children nm
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This post made me laugh and then brought tears to my eyes...good for you!!!
I think that is great you went to the school. I'm guessing he will turn out just fine if he's got a mom like you! *Hugs*
you can give the people the facts, but the decision making process should be left to the people
This is what our country is founded on FREEDOM OF CHOICE! I'm laughing already; you are just as mortal as the rest of us, and don' even attempt to that you've never done anything in your lifetime that was unsafe or unhealthy. NOT gonna buy it.
it is wonderful to see how many people have such strong opinions about people in debt.
I thought that the purpose of this board was to be able to post without being judged unfairly or have somebody tell you how wonderful their personal life is, and therefore you are causing their life to be less wonderful with your irresponsibility. Well, the saying "walk a mile in my shoes" is a good one in this case. Since you have no personal information about the person you are lambasting because they are looking for information on their debt, you can feel superior. Had you had personal information about them, you might act in a more human manner. Consider fighting cancer for 4 years, working and being debilitated while you do, suffering the effects of chemo, going into debt to maintain your home for your children and looking for a way out of debt SHOULD YOU EVEN LIVE THROUGH THIS!! Thank you for the kind comments. To the judgmental people I say please take a step back before you judge. You do not know who you are talking to and if you knew the personal information maybe your comments would be kinder.
I get frustrated by the double standard they use when judging people. They let certain people go sa
What do you think about the voting process?
People who go around calling other people "low class"
have their own issues in life. Ignore them. Nothing like a misplaced superiority complex to make a person feel good about themselves. Like they've never done anything gauche or made a faux pas. It must be nice for them to be so perfect and live in a glass house.
For that matter, you probably saved your piggy's life by popping that mondo zit! It could have gotten infected or something.... (yes, I have a zit popping fixation myself, but you were really descriptive on that pig zit. gag LOL)
Man, you would have appreciated the time one of my relative's popped a HUGE cyst on her face. I was standing right next to her at the time and leaned back because I knew it was going to blow. It did! Big time! All over the wall, mirror and light fixture. I'm still disgusted by the thought of it 10 years later. LOL In a revering kind of way...
some people did, some people didn't. It's their choice.
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My opinion
I think your husband is probably innocent in this case, but knew that some of the staring people might say something to you. There are two big reasons you need to keep your cool: 1) If he really is completely innocent, you don't want to make a big deal out of nothing. 2) If she is trying to get something started up, you need to pretend to be oblivious or you will never find out. He may have told you just to let you know that other women are still attracted to him, kind of an ego boost for himself. I don't think it sounds like anything he intends to pursue - but like the other poster said, you do need to keep an eye on her.
my opinion
She really sounds like a control freak and a person you should avoid. Tell her to find playmates for her son his own age. She has no right to reprimand your son. I knew a mom like this once - she followed her son around constantly since he was a toddler on up, and he actually grew up with mental deficiencies because she was so over-protective. Now he's an outcast. Kids need a little freedom to play and usually they work things out amongst themselves.
I think you should tell your son to stay away from her and her boy and forget about this woman. She sounds like a nightmare !
Wah, wah, wah! So, I have my opinion, so what?
I just can't bring myself to watch a movie where the girl playing Mary got knocked up at only 16 years old by her 19 year old boyfriend. I gave my opinion, you gave yours. There's no need to jump up my butt about it! Sheesh!
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