That is what I was afraid of

Dh and I have had our 401k for years and this is the first year we each dipped out of it to make ends meet.  I was working from home and got pulled in-house.  I am spending $100 a week on gas plus another 120/week on daycare. I don’t know if I should count daycare our not because I would have my kids in daycare anyway.  I am not talented enough to do MT and watch kids at the same time.  Also, I am have been buying new clothes, buy lunch, vendors in the hallways selling anything from jewelry to clothes to stuffed toys to benefit the Children’s Miracle Network, United way, Hospital Auxiliary, or just goes into a fund for fellow employees who maybe suffering from hard times.  Then there is always the in-departmental fund raises for birthdays, “so and so is going on a cruise lets pitch in a dollar” or some ones kid is doing a fundraiser for their school, sport or whatever and then coworkers selling Avon, Mary Kay or whatever and I just feel the pressure.  Never in my life had I felt the pressure to spend, spend spend as this year that I worked in-house.  What’s worse our name tags function kind of like a debit card, just swipe that sucker and they payroll deduct.   Sorry to vent but I want to be back home! 

• Looking to quit my job. - 401k question
  • this years - l
    • Sorry.. I meant - lfish
      • That is what I was afraid of - 401k question
        • OMG! I worked at a hospital where the ID badge was credit card - Paychecks were small due to it
        • I understand.... - lfish

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I'm scared to death of flying.  Have never been on a plane and never plan to be on one either, unless it is a dire emergency and I have no choice.  Hurricanes scare the bejezzums out of me. After going through Andrew, Katrina, Rita, and Gustav, I think I will go as far north as possible next time...if I can afford to.  I never want to go through that again...even being 90 miles inland, it is still terrifying when they hit here (the wind is what we have to worry about).  I'm afraid of losing my home, my family, and dying alone as well.  I'm also afraid of dust and pollen...I'm highly allergic to both and stay indoors when pollen season hits (which is three times a year here...for dust, I just try to keep the house as clean as possible).

I'm not afraid of spiders (unless they are black widows, which we have here), non-venomous snakes, raccoons, tigers, dogs (used to be), or being on or in the water.

I'm a little scared to try this.  I'm 45, but I'm really scared it'll tell me my brain is 72!!!

I have no daughters, just sons, but not one of them seems to want the responsibility of taking care of us in our later years. We do not want to go to a nursing home. We want to die at home.

I know I could not live alone on our property without a helping hand if something would happen to my DH and have been thinking about what to do since his surgery 2 years ago.Where would I go? What would I do? I surely don't want to leave this property after living here over 40 years, but don't know of any way to do it if something would happen to him.....and so, I think about it all the time. Even now, I have trouble taking out the ashes and definately (sp) could now carry the coal in now, yet living in the "country" for over 40 years, I don't think I could live in a town again to save my life.  

Too afraid I would transcribe everything absolutely strict verbatim, including background/cell phone conversations and the like.   

Nearly as well as I know dogs, so I can't answer your question about whether it's normal or not (the hardened nipples) but it doesn't sound normal.  It can't hurt to call the vet and ask. 

I would also suggest that you make an appt. (if you haven't already) to get her spayed ASAP, because she can and very likely will go into heat again right away since it's that time of year (some people call the warmer months 'kitten season.') 

I happened to find this website yesterday, while looking for something else:    http://marvistavet.com/html/body_giving_birth_to_kittens.html

Here is a quote from it:

>> Nursing the litter generally suppresses the return to cycling but the average female cat is back in heat about a month after delivery of the litter. If she has access to a male cat, she will likely become pregnant before she is finished weaning the current litter. >> 

Wow, before she's even finished weaning the current litter?  Amazing (and a little shocking?!) 

If you go to your regular vet, you can probably get her in to be spayed pretty quickly, but it will cost more than a low-cost spay/neuter clinic.  (Might want to get her teeth cleaned too if she needs it, since she'll be under anesthetic anyway, and the anesthesia is usually the biggest part of the cost.) 

If you go to a low-cost spay/neuter clinic it will cost less, but you might not be able to get an appt for 2-3 weeks or more.  If she's in heat again by then, they will either not do the surgery, or (more likely) they will charge a little bit more for it because it makes the surgery a little more complicated (increased risk of bleeding when they're in heat). 

I hope she's okay as far as her nipples.  Can you let us know/give an update? 

let their kids play outside because of the numerous kidnappers and pedophiles wandering around your neighborhoods.

When you fight for space in a home, you get over the fear. If they aren't too "fast", I catch them and put them outside. Not afraid of anything else except heights. Can't even get on a step stool.

I was a tomboy growing up and played with all kinds of insects and bugs except spiders. Even brought home a garter snake, bat, and mouse as a house pets. Can't imagine why my mom was so upset.

Things other people fear that I do not include snakes (awwww, they so cute! they look like they're smiling!), rats, gangbangers (except Mara Salvatrucha, move them up to my "scary" list), poverty, death, traveling at high rates of speed with almost anyone sober, bats (CUTE!!!!!), homeless people, Sasquatch, most of my male friends, bears, mountain lions. 

Fear is such an odd thing, don't you think? So much of it is relative to our own experiences in life, yet at the same time some of them are downright irrational. 

So, how 'bout you? What will send  you running screaming in the other direction, and what things can you take care of when someone else goes running screaming in the other direction?