That is work; he is your future son-in-law
Posted By: and probably knows you don't like him. on 2008-09-01
In Reply to: You know I would have paid the friend SM - Susan
It sounds like you were lucky to get the offer you got and since you have no one you'd have been better off to take him up on it.
You certainly can't expect people to do things just out of the goodness of their heart when they know you can't stand them. If you can come on here and post about your future son-in-law's flaws, then I'm sure he knows how you feel.
What are you trying to prove here? He said he'd do it, that it would cost $200.00 for the friends to help (do you expect him to carry everything by himself), but that he couldn't place the furniture? So what's wrong with that?
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does your future son-in-law sm
go to church each week. If not is he getting questioned like your daughter. I am Catholic and go to church every Sunday. I know from hearing family members that a priest will not marry you unless he has proof that you are going to Church each week. The envelopes are the proof. The priest does not want to marry you in the church just because your Catholic. So if your son in law does not go to Church he is at fault also. My DD is getting to another Catholic next year. She became very relaxed about going to Church. They registered back into the Church once they got engaged and waited six months before contacting the priest.
Some of what you said seems like it is the priest and not the Catholic religion. I would contact another Catholic priest and see if he feels the same. The bad part is if your daughter is probably getting turned off by the Catholic religion before she gets started. She will have to sign a paper promising she will raise her children Catholic. My daughter told me that there is separate paper work to fill out if you are living together so most people do lie. She does not live with her fiance. Also after they get married in the Catholic Church and then stop going most priests will not baptize the children just for the sake of it if the parents are not going to take the children to church. All this is really a shame because the Catholic church is turning a lot of people away. Good luck and give us any updates.
Think about future resale
I could only get preapproved for a mortgage on stick built homes. No modulars, no manufactured, nothing that had "ever been on wheels or classified as such on the tax roles". I had to pass up many good deals on great properties because my lender was adamant about stick built. So keep in mind it may be harder to sell when that time comes.
This just in from my future contractor
"You friend is correct, but may be jumping the gun a little bit.
As I said before, I would avoid purchasing a NEW PC with XP. This does not make sense, especially if your current PC is working for you. Extended support for Windows XP systems will continue through 2014 at least and probably longer. So the timeframe for upgrading is quite long…
I would not upgrade a current PC (more than 2 years old) to Vista under any circumstances. With anything less than 2 Gig of RAM, the Vista OS slows to a crawl and many hardware vendors have not upgraded their drivers.
As far as a new machine goes, I would wait until the Vista SP1 (Service Pack 1) has had time to “soak” for a while before making any decision. It’s also MUCH better to change machines than trying to attempt an upgrade later (to Vista SPn for example).
Again, the other thing to consider is that not all vendors are currently ready to support Vista and the “compatibility mode” of Vista has been shown to be problematic.
So to summarize, here’s what I am suggesting to my clients and friends …
1. Let 2008 pass without upgrading.
2. Revisit the stability of Vista and the depth of vendor support in late 2008 to be ready for a planned migration from XP to Vista in 1Q 2009 at the earliest (and possibly later).
3. When considering the upgrade to Vista, plan a complete hardware upgrade as well.
If you would like to talk about this on the phone, feel free to contact me anytime. See this link http://www.microsoft.com/windows/products/windowsvista/sp1.mspx for more information about Vista SP1.
Lack of help from future son-in-law
Please tell me if I'm overreacting. I'm moving 60 miles away from where I'm now living next weekend for a new job at a big hospital in my hometown. I'm excited but nervous also. My daughter is getting married in November. I only have about 3 rooms of furniture and a lot of it is already boxed and in a storage room. I asked my daughter if "Bruce," her fiance, and his buddies could help move me, as I am single, with no father, brothers or friends who are able-bodied any longer (I'm 50+). She asked him and grudgingly he said something to the effect that he could, but we would have load the truck the night before and he would have to be finished up before noon the next day, and his friend would help for $200(!). The last straw was he told my daughter to tell me not to expect to have boxes, furniture placed or set up, because he HAD to get to the "Mud Bog" by 12:00 sharp.
Is this any way to treat a future in-law? He knows I don't have any family really. I did get a couple of co-workers and their husband/brother to help, thank goodness, but I'm really worried about the future with this boy--respect for me, priorities, selfishness--thanks in advance.
For your future and that of your kids
You may not think so, but you've got a lot of things going for you, the most important being that you realize you need to do something.
Short term: You've gotten great advice about making small changes, like exercising, losing weight, etc. Go for it.
Long term: You're worried about bills, housing, and your children's reactions to changes in their lives, and those concerns are certainly valid. But there is something more important at stake: You do not want your unhappy marriage to be the template for your children's future relationships in adult life. They deserve better than that, and so do you. See a lawyer and plan your exit strategy. It may take time, but *commit* to change. Have you ever heard the saying, "The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step?" Take that step and you will be surprised what you can do.
Might be exciting now, but future will be grim. SM
I would suggest adding some excitement to your marriage. Try to find the guy your husband was, that turned you on to him. That is where your attention should be.
