That one is highly unlikely! LOL! He doesn't believe in germs! LOL!
Posted By: nm OP on 2007-12-31
In Reply to: Maybe he was freaking out about germs - during today's incident
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My opinion on germs with
I say let kids be exposed to all kinds of people and situations. I'm not saying let them roll around in dog feces, or anything that drastic, but don't worry that germs will harm them. There are many doctors who will tell you the strongest, healthiest kids are the ones whose immune systems are well worked out. Those whose immune systems don't ever get a workout are the ones whose immune systems attack them with allergies and eczema and all sorts of maladies. After all, an immune system has to find something to do.
Maybe he was freaking out about germs
You're sick with a cold or maybe the flu, right? So maybe he's thinking that he is cooking today so you're not getting germs on the food everybody else is going to eat. Then, with germs on his mind, he calls you to the table and you start touching things and he thinks about germs spreading and freaks out. I had a pretty snotty control-freak boyfriend who was also paranoid about germs, and this sounds exactly like something he would do. Not saying its right, just saying its how he justified the whole thing to himself.
Hey, have at it. If you want a lazy, apathetic, not affectionate, doesn't listen, doesn't make
can reach him!!! Let me know if you're interested.
It seems highly unlikely to me sm
that this guy is capable of change. And the best thing you can possibly do is think about your girls and what you want for them, how you want their childhood to be, and how you can avoid further trauma to their psyche. This type of dysfuction is devastating to them and will, if left unchecked, eventually lead to them seeking out dysfunctional relationships in the future. Children learn what they live and have no reason to believe that this family dynamic is not normal. It certainly is not healthy for them. As you filter through advice that you are given and make decisions about how you will deal with this, ALWAYS make your girls the first and foremost consideration and make all decisions with their best interest in mind.
Exhausted, I wish you and your girls the best. I also have a 16 MO daughter and cannot imagine my DH acting this way. Sure, he doesn't LIKE to change poopy diapers, nobody does, but he will do it if she needs it. He will do anything for her.
As their mother, you are their most important role model. If you continue to be his doormat, you can be sure that they will just the same later in life. You have to show them that this type of life is unacceptable and that you always consider their needs and emotional health to be your first priority, always.
HUGS!
I highly recommend it - (sm)
Had it for a colonoscopy. At one point, I remember saying, "Oh!" - must have felt something, but I don't remember. I asked about it as soon as I woke up, and they said that was the point they gave me a little more. Honestly, I felt nothing and felt great after. Maybe they had a hard time intubating the colon on yours - you know, sometimes there are twists and turns. They could have had to maneuver your position quite a bit, but I do think that nurse's statement was not very professional.
First of all - would highly recommend
a sound machine such as those sold by Radio Shack - or a CD of white noise - more energy efficient than a fan running constantly and much warmer in the winter!! I use my constantly!! We hung pieces of white board from tiny nails over 3 of the windows in our den to block the light from the TV screen - especially useful in the summer... they have warped a tiny bit and we probably should have made them a little bit wider but they work - they are not unattractive - could easily be covered with a fabric to match the room if I so desired - and are light-weight so they come off very easily and I drop them behind the couch when not in use.... we have three narrow windows going across.... you can get this wood cut in any size and could work out something on the sides and bottoms - some kind of lever thing to tighten them down - we just have done nothing but hang from two tiny nails at the top as that is all we needed - but covering them with fabric might just be what I do soon!!
Highly recommend them.
They don't make the food tasteless, but I usually marinate the chicken/pork/steak that I grill for flavor.
They are highly rated, and I just got some, but
my sister claims that Avon has a product that actually has higher amounts of the same active ingredients and is supposedly better. I don't know which is better, but I know that some of the highest priced products don't rate well at all.
highly recommend... sm
Had it done a few years ago. My cousin is going through menopause at early age and just saw doc today... she is going to have a saline infusion-type ablation, which is done in the office. I had mine done under anesthesia, but very quick and painless afterward. If I have again before proceeding to hysterectomy, will see about the saline kind done in office.
I highly doubt it
I have no clue how that is even possible. I really don't think that you can. You might want to ask Verizon, though.
It doesn't make me mad but it doesn't sound intelligent either (sm)
I am sure if all of those people who were aborted were living, some would be good and some would be bad, in the same proportion as there is good to bad now. Your statement makes no sense. So somehow the babies who were aborted were meant to be aborted because they were bad seeds? Whatever. Sorry, that's just silly.
