That was a smart call. NM
Posted By: Kendra on 2009-04-21
In Reply to: Originally from south and you have ate 2 more times than me - Southern Lady
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you were smart to do that.
I am so glad I posted. Even though I declined on that rat hole, I need all this for future referance.
Thanks. You guys are great.
You are smart
Although so many posters are telling this is normal, I was disturbed by your original post because you seemed alarmed at his tone of voice. Of course kids say hateful things to each other all the time, but the fact that a 10yo would say this to his mother, not in the heat of anger directed his sister, tolls the alarm bell.
It is normal for siblings to fight, but there is also plenty of abuse within families which would never be tolerated if a stranger were to do. I've seen people whose children have thrown scissors, at each, stuck forks in a sibling's tongue, broken bones on purpose, and they parents have actually tolerated this.
You sound a great mom. You recognize his perfectionism which he needs to learn to recognize and deal with as soon as possible. The very best to you and your family.
My kids are smart. sm
Haysees I have always liked reading your posts, but don't critisize my children that you know nothing about. My husband and I are very active in our children's lives and that is how I know they have some pretty wonderful teachers.
What smart oddballs you have.
They sound really fun. I might still have a cat if she'd have used the toilet ... instead of my bed!
Grr.
She is one smart cookie
You can't fool her! I'm glad she's eating. That is always a good sign. Hope you both have a good day.
I wasn't trying to be smart, I was
actually confused.
Smart girl
You are right on track. Right now don't worry about divorce or not. Take advantage of NOW while you can and get to school. Medical transcription has no where to go now. There is no bright future for it where you can "advance your career." I too am in a marriage I would leave if I could, but I want to be smart about it and get that education first.
smart comments
Me, too. Makes me want to jump in and blast them back! No reason for it.
Smart mouths
Chances are the parents have smart mouths as well, or they have no backbones.
I would have sent the kid home last night when he condescended to you at the end of the first argument. If he is almost 11 and hasn't learned to respect other people's rules, he probably will never learn this lesson. Attitudes are pretty well set by that age and if he gets away with that kind of behavior at home, he's going to have a tough row to hoe in the real world.
Congrats to you! I would not have that kid in my house again if I were you and I would your son and that boy know the reason why.
I think he is smart by admitting it now.
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How is saying think MTs are smart being uppity? I
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Some women are too smart
They're brainwashed, and may never wise up. Nowhere in the Bible does it condone this type of lifestyle. Some lecherous man declared himself a prophet and wrote his own book - and that's what they base their religion on, not the Bible.
smart type
I had someone tell me that Stedman's smart type was the way to go as far as spell checker and speed typing program. what do you use? and have you used it?
I said she was smart, but after her interviews
thought everyone would know the truth. That statement of her being smart on my end was said tongue in cheek.
you are one smart lady and sm
willbe rewarded. Now you can use that money for the decorating and yes that is the fun part!
Sounds like a smart decision.
I'd so the same if I were you. I will pray for optimal outcome for you.
Regarding hormones, remember that the recommendation is now now against hormones after some huge studies. Use has decreased a lot, and for the second year in a row, cancer rates have dropped substantially. But I don't know anything about risks of short-term use, and maybe that's what you are considering.
Very smart. We should all follow, but for some reason, it's almost sm
entertainment for some. Isn't that sad?? We find "entertainment" in someone else's grief and sorrow. What else do you call it? I hardly ever watch t.v. In fact, I didn't find out about the shootings until 3:30 when I read that 30+ people were dead! I was shocked!
The media wouldn't give it to us if we didn't show intense interest in it. It seems the more drama it is, the higher the ratings. So, so sad.
Like I said, I read about the accounts on-line at People.com where they never have any news on there - just celebrity gossip. I know, it's not much better, but it's hardly ever death, shootings, earthquakes, terrorism, kidnapping, and the like. I can't handle that kind of stuff.
The smart I was referring to was in regard to
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Smart mouthed kids (sm)
Son has a friend who slept over last night (they are both almost 11)....he keeps arguing with me. I consider myself a very lenient parent, but my kids know not to speak disrespectfully to me and they know our household rules and generally go by them. Last night he was trying to explain his point of view to me and then said, "you follow me? Didn't think so..." and turned his head as if to say he was finished....I informed him that I was the adult here and he was not to speak to me that way. This morning he again was arguing with me about one of my rules about an XBox game. I said, "that is the rule, I am not going to argue with you about it." And he said, "Don't then." This time I very firmly said, "You do not speak to me that way or I will be calling your parents." He said, "sorry" and has not done it since. But who are the parents who let their children talk to them this way? I work hard to give my children a good life - I put thought and effort into their daily schedules and having friends over, etc. I will not be talked to like that. You shouldn't either!