You cannot go back again and you are not an 8th grader, but are acting like one.
Hmm, maybe modeling in her future? Hope
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You probably saved someone's life in the future.
A couple months ago there was a terrible head-on train crash near Los Angeles, and the cause of it was the engineer of the passenger train blew through a red light because he was texting some teenagers. It's a shame he was killed, because he should have lived to see the carnage he caused.
Yay, my future son-in-law is such a peach. HE didn't forget about me! nm
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Agree. Teachers of future generations should be better
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Went to HS with future Mrs. Tom Hanks, Rita Wilson
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thank you so much for the quick response. Would this pose a problem for me in the future?? nm
Past, present, future. Still expecting miracle.
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if the sonogram was not wrong, for the future you may want to get your hormone levels checked. sm
a lot of times when women have multiple miscarriages at the stages you are it is because their hormones are off, in particularly low progesterone. if this is the case, in the future it can be corrected by taking progesterone at earliest sign of conception until about 11-12 weeks. so ask questions as to what your estrogen/progesterone levels were on your lab results today. have you carried any children yet to term? wish you the best of luck and pray for a good outcome......
Guess he can take out a loan for future schooling! Son found a phone
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Yes - does not work! Hoax if you ask me. MetaboLife doesn't work either.
The only thing that works for me is exercise and eating correctly! No quick fix, unfortunately.
You dont work for them, you work for YOU. If you
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I TRIED to work, WANTED to work, but
So now I have to scramble for the rest of the week, trying to catch up on what I didn't do today. And of course, working today was in hopes of catching up on whatI didn't do last week. This job is a never-ending hamster-wheel of lunacy.
Everyone has to work once in a while!
Normally in this industry, you are paid an incentive to work "holidays". When I was in-house, I was offered a day off other than the holiday I worked, which was great. I was also offered to only work a 4 hour day, in-house. At home, you should also be given an incentive for those holidays! Some people think that Martin Luther King Day is more important than Christmas because they may celebrate Kwanzaa. Some people feel that April Fool's Day is important, so they are willing to work Easter. It goes on and on... There will be times in your life when you have to make a choice, "one day off" or a career in the "medical field". I would have to agree that we are important especially on those holidays. For example, most hospitals and emergent care units are staffed with one doctor, so it should really be only STATs you are typing. It is hard to "choose" when you want to be "sick". Hence, our salary!!!!!!! Most people will work all kinds of crazy schedules to accomodate their own lives, so why be so uptight about working Christmas because your employer requires coverage. On the other hand, this should be rotated amongst a pool of typists. I worked with a lady that would always volunteer for Thanksgiving (she had no family), so she could have Christmas off just to make us all mad! She'd say "well, I've worked the last 10 Thanksgivings, so I deserve Christmas off! It was so sad! Hmmmpphh! :) Good luck! Have a nice holiday (no matter how you spend it)! 
He did see my dog and work him up sm
and everything came back negative. I'm going to push him more on Tuesday when I call him. I like our vet a lot-have been using him for years with all of my dogs and so far he hasn't steered me wrong. I'm just not sure I want to wait much longer on getting him some medication. The poor little guy suffers so and it just scares the heck out of us. I mean, there isn't anything we can do but hold him and ride it out and just be there when he comes out of it. I just haven't had to deal with anything like this before.
Nah, I do it, too, the more I work, the more I do it.
on vacation, notsomuch!
Does this work?
testing
Both will work actually.
For people who want to learn about something, anything, Google is a great tool. If you want to get into semantics about it though, personally I have real-life, first-hand experience with these critters called OTTBs. That stands for off-track thoroughbreds. They live until their late 20's and sometimes into their 30's and that is rarely taken into consideration by the racing industry, who I feel should kick in a little cash at birth, for every single horse they register with Jockey Club, to ensure that these animals can be cared for, for the rest of their lives. Oh wait...that would put a crimp in the breeders bottom line though, wouldn't it.
I used to work
with someone who would say the quirkiest things. got on my nerves.
And I used to work with someone who had
a stick up their rectum and made everyone's lives mundane.
No, not every day and get this- I only work
part-time. She is always available when I want her to come over, can stay the night if I am working later, whenever I want her. You are probably going to start throwing rocks but my pay to her is anywhere from 50-75 dollars a day, depending on what she does, any extra things I have her do like cleaning the closets, putting up seasonal clothes, other than the regular clothes washing and the house cleaning (she does not iron on a regular basis but if I need something special, she would do that)- she used to cook for us but my hubby does that now. I DO NOT want to quit even my part time position- heck my husband might think I had the time to do housework too and ugh!!
Never during work...
I don't get that. They could buy a lot more if they only shopped on the off hours ;)
That might work if
He would actually go. I can only do so much to make him go. He is the most stubborn man in the world!!
It might work
to cover the parts of the couch they are scratching because cats tend to return to the same spot. If you cover the couch completely, they may go under the cover unless it's secured. If you prefer the cats stay completely off the couch, you could use Scat Mats. They give a little shock from a battery when touched.