It doesn't always work that way though - some give but it doesn't come back like that nm
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I highly recommend pet insurance - sm
Please, everyone with a pet of any kind, consider it. It can be a lifesaver (literally!), and I personally like the peace of mind it gives me, whether I ever need to file a claim or not. Try Veterinary Pet Insurance: http://www.petinsurance.com/
There are other companies too, but this is the only one we've used. It saved us a small fortune when our Rottie got bone cancer in his front leg at just 4-1/2 years old. After the diagnosis, we got a CT scan (same machine they use for people - $$$) to make sure it hadn't spread. It hadn't, so we went ahead and amputated the leg (also not so inexpensive). He felt great, was out of pain, adapted easily to 3 legs and was his old, happy self. But just 6 months later the cancer was back, and we had to let him go. Poor baby. It all ended up costing about $2000.00, and we were reimbursed about $1200.00 from the insurance, so it was a big help.
I think we just had their basic policy too, not the more expensive one (that would've reimbursed more), but I don't remember. I think we paid around $300.00 a year for him (including an optional $99 routine care coverage addition to the policy). The cost depends on the age and breed of the animal, and you can make monthly payments or pay all at once. They insure all kinds of animals too, not just dogs and cats.
We have VPI for our 2 youngest dogs (2 y/o Rottie and 5 y/o husky mix). Personally, we will never be w/o it again on any of our dogs. It's just such a relief to know you have it. VPI also has a routine care plan you can add on to the policy (or not) that reimburses part of your yearly costs for shots, spay/neuter, teeth cleaning, flea/tick products, and heart worm meds, and we like having that.
My oldest dog, my baby, is Wiley, a 12 y/o Siberian Husky. Much to my regret, I didn't get insurance for him when he was younger. Now it's too expensive (and they don't cover preexisting conditions). Same with my senior Siberian, Alexx, who died earlier this year - I didn't have insurance for her because it's too expensive when they're seniors (if they'll even cover you then). So I'll be paying off credit card bills for Alexx (who was very healthy until the last year or so) and Wiley (mostly Wiley) for yeeeeeaaarrrs to come.
Wiley's had health problems since he was 5 yrs old, starting with his teeth (enamel hypoplasia, meaning lots dental x-rays, cleanings, extractions - root canals!), then a tumor (spindle cell sarcoma), then a recurrance of the tumor 3 yrs later (the biggest expense by far, due to the extensive nature of the surgery, need for a scan first, a specialist...), and now... immune-mediated joint disease. If I'd had insurance for him, I would've save myself, literally, *thousands* of dollars (assuming they didn't cancel the policy! LOL)
We're like you, Hayseed. Our dogs might as well be our children, and we take care of them accordingly. ;o)
I highly doubt you'll get someone to do all of that for
Housekeepers actually make more like 60-75 dollars a visit. You may get someone who is just looking for some pin money to do what you're asking, but I'm sure they'll want more than 15 dollars. 
I think you post is HIGHLY unlikely to happen because (sm)
I read people well, and what I read in the mother's post is proof positive that she is a very loving mother. Her daughter is going thru normal teen behavior.
May I ask you; do you have children? Because if you don't, you have no idea what you are speaking about. Only parents can TRULY understand this situation.
Mom: This pic is for you. It represents serenity and faith that ALL will be fine. My thoughts are sincerely with you during this trying time, but please trust me, it WILL pass.
Smart how? This was Oct of last year. I highly doubt SIL sm
is at any risk at all.
I understand the whole quarantine thing, but this is taking it too far. I'm sure this guy has had tons of clients. It just does not sound prudent to have to quarantine each and every client. Sounds absurd.
I am nearly as bad as he sounds as far as having highly sensitive skin -
I get a red, itchy welt if a mosquito even lands on me. I have also been bitten by horseflies. My doc has recommended just Benadryl lotion on the offending bite and then 2 of the pills. I also put ice on my skin to help with the swelling and itching. You might try this before you take him in. Best of luck. :-)
That Bach stuff is highly recommended...
for horses as well! They sell it in almost every tack store and catalog I can think of--I never knew it was for people too! What a riot!
Odo Ban - I highly suggest it. The smell is terrific. sm
especially if you have animals, etc. My friend gave me hers as she bought it from Sam's Club and I love it. You get a gallon jug and then a sprayer. It's an all-in-cleaning. She even puts it in her towels when washing. I just am very pleased with the smell. Just a little suggestion if you are having guests this holiday season!
Highly recommend the movie "Bordertown"
JLo and Antonio Banderas. You will be moved and inspired to act. HIGHLY recommend.
Live in Georgia and highly support it
If this had been the case with octomom the people would never have to support her litter.
Parvo is highly contagious for months -
She will be contagious for months and she has already infected the yard where we live. I did not do anything wrong - she contracted this virus when we took her to the vet's office last week for her first set of shots.
I just don't see what exactly they are doing if she is not vomiting, has never developed diarrhea, and she is eating on her own. It does not seem to me like they are doing very much except charging me money to keep her!