I would have sent his smart mouth home
when he did it again after the first warning.
I have four kids in my house that I have to deal with every day. If one of them even thought they could get away with that because their friend did..... I would be in BIG trouble!
Maybe a little chat with his parents is in order. Just let them know that you will not tolerate backtalk from your kids and certainly not from their friends. So if it happens again, you will be bringing him home immediately, day or night.
If you have to do that once, it will definitely get the message across to the smart mouth and I bet he would be very careful not to do it again.
Sorry, I thought MTs were smart enough to figure it
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thanks for the advise, you say some very smart things - sm
though I am really not sure about the in person thing. I am serious about trying not to be killed in this, he has threatened to kill me before over some really stupid stuff (and we have a lot of guns in this house), and as this is a major thing, and he has been through this with me before....just before we married I was $12K in the hole. I paid it all off though within weeks of the wedding and we were debt-free for about 7 years (except for mortgage). He has told me before if he ever kills me, he will kill himself too....not that this is any solace to me as I really want to live. Generally he is full of hot air, but you never know what will send a person over the edge and I think this debt may be what does it for him. There are a number of extenuating circumstances that caused the debt, it was not me alone of course. He likes to spend as he pleases and I do try to stop him as much as I can but sometimes it is not possible (unless I drop the bomb of course), family illnesses, we did private school for a while too which did not help, and just got a new used car....which we owe his parent $10K for which I am paying them $500 a month for as well which is really putting a crimp on things...but he insisted we had to get rid of my reliable truck for better gas mileage....the new car has needed $800 in repairs so far in 4 months which is just wonderful. When I do drop the bomb, probably in the next month or so, I may try to farm the kids out to friends houses then give him a letter with all the dirty details and the possible solutions. I think having it all down in writing will help some. I know there will be tears on both sides, and my stress level will plummet once it is off my chest. I notice my skin problems act up when we are short on cash, then clear when we get a paycheck. I am sure my BP is jumping about and I cannot lose weight no matter how hard I try too, though I think that is a mechanism to keep him away from me as much as possible. Needless to say it is a total mess.
Teenagers - so smart, yet so dumb
A Middletown teenager is expected to be in court this week for allegedly ordering more than $37,000 of candy online to be charged to Middletown High School.
Jad Holmes, 18, is scheduled to be in Middletown Municipal Court on Wednesday, Feb. 11, for two counts of telecommunications fraud, both fifth-degree felonies, according to court records.
Holmes is accused of placing two orders — for $19,880 and $17,372, respectively — through a Michigan-based company, according to police records.
The order was to be shipped to his address and billed to Middletown High School, records show.
After taking possession of one order, he was arrested by Middletown police, according to records.
Holmes also is charged with two counts of theft of drugs, both fourth-degree felonies, according to court records.
He's being held in Middletown City Jail on a bond of $30,700, according to jail records.
Although strange, she is smart and knows how to work
nm
It's a smart thing to be prepared
Pantry is semi full. Could be better stocked, but we've got enough to keep us fed if something happened and we couldn't get to store for a awhile. We've been reading many sites that say people need to be more ready than they are. You never know when an emergency could happen and growing up in an area where we would snow storms lasting for days we were always prepared. Even today you never know when your going to get stuck.
Seeds are very important. If you don't plan and a crisis happens you cannot wait until then as that is what everyone else will be doing. I've read you should have at least 5 or more years of seeds on hand.
I am most definitely ready for a life without credit cards, shopping, etc. I can't even tell you the last time I went to a mall or shopping (except maybe some socks last year). I've got everything I need (clothes and stuff) and with the times the way they are I absolutely hate spending money on anything unless absolutely needed.
Spam - grew up on the stuff and loved it. Now I know what its made of and I would never eat it unless it was desperate times. My dad told me that in other countries it's a delicacy. I said to him yea, right up there with Moxie.
Not unusual at all - my DH had one growing up and still talks about how smart it was! (nm)
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smart cookie on the waiting....and remember some
some states honor common-law marriages - living together as a couple for 7+ years - and there are laws protecting the spousal unit in those cases...don't know what state you are in....but think about that....*S*
When in doubt, do nothing :)
Smart how? This was Oct of last year. I highly doubt SIL sm
is at any risk at all.