Good luck. I've declawed cats before to save the furniture, and they never have the same muscle strength in their upper body after they lose the claws. I've switched to dogs because dogs listen, LOL.
I do work for PS and this is the one - sm
operation she does not like doing, says it leaves horrible scars. She does them but shows many before/after pics and actually has the patient talk to others that have had it done before she will do it for them. They go into it with their eyes wide open. So if you do get it re-done be prepared (that is if a Dr. will re-do you anyway).
How did that work
with insurance? I have one in my left armpit that really bugs me because it is so visible when I wear sleevless tops. My doctor told me that insurance would not cover removing it because it would be cosmetic purposes.
They do work, but -
You have to keep replacing them when their nails grow, or sometimes they just come off. I have all mine trained now not to touch the furniture. In fact, in the 25 years I have had cats I have never had a problem with my furniture being ruined (and I even have leather). I have scratching pads (both upright and the ones in the track ball cirle) that I keep supplied with fresh catnip that I grow myself. The cats LOVE it! They want to show me they are using the designated scratching areas because I always praise them when they do. Now, you need to put them in high traffic areas, not squirreled away some place your cats never go. Put them near the furniture, covered with fresh catnip. Then slowly transition the posts to another location, but put it some place the cats can easily get to. I bet it will work. Best of luck to you! :-)
that might work..
I do dearly love this cat and would rather move some place without carpet than get rid of him. The vet says that Maine Coon cats are supposed to be the easiest cat to train, so maybe it would be a matter of putting him in the crate at night until he got used to not having the food?
If you don’t work for MQ
then you are not allowed to post there. I see the posts coming in and I see no harm in asking that question.
Can you work in those?
NM
where do you work or are you an IC
I am just asking because its the opposite for me. Congratulations though. That is an accomplishment.
I wish that would work, but
my bank is merging with another bank this week, and they have gotten really strict about not crediting anything to your account after 2 p.m., even through the ATM. Until this week, I could make a deposit through the ATM until 8 p.m. and it was posted the same day. I did a "test" deposit this past Monday after 2 to see if I could trick the account, but it didn't work. I hate bank mergers.
I need overdraft, but I can't do anything about it today. All the offices were closed by the time I realized I was one penny short.
Thanks for the advice and keep the fingers and toes and anything else you can crossed!
Maybe they were getting work done
in the house and moved furniture out for that. Something like getting floors refinished. I worked with a girl who burned down her boyfriend's house because she locked it up tightly after they were working on it. The fumes filled the house and ignited from water heater or something. Besides I think insurance company would notice if there was no burnt furniture in the house.
I used to go to work at 5 but now
in my older years sleep until I wake, part timer, work 12-8 and absolutely love it, so much more energy than when I had to beat the keys 24/7.
Well, that might work for others however
I have the bird feeder sitting in front of my window where I work so I (as well as the furkids) can watch the birds- the squirrels get in a bush next to the feeder and make a flying leap. They don’t fool with going from the bottom up. By the way I feed all animals, be they birds or squirrels so doesnt really matter to me who is eating at what time.
Not sure if this will work -
Slide show of Cedric that DH made.
Maybe, just maybe, this would work -
Maybe you can embarrass them into calling first. Keep your doors locked, including the garage. Next time they show up unexpectedly, you and your husband hurriedly take off all your clothes and put on a robe, mess up your hair and answer the door like that. Then say, oh, sorry, we were just in the middle of something, now is not a good time. Just might work.........
I'm sorry your work is low
Hope it picks up. I'm loving today. All five of my doctors are out today so no work, but I still get paid to do nothing all day.
Don't know if this will work or not.....
Subject: Cookies!!!!
This will never work out this way-
that being your husband not backing you in what you need. I had g'children living with us for awhile and I told my husband (his g'children actually) then that even though we were not the parents, we had to work together as a unit because if not the child(ren) know the weaknesses and they will use them to get their way. Getting rid of my problem probably would not be helpful to you- I had the older girl leave (she had other g'parents in the city) and eventually the other 2 left. What a headache and I know the feelings about being made out to be the wicked person in this situation. I have lived that.
No work for me
I was off yesterday and today. I'm actually off until next Wednesday. I hope in spite of working, everyone had a wonderful holiday.
Work, work, work. That's about it.
Pretty boring, huh?
work and
Applebee's tonight - Easter play tomorrow night. Would be going hiking but we have rain. . Also going to watch UK basketball this afternoon . . and if they win, again tonight. .
trying to work some also
this weekend. take a break and take dogs for walk, maybe get a cup of java, and just relax later tonight :)
I think I work too much
:(
I work for the Q, too, though not for
long for the exact reason you mentioned - not making much money. We're also building a house, signed our contract yesterday. The price of lumbar may be down, but that must be about it. It costs almost double to build a house than it did 10 years ago. At any rate, I think you're right - he may be seeing it as rejection when you leave. Try talking to him when he's not upset and let him know you're going to be his partner for life, so he may as well clue in on things now.
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