Parvo is highly contagious for months -
She will be contagious for months and she has already infected the yard where we live. I did not do anything wrong - she contracted this virus when we took her to the vet's office last week for her first set of shots.
I just don't see what exactly they are doing if she is not vomiting, has never developed diarrhea, and she is eating on her own. It does not seem to me like they are doing very much except charging me money to keep her!
I highly recommend Lane and Ethan Allen - sm
We have a Ethan Allen BR set, very good quality, about $3500 for a King bed, dresser, mirror and men's dresser/cabinet. I have my mom's old Lane loveseat and recliner, they are about 12 years old and still look and feel brand new. My mom used the recliner every day, the loveseat was used less often. They were not cheap but certainly worth it, cannot remember exactly what she spent, I would think about $1500 at least on those 2 pieces (she also bought a sectional and recliner of the same pattern for another room at the same time which my dad still has and still looks great too). Stuff like Haynes and The Dump just don't seem to last (I have friends with furniture from there). Have fun shopping!
That actually doesn't look that bad!
I love pork especially at a pig roast...by the end of the day the meat just falls off the bones it is so tender. Doesn't look too terrifying!
Doesn't take much to get you going does it? nm
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If a dog doesn't have anything
to do, he will occupy himself. His thing is barking, which isn't fair to the neighbors. I had a neighbor who'd let his laborador bark for hours on end while I was trying to work. Almost drove me insane. To catch a break I'd occasionally take a rawhide, stuff all the cracks with peanut butter, and throw it over the fence. Ah, blessed peace for a while.
Cesar Millan has a website. I'm sure you can get lots of ideas there. It's all about exercise, discipline and then affection. You have to communicate your leadership and also use up his energy and teach him what it is you expect of him.
Why doesn't she get her own
It sounds to me like she wants you to pay her bills. She'll have to find a job and get a roommate like any one of us would. Why should you compromise what you have with your boyfriend when she'll be coming age very soon and can be out on her own? Let her know she's welcome to visit or whatever, but you'd rather see her pursue her own living quarters. 
That is my mom, she just doesn't get
it. She also thinks it is because of my husband. Nobody is good enough for me. Doesn't matter who it is. She has been telling everyone it is because she will not lend us money. My husband and I both work our butts off and have never borrowed money from anyone but the bank.
My brother and I have not been the closest and about two weeks ago, I called him. I now believe that a lot of reason why we are not close is due to my mother. He is four years younger and I was out of the house by the time he was 13. I always got my mother's point of view of what was going on with him and I should have known better. She told me he doesn't talk to her because she won't lend him money. He and I thought we didn't have a lot in common, so most of the communication was between him and my mom, then mom would "tell" me. He doesn't want her to see his son either, but being that he is divorced, his ex-wife allows her to see him. He said that she was always intervening in his life, no matter what it was. She kicked him out of her home when he was 15 and he has never looked back. He now has his PhD as a recent graduate and is very successful. We both believe it is a control issue with her.
That leads to this, I have researched grandparents rights as well. In Michigan, as long as the parents are married and fit parents, grandparents have no rights. If you were never married, separated or divorced or worse yet, proved to be unfit, then they have rights to see the children. Something to think about.
He doesn't like going out...
im at a loss because I am a social butterfly and I want the man that I love with me all the time. Don't get me wrong i LOVE my girls nights out, but I want him there sometimes. I think this is one of the main issues holding me back from getting married. I do respect that he doesn't like to dance, or go to bars... but he doesn't even like to go to my friend's houses... He is a little on the shy side and I have been with him 6 years (and we have known each other since we were in 7th grade - about 15 years-, lived down the street from each other...) And I can't see myself without him but I know this is keeping me from marrying him because I want that socialization. Even when we have a family I almost am positive I am going to want to have friends over with their kids... bbq's in the summer... stuff like that and he just isn't like me at all in that way. How do I deal with this? Oh yea even if he is willing to compromise I feel like he hates it though and that is still really hard for me to deal with. If he is just sitting there not having fun that's almost worse than him not coming at all... :( we are at a crossroads right now and that is why i am asking. we either stay together or dont...
I think the same way - if the OP doesn't
like the smoke, then she'd best look elsewhere. It's not fair to say "smoke outside" when they are paying the rent, too. Some people just amaze me!
mine doesn't...
I make Paula Deen's southern cornbread dressing...go to Food Network's site and look up the recipe. It's yummy, has no meat whatsoever, and makes a ton of dressing...HAPPY HOLIDAYS...
My mother's doesn't either...
Made with Pepperidge farm stuffing mix, white wine, mushrooms, celery, onions, chopped walnuts, seasoning. Not sure what else but it's different and delicious, still the best I've ever had!
Doesn't sound right
under those circumstances. Then whenever someone wanted new wall-to-wall they could just crap it up themselves and submit a claim and get a new rug.