I understand the whole quarantine thing, but this is taking it too far. I'm sure this guy has had tons of clients. It just does not sound prudent to have to quarantine each and every client. Sounds absurd.
Yes well at least he's smart enough to do what he's doing behind closed doors. He's no priz
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Love your idea, 1 smart broad!
NM
And incredibly mature and smart. You are blessed. nm
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You'd be smart not to bother getting newborn size.
The baby would be out of them in about 2 weeks from what I remember, so much better to get the next size up.
This is the smart way to save - it is called "paying yourself first" and sm
is endorsed by Suzy Orman, Dave Ramsey and other financial planners. If you save it b/f you see it, you're much more likely to leave it alone.
Personally I've been debt-free (including my home) for 7 years and have never felt better. I don't understand people who have the urge to buy things they do not need (like the poster who said they had jackets coming from QVC today - why?).
our smart alarm clock did change the time (nm)
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Hate shows where smart-a$$ kids are smarter than
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I guess he is smart, he is making a load of money I am sure!
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whaaahh...I bough some Smart Ones and Healthy CHoice
holiday pounds. I want chocolate!!!
Hahaha, cute. Dogs are not only smart, they are good neighbors. nm
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Aren't pugs pretty "shedless"? We have a friend with one...very smart and ooo cute! nm
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Benecol, Benecol Light, Smart Balance and
Take Control. Try them to see which one suits your taste. These are spreads. Most of them are not suitable for baking, though the more expensive of these may be ok for that and would be indicated on the package. I use Smart Balance.
Benecol, Benecol Light, Smart Balance and
Take Control. Try them to see which one suits your taste. These are spreads and I also use them on hot vegetables. Most of them are not suitable for baking, though the more expensive of these may be ok for that and would be indicated on the package. I use Smart Balance. Something else I use a LOT of is the powdered butter products (in recipes and on vegetables) like Butter Buds, Molly McButter and even popcorn butter-flavored salt...VERY low calorie content.
You should call....sm
an attorney that deals with bankruptcies and ask them what you can do in this situation and they should be able to help you for a minimal cost.
In most states, if your husband's name is not on the credit card account they cannot go after his credit or try to force him to pay your bill... and vice versa.
For a reality check - the credit card company can seize your bank account and incoming deposits to one, force your employer/clients to turn over money designated for you to them for the debt. If you don't present some sort of offer to pay them a reasonable amount every month then they may choose to do the above things to you and legally can. However, if you can show the courts you can pay "x" a month and the judge thinks it's OK then they wouldn't be able to garnish any monies due to you.
Since you mentioned that you only work part-time, they'll probably suggest that you take on a full-time job to pay this debt.
Call them
Your best bet is to call and tell them what your situation is, that you want to work out a solution with them. Even if you have to refinance with them to get payments lower to a level you can afford, it will be worth it - don't default if you can help it. Nowadays, it can raise your car insurance rates, affect new employment opportunities, etc.
Besides, paying it back is the right thing to do. It will let you keep your self respect.
My dog does it too..but we call them
"kitty biscuits," LOL. Either way it's gross. He's been doing it forever, and we can't seem to break him of this habit. 
call
I would definitely call them as well. Had this happen and reversed as well. I know there is one cc company that refuses to do that and it happens to be Discover. Many other companies have reversed this for me. Please call and say you thought you paid it off so whats this!
call that b*tch!!
just kidding! :) This is such normal behavior for teenagers, I always told my girls that I coached that college is completely different than high school and there would be MANY changes, no matter how "in love" they thought they were... It is a sad reality, and unfortunately I am not a mom yet but know that when I am I will be dealing with this. I think the only thing you can tell him is the old saying "time heals all wounds" although it doesnot SEEM like he will EVER get over it by the way he is feeling right now, promise him he will. there are better things out there and everything happens for a reason!!! And you said they haven't officially "broken up" yet... you know what's coming obviously... and this is in no way a way to treat someone you love. She is just trying to get out of it easy. good luck, heartbreak is hard. I'm 27 and still go through it :)
Call the guy and ask nm
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Thanks .. will just call them and see
if I can remove some of the extra charges and go forward. I did not owe much of anything to anyone and then changed jobs and the fun began! I really don't have that much faith in a third party and I learned that from transcription!
sorry- not what I would call fun either
If I get the chance mine will have a fun time at my house!
Can I just call them?
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Just call me
 Simon!!
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