At any rate, even if this is somehow true, the insurance company will only jack up your rate or drop you all together, so you're going to pay either way. And then you'll have a claim history and no other company will want you either.
I agree, it's more than just pot. Pot doesn't do that. sm
I have heard that taking Niacin helps clear out of your system faster as well as trying to "sweat" it out like he is. He also needs plenty of sunshine and you to be there for him. Rather than turning against him, stuck together with him and help him through it. It will make your relationship so much better in the long run and he needs the love and support of you to help him get to that place. Admire him for trying to break his addiction. It is very addicting. His rollercoaster of sweating, can't sleep, and emotional issues sound more related to crack/crank or methampetamines to me. I'd tell him in order for you to be supportive and helpful to him right now, he needs to at least be honest with you.
I can't tell the difference when something has MSG and when it doesn't. nm
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I am not saying my hubby doesn't look
he just doesn't let me see him looking. Hey, I still look too.
He doesn't like the masks...
my DD has taken over the mask and my kids like to sleep with fans now too. I just turn them off before I go to bed.
She doesn't impress me though
Just something about her... She's like never smiling. Even when he gave her a rose last night, she just looks mad. Could just be the editing.. maybe there's something about her he does like. I think he might like Tessa... and Amber. I can't believe I let myself get into this show again.
With our experience, he doesn't need
We have bought several homes and I have been an IC MT the entire time. I have never had this ask of me. They just want to know what my income has been, as they know being self-employed can mean different amounts from paycheck to paycheck. Of course, if your husband is empoyed somewhere, they will put more thought into that
(they just don't say it). I had loan officers just start talking to my husband as if I'm not in the room just because they hear self-employed and know my husband is not....so they think he'll be the REAL one bringing in a paycheck. So, my husband brings them back in the game, as do I. We let them know both of our checks contribute to this mortgage, not just his. I've noticed the women loan officers are the worst with this, even though you would think they wouldn't be. We both have excellent credit scores and make sure this is the valid point we get across. Just make sure you are not overlooked as being an essential element in this deal. Generally, all the loan officer can go by is what you have made in the past few years, not what you may make in the future as an IC, because as an IC, you may not know what that paycheck will bring or if you'll even be with the same company 6 months from now. But again, I have never had this asked of me.
It all has to start somewhere doesn't it?
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But that doesn't apply to every
situation. In my case I got hit with something that was out of my control. I see where you are coming from because most times it is irresponsible spending and debt accruing that causes the problem but not always.
My mom doesn't like when mine rub against her, either
and she doesn't like that the neighbor cats in the development kill the birds at their feeders and also the baby rabbits. I don't especially like that aspect about them either (our 2 stay in the house 24/7) but it comes in handy in the house when we have a mouse. I know of people who go out of their way to hit a cat on the road and I think that is so disgusting. Makes me sad because of how much I love my cats.
What is funny though is that my male cat gravitates to my mother whenever she is here. He will just sit by her chair and stare at her with his big, golden, unblinking eyes. It really freaks her out!
He doesn't really look like he has aged all that much
in the last 10 years or so. I think he looks almost exactly the same as he did way back in his ER days!
Ugh, doesn't sound
too fun! Don't want to go to the hospital. That's why I figure it's past time to quit. My son is scared of me dying anyway. I told my husband no need in making his fear come true!
Why doesn't your son work? (sm)
I understand with all those children it may not even be worth it for the mom to work (child care would take all her earnings) but why doesn't your son work? Sounds like my sister. She has been living off of my parents for years.
It doesn't look sore, red or anything. Just
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How do you know he doesn’t like you/kids
You said he kept things under wrap. Your mother should not have to choose between you/your children and her husband. How old a person is he? Other things going on with him/them that you know of? Lot of people in older years PUT UP with children- that does not mean they want to be around them. I know you said you did not stay at the home with them. Do not ask your mother to choose, though. That is probably the reason she has not answered you. You as well as your siblings probably picked the ones you want and may not believe this but if left up to your mother and she had to choose, it might not be you and your family.
Thank goodness he doesn't eat
anything in front of the window, he just swoops, grabs and goes. He uses my front yard as sort of a "drive thru" I guess. He is a very pretty and majestic bird. I've tried to get pics of him, but my camera doesn't zoom far enough.
We also have Great Horned Owls that live in our pine trees out back. All through the summer I would hear them hooting. So I staked out the window one night so I could maybe get a peak at them and I actually saw one of them fly out of the tree, it was huge!
I just feel bad for my little feathered friends. I guess that's nature though.
Sorry for rambling, love to talk about my nature.
Doesn't bother me
For some women it takes more than soap and water. Not a biggie.
Doesn't bother me at all either
Some people need it. It's really no big deal.
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